Ukugubha Amaholide Empeleni Kungakwenza Uphile Kahle

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• Hlela iphathi yabane noma 15
• Hlanganisa lowo Mlingo
• Gxila Kokusha
• Buyekeza kwe-

Ukudlidliza okuhle emoyeni ngalesi sikhathi sonyaka kunemiphumela yangempela, enamandla empilweni yakho engokwengqondo nengokomzimba. Ukugubha kusungula i-cocktail yamakhemikhali obuchopho ecishe ifane nesidakamizwa sephathi yemvelo, kusho u-Robert C. Froemke, Ph.D., uprofesa osebenzisana naye we-neuroscience kanye ne-physiology e-NYU Langone Health e-New York City.

Izithako eziyinhloko: i-oxytocin, ehlotshaniswa nokuxhumana nenjabulo futhi ikhululwa lapho useduze nabanye abantu; i-noradrenaline, ekhuphuka phezulu lapho uzihlanganisa nabantu futhi ikwenza uzizwe unamandla futhi ujabule; nama-endorphin, amakhemikhali okuzizwa ejabule akhululwa lapho uhleka, udansa, futhi uphuza noma ezimbili. Futhi lezi zinto ezintathu zenza okuningi kakhulu kunokukhulisa imizwa yakho. I-Oxytocin ingasiza ukulungisa imisipha elimele nokupholisa amanxeba, imibukiso yocwaningo. I-Noradrenaline ibalulekile ekugxilweni kwayo, futhi ama-endorphin (yebo, uhlobo oluthola ekuzilolongeni) angasiza ekwehliseni izinhlungu.

Ingqondo yephathi nayo ingathuthukisa inkumbulo yakho. "Izikhathi zokugubha zivame ukuzibandakanya ngokwengqondo, zidinga umsebenzi othile wobuchopho obusezingeni eliphezulu," kusho uFroemke. Embuthanweni, ngokwesibonelo, kukhona ukugqugquzelwa okubukwayo okuningi phakathi kwemihlobiso kanye nabantu. Futhi kufanele uzulazule ebudlelwaneni obuyinkimbinkimbi ("Mama, hlangana nesoka lami elisha") futhi ubambe iqhaza ezingxoxweni eziningi, konke lokhu usebenzisa ukubona ubuso, ukulalela umculo, nokuzama ukudla okusha. "Ubuchopho obulingana nokujima umzimba wonke," kusho uFroemke.

Ukugubha iholide kunamandla ikakhulukazi, kusho ochwepheshe. Ngalesi sikhathi sonyaka, cishe wonke umuntu usemikhosini, futhi lowo mqondo owabiwe wenhloso empeleni uqinisa ukuzuza. "Abantu banezintambo ukuze balingise imizwa yabanye," kusho uFroemke. "Uma useduze kwabantu nabo abajabulelayo, kuyasebenza ukujulisa ulwazi lwakho." (Yingakho futhi abangani bokuzivocavoca bebambene kakhulu.)

Okuhle kunakho konke, izinzuzo ozithola ngalesi sikhathi sonyaka esimnandi akudingeki ukuba ziphele lapho amalambu eholide ehla. Lezi zindlela ezintathu ezisekelwe ocwaningweni zizogcina iqembu lidlula entwasahlobo nangale kwalokho.

Hlela iphathi yabane noma 15

Isici senhlalo samaholide singukuphila okuhle kakhulu futhi: Abantu abaxhumana nabanye bajabule futhi banempilo kunalabo abangaphansi komphakathi, futhi baphila isikhathi eside. (Okuhlobene: Ungakunqoba Kanjani Ukukhathazeka Komphakathi Futhi Ujabulele Isikhathi Nabangane)

Ukukhulisa izinzuzo zokuhlangana kwakho okulandelayo, noma ngabe yisiphi isikhathi sonyaka, cabanga ukukwenza ube yindlalifa yezine. Ukuchitha isikhathi ngamaqembu wababili noma abathathu empeleni kungaba yingcindezi ngoba umuntu oyedwa uzizwa ecindezelekile ukuthi agcine abanye bezibandakanya futhi bebajabulisa (ngaphandle kokuthi nonke nibe yizicukuthwane). "Futhi awukwazi ukuba nengxoxo nabantu abangaphezu kwabane ngesikhathi," kusho uRobin Dunbar, Ph.D., owenza izifundo zamandla e-Oxford University. Uma imibuthano yakho isifinyelela kwesihlanu, othile uzogcina ezizwa eshiywe dengwane. Nokho, ngehora lesine, uthola zonke izinzuzo zokuzijabulisa ngaphandle kokucindezeleka.

Iya ngokukhula? Yenza isibalo sabavakashi sifike ku-15. Ngaleyo ndlela abantu bangahlangana bahlukane babe ngamaqembu amancane ngaphandle kokuzizwa bekhungathekile noma behlukaniswe ngokweqile, kusho uDunbar.

Hlanganisa lowo Mlingo

Ezemidlalo zamaqembu, amakilabhu ezincwadi, namaqembu ezisebenzi zokuzithandela konke kungadala uhlobo lomqondo esiwabelana ngawo ngesikhathi samaholide. "Izinhlangano zomphakathi zisinikeza uhlobo olufanayo lwezinzuzo ezingokwengqondo futhi zisivumele sijabulele inkazimulo ebonakaliswayo lapho iqembu liphumelela, njengalapho iqembu lakho liwina umdlalo," kusho uJolanda Jetten, Ph.D., uprofesa wesayensi yezokuhlalisana kwabantu eNyuvesi. waseQueensland e-Australia, ofunda ubulungu beqembu. "Futhi zinikeza ilensi esenza ngayo umqondo womhlaba, inikeze injongo, incazelo, kanye nesiqondiso. Lesi sisekelo sisenza sibe namandla njengabo bonke njengabantu ngabanye."

Imidlalo yeqembu nayo ingathuthukisa impilo yobuchopho. "Imisebenzi efana nebhola likanobhutshuzwayo idinga ukusebenza kwengqondo okusezingeni eliphezulu ngoba udinga ukuhlola abanye abadlali futhi wenze amasu," kusho u-Predrag Petrovic, M.D., Ph.D., uprofesa osebenzisana naye weNeuroscience e-Karolinska Institutet eSweden. "Le misebenzi yengqondo ingaqinisa ama-synapses ku-prefrontal cortex, engasiza ekuxazululeni izinkinga nasekulawuleni imizwa." (Okuhlobene: Ungakugwema Kanjani Ukulwa Ne-S.O. Yakho Ngamaholide)

Gxila Kokusha

Khohlwa unomphela izinqumo zikaNcibijane. Ukuzibekela imigomo efinyelelekayo kwesinye isikhathi kungakusiza kukushukumise, kepha kaningi kuba yindlela ecashile yokufuna ukuphelela, okusho ukuthi awulungile ngokwanele, kusho uKristin Ne, Ph.D., onguprofesa osebenzisana naye e-University of Texas e Austin kanye nombhali we Incwadi Yokusebenzela Yokuzihawukela Engqondweni. Eqinisweni, ukuzamukela ngendlela oyikho kungenye yezinsika ezinkulu zenjabulo, inhlolovo yabantu abangu-5,000 eyenziwa inhlangano enikela nge-Action for Happiness yatholakala.

Ngakho-ke kulo nyaka, yeka okufanele ukwenze futhi ugxile ekuzijabuliseni. Okuhlangenwe nakho okusha kusebenze isifunda sobuchopho esikhipha i-noradrenaline kubo bonke ubuchopho, kwakha amandla akho nokuzethemba. Manje lokho kuyinto yokubungaza. (Futhi uma ungazizwa ngempela? Funda lokhu: Ekuvikeleni Ukungabi Ngumphakathi Isikhathi Sonke)

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