Hey Girl: Akudingeki Uphile Ngezinhlungu Ezinzima Zesikhathi

Bafundi Abathandekayo,

Nginibhalela ngobuhlungu. Futhi hhayi noma yibuphi ubuhlungu, kepha ubuhlungu abanye abantu abangathi bujwayelekile: ubuhlungu besikhathi.

Ubuhlungu besikhathi obukhulu abuvamile, futhi kwangithatha iminyaka engaphezu kwengu-20 ukukuzwa lokho. Lapho ngineminyaka engama-35 ubudala, ngathola ukuthi ngine-endometriosis, isifo esingatholakali kalula futhi esivame ukuphuthelwa ochwepheshe bezokwelapha.

Phakathi neminyaka yami yobusha, ngangiphathwa amajaqamba kabi esikhathini, kodwa ngatshelwa ngabangani, umndeni, nodokotela ukuthi “kwakuyingxenye yokuba ngowesifazane” kuphela. Ngingaphuthelwa isikole njalo ezinyangeni ezimbalwa noma kufanele ngiye kumhlengikazi ngiyocela ibuprofen. Abangani bebengaphawula ngendlela engibukeka ngiphaphatheka ngayo lapho ngiphindwe kabili ngenxa yobuhlungu, futhi ezinye izingane zazihlebeza futhi zihlekise.

Eminyakeni yami yama-20, ubuhlungu baba buhlungu kakhulu. Angigcinanga nje ngokuba nejaqamba, kepha iqolo kanye nemilenze engezansi kwakubuhlungu. Ngangikhukhumele futhi ngangibukeka sengathi nginezinyanga eziyisithupha ngikhulelwe, futhi ukunyakaza kwamathumbu kwaqala ukuzwa sengathi ingilazi ephukile yayihamba emathunjini ami. Ngaqala ukuphuthelwa umsebenzi omningi njalo ngenyanga. Izikhathi zami zazinzima ngendlela emangalisayo futhi zahlala izinsuku eziyi-7 kuya kwezingu-10. Imithi ye-over-the-counter (OTC) ayizange isize. Odokotela bami bonke bangeluleka ukuthi kujwayelekile; abanye besifazane babe nje kunzima kunabanye.

Impilo ibingahlukile kakhulu eminyakeni yami yokuqala engama-30, ngaphandle kokuthi ubuhlungu bami buqhubeke baba bukhulu. Udokotela wami nodokotela wezifo zabesifazane kwakungabonakali ekhathazekile. Omunye udokotela waze wanginikeza umnyango ojikelezayo wamaphilisi ezinhlungu kadokotela njengoba imithi ye-OTC yayingasebenzi. Umsebenzi wami ubusongele ngokuqondiswa izigwegwe ngoba bengiphuthelwa usuku olulodwa noma ezimbili njalo ngenyanga ngesikhathi sami noma ngisheshe ngiye ekhaya. Ngakhansela izinsuku ngenxa yezimpawu, futhi ngezwa izikhathi ezingaphezu kwesisodwa ukuthi ngangizikhohlisa. Noma okubi kakhulu, abantu bangitshele ukuthi konke bekusekhanda lami, bekungokwengqondo, noma ngiyi-hypochondriac.

Izinga lokuphila kwami ​​izinsuku eziningana inyanga ngayinye lalingekho. Lapho ngineminyaka engu-35, ngaya kohlinzwa ukuze kususwe i-cyst dermoid eyatholakala esibelethweni sami. Bheka bheka, lapho udokotela wami ohlinzayo engivula, wathola izilonda ze-endometriosis nezicubu ezibomvu kuwo wonke umgodi wami wezitho zangasese. Wakususa konke ayengakwenza. Ngizizwe ngishaqekile, ngithukuthele, ngimangele, kodwa okubaluleke kakhulu, ngizwe sengathi ngilwelwe.

Ezinyangeni eziyishumi nesishiyagalombili kamuva, izinhlungu zami zabuya nempindiselo. Ngemuva kwezinyanga eziyisithupha zezifundo zokuthwebula izithombe nokuvakashelwa ngochwepheshe, ngahlinzwa okwesibili. I-endometriosis ibuyile. Udokotela wami ohlinzayo waphinde wakhipha futhi izimpawu zami bezilokhu zilawulwa kakhulu kusukela lapho.

Ngadlula ebuhlungwini beminyaka engama-20, bokuzizwa ngikhishwa inyumbazana, ngibukelwa phansi, futhi ngigcwele ukuzithemba. Sonke lesi sikhathi, i-endometriosis yakhula, yangijabulisa, yangiqinisa futhi yangiphatha kabi. Amashumi amabili iminyaka.

Selokhu ngathola ukuxilongwa, ngikwenze kwaba yisifiso sami nenhloso yami ukusabalalisa ulwazi nge-endometriosis. Abangane bami nomndeni wami bazi kahle ukugula nezimpawu zako, futhi bathumela abangani nabathandekayo kimi ukuba babuze imibuzo. Ngifunde konke engingakwenza ngakho, ngikhulume nodokotela wami wezifo zabesifazane kaningi, ngibhale ngakho kubhulogi lami, futhi ngibambe iqembu lokusekela.

Impilo yami manje isingcono, hhayi nje ngoba ubuhlungu bami bunegama, kepha ngenxa yabantu obulethe empilweni yami. Ngingakwazi ukuxhasa abesifazane abahlupheka ngalobuhlungu, bangekelwa yilabo besifazane lapho ngibudinga, futhi ngifinyelele abangane, umndeni, nabantu engingabazi ukuze ngibazise. Impilo yami icebe ngakho.

Kungani ngikubhalela konke lokhu namuhla? Angifuni omunye wesifazane akhuthazelele iminyaka engama-20 njengoba ngenzile. Owesifazane oyedwa kwabayishumi emhlabeni wonke uphethwe yi-endometriosis, futhi kungathatha iminyaka efika kwengu-10 ukuthi owesifazane athole ukuxilongwa kwakhe. Yinde kakhulu leyo.

Uma wena noma othile omaziyo ebhekana nokufanayo, sicela uqhubeke nokufuna izimpendulo. Gcina umkhondo wezimpawu zakho (yebo, zonke) nezikhathi zakho. Ungavumeli noma ngubani akutshele ukuthi “akunakwenzeka” noma “konke kusekhanda lakho.” Noma, engikuthandayo: "Kujwayelekile!"

Iya kwimibono yesibili noma yesithathu noma yesine. Ucwaningo, ucwaningo, ucwaningo. Gcizelela ukuhlinzwa nodokotela ofanelekayo. I-Endometriosis itholakala kuphela ngokubona ngeso kanye nange-biopsy. Buza imibuzo. Letha amakhophi ezifundo noma izibonelo ekuvakasheni kwakho odokotela. Letha uhlu lwemibuzo bese ubhala phansi izimpendulo. Futhi okubaluleke kakhulu, thola ukwesekwa. Ungu hhayi ngingedwa kulokhu.

Futhi uma kwenzeka udinga umuntu ongakhuluma naye, ngilapha.

Kwangathi ungathola ukulwelwa.

Owakho,

ULisa

ULisa Howard uyintombazane yaseCalifornia enentokozo enenhlanhla engama-30 ehlala nomyeni wayo nekati eSan Diego enhle. Ugijima ngentshiseko i- Iqembu le-Bloomin 'Uterus blog ne-endometriosis support group. Lapho engaziqwashisi nge-endometriosis, usebenza enkampanini yabameli, ugaxa esofeni, ukhempa, ucashe ngemuva kwekhamera yakhe engama-35mm, ulahleke ezindleleni ezingemuva ogwadule, noma abambe umbhoshongo wokubheka umlilo.