Ingabe Ukhathazekile Noma Ukhathazekile? Nansi Indlela Yokutshela.

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• 1. Ukukhathazeka kusho ukuthi ulawula ukuqina nobude bokukhathazeka kwakho. Ngokukhathazeka, akulula kangako.
• 2. Ukukhathazeka kungadala ukungezwani okuncane (kanye nokwesikhashana). Ukukhathazeka kubangela ukusabela okukhulu ngokomzimba.
• 3. Ukukhathazeka kuholela emicabangweni ongayigcina ngokusobala. Ukukhathazeka kungakwenza ucabange ‘ngesimo esibi kakhulu.’
• 4. Izenzakalo zangempela zidala ukukhathazeka. Ingqondo idala ukukhathazeka.
• 5. Ukukhathazeka ama-ebbs nokugeleza. Ukukhathazeka kuyanamathela futhi kuthinte ikhwalithi yakho yokuphila.
• 6. Ukukhathazeka kungakhiqiza. Ukukhathazeka kungamqeda amandla.
• 7. Ukukhathazeka akudingi ukwelashwa. Kodwa ukukhathazeka kungasizakala ngosizo lochwepheshe.

Ukuqonda umehluko kuzokusiza ukubhekana ngokuphumelelayo.

“Ukhathazeka kakhulu.” Umuntu ukutshele kangaki lokho?

Uma ungomunye wabantu baseMelika abayizigidi ezingama-40 abaphila nokukhathazeka, kunethuba elihle lokuthi uzwe lawo magama amane kaningi.

Ngenkathi ukukhathazeka kuyingxenye yokukhathazeka, ngokuqinisekile akuyona into efanayo. Futhi ukudida lezi zinto ezimbili kungaholela ekukhungathekeni kwabantu abanenkinga.

Ngakho-ke, uwubona kanjani umehluko? Nazi izindlela eziyisikhombisa ukukhathazeka nokukhathazeka kwehlukile.

1. Ukukhathazeka kusho ukuthi ulawula ukuqina nobude bokukhathazeka kwakho. Ngokukhathazeka, akulula kangako.

Sonke siyakhathazeka ngesinye isikhathi, futhi iningi lethu liyakhathazeka nsuku zonke. Ngokusho kwesazi sokusebenza kwengqondo uDanielle Forshee, i-Psy.D, labo abakhathazayo - okusho wonke umuntu - bangalawula ukuqina nobude bemicabango yabo yokukhathazeka.

"Isibonelo, umuntu okhathazekile angaphambukiselwa kokunye umsebenzi akhohlwe yimicabango yakhe yokukhathazeka," kuchaza uForshee. Kepha umuntu onenkinga angaba nobunzima bokushintsha ukunaka kwakhe kusuka komunye umsebenzi kuye kokulandelayo, okwenza imicabango yokukhathazeka ibadle.

2. Ukukhathazeka kungadala ukungezwani okuncane (kanye nokwesikhashana). Ukukhathazeka kubangela ukusabela okukhulu ngokomzimba.

Uma ukhathazeka, uvame ukuhlangabezana nokuqina komzimba okujwayelekile. UForshee uthi imvamisa imfishane kakhulu uma iqhathaniswa nomuntu onexhala.

Uyanezela: "Umuntu onexhala uvamise ukuba nezimpawu zomzimba eziphakeme kakhulu, kufaka phakathi ikhanda, ukuqina okujwayelekile, ukuqina kwesifuba sakhe, nokuthuthumela."

3. Ukukhathazeka kuholela emicabangweni ongayigcina ngokusobala. Ukukhathazeka kungakwenza ucabange ‘ngesimo esibi kakhulu.’

UForshee uthi ukuchaza lo mehluko akukhona mayelana nemicabango engokoqobo uma kuqhathaniswa nokuthi, ngoba, ngokuvamile, abantu abanokukhathazeka noma ukukhathazeka bangashintshana phakathi kwemicabango engokoqobo nengaphusile.

"Umehluko ocacile ukuthi labo abanenkathazo bashaya izinto ngokulingana kaningi nangokuqina okukhulu kunomuntu olwa nemicabango yokukhathazeka ngokuthile," kusho uForshee.

Labo abanokukhathazeka banesikhathi esinzima kakhulu sokuzisusa kuleyo micabango eyinhlekelele.

4. Izenzakalo zangempela zidala ukukhathazeka. Ingqondo idala ukukhathazeka.

Uma ukhathazeka, ujwayele ukucabanga ngomcimbi wangempela owenzekayo noma ozokwenzeka. Kepha uma ubhekene nokukhathazeka, uvame ukugxila kakhulu kwimicimbi noma emibonweni edalwa ingqondo yakho.

Isibonelo, omunye umuntu angakhathazeka ngomlingani wakhe ngenkathi bekhuphuka isitebhisi, ngoba bangawa futhi bazilimaze. Kepha umuntu okhathazekile, kuchaza uNatalie Moore, i-LMFT, angavuka azizwe esenomuzwa wesahlulelo sokuthi umlingani wakhe uzofa, futhi abazi ukuthi lo mqondo uvelaphi.

5. Ukukhathazeka ama-ebbs nokugeleza. Ukukhathazeka kuyanamathela futhi kuthinte ikhwalithi yakho yokuphila.

Kubantu abaningi, ukukhathazeka kuyafika kudlule, futhi imiphumela ayithinti impilo yakho yansuku zonke. Kepha uMoore uthi ukukhathazeka kubanga ukungakhululeki okuvamile futhi okukhulu kakhulu ngokwanele ukuthinta ikhwalithi yempilo yakho.

6. Ukukhathazeka kungakhiqiza. Ukukhathazeka kungamqeda amandla.

"Ukukhathazeka kungakhiqiza uma kuveza izixazululo ezinkingeni zangempela," kuchaza uNicki Nance, PhD, udokotela wezifo zengqondo onamalayisense kanye noprofesa ohlangene wezinsizakalo zomuntu kanye nokusebenza kwengqondo eBeacon College.

Eqinisweni, uMorey uthi inani elithile lokukhathazeka lijwayelekile ngokuphelele futhi empeleni liyadingeka kubantu ukuthi bavikele ukuphepha kwabo kanye nokuphepha kwabathandekayo. Kodwa-ke, ukukhathazeka ngokweqile okuvame ukuhambisana nokukhathazeka kungalimaza uma kukuvimbela ekuhlangabezaneni nezibopho noma kuphazamise ubudlelwane.

7. Ukukhathazeka akudingi ukwelashwa. Kodwa ukukhathazeka kungasizakala ngosizo lochwepheshe.

Njengoba ukukhathazeka kuyingxenye yempilo yethu yansuku zonke, imizwa uqobo esingayilawula ngaphandle kokufuna usizo lochwepheshe. Kepha ukuphatha ukukhathazeka okukhulu futhi okuphikelelayo kudinga usizo lochwepheshe bezempilo yengqondo.

Uma wena noma umuntu omaziyo enenkinga ngesifo sokukhathazeka, kubalulekile ukuthi ufune usizo lochwepheshe. Khuluma nodokotela noma omunye umhlinzeki wezokunakekelwa kwezempilo mayelana nezinketho zokwelashwa ukusiza ukuphatha izimpawu zokukhathazeka.

USara Lindberg, BS, M.Ed, ungumbhali wezempilo nokuzimela ozimele. Une-bachelor’s kwi-exercise yesayensi ne-master degree kwezokwelulekwa. Uchithe impilo yakhe efundisa abantu ngokubaluleka kwempilo, inhlalakahle, ukucabanga, kanye nempilo yengqondo. Ugxile ekuxhumaneni komzimba nomqondo ngokugxila ekutheni impilo yethu engokwengqondo nengokomzwelo ikuthinta kanjani ukuqina komzimba nempilo yethu.