Ngayeka Ukuncelisa Ukuncelisa Ukubuyela Emithini Yengqondo Yengqondo

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• Kwakungekho ukulungiswa okulula
• Kwakungaphezu nje kokuncelisa ibele

Izingane zami zifanelwe umama othembisene nomzimba nomqondo ophilile. Futhi ngifanele ukushiya ihlazo ebengilizwile.

Indodana yami yeza kulo mhlaba imemeza ngoFebhuwari 15, 2019. Amaphaphu ayo ayenenhliziyo enhle, umzimba wayo wawumncane futhi unamandla, futhi yize yayisemavikini ama-2 ngaphambi kwesikhathi yayinosayizi "onempilo" nesisindo.

Sabopha ngokushesha.

Unamathisele ngaphandle kwenkinga. Ubesesifubeni sami ngaphambi kokuthi imithungo yami ivalwe.

Ngicabanga ukuthi lokhu bekuyisibonakaliso esihle. Nganginenkinga nendodakazi yami. Bengingazi ukuthi ngimbekephi noma ngimbambe kanjani, futhi ukungaqiniseki kungenze ngakhathazeka. Ukukhala kwakhe kunqamule njengemimese eyisigidi, futhi ngazizwa ngisehlulekile - "umama omubi."

Kepha amahora engiwachitha esibhedlela nginendodana yami (angisho ngesibindi ngithi) amnandi. Ngazizwa ngizolile futhi ngazola. Izinto zazingezinhle nje, zazizinhle.

Besizolunga, Bengicabanga. Bengizolunga.

Kodwa-ke, njengoba amasonto aqhubeka - nokuncishwa ubuthongo kwaqala - izinto zashintsha. Isimo sami semizwa sashintsha. Futhi ngaphambi kokuba ngikwazi, ngakhubazeka ngenxa yokuthukuthela, ukudabuka nokwesaba. Bengikhuluma nodokotela wami wezifo zengqondo ngokukhuphula izindondo zami.

Kwakungekho ukulungiswa okulula

Izindaba ezimnandi kwakuwukuthi imishanguzo yami yokucindezela ingashintshwa. Babhekwa "njengokufanelekile" ukuncelisa ibele. Kodwa-ke, imishanguzo yami yokukhathazeka ibingasasebenzi njengama-mood stabilizers ami, okuxwayiswe ngudokotela wami - kungaba yinkinga ngoba ukuthatha imishanguzo yokucindezela yodwa kungadala i-mania, i-psychosis, nezinye izinkinga kubantu abane-bipolar disorder. Kepha ngemuva kokukala izinzuzo nezingozi, nginqume ukuthi eminye imishanguzo ibingcono kunaleyo engekho.

Izinto zazilungile isikhashana. Isimo sami sathuthuka, futhi ngosizo lwengqondo yami, ngangisungula uhlelo oluqinile lokuzinakekela. Futhi ngangisenga ezimithiyo, engangikuthatha njengokuwina kwangempela.

Kepha ngaqala ukwehluleka ukulawula ngemuva nje kokuthi indodana yami ishaye izinyanga eziyisithupha. Ngangiphuza kakhulu futhi ngingalali kancane. Ama-run ami asuka kumamayela ama-3 kuye kwayi-6 ubusuku bonke, ngaphandle kokuzijwayeza, ukuzilungiselela, noma ukuziqeqesha.

Ngangichitha ngokuxhamazela nangokubonga. Esikhathini esingamasonto amabili, ngithenge izingubo eziningi namabhokisi, amakesi neziqukathi ezingenangqondo ukuze "ngihlelele" indlu yami - ukuzama ukulawula indawo yami nempilo yami.

Ngathenga umshini wokuwasha nokuwasha. Sifake ama-shades amasha nezimpumputhe. Ngithole amathikithi amabili ohlelo lweBroadway. Ngibhukhe iholide lomndeni elifushane.

Ngangithatha nomsebenzi omningi kakhulu kunamandla ami. Ngingumbhali ozimele, futhi ngasuka ekufayeleni izindaba ezi-4 noma ezi-5 ngeviki ngaya ngaphezu kwezi-10. Kepha ngoba imicabango yami ibigijima futhi ingahambi kahle, ukuhlela obekudingeka kakhulu.

Benginamapulani nemibono kepha ngalwa nokulandela.

Ngangazi ukuthi kufanele ngifonele udokotela wami. Ngangazi ukuthi leli banga elixakile lalingangikwazi ukuligcina, nokuthi ekugcineni ngangizoshayeka. Amandla ami akhulayo, ukuzethemba, kanye nomoya wokuzizwa ngami kwakuzogwinywa ukudana, ubumnyama, nokuzisola kwangemva kokuxineka, kodwa nganginovalo ngoba ngangazi nokuthi lolu kholi luzosho ukuthini: kuzofanele ngiyeke ukuncelisa.

Kwakungaphezu nje kokuncelisa ibele

Indodana yami enezinyanga eziyi-7 izodinga ukukhishwa ubisi ngokushesha, ilahlekelwe umsoco nenduduzo eyitholile kimi. Umama wakhe.

Kepha iqiniso ukuthi ubengilahlekisela ekuguleni kwami ​​kwengqondo. Ingqondo yami ibiphazamisekile futhi ishiye amakhaya kangangokuthi yena (nendodakazi yami) bebengatholi umama oqaphelayo noma olungile. Babengatholi umzali omfanele.

Futhi, ngondliwe ifomula. Umyeni wami, umfowethu, nomama baphakelwa ifomula, futhi sonke sahamba kahle. Ifomula linikeza abantwana izakhamzimba abazidingayo ukuze bakhule futhi bachume.

Ingabe lokho kwenze isinqumo sami saba lula? Cha.

Ngisazizwa nginecala elikhulu futhi nginamahloni ngoba "isifuba sihamba phambili," akunjalo? Ngisho, yilokho engangikutshelwa. Yilokho engangiholelwa kukholelwa. Kepha izinzuzo zokondla ubisi lwebele azikhathazi kangako uma umama engaphilile. Uma ngingenampilo.

Udokotela wami uyaqhubeka nokungikhumbuza ukuthi ngidinga ukubeka imaski yami ye-oxygen kuqala. Futhi lesi sifaniso sinesifanele, futhi abacwaningi abaqala ukusiqonda.

Ukuphawula kwakamuva ephephabhukwini i-Nursing for Women’s Health kukhuthaza ukuba kwenziwe ucwaningo olwengeziwe mayelana nengcindezi yomama, ehlobene hhayi nje nokuncelisa ibele kuphela kodwa nengcindezi enkulu efakwa komama ukuze bancelise izingane zabo.

“Sidinga ucwaningo olwengeziwe ukuthi kwenzekani kumuntu ofuna ukuncelisa futhi ongakwazi. Bazizwa kanjani? Ingabe lokhu kuyingozi ekucindezelekeni kwangemva kokubeletha? ” kubuza u-Ana Diez-Sampedro, umbhali wale ndatshana kanye noprofesa osebenzisana naye emtholampilo eFlorida International University Nicole Wertheim College of Nursing & Health Sciences.

"Sicabanga ukuthi komama, ukuncelisa ibele kuyindlela engcono kakhulu," kuqhubeka uDiez-Sampedro. "Kodwa akunjalo kwabanye omama." Kwakungenjalo kimi.

Ngakho-ke, ngenxa yami nezingane zami, ngincelisa umntanami. Ngithenga amabhodlela, izimpushana esezixutshiwe, namafomula alungele ukuphuzwa. Ngibuyela emithini yami yempilo yengqondo ngoba kufanele ngiphephe, ngizinze futhi ngibe nempilo. Izingane zami zifanelwe ngumama othembisene nomzimba ophilile nengqondo, futhi ukuze ngibe yilowo muntu, ngidinga usizo.

Ngidinga imithi yami.

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