UJames Van Der Beek Wabelana Ngokuthi Kungani Sidinga Elinye Itemu elithi "Ukuphuphunyelwa Kwesisu" Eposini Elinamandla

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Ngasekuqaleni kwaleli hlobo, uJames Van Der Beek nomkakhe, uKimberly, bamukele ingane yabo yesihlanu emhlabeni. Lezi zithandani sezingene ezinkundleni zokuxhumana amahlandla amaningi selokhu zabelana ngenjabulo yazo. Muva nje, nokho, uVan Der Beek wabelane ngendaba yabo okungekho noyedwa owake wayizwa ngaphambi kokulahleka okukhulu nokudabuka.

Eposini elibuhlungu, ubaba omusha waveza ukuthi ngaphambi kokwamukela indodakazi yabo, uGwendolyn, lo mbhangqwana walwa nobuhlungu bokukhulelwa - hhayi kanye, kepha kaningana. Wayefuna ukuthatha isikhashana ukwabelana ngomlayezo nalabo abake bezwa ubuhlungu obufanayo, ebazisa ukuthi ababodwa.

"Bengifuna ukusho okuthile noma okubili mayelana nokuphuphunyelwa yizisu...okuthathu kukho eminyakeni edlule (kuhlanganise nangaphambi kwalo nobuhle omncane)," kubhala lo mlingisi ehambisana nesithombe sakhe nomkakhe benomntwana wabo osanda kuzalwa. (Related: Nakhu Impela Okwenzeka Ngathi Ngiphuphunyelwa Yisisu)

"Okokuqala-sidinga igama elisha kuyo," eqhubeka. "'Ukuhamba ngenqola okungafanele,' ngendlela ecashile, kusikisela iphutha kumama-njengokungathi ulahle okuthile, noma wehluleka 'ukuphatha.' Ngokwalokho engikufundile, kukho konke kodwa okusobala kakhulu, amacala okweqisa, akuhlangene nanoma yini umama ayenzile noma angayenzanga. Ngakho-ke ake sisule wonke amacala etafuleni ngaphambi kokuthi siqale. " (Related: Indlela Engafunda Ngayo Ukuthemba Umzimba Wami Futhi Ngemva Kokuphuphunyelwa Kwesisu)

Ngokudabukisayo, lokhu okuhlangenwe nakho okudabukisayo akuvamile: "Cishe amaphesenti angu-20-25 okukhulelwa okuqashelwa ngokomtholampilo aholela ekulahlekelweni," uZev Williams MD, isikhulu sophiko lwe-endocrinology yokuzala kanye nokungabi nabantwana kanye noprofesa ohlangene wezokubelethisa kanye nezifo zabesifazane e-Columbia University Medical Center. utshela Umumo. "Izimo eziningi zokukhulelwa zibangelwa inkinga ye-chromosomal ku-fetus, okuholela ekubeni ibe nama-chromosome amaningi kakhulu noma ambalwa kakhulu. Kodwa, izinto eziningi kufanele zihambe kahle ukuze ukukhulelwa kuphumelele futhi kungase kubangele inkinga nganoma iyiphi yazo. ekulahlekelweni."

Akugcini lapho, kepha nabesifazane bavame ukuzwa usizi olukhulu ngemuva kokuthola ukukhulelwa, ngesikhathi sokulila esivame ukuhlala unyaka wonke, kubika Bazali. “Iningi labesifazane nemibhangqwana lizizwa linecala futhi lizisola ngemva kokukhulelwa,” kusho uDkt. Williams. "Ukusebenzisa igama elithi "ukuphuphunyelwa kwesisu" akusizi, futhi kungase kube nomthelela kulo muzwa ngokusikisela ukuthi ukukhulelwa kwaphuphunyelwa. Ngikhetha kakhulu igama elithi "ukulahlekelwa ukukhulelwa" ngoba ukulahlekelwa ngempela futhi akukho ukusola."

Njengoba uVan Der Beek esho kokuthunyelwe kwakhe, ubuhlungu "obuzokudabula njengokuthile okunye."

“Kubuhlungu futhi kubuhlungu emazingeni ajule kunalokho oke wabhekana nakho,” echaza.

Kungakho, ngokukhuluma ngalolu daba, unethemba lokuqwashisa ngeqiniso lokuthi ukulahleka kokukhulelwa akulona iphutha lomuntu, nokuthi izinto ziba ngcono ngokuhamba kwesikhathi. “Ngakho-ke ungahluleli usizi lwakho, noma uzame ukulungisa indlela yakho,” ebhala. "Ake igeleze kumagagasi engena kuwo, futhi uyivumele indawo yayo efanele. Futhi-ke, uma usukwazi, zama ukubona ubuhle ngendlela ozibeka ngayo ndawonye ngokuhlukile kunakuqala." (Okuhlobene: UShawn Johnson Uvula Okuphathelene Nokuphuphuma Kwesisu Kwividiyo Engokomzwelo)

Lokho mhlawumbe kungukuthatha okukhulu kunakho konke okuvela emyalezweni kaVan Der Beek: Ubuhle nenjabulo kusengatholakala kwinqubo yokwelashwa.

"Olunye ushintsho silwenza ngokuqinile, olunye silwenza ngoba indawo yonke isishayile, kepha noma yikuphi, lezo zinguquko zingaba yizipho," wabhala. "Imibhangqwana eminingi isondelana kakhulu kunanini ngaphambili. Abazali abaningi babona isifiso esijulile sengane kunanini ngaphambili. Futhi abaningi, abaningi, imibhangqwana eminingi iba nezingane ezijabulayo, ezinempilo, nezinhle ngemuva kwalokho (futhi kaningi ngokushesha kakhulu ngemuva kwalokho uxwayiswe)."

Nakuba ukubhekana nosizi kungase kube nzima, uVan Der Beek uthi ukukholelwa labo ababezoba izingane, “ukuvolontiya kulolu hambo olufushane ukuze kuzuze abazali,” kumnika umuzwa wokuthula. Uphethe umsebenzi wakhe ngokukhuthaza abanye ukuthi bathole futhi babelane ngokuthile okuhle ababambelele kukho ngenkathi behlangabezana nesimo esifanayo.

Uma wena noma omunye kini azi ukuthi unenkinga yokulahlekelwa ukukhulelwa, uDkt Williams unalesi seluleko esilandelayo: "Kungokwemvelo ukuzizwa uwedwa ngemuva kokulahlekelwa. Njengakwezinto eziningi kwezokwelapha, ulwazi lungasiza kakhulu. ukwazi ukuthi kuvame kangakanani ukulahlekelwa ukukhulelwa, nokuthi umndeni nabangane abaningi cishe baye badlula kukho, kungaba usizo. Amaqembu okusekela nokwabelana nabanye kungaba yinzuzo futhi."

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