Impilo Ngaphandle Kwe-Orgasm: Abesifazane Aba-3 Babelana Ngezindaba Zabo

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Ukuze uchaze ukuntula, kufanele uqale ngokukhomba ukuthi yini okufanele uyigcwalise; ukukhuluma nge-anorgasmia yesifazane, okokuqala kufanele ukhulume nge-orgasm. Sivame ukukhuluma ngayo, siyinikeze iziteketiso ezinhle: "i-Big O," "isiphetho esihle." Mhlawumbe ngokumangazayo, ayinayo incazelo eyodwa, eyamukelwa emhlabeni wonke. Imvamisa kungumphumela wokuvuselelwa kocansi, kepha hhayi njalo. Ochwepheshe bezokwelapha bagxila ekuziphendukeleni komzimba kokugeleza kwegazi kuya ezithweni zangasese, ukuqina kwemisipha nokuncipha-njengesisekelo se-orgasm, kuyilapho ososayensi bezengqondo bebheka izinguquko ezingokomzwelo nezingqondo ezihambisana nakho, njengokuxhamazela kwekhemikhali yomvuzo, i-dopamine, ukuze ubuchopho. Uma kufikwa kukho, noma kunjalo, ukuphela kwendlela yokutshela ngokuqinisekile ukuthi owesifazane uke waba ne-orgasm uma ekutshela yena.

"Uzoyazi uma kwenzeka," abesifazane abahlangabezane ne-orgasm bazi ngokwazi labo abangakakwenzi lokho, ngendlela eselulekwe ngayo ukuthi silinde izikhathi zethu zokuqala-kube sengathi ama-orgasms ethu okuqala abeyizinto ezizokwenzeka kithina, okuhlangenwe nakho kwethu angathola, njengesipho esithile esivela kuNkulunkulu. Kodwa, kuthiwani uma i-orgasm ingafiki lapho sifuna ukuba-noma nhlobo?

UKayla, 25, usebudlelwaneni bezocansi obuzinikele isikhathi eside abubiza ngokuthi "uyabacabangela futhi uyabasekela." Akakaze afinyelele kuvuthondaba-kungaba eyedwa noma enomlingani. "Ngokwengqondo, bengilokhu nginomqondo ovulekile kakhulu ngezocansi," esitshela. "Bengihlale ngifisa ukwazi ngayo futhi ngifisa ukuyizama, futhi ngashaya indlwabu kusukela ngisemncane, ngakho-ke akukho ukucindezelwa lapho… Ngiyenqaba ukukholelwa ukuthi kukhona okungalungile kimi kuphela ngokwengqondo noma ngokomzimba-ngithanda ukukholelwa ukuthi kuwina inhlanganisela yakho kokubili."

UKayla ungomunye wamaphesenti alinganiselwa ku-10 kuya ku-15 wabesifazane abane-anorgasmia, noma ukungakwazi ukufinyelela kwi-orgasm ngemuva kokuvuselelwa "ngokwanele" ngokocansi-hhayi ukuthi sinencazelo eyodwa yokuthi "kwanele," noma, noma ukuqonda okucacile kokuthi yini ebanga i-anorgasmia. (Asiqiniseki ngisho nezinga lokunemba kwaleso sibalo esicashunwe kakhulu esingamaphesenti ayi-10 kuya kwayi-15.) “Asazi ngempela ukuthi zikhona yini izimbangela zezokwelapha ze-anorgasmia,” kuchaza umelaphi wocansi ozinze eSan-Francisco uVanessa Marin. . "Ngingathi mhlawumbe ngamaphesenti angama-90 kuye kwangama-95 abesifazane ababhekene nakho, yingoba banolwazi olunganembile noma abanalo ulwazi, amahloni ocansi, abakaze bazame kangako, noma kukhona ukukhathazeka - kukhulu kakhulu." [Ukuze uthole indaba egcwele, yiya kwaRefinery29!]

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