Ukumamatheka Kwakhe Kunganquma Ukuthi Uyisithandwa Sokusebenza Yini

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Abafana ababi, qaphela-abesifazane bakholelwa ukuthi abafana abamomothekayo babonakala befaneleka kakhulu ubudlelwano besikhathi eside kunalabo abafukamelayo, ucwaningo lwakamuva I-Evolutionary Psychology imibiko.

Ngakho-ke kuyini ngalokhu kumamatheka okusenza sivalele kothile njengomuntu ozoba umfana? Abacwaningi abavela e-Europe nase-Asia babe nabesifazane balinganisela abafana njengento esebenzayo yesoka noma i-hook-up-up-konke okusekelwe kuphela ebusweni babo. Amadoda akhanyisa abelungu bawo asebephuma azithola ejabule kakhulu futhi ethembekile ukwedlula lawo anezinkulumo ezingathathi hlangothi, obevame ukuthathwa njengamadoda nje futhi avuthiwe, ebafaka esigabeni esingajwayelekile.

Lokhu kuhambisana nezinkolelo zemfundo ezisunguliwe esivame ukuzithathela amadoda anezakhi zofuzo ezihamba phambili (funda: ukubukeka okuhle) lapho ufuna ukuhlangana okungajwayelekile, ngoba ubuchopho bethu benzelwe ukuzala. (Uma ukulesi sikebhe, bheka engikufundile eminyakeni eyi-10 yobusuku obubodwa.)

Kodwa nakuba yonke into engaqondakali yendoda ingase ibonakale ikhanga ngobusuku obubodwa noma izinsuku ezimbalwa, abesifazane ocwaningweni olusha babike ukuthi bafuna ukwethembeka nokungeneka kubuhle babo besikhathi eside (yize ubuso obuhle bungazange bube buhlungu). Abafana abasebusweni babehlala bedlulisa lokhu kuvikeleka, okushiwo izazi zokusebenza kwengqondo zokuziphendukela kwemvelo ukuthi kuyathandeka ngoba kukhombisa ukuthi ukulungele ukukhulisa umndeni nawe.

Ngakho-ke ngokuzayo lapho uthola ukumamatheka ngaphesheya kwebha, ungamshiyi ngokushesha njengoMnu. Nice Guy oyisicefe. Angagcina esengulowo owufunayo nje! (Ingabe Ubani Othandana Naye Uyashintsha Ungubani?)

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