Ungaba Kanjani Umuntu: Ukukhuluma Nabantu Abanomlutha noma Ukusetshenziswa Kwezidakamizwa

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• Sisusa umbono wethu sisuke kithi siye kubo
• Akuyona yonke into engumlutha, futhi akuzona zonke izindlela zokuziphatha 'eziluthayo' ezifanayo
• Okokuqala, ake sithole ukuthi ukulutheka kuyinkinga yezokwelapha
• Lokho okubiza ngomuntu onomlutha kungaletha ukucwasa okungafanele
• Ungalokothi usebenzise amalebula
  
• ‘Umuntu ungumuntu ungumuntu:’ Amalebula akulona ucingo lwakho ongalwenza
• Ubandlululo nokulutha kudlala kanjani olimini
• Inguquko ngeke ize ngobusuku obubodwa - sonke siqhubeka nomsebenzi
• Ulimi yilokho okuvumela ububele ukuthi bukhule

Sisusa umbono wethu sisuke kithi siye kubo

Uma kukhulunywa ngokulutha, ukusebenzisa abantu-ulimi lokuqala akuhlali njalo emqondweni wabo bonke abantu. Eqinisweni, bekungakaweli ngempela elami kuze kube muva nje. Eminyakeni eminingana edlule, abangane abaningi abasondelene babhekana nokulutha nokusetshenziswa kwezidakamizwa. Abanye eqenjini lethu labangane abedlulele beqa ngokweqile futhi bafa.

Ngaphambi kokusebenza eHealthline, ngangisebenza njengomsizi womuntu wesifazane okhubazekile kulo lonke ikolishi.Ungifundise okuningi futhi wangikhipha ekungazini kwami ​​okusemandleni - engifundisa ukuthi amagama, noma ngabe abukeka emancane kangakanani, angathinta kanjani umuntu.

Kodwa ngandlela thile, noma ngabe abangane bami babedlula ekubeni umlutha, uzwela aluzange lufike kalula. Uma ngibheka emuva, bengilokhu ngifuna ngenkani, nginobugovu, futhi kwesinye isikhathi ngangisho. Nakhu ukuthi ingxoxo ejwayelekile ibukeka kanjani:

“Uyadubula? Wenza malini? Kungani ungazibuyisi izingcingo zami? Ngifuna ukukusiza! ”

“Angikholwa ukuthi baphinde basebenzise. Yilokho kuphela. Ngiqedile."

"Kungani kufanele babe udoti onje?"

Ngaleso sikhathi, nganginobunzima bokuhlukanisa imizwa yami kulesi simo. Ngangesaba futhi ngiqhuma. Ngokujabulisayo, kuningi okushintshile kusukela lapho. Abangane bami bayeka ukusebenzisa kabi izinto futhi bathola ukwesekwa abakudingayo. Awekho amagama angadlulisa ukuthi ngiyaziqhenya kangakanani ngabo.

Kodwa bengingacabangi ngempela ngolimi lwami - nabanye '- ukulutheka okuzungezile kuze kube manje. (Futhi mhlawumbe ukuphuma kuma-20s akho okuqala kuyasiza, futhi. Ukuguga kuletha ukuhlakanipha, akunjalo?) Ngiyazijezisa izenzo zami, ngibona ukuthi bengiphutha ngokungaphatheki kahle kwami ​​ngokufuna ukusiza.

Abantu abaningi bahlela izingxoxo ezihloswe kahle ngokungalungile, futhi. Isibonelo, uma sithi, "Wenzelani lokhu?" siqonde ukuthi, “Kungani ukwenza lokhu kimi?”

Le toni yokumangalela ibeka isigcwagcwa ukusetshenziswa kwabo - ukuyidemoniya ngenxa yezinkolelo-ze, ilulaza ushintsho lwangempela lobuchopho olwenza kube nzima ngabo ukuyeka. Ingcindezi enkulu esibabeka kuyo ukuze babe ngcono okwethu empeleni kunciphisa inqubo yokutakula.

Mhlawumbe unomuntu omthandayo owayenenkinga yokusebenzisa izidakamizwa noma njengamanje. Ngikholwe, ngiyazi ukuthi kunzima kanjani: ukungalali ebusuku, ukudideka, ukwesaba. KULUNGILE ukuzwa lezo zinto - kodwa Akulungile ukuzenza ngaphandle kokuthatha igxathu emuva ucabange ngamagama akho. Lezi zinguquko ezingolimi zingabonakala zinzima ekuqaleni, kepha umphumela wazo mkhulu kakhulu.

Akuyona yonke into engumlutha, futhi akuzona zonke izindlela zokuziphatha 'eziluthayo' ezifanayo

Kubalulekile ukuthi ungadidanisi lawa magama amabili ukuze siqonde ngokugcwele futhi sikhulume kahle kubantu abanemilutha.

Abantu abaningi bangancika kumuthi othile kodwa bangakuqapheli. Futhi akuzona nje izidakamizwa zasemgwaqweni ezingadala ukuncika nokulutha. Abantu abanikezwe imishanguzo yobuhlungu bancike emithini, noma ngabe bayiphuza ngokunembile njengoba kushiwo ngudokotela wabo. Futhi kungenzeka ngokuphelele ukuthi lokhu kugcine kuholele ekubeni umlutha.

Okokuqala, ake sithole ukuthi ukulutheka kuyinkinga yezokwelapha

Umlutha uyinkinga yezokwelapha, kusho uDkt S. Alex Stalcup, umqondisi wezokwelapha eNew Leaf Treatment Center eLafayette, eCalifornia.

“Zonke iziguli zethu zithola ikhithi yokweqisa ngokweqile osukwini lwazo lokuqala. Abantu babecabanga ukuthi kuyakhanga ekuqaleni, kepha sinikeza i-Epi-Pens kubantu abanezinto ezingezwani nokwelashwa ngamadivayisi abantu abane-hypoglycemic. Lo mshini wezokwelapha ungowesifo sezokwelapha, ”usho kanje. “Futhi kungenye indlela yokukubeka ngokusobala lokhu kuyinto isifo. ”

Selokhu iNew Leaf yaqala ukuhlinzeka ngamakhithi okweqisa izidakamizwa, ukufa kuye kwagwenywa, kusho uDkt Stalcup. Uyachaza ukuthi abantu abaphethe la makhithi empeleni babhekene nezici ezinkulu zobungozi baze babe ngcono.

Lokho okubiza ngomuntu onomlutha kungaletha ukucwasa okungafanele

Amalebula athile akhokhiswa izincazelo ezingezinhle. Banciphisa umuntu abe yigobolondo lobuntu babo bangaphambili. U-Junkie, i-tweaker, umlutha wezidakamizwa, i-crackhead - ukusebenzisa la magama kusula umuntu ngomlando nangamathemba, kushiya ngemuva i-caricature yalesi sidakamizwa kanye nakho konke ukucwaswa okuza nakho.

Lawa magama awenzi lutho ukuxhasa abantu abadinga usizo ukubaleka kulowo mkhuba. Ezimweni eziningi, kubavimba kuphela ukuthi bangayitholi. Kungani befuna ukwenza isimo sabo saziwe, kanti umphakathi ubahlulela ngonya kangaka? Isayensi iyalusekela lolu bandlululo ocwaningweni lwango-2010 olwaluchaza isiguli esicabanga ukuthi “sisebenzisa kabi izidakamizwa” noma “umuntu onenkinga yokusebenzisa izidakamizwa” kochwepheshe bezokwelapha.

Abaphenyi bathola ukuthi ngisho nochwepheshe bezokwelapha babenamathuba amaningi okuthi babeke lowo muntu icala ngezimo zabo. Baze batusa “nezinyathelo zokujezisa” lapho bebizwa ngokuthi “abahlukumezi.” Kepha isiguli esicabangelayo "esinenkinga yokusebenzisa izidakamizwa"? Abazange bathole ukwahlulela okunzima futhi mhlawumbe bazizwe bengaphansi "kokujeziswa" ngezenzo zabo.

Ungalokothi usebenzise amalebula

• ama-junkies noma imilutha
• ama-tweakers nama-crackheads
• izidakwa noma izidakwa
• “Abahlukumezi”

‘Umuntu ungumuntu ungumuntu:’ Amalebula akulona ucingo lwakho ongalwenza

Kepha kuthiwani lapho abantu bezibiza ngomlutha? Noma njengesidakwa, njengalapho uzethula emihlanganweni ye-AA?

Njengalapho ukhuluma nabantu abakhubazekile noma izimo zezempilo, akusilo ucingo lwethu ukuthi senze.

“Ngiye ngabizwa ngokuthi ngiyinkunzimalanga yenkulungwane. Ngingazibiza ngomuntu odidayo, kepha akekho omunye ovunyelwe. Ngivunyelwe, ”kusho uTori, umbhali futhi owayekade esebenzisa i-heroin.

"Abantu bayayiphonsa ... ikwenza uzwakale ngathi u s * * *," kuqhuba uTori. "Kumayelana nokuzethemba kwakho," esho. "Kunamagama ngaphandle lapho ahlukumeza abantu - amafutha, amabi, i-junkie."

U-Amy, umphathi wezokusebenza kanye nomuntu owake wasebenzisa i-heroin, kwakudingeka alinganise umehluko omkhulu osindayo phakathi kwesizukulwane sakhe sokuqala nabazali bakhe. Kwakunzima, futhi kusenzima kuze kube namuhla, ukuqonda kwabazali bakhe.

“E-Chinese, awekho amagama athi‘ izidakamizwa. ’Kuyigama nje elithi ushevu. Ngakho-ke, kusho ukuthi uzidlisa ushevu uqobo. Uma unalolo limi olukhuni, lwenza into ibonakale inzima kakhulu, ”usho kanje.

U-Amy uyaqhubeka: "Ubenza bazizwe ngendlela ethile."

"Ulimi luchaza isihloko," kusho uDkt. Stalcup. “Kunokucwaswa okukhulu okuhambisana nakho. Akufani uma ucabanga ngezinye izimo, njengomdlavuza noma isifo sikashukela, ”usho kanje. “Vala amehlo uzibize ngomlutha wezidakamizwa. Uzothola inqwaba yezithombe ezibukwayo ongeke waziziba, ”usho kanje.

“Ngizizwa nginamandla ngalokhu… Umuntu ngumuntu ngumuntu,” kusho uDkt. Stalcup.

Ungasho lokhu: "Uyisicefe."

Isho lokhu esikhundleni salokho: "Unenkinga yokusebenzisa izidakamizwa."

Ubandlululo nokulutha kudlala kanjani olimini

U-Arthur *, owake wasebenzisa i-heroin, naye wabelana ngemicabango yakhe ngolimi oluzungeze ukulutheka. "Ngiyawahlonipha kakhulu ama-dope fiends," esho, echaza ukuthi ngumgwaqo onzima ukuhamba nokuqonda uma ungakadluli kuwo ngokwakho.

Ubuye akhulume ngobandlululo ngolimi lokulutha, futhi - ukuthi abantu abanebala elimhlophe badwetshiwe njengomlutha wezidakamizwa "ezingcolile" zasemgwaqeni, uma kuqhathaniswa nabamhlophe abathembele emithini kadokotela "ehlanzekile". "Abantu bathi," Angisona umlutha, ngithembele ekutheni udokotela ubekiwe, "kuqhuba u-Arthur.

Mhlawumbe akuyona into engaqondakali ukuthi kukhona ukuqwashisa okukhulayo nozwela manje, njengoba abantu abamhlophe abaningi ngokwengeziwe bekhulisa ukuthembela nokulutha.

Uzwela ludinga ukunikwa wonke umuntu - kungakhathalekile ukuthi ungowaluphi uhlanga, ubulili, imali engenayo, noma isivumo sokholo.

Kufanele futhi sihlose ukususa amagama athi "hlanzeka" futhi "angcolile" ngokuphelele. Lawa magama aphethe imibono elulazayo yokuthi abantu ababenomlutha ngaphambili babengafaneleki - kepha manje njengoba sebengcono futhi "behlanzekile," "bayamukeleka." Abantu abanezidakamizwa abayikho "ukungcola" uma besasebenzisa noma uma ukuhlolwa kwezidakamizwa kubuya kukuhle ukusetshenziswa. Abantu akufanele bazichaze ngokuthi "bahlanzekile" ukuze babhekwe njengabantu.

Ungasho lokhu: “Uhlanzekile?”

Isho lokhu esikhundleni salokho: "Unjani?"

Njengokusetshenziswa kwegama elithi "i-junkie," abanye abantu abanezinkinga zokusebenzisa bangasebenzisa igama elithi "ukuhlanzeka" ukuchaza ukuzithiba kwabo nokululama kwabo. Nakulokhu, akusikho kithi ukuthi sibabhalele kanye nolwazi lwabo.

Inguquko ngeke ize ngobusuku obubodwa - sonke siqhubeka nomsebenzi

"Iqiniso liwukuthi futhi liyohlala likhona ukuthi abantu bafuna ukushanela lokhu ngaphansi kombhoxo," kusho uJoe, osebenzela indawo futhi owake wasebenzisa i-heroin. Uthi: "Akufani nokuthi izoshintsha ngobusuku obubodwa, ngesonto, noma ngenyanga."

Kepha uJoe uchaza nokuthi abantu bashesha kanjani can shintsha, njengoba kwenza umndeni wakhe lapho eqala ukwelashwa.

Kungabonakala sengathi ngemuva kokuthi umuntu esekunqobile ukukhubazeka kwabo kokusebenzisa izidakamizwa, konke kuzoba kuhle ngokuya phambili. Phela sebephilile manje. Yini enye umuntu angafunela othandekayo? Kepha umsebenzi awumi kumsebenzisi wangaphambili.

Njengoba besho kweminye imibuthano, ukululama kuthatha impilo yonke. Abathandekayo badinga ukubona ukuthi kunjalo ngabantu abaningi. Abathandekayo badinga ukwazi ukuthi nabo ngokwabo badinga ukuqhubeka nokusebenza ukugcina ukuqonda okuzwela ngokwengeziwe, futhi.

UTori uyachaza: “Umphumela wokuba umlutha wezidakamizwa ngezinye izikhathi unzima kakhulu. “Uma ngikhuluma iqiniso, abazali bami namanje abakaqondi… [Ulimi lwabo] bekuyilimi nje lobuchwepheshe, ulimi lwezokwelapha, noma ukuthi ngine‘ sifo, ’kodwa kimi, bekukhathaza,” usho kanje.

UDkt Stalcup uyavuma ukuthi imindeni yolimi eyisebenzisayo ibucayi impela. Yize kukuhle ukukhombisa intshisekelo ekululameni kothandekayo wakho, uyakugcizelela lokho Kanjani uyakwenza kubalulekile. Ukubuza ngentuthuko yabo akufani nokuthi othandekayo wakho unesifo sikashukela, isibonelo.

Ngokulutha, kubalulekile ukuhlonipha umuntu nobumfihlo bakhe. Enye indlela uDkt Stalcup angena ngayo ezigulini zakhe ukuzibuza, “Kunjani ukubhoreka kwakho? Linjani izinga lenzalo yakho? " Uyachaza ukuthi isithukuthezi siyinto enkulu ekululameni. Ukungena ngemibuzo ethile ehlinzekelwe izintshisekelo zomngani wakho kuzokubonisa ukuthi uyaqonda ngenkathi wenza umuntu azizwe ekhululekile futhi enakekelwa.

Ungasho lokhu: "Ngabe kukhona okufisayo kamuva nje?"

Isho lokhu esikhundleni salokho: “Kade wenza ini, yini entsha? Ufuna ukunyuka intaba kule mpelasonto? ”

Ulimi yilokho okuvumela ububele ukuthi bukhule

Lapho ngiqala ukusebenza eHealthline, omunye umngani waqala uhambo lwakhe lokululama. Usaqhubeka nokwelashwa, futhi angisakwazi ukulinda ukumbona onyakeni omusha. Ngemuva kokukhuluma naye nokuhambela umhlangano weqembu esikhungweni sakhe sokwelashwa, sengiyazi ukuthi bengilokhu ngibhekene nezidakamizwa ngendlela engafanele ngokuphelele iminyaka.

Manje sengiyazi ukuthi yini mina, nabanye abantu, esingabenzela kangcono ababathandayo.

Gcina inhlonipho, ububele nokubekezela.Phakathi kwabantu engikhulume nabo ngemilutha yabo, okuthathiwe okukodwa okukhulu bekungamandla alobu buzwela. Ngingenza impikiswano yokuthi lolu limi lozwelo lubaluleke kakhulu njengokwelashwa uqobo.

“Baphathe ngendlela ongathanda ukuphathwa ngayo. Ukushintsha ulimi kuvula iminyango ngezindlela ezehlukene zokuziphatha, ”kusho uDkt Stalcup. "Uma singashintsha ulimi, kungenye yezinto ezibalulekile eziholela ekwamukelweni."

Akunandaba ukuthi ukhuluma nobani - noma ngabe unabantu abanezimo zezempilo, abantu abakhubazekile, abantu abadlulayo noma abantu abangabhalisile - abantu abanezidakwa bafanelwe isizotha nenhlonipho efanayo.

Ulimi yilo oluvumela loluzwelo ukuba lukhule. Ake sisebenze ekugqashuleni lamaketanga acindezelayo futhi sibone ukuthi umhlaba onozwelo ugcineleni - ukwenzeleni konke kithi. Ukwenza lokhu ngeke kusisize kuphela ukubhekana nakho, kepha kuzosiza abantu esibathandayo bathole usizo abaludingayo.

Ukuziphatha komuntu onenkinga yokusebenzisa izidakamizwa kungakwenza hhayi bafuna ukuba nobubele. Kepha ngaphandle kobubele nozwela, konke esisele nakho kuzoba umhlaba wokulimala.

Igama lishintshiwe ngesicelo salowo obexoxwa naye ukuze kugcinwe igama lakhe lingaziwa.

Ngibonga ngokukhethekile kubangani bami ngokunginikeza ukuholwa nesikhathi sabo sokuphendula imibuzo enzima. Nginithanda nonke. Futhi ngiyabonga kakhulu kuDkt. Stalcup ngobuqotho nokuzinikela kwakhe. - USara Giusti, umhleli wamakhophi eHealthline.

Uyemukelwa ku- “How to Be Human,” uchungechunge olukhuluma ngozwelo nokuthi ungabeka kanjani abantu phambili. Umehluko akufanele ube yizinduku, noma ngabe umphakathi usidonsele ibhokisi elinjani. Woza ufunde ngamandla wamazwi futhi ugubhe okwenzeka kubantu, noma ngabe baneminyaka emingaki, ubuzwe babo, ubulili babo, noma isimo abakuso. Masiphakamise abantu esikanye nabo ngenhlonipho.