Iyini i-Narcissistic Rage, futhi iyiphi indlela engcono kakhulu yokubhekana nayo?

-Delile

• Kubukeka kanjani?
• Yini engaholela eziqeshini zolaka lwe-narcissistic?
• Ukulimala kokuzethemba noma ukuzihlonipha
• Inselelo yokuzethemba kwabo
• Ukuzizwa komuntu kuyabuzwa
• Itholakala kanjani i-NPD
• Ungabhekana kanjani nentukuthelo evela komunye umuntu
• Emsebenzini
• Kubudlelwano babalingani
• Kubangani
• Kusuka kumuntu ongamazi
• Ngabe ziphathwa kanjani iziyaluyalu?
• Ukuthatha

Intukuthelo ye-narcissistic ukuqhuma kwentukuthelo enkulu noma ukuthula okungenzeka kumuntu onenkinga yobuntu be-narcissistic.

Inkinga yobuntu yeNarcissistic (NPD) yenzeka lapho othile enombono wehaba noma ogcwele ngokweqile wokubaluleka kwakhe. Ihlukile kwi-narcissism ngoba i-NPD ixhunyaniswe nezakhi zofuzo nemvelo yakho.

Umuntu obhekene nentukuthelo ye-narcissistic angaba nomuzwa wokuthi omunye umuntu noma umcimbi empilweni yakhe uyasongela noma angalimaza ukuzethemba kwabo noma ukuzihlonipha kwabo.

Bangase benze futhi bazizwe bekhulu futhi bephakeme kunabanye. Isibonelo, bangafuna ukwelashwa okukhethekile nodumo noma ngabe kubonakala sengathi akukho abakwenzile ukukuthola.

Abantu abane-NPD bangaba nomuzwa wokungazethembi futhi bazizwe bengakwazi ukuphatha noma yini abayibona njengokugxeka.

Lapho kuvezwa "uqobo" lwabo, umuntu one-NPD naye angazizwa esongelwa, futhi ukuzethemba kwabo kuyaqedwa.

Ngenxa yalokhu, bangasabela ngezinhlobonhlobo zemizwelo nezenzo. URage ungomunye wabo kuphela, kepha imvamisa kungenye yezinto ezibonakala kakhulu.

Ukusabela okungenangqondo okuphindaphindiwe kwenzeka kubantu abanezinye izimo, futhi. Uma wena noma othandekayo uvame ukuba nalezi ziqephu zokufutheka, kubalulekile ukuthola ukuxilongwa okufanele futhi uthole ukwelashwa okuhle kakhulu.

Kubukeka kanjani?

Sonke sifisa ukunakwa nokunconywa ngabantu abasizungezile.

Kepha abantu abane-NPD bangasabela ngentukuthelo ye-narcissistic lapho benganikezwa ukunakwa abazizwa bekufanele.

Le ntukuthelo ingaba yindlela yokumemeza nokumemeza. Ukuthula okukhethiwe kanye nokugwema ukwedlula-ngolaka nakho kungenzeka ngentukuthelo ye-narcissistic.

Iziqephu eziningi zolaka lwe-narcissistic zikhona ekuqhubekeni kokuziphatha. Ngakolunye uhlangothi, umuntu angazihlukanisa futhi ahoxe. Inhloso yabo kungaba ukulimaza omunye umuntu ngokungabikho.

Ngakolunye uhlangothi ukuqhuma nezenzo zokuqhuma. Lapha futhi, inhloso kungaba ukuguqula "ukulimala" abazizwa ngakho kube ukuhlasela komunye umuntu njengendlela yokuzivikela.

Kubalulekile ukukhumbula ukuthi akusikho konke ukuqhuma kwentukuthelo okuyiziqephu zentukuthelo ye-narcissistic. Noma ngubani uyakwazi ukukhipha intukuthelo, ngisho noma engenakho ukuphazamiseka kobuntu.

Ukufutheka kwe-narcissistic kumane nje kuyingxenye eyodwa ye-NPD. Ezinye izimo zingadala iziqephu ezifana nolaka lwe-narcissistic, kufaka phakathi:

• inkohliso paranoid
• ukuphazamiseka kwengqondo okuguquguqukayo
• iziqephu ezicindezelayo

Yini engaholela eziqeshini zolaka lwe-narcissistic?

Kunezizathu ezintathu eziyinhloko zokuthi ulaka lwe-narcissistic lwenzeka.

Ukulimala kokuzethemba noma ukuzihlonipha

Yize kunombono omkhulu ngokwabo, abantu abane-NPD bavame ukufihla ukuzethemba okulimala kalula.

Lapho "belimele," ama-narcissists athambekele ekugqashuleni njengomugqa wabo wokuqala wokuzivikela. Bangase babe nomuzwa wokuthi ukusika umuntu ngaphandle noma ukubalimaza ngamabomu ngamazwi noma ngodlame kungabasiza ukuthi bavikele ubuntu babo.

Inselelo yokuzethemba kwabo

Abantu abane-NPD bavame ukuzama ukwakha ukuzethemba ngokwabo ngokuqhubeka nokubalekela amanga noma abantu bamanga.

Lapho othile ebaphusha futhi eveza ubuthakathaka, abantu abane-NPD bangazizwa benganele. Lowo muzwa ongamukeleki ungawenza aqhume njengesivikelo.

Ukuzizwa komuntu kuyabuzwa

Uma abantu beveza ukuthi umuntu one-NPD akakwazi ukwenza noma unethalente njengoba bezenza, le nselelo ekuzizweleni kwabo kungaholela ekuqhumeni okusikayo futhi okunolaka.

Itholakala kanjani i-NPD

I-NPD ingadala izingqinamba empilweni yomuntu, ebudlelwaneni, emsebenzini, nasesimweni sezezimali.

Abantu abane-NPD bavame ukuhlala nemibono yokuziphakamisa, ubukhulu namandla. Bangase babhekane nezinkinga ezingeziwe njengokuziphatha komlutha nentukuthelo ye-narcissistic.

Kodwa ukufutheka kwe-narcissistic nezinye izindaba ezihlobene ne-NPD azilula njengokuthukuthela noma ukucindezeleka.

Umhlinzeki wezokunakekelwa kwempilo noma uchwepheshe wezempilo yengqondo njengochwepheshe wezokwelapha noma wezifo zengqondo angathola izimpawu ze-NPD. Lokhu kungasiza umuntu one-NPD nezimpawu zokufutheka ukuthola usizo olufanele aludingayo.

Azikho izivivinyo zokuxilonga ezicacile. Esikhundleni salokho, umhlinzeki wakho wezokunakekelwa kwezempilo uzokucela futhi abuyekeze umlando wakho wezempilo kanye nokuziphatha nempendulo evela kubantu abasempilweni yakho.

Uchwepheshe wezempilo yengqondo anganquma ukuthi unayo yini i-NPD ngokususelwa ku:

• kubikwe futhi kwabonwa izimpawu
• ukuhlolwa ngokomzimba ukusiza ukukhipha inkinga engokomzimba engadala izimpawu
• ukuhlolwa kwengqondo
• izindlela zokufanisa kwi-Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders (DSM-5) yi-American Psychiatric Association
• izindlela zokufanisa kuHlelo Lomhlaba Wonke Lwezibalo Zezifo Nezinkinga Ezihlobene Nempilo (ICD-10), uhlu lokuhlukaniswa kwezokwelapha yi-World Health Organisation (WHO)

Ungabhekana kanjani nentukuthelo evela komunye umuntu

Abantu abasempilweni yakho abane-NPD neziqephu zentukuthelo enezinsiza eziningi zokuthola usizo.

Kodwa kwesinye isikhathi kungaba yinselelo ukuthola usizo olufanele, njengoba izindlela eziningi zokwelashwa zingakaqinisekiswa ngocwaningo.

Ngokombiko wango-2009 oshicilelwe kwi-Psychiatric Annals, azikabi khona izifundo eziningi ezenziwe ngemithi yokwelashwa kwe-NPD nabantu abahlangabezana nolaka lwe-narcissistic njengophawu lwe-NPD.

Ngakho-ke ngenkathi ukwelashwa kwengqondo kungasebenzela abanye abantu, akusebenzi ngempela kubo bonke abantu abane-NPD. Futhi akubona bonke ochwepheshe bezempilo yengqondo abavumelana nokuthi iyini ngempela indlela yokuxilonga, yokwelapha nokuphatha lesi sifo.

Ucwaningo lwango-2015 olushicilelwe kwi-American Journal of Psychiatrys lubonisa ukuthi izimpawu ezahlukahlukene ezingenzeka kumuntu ngamunye one-NPD zingenza kube yinselele ukuthola ukuxilongwa okuqinile kokuthi yiluphi “uhlobo” lwe-NPD umuntu analo:

• Dlulisa. Izimpawu zisobala futhi kulula ukuzihlonza ngezinqubo ze-DSM-5.
• Coover. Izimpawu azibonakali njalo noma zisobala, futhi isimilo noma izimo zempilo yengqondo ezihambisana ne-NPD, njengokucasuka noma ukucindezeleka, kungaba nzima ukukuthola.
• "Ukusebenza okuphezulu". Izimpawu ze-NPD zingaba nzima noma zingenakwenzeka ukubheka ngokwehlukile ekuziphatheni okujwayelekile komuntu noma esimweni sengqondo. Zingahle zibonwe njengokuziphatha okungasebenzi kahle njengokuqamba amanga noma ukungathembeki okulandelanayo.

Njengoba izimo ezifana ne-NPD zivame ukutholakala kuphela ngokubheka izimpawu ezibonakalayo, kungahle kube nezici zobuntu ezingaphansi noma imisebenzi yengqondo engenakwenzeka ukukuhlukanisa nokuxilongwa.

Kodwa lokho akusho ukuthi akufanele ufune usizo. Zama ukukhuluma nochwepheshe abaningana bezempilo yengqondo bese uzama izindlela ezahlukahlukene ukuze ubone ukuthi hlobo luni lohlelo lokwelashwa olusebenza kangcono kuwe.

Futhi ngenkathi wena noma umuntu one-NPD empilweni yakho usebenza ngokuziphatha kwabo nomlando wabo, abanye futhi bangakuthola kunenzuzo ukuzifunela usizo lochwepheshe.

Ungafunda amasu okuphatha ukufutheka lapho kwenzeka noma ukulungiselela iziqephu ezizayo ukunciphisa noma ukucubungula ukuphazamiseka kwengqondo nengokomzwelo ongase uzizwe ngesikhathi sesiqephu.

Emsebenzini

Nciphisa ukubandakanyeka nalowo muntu. Thembela abakushoyo kodwa qinisekisa ukuthi abakutshele khona kungaba iqiniso noma amanga.

Abantu abane-NPD bangakhuluma ngokufeza kwabo namakhono abo. Kepha uma ubona ukuthi abakwazi noma abenzi imisebenzi ebalulekile, zilungiselele ukuphatha ukushiyeka kwabo kobuchwepheshe esikhathini esizayo.

Futhi, qaphela ekunikezeni impendulo eqondile nokugxeka. Lokhu kungakhuthaza ukusabela okukhulu okwamanje, okungakufaka engozini yomuntu siqu noma yobungcweti.

Akuwona umthwalo wakho ukwenza umuntu afune usizo. Impendulo yakho noma ukugxeka kungaba yindlela eyodwa okwazi ngayo ukukhuthaza lowo muntu ukuthi afune usizo.

Khuluma nomphathi wakho noma umphathi womunye umuntu noma funa usizo emnyangweni wezabasebenzi wenkampani yakho (HR).

Nawa amanye amasu ongawasebenzisa ukuphatha ukuxhumana nabantu osebenza nabo abangaba nokuthambekela kwe-narcissistic noma iziqephu zokufutheka:

• bhala phansi konke ukuxhumana onakho nabo ngemininingwane eminingi ngangokunokwenzeka
• ungakhulisi izingxabano nomuntu, ngoba lokhu kungahle kugcine kukulimaze wena noma abanye emsebenzini
• ungayithathi mathupha noma uzame ukuziphindiselela kumuntu
• ungadaluli imininingwane eyimfihlo kakhulu noma uveze imibono yakho kumuntu abangase bakwazi ukukusebenzisa ngokumelene nawe
• zama ukungabi bodwa egumbini elilodwa nabo ukuze abanye babe ngofakazi bokuziphatha kwabo
• bika noma yikuphi ukuhlukunyezwa okungekho emthethweni, imisebenzi, noma ukucwaswa ozibonela mathupha emnyangweni we-HR wenkampani yakho

Kubudlelwano babalingani

Kungenzeka ube nempilo enempilo, ekhiqizayo nomuntu one-NPD neziqephu zolaka.

Kepha nobabili kungadingeka ukuthi nifune ukwelashwa futhi nakhe amasu okuziphatha nawokuxhumana asebenzela ubudlelwano benu.

Abantu abanolaka lwe-narcissistic bangalimaza. Ukufunda ukuxhumana nabo kungakusiza ukuthi uzivikele ekulimaleni ngokomzimba nangokomzwelo. Zama amanye amasu alandelayo wokubhekana ne-NPD:

• wethula uhlobo olubuhlungu kakhulu kumlingani wakho, ukugwema noma yikuphi ukuqamba amanga noma ukukhohlisa
• bona izimpawu ze-NPD kumlingani wakho noma ngokwakho, futhi wenze konke okusemandleni akho ukuxhumana okwenzeka ekhanda lakho lapho ukhombisa isimilo esithile
• ungazibambi wena noma umlingani wakho emazingeni anzima noma angenakwenzeka, ngoba lokhu kungakhuphula imizwa yokungazethembi noma yokungafaneleki okuholela kulaka lwama-narcissistic
• beka imithetho ethile noma imingcele ebudlelwaneni bakho ukuze wena nomlingani wakho nazi ukuthi yini elindelwe kubo njengomlingani othandana naye, kunokuphendula ngesimo esingenaso isakhiwo kulokho okulindele
• funa ukwelashwa ngawodwana nanjengombhangqwana ukuze ukwazi ukuzisebenzela wena nobuhlobo obuhambisana
• ungazicabangi wena noma umlingani wakho njengonokuthile "okungalungile”Kepha khomba izindawo ezingaphazamisa ubudlelwano obudinga ukusebenza
• uqiniseke ngokuqeda ubuhlobo uma ungasakholelwa ukuthi ubudlelwano bunempilo kuwe noma kumlingani wakho

Kubangani

Nciphisa ukuvezwa kwakho kunoma imuphi umngane okulimaza ngokomzimba, ngokwengqondo, noma ngokomzwelo ngentukuthelo ye-narcissistic.

Ungahle uthande ukucabanga ngokuzikhipha ebunganeni bakho ngokuphelele uma ukholwa ukuthi ubungani akusenampilo futhi akusizakali ngakunye.

Uma lo kungumngane osondelene nobungane bakho obuzisayo, ungahle futhi ufune usizo kochwepheshe bezempilo yengqondo.

Bangakusiza ufunde izindlela zokuziphatha ezenza ukubhekana nesimo kube lula. Ungase futhi ufunde izindlela zokuziphatha ezingakusiza uphathe kangcono ukuxhumana nokuxhumana nomngani wakho ngesikhathi seziqephu zokufutheka.

Lokhu kungenza isikhathi senu sindawonye singakhungatheki futhi sanelise kakhulu noma sivelise.

Kusuka kumuntu ongamazi

Inketho engcono kakhulu ukuhamba. Nobabili noma lowo muntu cishe ngeke nikwazi ukufinyelela esiphethweni esakhayo ngokuxhumana kwenu.

Kepha yazi ukuthi izenzo zakho azibanga ukusabela. Kuqhutshwa yizici eziyisisekelo ongathonya nganoma iyiphi indlela.

Ngabe ziphathwa kanjani iziyaluyalu?

Isazi sezempilo yengqondo singasiza ekwelapheni i-NPD kanye nolaka.

Bangasebenzisa ukwelashwa kokukhuluma, noma i-psychotherapy, ukusiza abantu abane-NPD baqonde indlela abaziphatha ngayo, abakukhethayo nemiphumela yabo. Abelaphi bangase basebenze nalowo muntu ukubhekana nezimbangela eziyisisekelo.

Ukwelashwa kokukhuluma kungasiza futhi abantu abane-NPD ukudala izinhlelo ezintsha zokuziphatha ukuze bathuthukise ukubhekana nempilo enempilo namakhono obudlelwano.

• Abantu abane-NPD nentukuthelo ye-narcissistic bangalimaza abantu ezimpilweni zabo, noma bengakuqapheli. Awudingi ukuhlala nokukhathazeka okuqhubekayo ngentukuthelo yesikhathi esizayo. Ungathatha izinyathelo zokuzivikela.
• Uma wesaba umuntu one-NPD empilweni yakho angawela ukusuka ekuhlukunyezweni ngamazwi aye ekuhlukunyezweni ngokomzimba noma ucabanga ukuthi usengozini esheshayo, shayela abakwa-911 noma abezimo eziphuthumayo zendawo.
• Uma usongo lungekho ngokushesha, funa usizo ku-National Domestic Abuse Hotline ku-800-799-7233. Bangakuxhumanisa nabahlinzeki bezinsizakalo, ochwepheshe bezempilo yengqondo, nezindawo zokukhosela endaweni yangakini uma udinga usizo.

Ukuthatha

Usizo luyatholakala kubantu abane-NPD nentukuthelo ye-narcissistic. Ngokuxilongwa okufanele nokwelashwa okuqhubekayo, kungenzeka ukuba uphile impilo enempilo, enomvuzo.

Okwamanje, ukufutheka kungabonakala njengokudla konke nokusongela. Kepha ukukhuthaza othandekayo (noma wena uqobo) ukuthi afune usizo kungakhuthaza ukukhetha okunempilo kuwe, kubo, nakubo bonke abanye ezimpilweni zakho.