Kuyini ukungakhathaleli, futhi Kukuthinta kanjani wena?

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• Izinto okufanele uzicabangele
• Kungani abantu benokuthambekela kokunganaki?
• Ngabe ubandlululo lubonisa kanjani?
• Ezomnotho zokuziphatha
• I-psychology yezenhlalo
• Ungakunqoba kanjani ukwenzelela kokunganaki
• Okubalulekile

Izinto okufanele uzicabangele

Thina bantu sinokuthambekela ekunikezeni ukubaluleka kokuhlangenwe nakho okungekuhle kunokuhlangenwe nakho okuhle noma okungathathi hlangothi. Lokhu kubizwa ngokuthi yi-negativity bias.

Sijwayele ukugxila kokubi noma ngabe okuhlangenwe nakho okungekuhle kungabalulekile noma kungabalulekile.

Cabanga ngokuchema okungekuhle njengalokhu: Ungene ehhotela elihle kusihlwa. Uma ungena endlini yangasese, kunesicabucabu esikhulu kusinki. Yikuphi ocabanga ukuthi kuzoba yinkumbulo ecace kakhudlwana: impahla enhle nempahla yokunethezeka yegumbi, noma isicabucabu ohlangane naso?

Abantu abaningi, ngokusho kwendatshana yango-2016 yeNielsen Norman Group, bazosikhumbula kahle lesi sigameko sesicabucabu.

Okuhlangenwe nakho okungekuhle kujwayele ukuthinta abantu ngaphezu kokuhle. Isihloko sango-2010 esanyatheliswa yi-University of California, eBerkeley sicaphuna isazi sokusebenza kwengqondo uRick Hanson: “Ingqondo ifana neVelcro ukuthola okuhlangenwe nakho okungekuhle kanye neTeflon ngezinto ezinhle.”

Kungani abantu benokuthambekela kokunganaki?

Ngokusho kwesazi sokusebenza kwengqondo uRick Hanson, ubandlululo luye lwakhiwa ebuchosheni bethu ngokususelwa ezigidini zeminyaka yokuziphendukela kwemvelo uma kuziwa ekubhekaneni nezinsongo.

Okhokho bethu babehlala ezindaweni ezinzima. Kwakudingeka baqoqe ukudla ngenkathi begwema izithiyo ezibulalayo.

Ukuqaphela, ukusabela, nokukhumbula izilwane ezidlayo nezingozi zemvelo (okungekuhle) kubaluleke kakhulu kunokuthola ukudla (okuhle). Labo abagwema izimo ezingezinhle badlulisa izakhi zofuzo.

Ngabe ubandlululo lubonisa kanjani?

Ezomnotho zokuziphatha

Enye yezindlela ubandlululo obonakalayo ukuthi abantu, ngokwenye i-athikili ka-2016 yeNielsen Norman Group, bayizondo zokungazibeki engcupheni: Abantu bathambekele ekuqapheleni ukulahleka ngokunikeza ukubaluleka okukhulu ngisho nasemathubeni amancane.

Imizwa engemihle yokulahlekelwa ngama- $ 50 inamandla kunemizwa emihle yokuthola ama- $ 50. Eqinisweni, abantu bazosebenza kanzima ukuvikela ukulahlekelwa ngama- $ 50 kunalokho abazokuthola ama- $ 50.

Ngenkathi abantu kungadingeki bahlale beqaphile njalo ngokusinda njengokhokho bethu, ukucwasa okungalungile kusengathinta indlela esenza ngayo, esabela ngayo, esizizwa ngayo, futhi sicabanga ngayo.

Isibonelo, ucwaningo lwakudala lukhombisa ukuthi lapho abantu benza izinqumo, babeka ukubaluleka okukhulu kuzici zomcimbi ezingezinhle kunalezo ezinhle. Lokhu kungathinta ukukhetha nokuzimisela ukuzibeka engcupheni.

I-psychology yezenhlalo

Ngokwe-athikili ka-2014, ukuchema kokunganaki kungatholakala kumqondo wezepolitiki.

Ama-Conservatives ajwayele ukuba nezimpendulo ezinamandla zomzimba futhi anikele ngezinsizakusebenza ezingokwengqondo kokubi kunabakhululekile.

Futhi, okhethweni, abavoti banamathuba amaningi okuthi bavotele umuntu ozongenela ukhetho ngokusekelwe kulwazi olungeluhle mayelana nomphikisi wabo ngokungafani nobuntu obumelene nabo.

Ungakunqoba kanjani ukwenzelela kokunganaki

Noma kubonakala sengathi ubudedengu buyisethingi esizenzakalelayo, singakubhala ngaphezulu.

Ungakhuphula ithemba ngokukhumbula ukuthi yini ebalulekile nengabalulekile empilweni yakho futhi ugxile ekwaziseni nasekubaziseni izici ezinhle. Kunconywa futhi ukuthi wephule iphethini yokusabela okungekuhle futhi uvumele okuhlangenwe nakho okuhle kubhalise ngokujulile.

Okubalulekile

Kungabonakala ukuthi abantu bakhungathekile ngokunganaki, noma ukuthambekela kokubeka isisindo esikhulu kokuhlangenwe nakho okungekuhle kunokuhlangenwe nakho okuhle.

Lokhu kubonakala ekuziphatheni kokuzwa imizwa emihle, njengokuthola imali engalindelekile idlulwa yimizwa emibi ngokulahlekelwa yiyo.

Lokhu kubonakala nasengqondweni yezenhlalo, lapho abavoti okhethweni kungenzeka kakhulu ukuthi bavote ngokususelwa kulwazi olungeluhle mayelana nomphikisi walowo ozongenela ukhetho kunokufaneleka komuntu lowo omele ukhetho.

Ngokuvamile, kunezindlela zokushintsha ubandlululo lwakho lokunganaki ngokugxila ezicini ezinhle zempilo yakho.