Abazali: Isikhathi Sokuzinakekela, Izikrini, Nokusika Okuncane

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• Izinto sezishintshile
• Ukuba ngumzali kudinga ukushintsha, futhi

Sibhekene nobhadane kumodi yokusinda, ngakho-ke KULUNGILE ukwehlisa izindinganiso zakho futhi uvumele okulindelekile kushelele. Uyemukelwa kuMama Wami Ongaphelele.

Impilo ayiphelele ngokuphelele, ngisho nangezinsuku ezinhle kakhulu. Ngikusho kakhulu lokho. Eqinisweni, ngibhala ngakho ngaso sonke isikhathi kukholamu yami yamahlaya ehlanganisiwe nasezincwadini zami zobuzali. Futhi ngikhumbuza amadodakazi ami amabili ngakho cishe nsuku zonke, ngoba kuyiqiniso.

Akunandaba ukuthi sizama kanzima kangakanani ukuqinisekisa ukuthi impilo ihamba kahle, ikakhulukazi njengabazali, indawo yonke ihlala ikhona ukusithinta endlebeni ukusikhumbuza ukuthi ezinye izinto zingaphezu kwamandla ethu futhi kwesinye isikhathi sidinga ukwenza lokho okuzwa kulungile futhi kuyaduduza nokugxila.

Kinda njengamanje. Ngoba uma ukuphila ngento efana ne-f'd up ne-epic njengobhadane nezingane zethu akuyona inkinga yezindlebe enkulu kunazo zonke, angazi ukuthi yini.

Ngakho-ke, zisike kancane.

Ngosuku olulodwa nje, sonke sayeka ukuba ngabazali abajwayelekile, abathumela izingane zethu esikoleni noma ezinkulisa noma bazihambela epaki, balandela uku-oda komhlaba wonke ekhaya isikhathi esivulekile , siqhelelene ngokwenhlalo nomndeni nabangane, ukulinganiswa kwamaphepha ethoyilethi, nokwamukela iTikTok njengomngane wethu omusha omkhulu.

Manje izingane zethu zisekhaya, sisekhaya, okuningi kwalokho ebesikushiya endlini kwenzelwa ekhaya, futhi ngamunye wethu uthathe indima yokuba ngumzali, uthisha, odlala naye, umfundisi, umqeqeshi, owelapha, kanye nohambo lokuvakasha director konke kusongwe kumuntu oyedwa. Futhi lokho kuyingcindezi enkulu. O yebo, futhi ukucacisa nje, akekho kithi onecebo lalokho.

Ngakho-ke sika wonke umuntu kancane.

Izinto sezishintshile

Kulezi zinsuku, siphila phakathi kweThe New Normal, ngokuvalelwa ngabodwa nemindeni yethu futhi sizama ukuzulazula ezweni elingavaliwe, singenawo amakhefu, futhi singenakho ukufinyelela kubantu nezinto nezinto ezijwayelekile uyakwazi ukuthembela.

Ngobusuku bonke, onke amashejuli wethu wansuku zonke aboshelwe ngokuqinile nemisebenzi kanye nohlu lwezinto okufanele zenziwe sekufakiwe. Izinto ezifana nesikole nomsebenzi nempilo ejwayelekile yansuku zonke zihlelwe kabusha, futhi simane nje sithola izindlela zokulawula ukucindezeleka kwethu futhi sidabukise zonke izinto esilahlekile. Futhi sikwenza lokho ngenkathi ngasikhathi sinye sisiza izingane zethu ukuba zenze okufanayo.

Ukungasho ukuthi abazali kuyo yonke indawo bazizwa benecala elikhulukazi nengcindezi yokugcina izingane zethu zimatasa futhi zifunda futhi zihamba futhi zikhula futhi zijabulisa njalo ngomzuzu owodwa wosuku.

Futhi, labo bethu abasebenza ekhaya banezendlalelo ezingeziwe zokulinganisa konke lokho ngomsebenzi nezingcingo ze-Zoom ne-FaceTime nemihlangano ebonakalayo. Ukungasho nje ukuthi labo abashiya indlu beya emsebenzini ngokungangabazeki bezwa ingcindezi yokugcina wonke umuntu ephephile ngenkathi enakekela imindeni yabo futhi enza imisebenzi yabo. Futhi kuningi.

Ngakho-ke hlukanani kancane.

Ukuba ngumzali kudinga ukushintsha, futhi

Nansi into, noma kunjalo - futhi lokhu kuyisihluthulelo - ngenkathi ngazi ukuthi isifiso asinakuphikiswa kumzali ngendlela esihlala sinayo - ngesakhiwo nangendlela ejwayelekile namathani wemisebenzi yokugcina izingane zethu zisebenza futhi zivuselelekile, njengamanje, kudingeka simane siyeke. Vele. Ima. Futhi phefumula. Ngemuva kwalokho sidinga ukugona izingane zethu, sizikhiphe, futhi sizidedele.

Manje akusona isikhathi sokuba ngumama we-helicopter noma ubaba we-lawnmower, ukulawula njalo ngomzuzwana wosuku lwezingane zethu. Manje yisikhathi sokuvumela izingane zethu zibe izingane.

Ngakho-ke mabenze izinqaba badlale imidlalo futhi babhake amakhukhi bese benza ukungcola basebenzise amadivayisi. Ngoba iqiniso elilula ukuthi, sonke sikwimodi yokusinda, futhi imithetho ejwayelekile yokuphila impilo nje ayikho njengamanje. Abakwazi.

Lokho kusho ukuthi, ukuphela kwento esele ukuyenza kulokho okuzwakala kulungile, futhi lokho kuzobukeka kwehluke kithina sonke.

Kithina bazali, kungasho ukuskrola kokuphakelayo kwethu kwe-Insta kaningi ukuze sizwe sithintana nezwe. Ezinganeni zethu ezindala, kungabonakala njengesikhathi esingeziwe i-FaceTiming abangani bazo ukuthi bazizwe bengahlukanisiwe futhi bexhumeke kakhulu. Futhi kwabancane bethu, kungaba amahora amaningi phambi kwamavidiyo wabo abawathandayo njengendlela yokuthambisa imiphefumulo yabo emincane. Ngoba umhlaba wawo wonke umuntu ushintshile futhi isigqi sawo wonke umuntu sicishiwe.

Ngakho-ke, uma kwake kwaba nesikhathi sokuzinakekela, manje. Yilezo zinto esidinga ukuncika kuzo kuze kuphele lokhu. Izinto ezigcwalisa izinhliziyo nezingqondo zethu ngokubuyisa noma ukuhleka noma ngesibhamu sokuzola okuzosisekela.

Sidinga ukunika izingane zethu umkhawulokudonsa owengeziwe wokuzulazula ekuphambukeni komphakathi usebenzisa ubuchwepheshe abanabo ezandleni zabo, ngoba sinenhlanhla ukuthi banabo.

Manje sekuvunyelwe, angikusikiseli ukuthi sibayekise i-FaceTime futhi babuke amahora we-Netflix ayi-19 ngosuku, kepha sidinga ukubanika umgwaqo omude ukuze basebenzise lezo zindlela zokuxhuma ukusiza ukulinganisa izikali zokuzihlukanisa kancane.

Ngakho sika izingane zakho kancane.

Njengoba ochwepheshe bethi, siphila ngomlando. Ngakho-ke kudingeka sivume ukuthi lokhu kunzima. Kunzima kakhulu. Futhi njengamanje, okubaluleke kakhulu ukulondeka kwenhlalakahle yomuntu wonke ngokomzwelo, ngokwengqondo, nangokomzimba, okuyinselelo enkulu impela uma kubhekwa abalingani nabalingani babo bechitha isikhathi esiningi ndawonye kunakuqala. Ngaphandle kwesikhashana. Futhi ngenxa yalokho, ukungezwani kusebenza kakhulu ngaso sonke isikhathi.

Ngakho nciphisa oshade naye noma umlingani wakho kancane.

Iqiniso ukuthi, wonke umuntu udinga imvume yokuthi angabi nanjongo njengamanje. Sonke sidinga ukukwazi ukubalekela ukufana kwansuku zonke nganoma iyiphi indlela enengqondo kithi. Futhi uma lokho kusho ukuthi izingane zethu zisebenzisa inqwaba yesikhathi esiningi ngaphakathi kwencwadi noma phambi kwesikrini njengamanje, makube njalo. Ngoba lelo uhlelo lwethu lokusinda.

Ngakho nciphisa umndeni wakho kancane.

Njengoba ngishilo, lezi izikhathi ezixakile, eziyinqaba, ngakho-ke zinike imvume yokubeka phambili izinto ezibangela injabulo kuwe nasemndenini wakho njengamanje, bese udedela konke okunye. Vele uyeke. Ngoba lapho sibeka ithoni, izingane zethu zizolandela.

Sikutholile lokhu, bangani. Phambili.

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