U-Jen Selter Uvule Ngokuphathelene Nokuba “Nokuhlasela Okukhulu Kokukhathazeka” Endizeni

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Umgqugquzeli wokufaneleka u-Jen Selter akavamile ukwabelana ngemininingwane emayelana nempilo yakhe ngale kokuzivocavoca nokuhamba. Nokho, kuleli sonto, unikeze abalandeli bakhe amazwibela asobala okuhlangenwe nakho kwakhe ngokukhathazeka.

NgoLwesithathu, uSelter ufake i-selfie enezinyembezi kuNdaba yakhe ye-Instagram. Ngezansi kwesithombe, ubhale ukuthi "ube" nokuhlaselwa okukhulu kokukhathazeka "ngaphambi kokuthatha indiza.

"Anginaso isiqiniseko sokuthi yini eyidalile (anginalo uvalo lokundiza)," kubhala yena. "Engikwaziyo ukuthi impilo yengqondo yinto okumele sikhulume ngayo NGOKUVULEKILE." (Okuhlobene: Osaziwayo abayi-9 Abakhuluma Ngezinkinga Zempilo Yengqondo)

Ngaphandle kokuthunyelwe kwebhulogi ka-2017 mayelana nendlela yokuyeka ukukhathazeka kanye ne-tweet ngezikhathi ezithile mayelana nokukhathazeka, u-Selter akavamile ukuxoxa ngempilo yengqondo ezisekelweni zakhe.

Kepha manje, "uyabona ukuthi [izingqinamba zempilo yengqondo] akuyona into okufanele ibe namahloni, amahloni, noma ingithukuthelele," wabhala ku-Instagram Story yakhe. "Ukukhathazeka yinto ebengibhekene nayo." (Okuhlobene: Kungani Kufanele Uyeke Ukuthi Unenkinga Uma Ungekho)

USelter wachaza ukuthi usenesikhathi eside engakaze abe nokukhathazeka. Kodwa lokhu okuhlangenwe nakho kwakamuva kuzwakale “njengocingo lokuvuka engidinga ukuthola usizo lochwepheshe nesiqondiso sokuthi ngingakunqoba kanjani futhi ngibhekane nalokhu,” wabhala. "Futhi KULUNGILE!!! Kulungile ukucela usizo," enezela.

I-ICYDK, ukuhlaselwa kokukhathazeka kwenzeka lapho ukhathazekile ngesenzakalo esizayo futhi "ulindele umphumela omubi," u-Ricks Warren, Ph.D., uprofesa ohlobene nomtholampilo wezifo zengqondo eNyuvesi yaseMichigan, wachaza eposini le-blog inyuvesi. "Kuvame ukubandakanyeka ekuxakekeni kwemisipha kanye nomuzwa ojwayelekile wokungakhululeki. Futhi kuvame ukufika kancane kancane."

Yize ukuhlaselwa kokukhathazeka kuzwakala kufana nokuhlaselwa ukwethuka, akufani ncamashi. "Ukuhlaselwa uvalo kuhlukile. Kuhlotshaniswa nokuqubuka okukhulu kokwesaba okukhulu ngenxa yomuzwa wosongo olwenzekayo khona manje, impendulo yokulwa-noma-yendiza esinenkinga yokuba nayo ukuze sibhekane nengozi ngokushesha. Ibeka le-alamu, "kusho uDkt Warren. (Nazi ezinye izimpawu zokuxwayiswa ngokuhlaselwa okufanele ukwenze.)

USelter uchaze kabanzi ngendaba yakhe ye-IG kokuthunyelwe kamuva kokuphakelayo kwakhe okuyinhloko: "Ukukhathazeka yinto engizabalaze nayo kusukela esikoleni samabanga aphakeme futhi ngeshwa njengamanje yimbi kakhulu kweyake yaba khona," ebhala. "Izikhathi ezinjengalezi zingikhumbuza ukuthi kubaluleke kangakanani kimi ukuthi ngisebenzise inkundla yami ukufundisa nokuletha ukunaka ezihlokweni ezifana nokucwaswa okuzungeze impilo yengqondo."

Akulula ukwabelana ngalezi zikhathi ezingavuthiwe zempilo yakho nabantu abacishe babe yizigidi eziyi-13. Ngiyabonga, Jen, ngokusikhombisa ukuthi kunamandla okusengozini.

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