Ungabhekana Kanjani Nokutubeka Kwamama - Ngoba Ufanele Ngokuqinisekile Ukwehla

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• Yabelana Ngenhloso Yokuthenda
• Cindezela ama-To-Dos akho
• Dala Isikhala Sengqondo Esingaphezulu
• Buyekeza kwe-

Kule nkathi yamanje yokutubeka, kuphephile ukusho ukuthi abantu abaningi bazizwa becindezelekile kuze kufike ku-24/7 — futhi omama abahlukile. Ngokwesilinganiso, omama bathatha ukunakekelwa kwengane ngamaphesenti angama-65 emibhangqwaneni engabesilisa nabesifazane bobabili abahola imali, kusho isazi sokusebenza kwengqondo emitholampilo uDarcy Lockman, Ph.D., umbhali we Yonke intukuthelo: Omama, Obaba, kanye ne-Myth of Equal Partnership (Buy It, $27, bookshop.org).

Lokho ngokwengxenye kubangelwe amaphethini egxilile esikhathini sempilo yonke. “Amantombazane anconywa ngokucabanga ngabanye nokusiza - noma ukuhlanganyela emphakathini. Abafana bavuzwa ngokucabanga ngezinhloso zabo kanye nezinto eziza kuqala - ngokuba ‘yi-ejenti,’ ”kusho uLockman. Ukuphokophela phambili ekubeni nezingane zabo, futhi "umama ubhekene necala lokuthwala umthwalo wengqondo," uyanezela.

Ngakho-ke akumangalisi ukuthi ungaba nesidingo esikhulu sokuphefumula. Uma kunjalo, zama lezi zindlela ezintathu zokubhekana nanoma yikuphi ukutubeka komama ongahle uzizwe. (Okuhlobene: Izindlela ezi-6 Engizifunda Ukulawula Ukucindezeleka Njengomama Omusha)

Yabelana Ngenhloso Yokuthenda

Omama banikezwe umsebenzi oweqile “wokukhumbula okuzokwenzeka” - okungukuthi, ukukhumbula ukukhumbula, kusho u-Elizabeth Haines, Ph.D., isazi sokusebenza kwengqondo kwezenhlalo kanye noprofesa eWilliam Paterson University eNew Jersey. "Futhi siyazi ukuthi uma abantu bekhokhiswa intela ngokukhumbula imigomo, kuvala ukusebenza kwengqondo - leyo yiphedi lakho lokucabanga."

Uma ubhekene nokutubeka komama, u-Haines uphakamisa ukusebenzisa amakhalenda edijithali okwabelwana ngawo namasu okukhuthaza ukuze unike izingane nozakwethu amandla ukuze bafeze izinhloso zabo. Ngaleyo ndlela, uphinda uthole i-mindshare futhi "bazuza amakhono abalulekile ekusebenzeni kahle kanye nemizwa yekhono - wonke umuntu uyawina," kusho uHaines.

Cindezela ama-To-Dos akho

“Ungalifaki usuku lwakho ngohlu lwezinto ozenzela umndeni,” kusho Umumo Ilungu leBrain Trust uChristine Carter, Ph.D., umbhali we Intsha Entsha (Ithenge, $ 16, bookshop.org). Esikhundleni salokho, vimba isikhathi esinqunyelwe usuku olulodwa ngesonto salokho uCarter akubiza ngokuthi "umphathi womndeni." Dala ifolda ku-imeyili yakho ukuze ufake izaziso ezingenayo ezivela ezikoleni nokunye okunjalo, futhi ube nebhokisi lokungenayo eliphathekayo lezikweletu ozobhekana nalo phakathi nehora lakho lamandla elimisiwe. Ukwenza kanjalo kuzokhombisa ingqondo yakho ukuthi izolile okwamanje futhi kusize ukuvimbela ukutubeka komama. “Isikhathi esiningi sihlushwa yimicabango engathi shu, ngidinga ukukhumbula ukwenza lokho nalokhuya nalokhuya,” usho kanje. “Kodwa kunomshini omncane wobuchopho osikhulula kule micabango ekhathazayo ngokuthatha isinqumo nje nini uzowuqedela umsebenzi." (Ukusebenzisa lawa macebiso ukuze uyeke ukuhlehlisa kuzosiza futhi.)

Dala Isikhala Sengqondo Esingaphezulu

Lapho uhlu lwengqondo luzizwa lukhungathekisa futhi lukhulisa kakhulu ukutubeka komama wakho, zama ukuqala kabusha. “Ukuvivinya umzimba nge-aerobic kungenye yezindlela ezingcono kakhulu zokwakha isikhala esithe xaxa futhi ku-scratchpad sakho sengqondo,” kusho uHaines. “Uma uzivocavoca umzimba ngokweqile, wehlisa ingcindezi futhi uphefumula wonke amaseli asohlelweni lwakho. Ingadala ukusetha kabusha kubhayoloji futhi iguqule amaphethini akho okucabanga abe ngcono. "

I-Shape Magazine, ukukhishwa kuka-Okthoba 2020

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