Nganginamahloni Ngokuba Ngifanelekile Kakhulu

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Ukuba ngumqeqeshi womuntu siqu kwakuwumsebenzi wephupho likaKirstin Dragasakis. Owesifazane oneminyaka engu-40 ubudala waseMinneapolis, eMinnesota wayethanda ukuziqeqesha futhi wathola ukuqeqesha abanye—kanye nokubuka ukuguqulwa kwabo ngokomzimba—ukuba nomvuzo omangalisayo. Kodwa wabe esethola uNksz X njengeklayenti. Phakathi nomhlangano wabo wokuqala ngqa, uNkz. X wakhomba imisipha ka-Kirstin ne-glute futhi wababaza, "Angifuni ukuphakamisa izinsimbi uma kuzongenza ngibe mkhulu laphaya phansi njengawe!" (Wena kufanele ukuphakamisa izinsimbi ezisindayo-ngeke zikwenze ube nobuningi!)

Amagama asika uDragasakis njengommese-lona wesifazane wayebethele okunye kokungazethembi kwakhe okujulile. Eminyakeni eminingana eyedlule, wayebambe iqhaza emncintiswaneni wokwakha umzimba. Wayekuthanda ukuphakamisa izinsimbi futhi wakujabulela ukuzizwa enamandla namandla. Lokho ayengakuthandi, noma kunjalo, "kwakugxila ekubukekeni, nasekubukekeni kuphela." Ngemuva kombukiso, wayecele impendulo kumajaji. "Ngokuxakile, bathi ngishoda ngokulingana ngenxa yempahla yami enkulu namathanga ami," uyakhumbula. "Umncintiswano ube muhle kakhulu ngoba ngafunda ngamandla ami nokuzimisela ukunamathela emgomweni onzima kakhulu engangizibekela wona, kodwa akuzange kube kuhle ngokungifundisa ngothando lomzimba nokwamukela umzimba." (Funda kulaba besifazane abakhombisa ukuthi kungani i-#LoveMyShape Movement Is So Freakin' Empowering.)

Ukulangazelela ukuqhubeka nokuphakamisa izinsimbi kepha efuna ukumisa ibhikini ebenyezelayo nazo zonke izimo zengqondo ezihambisana nayo, uDragasakis uthathe isinqumo sokuphakamisa amandla. Wathola umqeqeshi futhi wasebenzela ukuba aqine futhi aqine nsuku zonke, aziqhenya ngokuthi uthuthuka ngokushesha kangakanani.

Ngakho-ke lapho ikhasimende lakhe lithuka isimo sakhe somzimba, kwaba buhlungu ngempela. "Uma ngikhuluma iqiniso, ekuqaleni ngalimala kakhulu futhi ngakhala izinyembezi. Ezimweni ezimbi kakhulu, ngike ngazizwa ngingafaneleki njengomqeqeshi ngenxa yokuthi angincikile kakhulu, ngiklebhukile unyaka wonke," usho kanje. "Angibukeki njengazo zonke izithombe zefitspiration." (Thola ukuthi kungani okuthunyelwe kwe-Instagram "Fitspiration" Kungakhuthazi Njalo.)

Kodwa akuthathanga sikhathi ngaphambi kokuba amahloni akhe aphenduke intukuthelo ngenxa yalolu hlazo lwalo wesifazane bese ezishaya isifuba ngamandla akhe. Esikhundleni sokuba namahloni ngemisipha yakhe, waqondisa imizwa yakhe ekuqeqesheni kanzima nakakhulu emqhudelwaneni wakhe wokuqala wokuphakamisa amandla. "Sengikhona kuzuziwe lemilenze nalesi sinqe!" usho kanje. "Amathanga ami aminyene nempango yami izimbongoloets hhayi izingxenye zami zokuzonda nokujivaza. "

Futhi akuzona yena kuphela ukuthi u-Dragasakis uthi uyalwa-uthi bonke abantu besifazane badinga ukulahla umqondo owandile wokuthi i-bulky yimbi. “Ngifisa sengathi abantu besifazane abaningi bangaqonda ukuthi amandla nomsipha kuyizipho futhi kubaluleke kakhulu empilweni yethu, ikakhulukazi njengoba sikhula,” usho kanje. "Futhi ngifisa sengathi abesifazane abaningi bazi ukuthi kukunika amandla kangakanani ukukwazi ukucosha i-shit esindayo futhi uyibuyisele phansi!" (Bheka Izindlela Ezingu-18 Ukuphakamisa Isisindo Kuzoshintsha Impilo Yakho.)

Ngokuqondene ne-"fitspo" ekahle, i-Dragasakis ingathanda ukukuyeka lokho. "Ngiyayizonda i-fitspo ecindezela 'i-strong not skinny', empeleni ekhazimulisa ukucindezela ngokweqile kanye nokuzonda okungenangqondo," usho kanje. Ekugcineni, uyanezela, akukhona ukuzama ukubukeka njengentombazane "ephelele" ku-Instagram noma kumagazini kepha ngokuba inguqulo enhle kunazo zonke wena. (Akuzona zonke eziphelele, noma kunjalo.)

"Kusukela manje, sengizoba ngumnikazi 'omkhulu ezansi lapho' bese ngikusebenzisa ukukhahlela imbongolo emncintiswaneni wami," usho kanje. Futhi sizobe simi eceleni kwezaga sibabaza amandla akhe, ngaphakathi nangaphandle!

#UthandoLwami: Ngoba imizimba yethu mibi futhi sizizwa sinamandla, sinempilo, futhi siyazethemba okwawo wonke umuntu. Sitshele ukuthi kungani uthanda ukwakheka kwakho futhi usisize ukusabalalisa #uthando lomzimba.

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