Nganikeza Ubaba wami Isinso Ukusindisa Impilo Yakhe

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Ngosuku lokuzalwa lukababa wama-69, waquleka ekhaya waphuthunyiswa esibhedlela. Izinso zakhe bezihluleka-ukuxilongwa abekwazi kangako iminyaka kepha engazange asitshele. Ubaba wami ubelokhu engumuntu oyimfihlo ngokweqile - mhlawumbe naye wayephika-futhi kwangizwisa ubuhlungu ukwazi ukuthi ubelokhu elwa buthule isikhathi eside. Ngalolo suku, waqala i-dialysis-inqubo ayezodinga ukuyenza impilo yakhe yonke ukuze aqhubeke ephila.

Odokotela basikisela ukuthi angene ohlwini lokufakelwa izinso, kodwa kodadewethu ababili kanye nami kwakuyinto engenangqondo: omunye wethu wayezonikela ngenso. Ngenqubo yokuqedwa, yimina engangizokwenza. Udadewethu uMichelle akanazo izingane futhi inqubo ingase ithinte inzalo yakhe yesikhathi esizayo, futhi uKathy unamantombazane amancane amabili. Indodana yami uJustin yayineminyaka engu-18 futhi ikhulile, ngakho-ke ngangiyindlela engcono kakhulu. Ngenhlanhla, ngemuva kokuhlolwa igazi okuncane, ngabhekwa njengomdlalo.

Ngingasho kugcwale umlomo ukuthi bengingangabazi ngokunikela. Ngitshela abantu ukuthi uma benethuba lokusindisa ubaba wabo, bazokwenza nabo. Ngangingaboni nobubi bokuhlinzwa. Ngiluhlobo lomuntu ochitha amahora ngicwaninga kuwo wonke amaholide nakuzo zonke izindawo zokudlela, kepha angikaze ngifakele ukufakelwa kwezinso-izingozi, imiphumela, njll-ukwazi ukuthi yini ongayilindela. Imihlangano yodokotela kanye nokwelulekwa kwakuyimpoqo ngaphambi kokuhlinzwa, futhi ngatshelwa ngezingozi—ukutheleleka, ukopha, futhi, ezimweni ezingavamile kakhulu, ukufa. Kepha angizange ngigxile kulokho. Bengizokwenza lokhu ukusiza ubaba wami, futhi akukho okungangivimba.

Ngaphambi kwenqubo, odokotela basikisela ukuthi sobabili sehlise isisindo, njengoba ukuba ku-BMI enempilo kwenza ukuhlinzwa kungabi yingozi kakhulu kubo bobabili onikelayo nomamukeli. Wasinika izinyanga ezintathu ukuthi sifike lapho. Futhi ake ngikutshele, lapho impilo yakho incike ekunciphiseni isisindo, asikho isisusa esifana naso! Ngangigijima nsuku zonke futhi mina nomyeni wami uDave sasigibela amabhayisikili sidlala ithenisi. UDave wayejwayela ukuhlekisa ngokuthi kuzodingeka "angikhohlise" ukuze ngivivinye umzimba ngoba bengingakuthandi!

Ngolunye usuku ekuseni, sasihlala ekhaya labazali bami, futhi ngangisesitayeleni sokunyathelisa egumbini labo elingaphansi. Ubaba wehla, ngakhala izinyembezi phakathi nendawo. Ukumbona njengoba izinyawo zami zishaya phansi ebhandeni kwangenza ngafika ekhaya kimi: Impilo yakhe—ikhono lakhe lokuba lapha nabantwana bakhe nabazukulu—yimbangela yokuthi ngigijime. Akukho okunye okubalulekile.

Ezinyangeni ezintathu kamuva, ngangehla ngamakhilogremu angama-30 kanti ubaba wami wehla ngama-40. Futhi ngoNovemba 5, 2013, sobabili sangena ngaphansi kommese. Into yokugcina engiyikhumbulayo kwakungeniswa ekamelweni ngesikhathi umama nomyeni wami bengana futhi bethandaza. Bangifaka isifihla-buso, futhi ngemizuzwana bengingaphansi.

Kuyavunywa, ukuhlinza kwakunzima kunalokho engangikucabanga—kwakuyinqubo ye-laparoscopic yamahora amabili eyangikhipha emsebenzini amasonto amathathu. Kodwa sekukonke, kwaba yimpumelelo enkulu! Umzimba kababa wami walungiswa kangcono njengoba udokotela ayewulindele, futhi manje usephilile. Abashana bami ababili babiza izinso zethu uKimye izinso zekarati (ezababa wami) noLarry ezisele (ezami), futhi basenzela izikibha esasizigqoka kuNational Kidney Foundation Annual 5K Walk esesiyenzile ndawonye kulezi ezimbili ezedlule iminyaka.

Manje, mina nabazali bami sisondelene kakhulu kunanini ngaphambili. Ngithanda ukucabanga ukuthi ukunikela ngenso lami kwenzelwe yonke iminyaka yami yokuba yintsha evukelayo, futhi ngiyazi ukuthi bakwazisa kangakanani ukuzidela kwami. Futhi ngiyathanda ukusebenzisa izaba zesinso esisodwa noma kunini lapho angifuni ukwenza okuthile. O, udinga usizo lokugeza izitsha? Yehlisa umoya kimi-nginenso elilodwa kuphela!

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