Ungaba Kanjani Nomfana: Kungenzeka Yini Ukuthonya Ubulili Bengane Yakho?

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• Ingabe ikhona indlela eqinisekisiwe yokuba nomfana?
• Yini ongayenza ukukhulisa amathuba akho okuba nomfana?
• Ukudla
• Indlela kaShettles
• Ngabe kukhona ukungenelela kwezokwelapha okuthola umfana?
• Ukucatshangelwa kokukhethwa kocansi
• Ukudla okudlela endlini

Sifaka imikhiqizo esicabanga ukuthi ilusizo kubafundi bethu. Uma uthenga ngezixhumanisi ezikuleli khasi, singathola ikhomishini encane. Nansi inqubo yethu.

Ngabe ufuna ukukhulisa umndeni wakho futhi ubeke inhliziyo yakho ekubeni nomfana omncane? Yize kungahle kubonakale kuyinto engavumelekile ukuvuma ukuthi unokhetha ubulili bengane yakho engakazalwa, kulungile ukuvuma amaphupho akho. Ngeke sabelane ngemfihlo yakho nanoma ngubani!

Uma ungakakhulelwa, kungenzeka ukuthi wezwa amahemuhemu ngezinto ongazama ukuthonya ubulili bengane yakho. Mhlawumbe usanda kuqala ukufuna imibono yokukusiza ukuba uthole ingane yomfana. Yiziphi ezinye izinto ongazama ngazo? Ingabe ezinye izindlela zisebenza kangcono kunezinye?

Ingabe ikhona indlela eqinisekisiwe yokuba nomfana?

Siyaqonda ukuthi "ubulili" kanye "nobulili" yimigomo eguqukayo emhlabeni wethu, ngakho-ke ngaphambi kokuqhubeka, singathanda ukucacisa ukuthi lapho sikhuluma ngobulili bengane kule ndatshana, sikhuluma kuphela mayelana nama-chromosomes engane, inhlanganisela ye-XY ecatshangwa njengowesilisa.

Ngakho-ke, "ubulili" okukhulunywe ngabo kulesi sihloko bunqunywa isidoda esinikela ngo-Y neqanda elinikela ngo-X.

Mayelana nokuthi ikhona yini indlela eqinisekisiwe yokuthonya amathuba akho ukuthi ube nomfana - cha, ayikho. Kufushane ukufakelwa kombungu okwaziwayo ukuthi kungumfana, azikho iziqinisekiso uma kukhulunywa ngobulili bengane yakho.

Ngokuvamile cishe kunamathuba angama-50/50 okuba nomfana noma intombazane uma izinto zishiywa ziyindalo. Konke kuza lapho isidoda siwina umjaho, futhi izigidi zazo zigijima.

Yilapho kufika khona umqondo wokuthonya ubulili bengane yakho yesikhathi esizayo. Abanye baphikisa ngokuthi ngokusebenzisa isikhathi, isikhundla, indlela odla ngayo, nezinye izindlela ungashintsha izingqinamba esivuna isidoda sowesilisa.

Kuyathakazelisa ukuthi olunye ucwaningo lwango-2008 lwezihlahla zomndeni ezingama-927 lukhombisa ukuthi ngabe uzoba nabafana noma amantombazane empeleni kunganqunywa ngubaba ngezindlela ezingaphezu kweyodwa. Akukhona nje ukuthi ama-chromosomes esidoda ayalela ubulili bengane, kepha abanye obaba bangahle bathambekele ekubeni nabafana noma amantombazane amaningi.

Ngokwalolu cwaningo, abesilisa bangathola ifa lokuthambekela ekubeni nabafana noma amantombazane amaningi kubazali babo, okungasho ukuthi amanye amadoda akhiqiza isidoda esiningi se-Y noma X se-chromosome. Ngakho-ke, uma umuntu enabafowabo abaningi, angaba namadodana amaningi.

Yini ongayenza ukukhulisa amathuba akho okuba nomfana?

Uma ufuna umfana ngempela, kukhona iziphakamiso abanye abazali abazokutshela ukuthi ubasebenzele. Azikho kulezi ziphakamiso ezifakazelwe ngokwesayensi ukuthi ziqinisekisa imiphumela, kepha abantu bazizama benethemba lokuthuthukisa izingqinamba ezibasizayo.

Ukudla

Okokuqala, ungahle uthande ukubheka ukuthi udlani njengoba uzama ukukhulelwa. Yize lo mqondo ungakafundwa kabanzi noma ungafakazelwa (ngakho-ke thatha lezi ziphakamiso ngohlamvu lukasawoti), abacwaningi ocwaningweni lowezi-2008 lwabesifazane abangama-740 bathola ukuhlangana phakathi kokudla ama-calories amaningi nokukhulelwa umfana.

Manje, lokhu akusho ukuthi kufanele ukhulise ngokweqile osayizi bezabelo zakho kanye ne-nosh usuku lonke njengoba uzama ukukhulelwa. Khumbula ukuthi imikhuba yokudla enempilo manje (ukudla okuphelele, izithelo nemifino, ukudla okulula okushukela) kuzokusiza ukuthi uqhubeke nokuthatha inani elifanele lama-calories lapho ukhulelwe.

Abesifazane abafundile baphinde badla amazinga aphezulu we-potassium. (Ufuna ukudla i-potassium eningi? Zama ubhanana, ubhatata nobhontshisi omhlophe.)

Ucwaningo luphawule nokuthi "Abesifazane abakhiqiza izingane ezingamaduna badla okusanhlamvu okuningi kwasekuseni kunalabo abanezinsana zesifazane." Ngakho-ke qhubeka uthele isitsha!

Indlela kaShettles

Esinye isiphakamiso sokwandisa amathuba akho okuba nomfana uhlelo lokukhulelwa olubizwa ngeShettles method, olwakhiwa nguLandrum B. Shettles cishe ngonyaka we-1960.

UShettles wafunda isidoda ukuthola ukuthi yini engathinta ijubane lesidoda. (Ngemuva kwakho konke, isidoda esinqobe umjaho futhi sivundise iqanda sinquma ubulili.) Ubheke isikhathi sokuya ocansini, izikhundla, kanye ne-pH yamanzi omzimba ukuze abone ukuthi yini engaba nomthelela ebulilini.

Amaphuzu abalulekile wendlela kaShettles afaka:

• ucansi eduze ne-ovulation
• isidoda sifakwa eduze komlomo wesibeletho sisebenzisa izikhundla ezivumela ukungena okujulile
• imvelo ene-alikhali esithweni sangasese
• owesifazane ophethe i-orgasm kuqala

Iphumelela kangakanani indlela kaShettles? Yebo, kuya ngokuthi ukhuluma nobani. UShettles ubiza inani eliphelele lamaphesenti angama-75 wencwadi yakhe yamanje, futhi kunabantu abaningi abathi bakhulelwe ngempumelelo umfana noma intombazane besebenzisa indlela yakhe.

Ngakolunye uhlangothi, olunye ucwaningo oludala lwathola ukuthi ukuya ocansini ezinsukwini ezi-2 ukuya kwezi-3 ngemuva kwe-ovulation kungahle kungaholeli ekukhulelweni. Futhi enye (futhi ebhalwe usuku) ukuthi ama-chromosomes we-X ne-Y awanawo umehluko ocacile wesimo uShettles akholelwa ukuthi ukhona.

Ngabe kukhona ukungenelela kwezokwelapha okuthola umfana?

Ufuna izindlela ezinokwethenjelwa zokwengeza izingqinamba zakho? Ngokuya ngezimo zakho nokutholakala kwalezi zinketho, kukhona ukungenelela kwezokwelapha ongazama.

Kodwa-ke, lezi zindlela zokwelapha zingabiza futhi zikhokhise intela ngokwengqondo nangokomzimba. Ziza nezingozi, kusuka ezinkingeni zokuhlinzwa kuya ekuphuphumeni kwesisu kanye ne-ovarian hyperstimulation syndrome (OHSS).Ngakho-ke, ngokuvamile abaphakanyiswa ngokukhethwa kocansi ngaphandle kwesidingo sezokwelapha.

Ubuchwepheshe bokusiza bokuzala (i-ART) buvumela abantu ukuthi bakhulelwe ingane ngezinqubo zokwelashwa. Ezinye zalezi zindlela zifaka phakathi: in vitro fertilization (IVF), gamete intrafallopian transfer (GIFT), kanye ne-zygote intrafallopian transfer (ZIFT).

Ngenqubo ebizwa ngokuthi yi-preimplantation genetic diagnostic (PGD) noma i-preimplantation genetic selection (PGS) kungenzeka ukuthi kusetshenziswe i-IVF ukudala imibungu, ukuhlola le mibungu ngokobulili babo, nokufaka umbungu ngobulili obufunayo esibelethweni.

Lokhu kuqinisekisa ukuthi uma konke kuhamba kahle ngokukhulelwa uzoba nomfana omncane (noma intombazane) obukade umphupha.

Ukucatshangelwa kokukhethwa kocansi

Kubalulekile ukuqaphela ukuthi ngenkathi i-PGD / PGS ivunyelwe e-United States, le nqubo ayikho emthethweni kwamanye amazwe amaningi afana ne-United Kingdom kanye ne-China ngaphandle uma kunezizathu ezinzima zokwelashwa.

Yize kungenzeka ukuthi abantu baye kwelinye izwe ukuze kwenziwe izinqubo (futhi abantu abaningi benze njalo), izindleko eziphakeme kanye nezinkinga ezengeziwe ezithintekayo zingakwenza kungakhangi kangako.

Esinye sezizathu ezinikezwe abenzi bomthetho ngokwenza i-PGD / PGS ingekho emthethweni ukwesaba ukuthi abazali bazokhetha ukuba nesilinganiso esilinganiselwe sabafana noma samantombazane. Ukuba nesibalo sabantu esinabantwana abaningi kakhulu besilisa noma besifazane kungaholela ezinkingeni ngokukhula kwenani labantu esikhathini esizayo.

Emazweni avimbela ukukhethwa kobulili, isiphakamiso esisodwa kube ukukhawulela i-PGD / PGS ezindabeni zezokwelapha kanye "nokulinganisa umndeni." Lokhu kuzodinga ukuthi imindeni ibe nengane yolunye ubulili ngaphambi kokuba ithathe isinqumo ngocansi lwengane oluzayo.

Mhlawumbe isizathu esikhulu nakakhulu sabenzi bomthetho ukuthi babone ukukhawulela i-PGD noma bayenze ingekho emthethweni yizinkinga zokuziphatha ezihilelekile. Lesi yisihloko esiyinkimbinkimbi futhi esithinta imizwa. Kubalulekile ukuhlola imizwa yakho bese uxoxa ngezinketho zakho nodokotela wakho.

Ukudla okudlela endlini

Kungokwemvelo ukucabanga ngengane yakho yesikhathi esizayo, futhi ube nethemba lokuthi izoba njani. Kodwa-ke, kubalulekile ukukhumbula ukuthi ukunquma ubulili bengane yakho akuvamile ukuthi kube ngaphansi kolawulo lwakho.

Khumbula ukuthi yonke ingane ihlukile. Ukuthi unentombazane encane akusho ukuthi kufanele ulahle ithemba lezinto ezimnandi obucabanga ukuzenza nendodana. Ngokunjalo, ukuthi uphumelele ekufuneni kwakho ukuba nomfana omncane akusho ukuthi impilo izobe iyilokho okubikezelwe ngumcabango wakho.

Uma uzizwa uzizwa udumele ngokweqile, uthukuthele, noma ulwela ukubopha ingane yakho nganoma yisiphi isizathu, kubalulekile ukukhuluma nomhlinzeki wakho wezokunakekelwa kwempilo noma umelaphi oqeqeshiwe ukukusiza usebenze ngemizwa yakho.