I-narcissism: kuyini, izici nokuthi ungahlala kanjani ndawonye

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• Izici zomuntu we-narcissistic
• Ungaphila kanjani nge-narcissism

I-Narcissism yisimo esingokwengqondo esibonakala ngokuzithanda ngokweqile wena noma isithombe sakho, isidingo sokunakwa kanye nesifiso sokulawula abanye. Lesi simo singajwayelekile ezinganeni kuze kufike eminyakeni emibili ngokwesibonelo, kepha-ke siqala ukukhathazeka lapho abantu asebekhulile benalezi zici, okubizwa ngokuthi yi-narcissistic personality disorder.

Umuntu othanda ukucasula uvame ukwehlisa omunye umuntu isithunzi ukuze abenze bazizwe kahle, okwenza ubudlelwano obujwayelekile bosuku nosuku bube nzima. Ngaphandle kwalokhu, ukuzethemba kwama-narcissists nokuzethemba, lapho kungadluli ngokweqile, kungasebenza njengesikhuthazo kwabanye abantu futhi kukhuthaze ukuzethemba.

Ngokusho kukaFreud, i-narcissism inezigaba ezimbili:

• Isigaba sokuqala, ebonakala ngokuzithanda ngokweqile nokuzibheka ngokweqile kwakho;
• Isigaba sesibili, lapho kunentuthuko yobuntu nezimpawu zomuntu akholelwa ukuthi zimhlukanisa nabanye abantu.

Izici zomuntu we-narcissistic

Umuntu othanda ukucasula ngokuvamile unezici ezilandelayo:

• Isidingo sokunakwa nokubabaza;
• Isidingo sokuvunywa;
• Ukuzwa ukuthi umhlaba uzungeza wena;
• Bakholelwa ukuthi abanakho ukukhubazeka, abahluleki futhi abenzi amaphutha;
• Ukungabekezelelani kokugxekwa;
• Ukuzizwa njengabanikazi beqiniso;
• Bakholelwa ukuthi akekho noyedwa ongafana nabo;
• Bazizwa bephakeme;
• Ukukhathazeka ngokweqile ngezinto ezibonakalayo;
• Ukwehliswa kwamandla komunye;
• Ukuntuleka kokuqonda imizwa yomunye;
• Abalaleli abanye;
• Isidingo kanye nokulinganiswa ngokweqile kwesimo;
• Ukukhathazeka njalo ngobuhle, amandla nempumelelo;
• Ukuvelela ngokweqile;
• Bakholelwa ukuthi banomona;
• Ukungabi nozwela;
• Ukungabi nokuzithoba;
• Ukwedelela abanye;
• Ukuthambekela kokuzikhukhumeza.

Imvamisa lezi zici zidunyiswa ngisho nangamalungu omndeni noma abantu abasondelene ne-narcissist, egcina ivuse le nkinga yobuntu.

AmaNarcissist imvamisa akubona abantu abangcono kakhulu ongaba nabo, ngoba bazizwa kamnandi ngokubona omunye umuntu ehliswe isithunzi. Kodwa-ke, lapho lezi zici zingakhuphuki kangako, kungenzeka ukuthi uphile kahle futhi ufunde ezinye izindinganiso ezinjengokuzethemba, ukuzethemba nokuzethemba.

Ungaphila kanjani nge-narcissism

Imvamisa abantu abahlushwa ukuphazamiseka kobuntu be-narcissistic abazi ngempela ukuthi kwenzekani, babheka sonke isimo njengesijwayelekile. Kodwa-ke, uma abangani nomndeni bebona ukwenzeka kwezimpawu ezijwayelekile zomuntu othanda ukucasula, kubalulekile ukuthi kube nokuqapha kwengqondo noma kwengqondo, ngokuya ngezimpawu eziveziwe.

Abantu abahlala nama-narcissist nsukuzonke kufanele futhi bathole ukwelulekwa ngokwengqondo, ngoba ubuntu babo bungase bongelwe phansi kakhulu okungadala ukucindezeleka. Yazi ukuthi yini engabangela ukucindezeleka.