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Akuyona imfihlo ukuthi ukupheqa ku-Instagram kungakwenza ube nomona-futhi uthathe imiphumela emibi empilweni yakho yengqondo. Eqinisweni, ucwaningo olushicilelwe ngonyaka owedlule lwathola ukuthi i-Instagram iyisiteji sezokuxhumana esibi kunazo zonke empilweni yakho yengqondo. (Abaphenyi bathi yisimiso esithi "qhathanisa futhi uphelelwe yithemba" - uqhathanisa owakho umqondo ngezinye izikhathi ontengantengayo wenhliziyo nomuzwa wobushoshovu obungesabi buka-Iskra Lawrence, ngokwesibonelo, bese uphelelwa yithemba lokuthi kungani wena awukwazi ukunethezeka ngomzimba wakho.) Ngenxa yalokho, usebenza isikhathi esengeziwe ukwenza impilo yakho ye-Insta ibukeke iphelele njengabo bonke abanye abantu-masibe ngokoqobo, wonke umuntu ukwenze ngezinga elithile. Kepha ngokusho kukaJessica Abo, umbhali we Okungahlungiwe:Ungajabula Kanjani Njengoba Ubheka Kwi-Social Media, akufanele kube ngale ndlela.

Ngaphezu kwalokho, intatheli, isikhulumi nomlobi, waba nentshisekelo ngombono wokuthi imithombo yezokuxhumana iyithinta kanjani injabulo lapho ethola ukuthi abantu bacabanga ukuthi ungomunye walabo bantu abaphila impilo ephelele. "Abantu babehlala bephawula ngokuthi kwakubukeka kanjani ngathi ngangiphila impilo enhle kakhulu enezithombe, ngoba bangibona ngihlanganisa isonto lezemfashini ngelinye ilanga bese ngigxumela ebhanoyini ngenza inkulumo ngakusasa," usho kanje.

Okomzuzu, lolo hlobo lokudumisa lungaqhakambisa, kepha u-Abo naye wakuthola kukhungathekisa. Akukho muntu ophelele (duh) futhi uzama ukuphila ngokukhohlisa ukuthi kunjalo? Ukukhuluma mayelana ingcindezi. (Ngaphandle kwalokho, njengoba abashiqela abaningi beshilo, iningi lalezo zithombe liyi-BS noma kunjalo.)

Ukuzama ukuhambisana nesixuku sokubuka-impilo-ephelele kuboshelwe emithelela engemihle yezempilo yengqondo izikhathi eziningi-umbiko owodwa ka-2017 ovela eRoyal Society for Public Health e-UK wathola ukuthi izinga lokukhathazeka nokudangala liye lenyuka kusukela lapho. ukufika kwezinkundla zokuxhumana.

"Bengifuna ukuqala ukwakha ingxoxo kuzo zonke izici zempilo yami mayelana nokuthi ukuzimela kwakho uqobo hhayi isithombe-esihle-akulungile nje kuphela kodwa yilokho empeleni okungokoqobo," kusho u-Abo. Lokho bekusho ukuthumela isikhathi esiningi esingahlungiwe-njengesikhathi alimala ngaso ehlombe ngenkathi elwa neSpanx ngaphambi komshado.

Akukhona nje ngokuba #ngokoqobo, njengoba u-Abo athola, lezi zingxoxo zangempela zingakwenza uzizwe ukhululekile-futhi ujabule kakhulu kunokuvaleleka emjikelezweni oyinqaba womona. Ngaphezu kwalokho, uthi uma omunye umuntu abelana ngokuthile abazabalaza nakho, akasazizwa eyedwa ebunzimeni bakhe.

Leso simo sengqondo singathelelana. "Uma siqala ukwabelana ngokuqukethwe okuthembekile ngokwengeziwe kokuphakelayo kwethu, mhlawumbe kuzoba nomphumela omuhle lapho esikhundleni sokuthi abantu bahlanganyele lawa ma-reels avelele, bazokwabelana ngokwenzeka ngempela osukwini lwabo."

Ungaba Njani Njenge-IRL Ejabulayo Njengoba Ubheka Kwi-Social Media

Imithombo yezokuxhumana can isetshenziselwe okuhle. (Ukwenza kube lula, i-Instagram isanda kumemezela izici ezintsha eziklanyelwe ukuhlunga abazondayo futhi ikhuthaze umusa.) Nansi indlela yokusebenzisa umkhuba wakho wenkundla yezokuxhumana ukuze ukusize ujabule njengoba ubheka okuphakelayo kwakho.

1. Okokuqala, yazi ukuthi awudingi ukukuthwala konke.

“Iseluleko sami kunoma ngubani ozama ukuphila impilo engahlungiwe ukuthi ungabi nomuzwa wokuthi kufanele wabelane ngayo yonke imininingwane encane yempilo yakho,” kusho u-Abo. Abanye abantu (bacabanga ukuthi u-Lena Dunham) akulungile ngokuphelele ngokwabelana nakho konke, kepha akudingeki ukuze ube yiqiniso kakhulu ezinkundleni zokuxhumana.

Thumela kuphela lokho onethezekile ngakho. Mhlawumbe lokho kwabelana ngesithombe sezincwadi ezinqwabelene ku-nightstand yakho ongazange usifunde empeleni esikhundleni seshelufu lakho lamabhuku elihlelwe kahle. Noma ukufaka amazwibela esitsha sakho esihle se-açaí nalokho hhayi isithombe (njengesamba sendawo yenhlekelele oyishiye ekhishini lakho uyilungiselela). Noma mhlawumbe ithumela enye yezithombe ozishuthe zona "meh" ezingama-25 ozithwebule ngaphambi kokuthi uthole ehloniphekile.

"Ukukwazi ukukhombisa izikhathi zangempela zokuphila ezingahlelwanga kahle kungavula ingxoxo kubantu abaningi," kusho u-Abo. "Ikunikeza indlela ezwakalayo yokuxhuma." (Okuhlobene: "Akugadiwe Futhi Akukhathazeki" Inhlangano Yethu Entsha Ye-Instagram Esiyithandayo)

2. Shintsha umona ube yisisusa.

Leso sigaxa somona osizwayo lapho ubona isithombe somugqa wokuqeda ovela emjahweni womngane wakho empeleni singaba yinto enhle, kusho u-Abo. “Uma uthola ukuthi ucushwe okuthunyelwe komunye umuntu, ithuba elihle lelo-ungalisebenzisa njengendlela yokukukhulisa futhi ube umuntu ongcono,” kuchaza yena. (Okuhlobene: Izithombe Zangaphambi Nangemva Kokuyizinto Ezi- # 1 Ezikhuthaza Abantu Ukwehlisa Isisindo)

Ukuhumusha: Yisebenzise njengesikhuthazo sokuqala ukuqeqesha umjaho wakho.

3. Gwema iziphazamiso eziningi zenkundla yezokuxhumana.

Muva nje, osaziwayo abaningi bebelokhu bevula ngokuthatha i-hiatus ezinkundleni zokuxhumana ngezizathu zempilo yengqondo. (U-Ariana Grande, u-Camila Cabello kanye no-Gigi Hadid bonke basuse ubuthi emikhubeni emibi yenkundla yezokuxhumana.) Uma uzwa sengathi ukuskrola kukwenza ukhathazeke, akuwona umqondo omubi.

U-Abo uphakamisa ukuthi uhambise izinhlelo zokusebenza esikrinini sakho sasekhaya ujule kufoni yakho-ngaleyo ndlela aziyona into yokuqala oyibonayo lapho uvula isikrini sakho. "Futhi cisha izaziso zakho ukuze ungaphazanyiswa njalo lapho othile ephawula ngokuthile," uyanezela. Isikhathi esincane sokubheka konke njenge kusho isikhathi esithe xaxa sokwakha ubudlelwano nabantu be-IRL.

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