Impilo Enesifo Sokukhathala Okungapheli: Izifundo eziyi-11 ezivela “Kumamezala” Wami

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• 1. Ukuphila neCFS akukubi konke.
• 2. Ukuhlala “nonyokozala” wakho kuza nezinzuzo ezithile.
• 3. Awukwazi ukushaya umamezala wakho.
• 4. Umusa omncane uhamba ibanga elide.
• 5. UNGAYENZI, ngaphansi kwanoma yiziphi izimo, ungabandakanyi umkhwekazi wakho emidlalweni eyingozi.
• 6. Noma yini oyenzayo: Khetha izimpi zakho.
• 7. Ngeke uyinqobe yonke impi.
• 8. Phonsa ithambo lakhe ngezikhathi ezithile.
• 9. Abangane abakhulu abangakhathazeki uma amathegi we-MIL ehambisana.
• 10. Yamukela izinto ongeke uzishintshe.
• 11. Shintsha izinto ongazenza.

Cabanga ngalokhu. Uhamba ngokuphila ngokujabula. Wabelana ngempilo yakho nendoda yamaphupho akho. Unezingane ezimbalwa, umsebenzi owuthandayo isikhathi esiningi, nezinto zokuzilibazisa nabangane ukukugcina umatasa. Bese kuthi ngolunye usuku umamezala wakho angene.

Awuqinisekile ukuthi kungani. Awuzange umumeme, futhi uqinisekile ukuthi nomyeni wakho akamemanga. Uhlala ucabanga ukuthi uzohamba, kepha uyaqaphela ukuthi izikhwama zakhe zikhishwe ngokuphelele, futhi njalo lapho uletha ukuhamba kwakhe okusondelayo, uyashintsha isihloko.

Lokhu akufani nokuthi ngaba kanjani nesifo sokukhathala okungamahlalakhona. Uyabona, kimi, njengoba kunjalo ngabantu abaningi abane-CFS, isifo sokukhathala okungamahlalakhona safika ngendlela yalokho engangicabanga ukuthi umkhuhlane wesisu olula. Njengoba ubungavakashela umamezala wakho isikhashana, ngazilungiselela ngokwengqondo izinsuku ezimbalwa zosizi nokuphazamiseka okungathandeki futhi ngacabanga ukuthi impilo izobuyela kwesijwayelekile ezinsukwini ezimbalwa. Kwakungenjalo. Izimpawu, ikakhulukazi ukukhathala okucindezelayo, zahlala emzimbeni wami, futhi, eminyakeni emihlanu kuqhubeke, kuzovela ukuthi umkhwekazi wami ongokomfanekiso usengene unomphela.

Akusona isimo esikahle, futhi yiso esiqhubeka nokungixaka, kepha akuzona zonke izindaba ezimbi. Iminyaka yokuphila no "her" ingifundise izinto ezimbalwa. Ukuba nale ngcebo yolwazi manje, ngicabanga ukuthi wonke umuntu kufanele azi ukuthi…

1. Ukuphila neCFS akukubi konke.

Njenganoma yibuphi ubudlelwane obuhloniphekile be-MIL-DIL, impilo enokukhathala okungapheli inezikhathi zayo nezimbi. Ngezinye izikhathi, awukwazi ukuphakamisa ikhanda lakho emcamelweni ngokwesaba ulaka lwakhe. Kepha kwesinye isikhathi, uma unyathela kancane, ungahamba amasonto, noma izinyanga, ngaphandle kokuphikisana okukhulu.

2. Ukuhlala “nonyokozala” wakho kuza nezinzuzo ezithile.

Ngolunye usuku umngane wami wangibuza ukuthi ngiyafuna yini ukuhlanganyela naye ekunxenxeni umphakathi othengisa ama-alimondi kashokoledi. Impendulo ibilula, “Cha. Ngizobungaza umkhwekazi wami kusihlwa. ” Ukuhlala nalesi sivakashi sendlu esingathandeki kangako akufiki nezinhlangothi eziningi, ngakho-ke ngibona ukuthi ukusisebenzisa njengezaba (esivumelekile) manje futhi kulungile.

3. Awukwazi ukushaya umamezala wakho.

Yize ungathanda, awukwazi ukuhlula iCFS ngokomzimba noma ngokufanisa njengoba abanye bengase "bashaye," noma belaphe, esinye isifo. Noma imiphi imizamo yokuyilwa, ukuyiphikisa, noma ukuyinqoba ngenye indlela yenza ukuthi ukuphila nayo kube kubi kakhulu. Sengikushilo lokho…

4. Umusa omncane uhamba ibanga elide.

Lapho ngibhekene nalomhlali ongafuneki empilweni yami, ngithole kungcono kakhulu ukuthi ngibonise umusa ngazo zonke izindlela. Indlela yokondla, enokuthula, neyesineke izovame ukuletha izinkathi zalokho okwaziwa ngegama leCFS ngokuthi “ukuthethelelwa” - isikhathi lapho izimpawu zithamba khona futhi umuntu angakhuphula izinga lomsebenzi wabo.

5. UNGAYENZI, ngaphansi kwanoma yiziphi izimo, ungabandakanyi umkhwekazi wakho emidlalweni eyingozi.

Umkhahleli wangempela weCFS yinto encane kabi ebizwa ngokuthi. Kalula nje, lezi yizo zonke izinhlobo zezinto ezimbi ozizwayo ngamahora angama-24 kuye kwangama-48 ngemuva kokubamba iqhaza ekusebenzeni komzimba okunzima. Ngakho-ke ngenkathi umamezala wakho engabonakala ejabulela isikhathi sakhe emzileni weBMX, ungalenzi iphutha, uzokukhokhela kamuva. Ngeke kushiwo ukuthi ikuphi ukulimala angakuthola nokuthi uzozwa isikhathi esingakanani ngakho.

6. Noma yini oyenzayo: Khetha izimpi zakho.

Isifo sokukhathala okungamahlalakhona asilokothi siphuthelwe yithuba lokuzwakala lapho, uthi, ulala ebusuku nabangane noma uzama ukwenza ingadi eqinile. Ngokwazi lokhu, ngiya empini kuphela nalesi sifo lapho kufanele khona. Kimi, lokhu kusho ukuthi cha ezintweni ezifana nehhovisi lomphakathi noma ngokuzithandela i-PTA. Kodwa ikhonsathi kaGarth Brooks? YEBO HHEYI!

7. Ngeke uyinqobe yonke impi.

Umkhwekazi wami ongokomfanekiso ungumuntu owesabekayo. Ngokuqinisekile kuzoba nezikhathi ezimbi lapho-ukukhuluma kweCFS esizibiza ngokuthi "ukubuyela emuva." Uma lokhu kwenzeka, angikwazi ukucindezela ngokwanele amandla okwamukela ukwehlulwa njengesinyathelo sokuqala sokubuyiselwa. Ngenxa yami, ngisebenzisa lezi zikhathi ukuphuza itiye eliningi ne-MIL, ngimqinisekise ukuthi konke kuzolunga, futhi ngimqinisekise ukuthi abuke iDownton Abbey nami aze alungele ukungcwaba i-hatchet.

8. Phonsa ithambo lakhe ngezikhathi ezithile.

Kungazizwa sengathi i-MIL yakho iyadinga kwesinye isikhathi. Ufuna ukuphumula, akafuni ukumba ukhula namuhla, umsebenzi uyamcindezela, ufuna ukulala embhedeni ungakashayi u-8: 00 ebusuku. … Uhlu luyaqhubeka. Ngenxa yobuhle, jikijela ithambo lakhe ngezikhathi ezithile! Cha kukrwebe lokho. Umphonse wonke amathambo awafunayo bese amanye. Ngiyakuthembisa ukuthi inkokhelo ngokwezempilo yakho izokufanele.

9. Abangane abakhulu abangakhathazeki uma amathegi we-MIL ehambisana.

Bengilokhu ngiba nabangane abahle, kodwa angikaze ngibazise ngaphezu kweminyaka emihlanu edlule. Bahle futhi bathembekile futhi abanankinga uma umkhwekazi wami enquma ukusinciphisa isivivinyo - noma noma egcizelela ukuthi sonke sihlale ekhaya kunalokho!

10. Yamukela izinto ongeke uzishintshe.

Angivumelananga nalo lonke lolu hlelo lokuphila. Ngincengile ngancenga iMIL yami ukuthi izohlala kwenye indawo. Sengize ngashiya izinto zakhe emnyango, ngethemba lokuthi uzokuthola ukusikisela, kodwa kwanhlanga zimuka nomoya. Kuzovela ukuthi ulapha uzohlala, futhi kungcono ukuthi…

11. Shintsha izinto ongazenza.

Akungabazeki ukuthi lapho ukugula kungena empilweni yakho kungabikelwanga futhi kuthatha indawo yokuhlala, kungakushiya uthukuthele, unqotshiwe futhi uphelelwe amandla. Kimina, kwafika iphuzu, lapho, lapho leyo mizwa yayidinga ukuhlala emuva ukuze igxile ngokwakhayo ezintweni engingaziguqula. Isibonelo, ngingaba ngumama. Ngingathatha i-tai chi, futhi ngikwazi ukwenza umsebenzi omusha wokubhala. Lezi yizinto engizithola zijabulisa, ziyanelisa, futhi, ngaphezu kwakho konke, "umamezala" wami uzithola zithandeka nazo!

Uma into eyodwa icacile ngohambo lwami ngalesi sifo, ukuthi sonke sibizelwe ukwenza okungcono kakhulu ezimeni zethu zokuhlala. Kwazi bani? Ngelinye ilanga ngingahle ngiphaphame futhi engangihlala naye ekingathekiso kungenzeka wazitholela enye indawo yokuhlala. Kepha, kuphephile ukusho, angiwubambi umoya wami. Okwanamuhla, ngijabule ukusebenzisa okungcono kakhulu futhi ngithathe izifundo njengoba ziza. Ubhekana kanjani ne-chronic fatigue syndrome? Yabelana ngolwazi lwakho nami!

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