'Ngabuyisa Umzimba Wami' Ngemuva Kokuzalwa, kodwa Kwakunzima

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• Kwaqala njengokudla
• Ncoma ubuhle obusha bomama, hhayi umzimba wakhe

Ukuncishwa ubuthongo kuyingxenye yobuzali obusha, kepha ukuncishwa kwekhalori akufanele kube njalo. Sekuyisikhathi sokubhekana nokulindela "ukubuyisa emuva."

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Umzimba wami wenze izinto ezimangazayo. Lapho ngineminyaka engu-15, yaphulukiswa kusukela ekusebenzeni amahora angu-8. Ngangine-scoliosis enamandla, futhi indawo enezinyongo emhlane wami kwakudingeka ifakwe.

Eminyakeni yami yama-20, yangisekela emijahweni eminingi. Sengigijime ama-marathoni amaningi, ama-marathoni angamashumi, no-5 no-10Ks kunalokho engingakubala.

Futhi eminyakeni engama-30, umzimba wami wawuthwala izingane ezimbili. Izinyanga eziyi-9, inhliziyo yami yababamba futhi yabondla eyabo.

Vele, lokhu bekufanele kube yisizathu sokugubha. Phela ngazala indodakazi kanye nendodana enempilo. Futhi ngenkathi ngishaqekile ngobukhona babo - ubuso babo obugcwele nezici zabo eziyindilinga zaziphelele - angizizwanga ngawomqondo ofanayo wokuziqhenya ngokubukeka kwami.

Isisu sami besiphazamisekile futhi singabukeki. Izinqe zami zazibanzi futhi zikhulu. Izinyawo zami bezivuvukele futhi zingenayo i -xyse (noma ngabe ngithembekile, imiphetho yami engezansi ayikaze ibukeke kakhulu), futhi konke kwakuthambile.

Ngezwa nginenhlama.

I-midsection yami yawa njengekhekhe elingadakiwe.

Lokhu evamile. Eqinisweni, enye yezinto ezimangalisa kakhulu ngomzimba womuntu yikhono layo lokushintsha, ukuguqula, nokuguqula.

Noma kunjalo, abezindaba basikisela okuhlukile. Amamodeli avela emigwaqweni yezindiza futhi umagazini uhlanganisa amasonto ngemuva kokubeletha, ubukeka ungashintshi. Abathonya bahlala bekhuluma nge- # postpartumfitness kanye ne- # postpartumweightloss, kanye nokusesha kwe-Google okusheshayo kwegama elithi "ukunciphisa isisindo somntwana" kuveza imiphumela engaphezu kwezigidi eziyi-100… esikhathini esingaphansi komzuzwana.

Ngakho-ke, ngazizwa ngicindezelwa kakhulu ukuba ngenze amaphutha. Ukuze “ngibuyele emuva.” Kakhulu kangangokuba ngiphushe umzimba wami. Ngafa indlala emzimbeni wami. Ngathengisa umzimba wami.

“Ngalulama” esikhathini esingaphansi kwamasonto ayisithupha kodwa ngalimala kakhulu empilweni yami engokwengqondo nengokomzimba.

Kwaqala njengokudla

Izinsuku zokuqala ezimbalwa ngemuva kokubeletha zazilungile. Nganginomzwelo futhi ngingalali futhi nginobuhlungu kakhulu ukuba nginganakekelwa. Angizange ngibale ama-calories (noma ngixubhe izinwele zami) ngize ngiphume esibhedlela. Kodwa lapho ngifika ekhaya, ngaqala ukunciphisa umzimba, okuyinto okungeyona umama oncelisayo okufanele ayenze.

Ngangigwema inyama ebomvu namafutha. Angikunakanga okuboniswa yindlala. Ngangivame ukulala isisu sami siduma futhi sikhonona, bese ngiqala ukujima.

Ngigijime amakhilomitha ama-3 ngemuva kwezinsuku ezimbalwa ngibelethile.

Futhi yize lokhu kungazwakala kukuhle, okungenani ephepheni - ngangitshelwa njalo ukuthi ngangibukeka "ngimuhle" futhi "nginenhlanhla" futhi abanye bangishayela ihlombe "ngokuzinikela" kwami ​​nokubekezela - ukufuna kwami ​​impilo ngokushesha kwaqala ukukhathazeka. Ngangizabalaza ngesimo somzimba esonakele nesifo sokudla sangemva kokubeletha.

Angingedwa. Ngokuya ngocwaningo lwango-2017 lwabaphenyi base-University of Illinois naseBrigham Young University, amaphesenti angama-46 omama abasha bakhungathekile ngumzimba wabo wangemva kokubeletha. Isizathu?

Izindinganiso ezingezona ezingokoqobo nezithombe zabesifazane ababizwa ngamathoni “ababuyela emuva” emasontweni ngemuva kokubeletha kwabashiya bezizwa bengenakuzisiza futhi bengenathemba. Ukugxila okuphelele kwabezindaba ekukhulelweni nakho kudlale indima.

Kepha yini esingayenza ukushintsha indlela abesifazane abazibona ngayo? Singabiza izinkampani ezithuthukisa imigomo engekho ngokoqobo. Singakwazi “ukulandela” labo abafaka amaphilisi okudla, izithasiselo, nezinye izinhlobo zokuphefumula ngaphansi kwesimo sokuphila kahle. Futhi singayeka ukukhuluma ngemizimba yabesifazane yangemva kokubeletha. Isikhathi.

Yebo, lokhu kufaka ukushaya ihlombe ukwehla kwesisindo sangemva kokubeletha.

Ncoma ubuhle obusha bomama, hhayi umzimba wakhe

Uyabona, omama abasha (nabazali) bangaphezulu kakhulu kobujamo, usayizi, noma inombolo esikalini. Singabapheki, odokotela, abaqeqeshi bokulala, abahlengikazi abamanzi, abathandi nabanakekeli. Sivikela abancane bethu futhi sibanikeze indawo ephephile yokulala - nomhlaba. Siyajabulisa izingane zethu futhi siziduduze. Futhi lokhu sikwenza ngaphandle kokucabanga noma ukucwayiza.

Abazali abaningi bathatha le misebenzi ngaphezu kwendima yesikhathi esigcwele, engekho ekhaya. Abaningi benza le misebenzi ngaphezu kokunakekela ezinye izingane noma abazali asebekhulile. Abazali abaningi benza le misebenzi ngokusekelwa okuncane noma bengekho nhlobo.

Ngakho-ke esikhundleni sokuphawula ngokubonakala komzali omusha, phawula ngempumelelo yabo. Bazise ukuthi yimuphi umsebenzi omuhle abawenzayo, noma ngabe konke abakwenzile ukusukuma banikeze omunye wabo ibhodlela noma isifuba sabo. Gubha impumelelo ebonakalayo, njengesihlambi abasithathe ekuseni noma isidlo esifudumele abakhethe ukusidla ngalobo busuku.

Futhi uma uzwa umama omusha ekhathazeka ngomzimba wakhe, futhi ukhuluma ngokubukeka, mkhumbuze ukuthi isisu sakhe sithambile ngoba kufanele sibe njalo. Ngoba, ngaphandle kwawo, ikhaya lakhe belizothula. Ama-coo and cuddles asebusuku kakhulu abengeke abe khona.

Mkhumbuze ukuthi izimpawu zakhe zokwelula ziyibheji yokuhlonishwa, hhayi amahloni. Imivimbo kufanele igqokwe ngokuziqhenya. Futhi umkhumbuze ukuthi izinqa zakhe sezikhulile namathanga asekhulile ngoba kudingeka aqine ngokwanele - futhi azinze ngokwanele - ukuxhasa isisindo sempilo yakhe nesabanye

Ngaphandle kwalokho, omama ababelethile, awudingi ukuthi "uthole" umzimba wakho ngoba awulahlekelwanga. Kube bonke. Bekulokhu kunawe, futhi kungakhathalekile ukuma nobukhulu bakho, kuzohlala kunjalo.

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