Ukudangala Nemindeni Yezempi

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• Izimpawu zokudangala emasosheni nakwabalingani babo
• Izimpawu zokucindezeleka ngokomzwelo ezinganeni zamasosha
• Umthelela wengcindezi emindenini yamasosha
• Izifundo zokucindezeleka nodlame
• Ukuthola usizo
• Iba nesineke.
• Khuluma nothile.
• Gwema ukuzihlukanisa nabantu.
• Gwema izidakamizwa notshwala.
• Yabelana ngokulahlekelwa nabanye.
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Ukuphazamiseka kwemizwelo yiqembu lezifo zengqondo ezibonakala ngokushintsha okukhulu kwemizwa. Ukucindezeleka kungenye yezinkinga ezivame kakhulu zemizwelo ezingathinta noma ngubani nganoma yisiphi isikhathi. Kodwa-ke, amalungu enkonzo yezempi asengozini enkulu kakhulu yokuthuthukisa lezi zimo. Ucwaningo lwamuva lubonisa ukuthi ukucindezeleka kubonakala kaningi emalungwini enkonzo yezempi kunakwizakhamizi.

Kulinganiselwa ukuthi kuze kufike kumaphesenti ayi-14 amalungu ezinsizakalo abhekana nokudangala ngemuva kokuthunyelwa. Kodwa-ke, leli nani lingase liphakame ngisho nangaphezulu ngoba amanye amalungu wesevisi awafuni ukunakekelwa kwesimo sawo. Ngokwengeziwe, cishe amaphesenti ayi-19 wamalungu ezinsizakalo abika ukuthi babhekana nokulimala kwengqondo okulimazayo ngesikhathi sokulwa. Lezi zinhlobo zokulimala zivame ukufaka ukungqubuzana, okungalimaza ubuchopho futhi kubangele nezimpawu zokudangala.

Ukuthunyelwa okuningi nokucindezeleka okuhlobene nokuhlukumezeka akugcini nje ngokwandisa ingozi yokudangala kumalungu enkonzo. Abalingani babo nabo basengozini eyengeziwe, futhi izingane zabo maningi amathuba okuba nezinkinga ezingokomzwelo nezokuziphatha.

Izimpawu zokudangala emasosheni nakwabalingani babo

Amalungu enkonzo yezempi kanye nabalingani bawo banezinga eliphakeme lokudangala kunabantu abaningi. Ukudana komoya yisimo esibi esibonakala ngemizwa ephikelelayo nejulile yokudabuka isikhathi eside. Lokhu kuphazamiseka kwemizwelo kungathinta imizwa nokuziphatha kwakho. Kungaphinde kuthinte imisebenzi ehlukahlukene yomzimba, njengokudla kwakho nokulala. Abantu abanokucindezeleka bavame ukuba nenkinga yokwenza imisebenzi yansuku zonke. Ngezikhathi ezithile, bangase futhi bazizwe sengathi impilo ayikufanele ukuphila.

Izimpawu ezivamile zokucindezeleka zifaka:

• ukucasuka
• ubunzima bokugxila nokwenza izinqumo
• ukukhathala noma ukungabi namandla
• imizwa yokuphelelwa ithemba nokuphelelwa wusizo
• imizwa yokungabi nalutho, yecala, noma yokuzizonda
• ukuzihlukanisa emphakathini
• ukulahlekelwa intshisekelo yemisebenzi nezinto zokuzilibazisa ebezijwayele ukujabulisa
• ukulala kakhulu noma okuncane kakhulu
• izinguquko ezinkulu ekudleni kanye nokuzuza kwesisindo okuhambisanayo noma ukulahleka
• imicabango yokuzibulala noma isimilo

Ezimweni ezinzima kakhulu zokucindezeleka, othile angathola nezimpawu zengqondo, njengokukhohlisa noma ukubona izinto ezingekho. Lesi yisimo esiyingozi kakhulu futhi sidinga ukungenelela ngokushesha nguchwepheshe wezempilo yengqondo.

Izimpawu zokucindezeleka ngokomzwelo ezinganeni zamasosha

Ukushona komzali kuyinto yangempela ezinganeni eziningi emindenini yamasosha. Izingane ezingaphezu kuka-2 200 zalahlekelwa ngumzali e-Iraq noma e-Afghanistan ngesikhathi seMpi Yokwesaba. Ukuzwa ukulahlekelwa okulimazayo kangaka usemncane kukhulisa kakhulu ingozi yokudangala, ukukhathazeka, kanye nezinkinga zokuziphatha ngokuzayo.

Noma umzali ebuya ephephile evela empini, izingane kusadingeka zibhekane nengcindezi yempilo yezempi. Lokhu kuvame ukufaka abazali abangekho emsebenzini, ukuhamba kaningi, nezikole ezintsha. Izingqinamba ezingokomzwelo nezokuziphatha ezinganeni kungenzeka ngenxa yalolu shintsho.

Izimpawu zezinkinga ezingokomzwelo ezinganeni zifaka:

• ukukhathazeka ngokwehlukana
• intukuthelo
• izinguquko emikhubeni yokudla
• izinguquko emikhubeni yokulala
• inkathazo esikoleni
• imood
• intukuthelo
• ulingisa
• ukuzihlukanisa emphakathini

Impilo yengqondo yomzali wasekhaya yinto enkulu ekutheni izingane zibhekana kanjani nokuthunyelwa komzali wazo. Izingane zabazali abadangele zinamathuba amaningi okuba nezinkinga ezingokwengqondo nezokuziphatha kunalezo ezinabazali ababhekene nengcindezi yokuthunyelwa okuhle.

Umthelela wengcindezi emindenini yamasosha

Ngokusho koMnyango Wezilwane wase-United States, amasosha angu-1.7 million ayesebenza e-Iraq nase-Afghanistan ngasekupheleni kuka-2008. Kulawo masosha, cishe uhhafu unezingane. Lezi zingane bekufanele zibhekane nezinselelo eziza nokuba nomzali othunyelwe phesheya kwezilwandle. Futhi bekufanele babhekane nokuhlala nomzali okungenzeka ukuthi ushintshile ngemuva kokuya empini. Ukwenza lezi zinguquko kungaba nomthelela omkhulu enganeni encane noma eshumini nambili.

Ngokwe-2010, izingane ezinomzali othunyelwe zithinteka ikakhulu ezinkingeni zokuziphatha, ukuphazamiseka kwengcindezi, kanye nokuphazamiseka kwemizwelo. Kungenzeka futhi ukuthi babhekane nobunzima esikoleni. Lokhu ikakhulukazi kungenxa yengcindezi izingane eziba nayo ngesikhathi sokuthunyelwa kwabazali bazo nangemva kokufika ekhaya.

Umzali ohlala ngemuva ngesikhathi sokuthunyelwa naye angahlangabezana nezinkinga ezifanayo. Bavame ukwesaba ukuphepha komlingani wabo futhi bazizwe bekhungathekile yimithwalo eyengeziwe ekhaya. Ngenxa yalokho, bangaqala ukukhathazeka, ukudabuka noma ukuba nesizungu lapho abalingani babo bengekho. Yonke le mizwa ekugcineni ingaholela ekucindezelekeni nakwezinye izifo zengqondo.

Izifundo zokucindezeleka nodlame

Ucwaningo lwama-veterans enkathi yaseVietnam lukhombisa umthelela omubi wokudangala emindenini. Omakadebona baleyo mpi babenamazinga aphezulu edivosi nezinkinga zomshado, udlame lwasekhaya, kanye nosizi lwabalingani kunabanye. Imvamisa, amasosha abuya empini azosuka empilweni yansuku zonke ngenxa yezinkinga ezingokomzwelo. Lokhu kwenza kube nzima ukuthi bakhulise ubudlelwano nabalingani babo nezingane.

Ucwaningo lwakamuva lwama-veteran ase-Afghanistan nase-Iraq luhlolisise ukusebenza komndeni esikhathini esiseduze ngemuva kokuthunyelwa. Bathola ukuthi izindlela zokuziphatha ezihlukanisayo, izinkinga zocansi, nezinkinga zokulala zinomthelela omkhulu ebudlelwaneni bomndeni.

Ngokuya kokunye ukuhlolwa kwezempilo yengqondo, amaphesenti angama-75 omakadebona nabalingani abike okungenani "inkinga yokulungiswa komndeni" eyodwa lapho ebuyela ekhaya. Ngokwengeziwe, cishe amaphesenti angama-54 omakadebona babika ukuthi badudule noma bamemeza umlingani wabo ezinyangeni ngemuva kokubuya emsebenzini. Izimpawu zokudangala, ikakhulukazi, zazingahle zidale udlame lwasekhaya. Amalungu enkonzo anengcindezi nawo maningi amathuba okuthi abike ukuthi izingane zawo ziyazesaba noma azinayo imfudumalo kuzo.

Ukuthola usizo

Umeluleki angakusiza wena namalungu omndeni wakho ukubhekana nanoma yiziphi izinkinga. Lokhu kungafaka izinkinga zobudlelwano, ubunzima bezezimali, nezinkinga ezingokomzwelo. Izinhlelo eziningi zokuxhasa ezempi zinikeza ukwelulekwa okuyimfihlo kumalungu ezinsizakalo kanye nemindeni yabo. Umeluleki futhi angakufundisa ukuthi ungabhekana kanjani nengcindezi nosizi. I-Military OneSource, i-Tricare, ne-Real Warriors ingaba yimithombo ewusizo yokuqalisa.

Okwamanje, ungazama amasu ahlukahlukene okubhekana nesimo uma usanda kubuya ekuthunyelweni futhi unenkinga yokulungisa kabusha impilo yomphakathi:

Iba nesineke.

Kungathatha isikhathi ukuxhuma kabusha nomndeni ngemuva kokubuya empini. Lokhu kujwayelekile ekuqaleni, kepha ungakwazi ukubuyisela ukuxhumana ngokuhamba kwesikhathi.

Khuluma nothile.

Noma ungazizwa uwedwa okwamanje, abantu bangakusekela. Noma kungumngani oseduze noma ilunga lomndeni, khuluma nomuntu omethembayo ngezinselelo zakho. Lo kufanele kube ngumuntu ozoba khona ngawe futhi akulalele ngozwela nokwamukela.

Gwema ukuzihlukanisa nabantu.

Kubalulekile ukuchitha isikhathi nabangane nomndeni, ikakhulukazi umlingani wakho nezingane. Ukusebenzela ukuvuselela ukuxhumana kwakho nabathandekayo kunganciphisa ukucindezeleka futhi kukhulise imizwa yakho.

Gwema izidakamizwa notshwala.

Kungaba yisilingo ukuphendukela kulezi zinto ngezikhathi ezinzima. Kodwa-ke, ukwenza kanjalo kungakwenza uzizwe ubi kakhulu futhi kungaholela ekuthembekeni.

Yabelana ngokulahlekelwa nabanye.

Ungahle ube madolonzima ukukhuluma ngokulahlekelwa elinye isosha empini. Kodwa-ke, ukufaka imizwa yakho emabhodleleni kungalimaza, ngakho-ke kuyasiza ukukhuluma ngokuhlangenwe nakho kwakho ngandlela thile. Zama ukujoyina iqembu lezempi uma unqena ukukhuluma ngakho nomuntu omazi mathupha. Lolu hlobo lweqembu losekelo lungasiza kakhulu ngoba uzozungezwa abanye abangakwazi ukuqondana nokuhlangabezana nakho.

Lezi zindlela zingasiza kakhulu njengoba uzivumelanisa nempilo ngemuva kokulwa. Kodwa-ke, uzodinga ukwelashwa kwezobuchwepheshe uma uhlangabezana nokucindezeleka okukhulu noma ukudabuka.

Kubalulekile ukuhlela i-aphoyintimenti nodokotela wakho noma uchwepheshe wezempilo yengqondo ngokushesha nje lapho unezimpawu zokucindezeleka noma esinye isifo sengqondo. Ukuthola ukwelashwa ngokushesha kungavimbela izimpawu ukuthi zande futhi kusheshise isikhathi sokululama.

Q:

Yini okufanele ngiyenze uma ngicabanga ukuthi umlingani wami wezempi noma ingane inokudangala?

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Uma oshade naye noma ingane yakho ikhombisa ukudabuka okuhlobene nokuthunyelwa kwakho, kuyaqondakala impela. Sekuyisikhathi sokubakhuthaza ukuthi bathole usizo kudokotela wabo uma ubona ukuthi ukudabuka kwabo kuya ngokuya kuba nzima noma kuthinta amandla abo okwenza izinto okudingeka bazenze usuku lonke, njengokusebenza kwabo endlini, emsebenzini, noma esikoleni .