Ukuwa othandweni nokuphakamisa kusize kanjani uJeannie Mai ukuthi afunde ukuthanda umzimba wakhe

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Umsakazi we-TV uJeannie Mai usanda kuba sematheni ngemva kokuthumela umyalezo okhuthazayo, wokuzithanda mayelana nesisindo sakhe esingamakhilogremu angu-17. Ngemva kokuzabalaza nezinkinga zesithombe somzimba iminyaka engu-12 (wonke umsebenzi wakhe kwezokuzijabulisa), uMai ugcine ewuyekile umbono wokuthi "ukuba mhlophe" kusho yonke into. (Kuhlobene: U-Katie Willcox Ufuna Abesifazane Bayeke Ukucabanga Ukuthi Badinga Ukunciphisa Isisindo Ukuze Bathandeke)

"Njengoba ngisondela eminyakeni engu-40, ngiyaqaphela ukuthi ngiye ngabhekana nobunzima obungaka ngokwengqondo nangokomzwelo, kungani umzimba wami kufanele uphoqeleke ukuba uhlupheke (ngezindlela zami zokulawula ngokweqile)?" usanda kubhala ku-Instagram. "Ngakho ezinyangeni ezi-3 ezedlule ngiqale uhlelo olusha lokudla nohlelo lokuqeqesha ngathola ama-lbs angu-17. Anginayo inhloso yesisindo ... nje isithembiso sokuqina ngokomzimba njengoba ngingenakonakala ngengqondo."

Impendulo eyatholwa uMai kokuthunyelwe kwakhe ibingalindelekile. "Angikwazi ukukutshela isibalo sabantu base-DMs abangibuza ukuthi bangakhuluphala kanjani," etshela Umumo. "Ukufunda udaba lwami, nabanye abanjengalo, bafinyelele ekuboneni ukuthi uqinile unothando futhi bafuna ukufika lapho, futhi."

Ezinyangeni ezimbalwa ezedlule, uMai kudingeke ukuthi ashintshe ukucabanga kwakhe ngomzimba wakhe ngokuphelele, usho kanjalo. "Ngangingamakhilogremu angu-103 iminyaka engu-12, futhi okuxakayo ukuthi empeleni ngangifuna ukuba nesisindo esingu-100," usho kanje. "Eqinisweni, kwakungekho esinye isizathu ngaphandle kokuthi ngicabange ukuthi kungaba kuhle ukusho ukuthi nginesisindo esingamakhilogremu angu-100."

Ekugcineni, kwafika lapho uMai aqala khona ukuchazwa ngokuba mncane kwakhe. "Ukuba mncane kwaba yingxenye yencazelo yami njengomuntu," esho. "Abantu bangasho izinto ezinjengokuthi 'O uyazi uJeannie, mncane kakhulu' noma bangibuze ukuthi ngingahlala kanjani ngibhace kangako. Uma uzwa izinto ezinjengalezo ngaso sonke isikhathi, baqala ukukuklama bakufake uphawu- futhi basebenze embonini yezokuzijabulisa, angikaze ngizinike ithuba lokuba enye into ngaphandle kwalokhu ebengichazwe ngakho eminyakeni eyi-12 edlule."

UMai uthi ukuvuka kwakhe okubiziwe bekuyisikhathi eside kuza. “Into enkulu eyangithonya ukuthi ngithathe lesi sinyathelo ukubona ukuthi ingxoxo ngemizimba yabesifazane nokuthi kufanele babukeke kanjani nokuthi akufanele ibukeke kanjani iyashintsha,” usho kanje. "Embukisweni wami Okwangempela, sivame ukukhuthaza abesifazane ukuthi balwe nokuhlazeka komzimba futhi babe nesikhumba abakuso. Kodwa kaningi embukisweni, bengizibiza ngokuthi "nginemilenze yenkukhu" futhi bengizibiza ngokuba nesibindi, isinqe esingekho. Ingxenye yayo bekungamahlaya okuzithoba, kepha ngiphinde ngabona ukuthi ngizihlazisa ngokwami ​​ngokomzimba. "(Okuhlobene: I-Blogger Engazi Umzimba-Ihlazo Ngokwakhe futhi Ihlanganyela Isithombe Esihlekisayo Ukukufakazela)

Uhlaka lokugcina lwafika lapho uMai edlula ocingweni lwakhe ehlanza izithombe zakhe. "Ngabona isithombe sami ngigqoke leyo ngubo yesinaphi futhi ngezwa ukushaqeka nokudabuka okukhulu," esho. "Kwakungathi ingubo ikwi-hanger, ngangibukeka ngingenampilo. Amadolo ami ayengasenalutho, izihlathi zami zazicijile, amehlo ami abukeka engenalutho-ngibukeka ngigula."

Ngemuva kokukhuluma nabanye babangani bakhe ngendlela azizwa ngayo, bamkhuthaze ukuthi akhuluphale futhi aqale ukuzivocavoca ngendlela ehlukile. "Ekuqaleni ngangithi 'uqonde ukuthini ukuqala ukusebenza?'" usho kanje. "Bengingunogwaja we-cardio futhi ngichitha amahora amaningi ejimini ngosuku ngijuluka izithukuthuku. Kodwa empeleni abangane bami bebengikhuthaza ukuthi ngizame ukuzivocavoca okungisizile ukwakha imisipha nokungiqinisa." (Okuhlobene: Laba besifazane Abanamandla Baguqula Ubuso Bamandla Amantombazane Njengoba Sazi)

Kungaleso sikhathi lapho uMai athi wazizwa ekulungele ngokomzimba nangokomzwelo ukwenza ushintsho. "Ngaqala ukudla zonke izinto engangingeke ngilinge ukuzithinta," esho. "Iminyaka engu-12, angikaze ngithinte irayisi, amazambane, ama-carbs-noma yini engase ibe nomthelela ekutholeni isisindo. Isaladi yayilapho yayikhona. Konke engangikudla kwakusekelwe emifino."

"Manje, ngidla zonke izinhlobo zama-carbohydrate ayinkimbinkimbi futhi ngize ngiziphathe nama-burger nama-donuts ngezikhathi ezithile," wengeza. "Amasangweji angukudla engikuthandayo manje, okuvele kungisanganise. Angikholwa ukuthi bengizincisha konke lokhu kudla okumangalisayo iminyaka eminingi kangaka." (Okuhlobene: Izindlela ezi-5 zokuthola isisindo ngendlela enempilo)

Kancane kancane, uMai waqala ukugqoka isisindo, avuma ukuthi kwakungelula kuye ekuqaleni. "Ngikhumbula inhliziyo yami ishaya esifubeni sami lapho isikali sifika ku-107, okwakuvame ukuba yinani eliphakeme kunawo wonke engangingake ngizivumele ukuba ngithole," usho kanje. "Kodwa izinombolo zazilokhu zikhuphuka futhi kwadingeka ngigxile ekungazikhulumeli phansi futhi ngigxile emgomweni wami wokugcina, okwakuwukuba nempilo engcono futhi ngiqine."

Ngalesi sikhathi, uMai wathandana nokuphakamisa. "Ngafunda ukwethulwa kwesisindo ekuqaleni kohambo lwami futhi sekuwushintshe kakhulu umzimba wami," esho. "Kuthathe amasonto ambalwa nje ngaphambi kokuba ngiqale ukuzizwa nginamandla ezandleni zami futhi ngiqale ukusikeka imisipha. Izinqe zami zaqala ukusizungeza kanye nezinqe zami zagcwala."

Ngemuva kwesikhashana, uMai wabona ukuthi ukuphakamisa isisindo kwakumsiza ukuthi athande umzimba wakhe futhi awazise ngezindlela ezintsha. "Uzizwa unqobe kakhulu ngemva kokuphakamisa isisindo. Kukhona okujabulisa kakhulu ngokuhlola amandla akho futhi uzizwe umangale ngakho. Kukwenza ubone ukuthi awukho umkhawulo kulokho umzimba wakho ongakwenza uma ubeka ingqondo yakho kukho," usho kanje. (Okuhlobene: Izinzuzo ze-8 Zezempilo Zokuphakamisa Izisindo)

Ngenkathi esenezinyanga ezintathu kuphela esohambweni lwakhe, uMai wenze inqubekela phambili enkulu, ayibiza ngemantra ayisebenzisayo ukuze aziphendulele. "Kumele ube ngokoqobo kuwe futhi uthole iqiniso lakho," esho. "Njalo lapho lelo zwi ekhanda lami lingiphoxa ngenxa yokuthi amajini ami awasalingani, iqiniso lami liyangena futhi lingikhumbuza ukuthi ngiwuphathe kabi kanjani umzimba wami iminyaka eminingi kangaka nokuthi kungani kufanele ngibe ngcono."

Kulabo abangase bazizwe sengathi ukubaluleka kwabo kuncike esikalini, uMai unikeza lesi seluleko: "Ukuzizwa ujabule ngomzimba wakho nokuzizwa umnandi kuvela ngaphakathi, hhayi enambeni esikalini. Umzimba wakho umane uyisandiso sokuthi ubani Uyiphathe kahle, yiba nomusa kuyo, futhi ujabulele impilo. Yilapho ukwaneliseka kwangempela kulele khona. "

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