Ukungathembeki: Inkinga Yezemvelo vs Ukukhulisa?

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Uma sikholwa zonke izibalo ezesabekayo laphaya, ukukopela kwenzeka ... okuningi. Isibalo esiqondile sabathandi abangathembekile kunzima ukusibhala phansi (ngubani ofuna ukwamukela isenzo esingcolile?), Kepha izilinganiso zobudlelwano obuthintwe ukukopela zihamba cishe ngamaphesenti angama-50. Yikes ...

Kepha kunokuphikisana ngokuthi bangaki kithi abakopelayo, umbuzo wangempela uwukuthi ngani siyakwenza. Ngokwezifundo ezimbili ezikhishwe kulo nyaka, kungenzeka ukuthi sisolwe sobabili ngokungathembeki kwethu. (BTW, nayi Ingqondo Yakho: Inhliziyo Ephukile.)

Imvelo

Ngokocwaningo olwethulwe yi-ASAP Science, amathuba okuthi umlingani wakho akhohlise angase anqunywe i-DNA yakhe. Ukungathembeki kuhilela izinqubo ezimbili ezahlukene zobuchopho. Okokuqala kuhlobene nama-receptors akho e-dopamine. I-Dopamine i-hormone yokuzizwa ujabule ekhishwa lapho wenza okuthile okujabulisa ngempela, njengokushaya ikilasi lakho le-yoga eliyintandokazi, ukupheka ukudla okumnandi kwangemva kokujima futhi-uqagele ukuthi-uba ne-orgasm.

Abacwaningi bathola ukuguqulwa kwe-dopamine receptor okwenza abanye abantu bathambekele ekuziphatheni okuyingozi, njengokukopela. Labo ababenokwehluka okude babika ukuthi bakopela amaphesenti angu-50 esikhathi, kuyilapho amaphesenti angu-22 kuphela abantu abane-allele emfushane eshintshashintshayo bangena ekungathembeki. Ngokuyisisekelo, uma uzwela kakhulu kulawa ma-neurotransmitters enjabulo, maningi amathuba okuthi ufune injabulo ngokuziphatha okuyingozi. Ngena ukujola ngaphandle komshado.

Enye imbangela engenzeka yebhayoloji ngemuva kweso likamlingani wakho elizulazulayo amazinga abo e-vasopressin-ihomoni enquma amazinga ethu okwethembana, uzwela, kanye nekhono lethu lokwakha izibopho zomphakathi ezinempilo. Ngokwabacwaningi, ukuba namazinga aphansi e-vasopressin ngokwemvelo kusho ukuthi lezo zinto ezintathu ziyehla: Mancane amathuba okuthi umethembe umlingani wakho, awukwazi ukuba nozwelo ngomlingani wakho, futhi awukwazi ukwakha leyo nhlangano enempilo. isibopho okwakhiwa kuso ubudlelwano obuqinile. Ukwehla kwamazinga akho e-vasopressin, kuba lula ukungathembeki.

Ukukhulisa

Abaphenyi baseTexas Tech University bathole ukuthi ngaphandle kwebhayoloji yethu, umfutho omkhulu wokungathembeki uhlobene nabazali bethu. Ocwaningweni lwabo lwentsha ecishe ibe ngama-300, bathole ukuthi labo abanabazali abakhohlisayo banamathuba aphindwe kabili okuzikhohlisa.

Ngokusho kombhali ocwaningayo uDana Weiser, i-Ph.D., Kumayelana nokuthi imibono yethu yokuqala ebudlelwaneni yakhiwa kanjani yileyo esijwayelene kakhulu nayo: eyabazali bethu. “Abazali abakhohlisayo bangase batshele izingane zabo ukuthi ukungathembeki kwamukelekile nokuthi ukushada nomuntu oyedwa kungase kungabi into engokoqobo elindelekile,” usho kanje. "Izinkolelo zethu nezinto esizilindele zidlala indima ekuchazeni ukuziphatha kwethu kwangempela."

Yikuphi Okubalulekile?

Ngakho-ke yisiphi isibikezelo esingcono seso elizulazulayo: Ingqondo yethu yamakhemikhali noma lezo zimilo zokuqala? Ngokusho kuka-Weiser, i-combo yangempela. “Ezimweni eziningi zokuziphatha kocansi, izakhi zofuzo kanye nomthelela wemvelo kusebenza ndawonye ukusiza ukuchaza ukuziphatha kwethu,” usho kanje. "Akuyona indaba yokukodwa noma enye kodwa ukuthi la mabutho asebenza kanjani ngokubambisana." (Futhi noma kungaba isihloko sokuthula, sithole ukuthi Ukukopela Kubukeka Kanjani Ngempela.)

Ngamandla omabili asebenza ngokumelene nathi uma kuziwa ekutholeni umlingani othembekile, ingabe lokho kusho ukuthi sikhohlakele ngokuphelele? Vele akunjalo! "Ubudlelwano obuqinile bungezinye zezindlela ezingcono kakhulu zokunciphisa amathuba okukopela," kusho uWeiser. "Ukuba neziteshi zokuxhumana ezivulekile, ukwenza isikhathi esisezingeni, nokuvumela izingxoxo eziqotho ngokwaneliseka kwezocansi kungasiza ekuqiniseni ubudlelwane bethu futhi kusivumele ukuthi sixoxe nganoma yikuphi ukungenami esinakho ebudlelwaneni bethu."

Iphuzu elibalulekile: Ikhemikhali yobuchopho kanye nokuchayeka kokuziphatha kwasekuqaleni kuphela izibikezelo yokungathembeki. Noma ngabe sithinteka kalula noma cha, sisakwazi ngokuphelele ukuzithathela izinqumo ezinolwazi. Gcina ingxoxo emayelana nokukopela ivulekile futhi unqume ukuthi yini esebenzayo nokuthi yini engasebenzi kuwe nomlingani wakho.

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