Izinzuzo zeNoFap: Ngempela noma ngokweqile?

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• Ziyini izinzuzo ezingaba khona?
• Izinzuzo zengqondo
• Izinzuzo zomzimba
• Ngabe izinzuzo zisekelwa yiluphi ucwaningo?
• Ucwaningo ngokushaya indlwabu
• Ucwaningo lwezithombe zocansi
• Kuthiwani ngokugcinwa kwesidoda?
• Ingabe zikhona izingozi?
• Ukubonana nodokotela nini
• Ukuqaphela ukuziphatha okuphoqelela
• Okubalulekile

I-NoFap iqale kuReddit e2011 ngesikhathi kuqhubeka izingxoxo eziku-inthanethi phakathi kwabantu abayeke ukushaya indlwabu.

Igama elithi "NoFap" (manje igama elibizwa ngegama nebhizinisi) livela egameni elithi "fap," okuyi-internet lingo yomsindo wokuqhuma. Uyazi - fapfapfapfap.

Okuqale njengengxoxo engajwayelekile manje sekuyiwebhusayithi nenhlangano ekhuthaza ukuyeka hhayi ukushaya indlwabu kuphela kepha nezocansi nezinye izindlela zokuziphatha ngocansi.

Izithameli ezihlosiwe kubonakala kungamadoda aqonde kakhulu, anezikhwama ezincane zabesifazane nabantu be-LGBTQIA +.

Abaxhasi bathi ukusebenzisa indlela yokuphila ye-NoFap kunikeza izinzuzo eziningi, kusukela ekucaceni kwengqondo kuye ekukhuleni kwemisipha. Kodwa ingabe likhona iqiniso ngemuva kwalezi zimangalo?

Ziyini izinzuzo ezingaba khona?

Sizoqala ngamazinga aphezulu e-testosterone. Lokhu nguyena okhuthaze ingxoxo yokuqala yeReddit emuva osukwini ngemuva kokuthi umsebenzisi abelane ngocwaningo oludala olutholile ukuthi alukhiphi izinsuku ezingu-7 lenyusa amazinga e-testosterone ngo.

Lokhu kwaqubula abanye ukuthi bathathe isonto bengayishayi indlwabu, abanye babo baqhubeka nokwabelana ngezinye izinzuzo "zobungqabavu." Lokhu kufaka izinzuzo zempilo yengqondo nengokwenyama kanye nokuvuka ngokomoya kanye nama-epiphanies.

Izinzuzo zengqondo

Amalungu omphakathi weNoFap abike ukuthi ahlangabezana nezinzuzo eziningi zengqondo, kufaka phakathi:

• injabulo eyengeziwe
• ukukhulisa ukuzethemba
• ukukhuthazeka okwengeziwe namandla
• amazinga aphansi oxinzelelo kanye nokukhathazeka
• ingokomoya eliphakeme
• ukuzamukela
• isimo sengqondo esithuthukisiwe nokwazisa ngabobulili obuhlukile

Izinzuzo zomzimba

Ezinye izinzuzo zomzimba ezabiwe ngabakwaNoFappers yilezi:

• amazinga aphezulu wamandla
• ukukhula kwemisipha
• ukulala okungcono
• ukugxila okuthuthukisiwe nokugxila
• ukusebenza kangcono komzimba nokuqina
• ukusebenza okungcono noma okuphulukisiwe kwe-erectile
• ikhwalithi yesidoda ethuthukisiwe

Ngabe izinzuzo zisekelwa yiluphi ucwaningo?

Kunobufakazi obuningi be-anecdotal ngaphakathi komphakathi weNoFap. Amalungu amaningi ayajabula ukwabelana ngemivuzo ayitholile ngokuyeka ukushaya indlwabu noma i-porn.

Kungaba nomphumela we-placebo lapho kudlalwa, okusho ukuthi abantu bajoyina umphakathi balindele umphumela othize futhi bawenze wenzeka.

Lokhu akuyona into embi, impela.Abanye abantu bangazuza kukho futhi bathole amanye amasu ahlinzekwa kuwebhusayithi abalulekile.

Ucwaningo ngokushaya indlwabu

Ukugwema ukuphuma ejaculating izinsuku ezimbalwa kungakhuphula i-testosterone futhi kuthuthukise ikhwalithi yesidoda. Kodwa-ke, alukho ucwaningo lokubuyisela emuva ezinye izimangalo ezihambisana nokungashayi indlwabu.

Ochwepheshe abaningi bayavuma ukuthi ukushaya indlwabu kuyingxenye enempilo futhi ebalulekile yokuthuthuka ngokocansi okujwayelekile. kukhombisa ukuthi ukushaya indlwabu ebuntwaneni nasebusheni phakathi kwabesifazane kuhlotshaniswa nokuzithiba okunempilo kanye nokuhlangenwe nakho okuhle kocansi kamuva empilweni.

Ezinye izinzuzo ezingokomzimba nezingokwengqondo ezixhumene nokushaya indlwabu zifaka:

• isimo esithuthukisiwe
• ukulala okungcono
• ukucindezeleka nokucindezeleka
• ukukhululeka ezinkalweni zokuya esikhathini
• ingozi ephansi yomdlavuza wesinye (ucwaningo luyaqhubeka ukuhlola lesi sixhumanisi)

Ucwaningo lwezithombe zocansi

Yize lungekho ucwaningo oluningi maqondana nezithombe zocansi, obunye ubufakazi bukhomba ekubeni nezinzuzo ezingaba khona.

Kuyathakazelisa ukuthi izinzuzo eziningi ze-porn eziphawulwe kwesinye isifundo esinjalo zifana kakhulu noNoFappers ababika ukuthi babhekana nakho ngemuva kokuyeka izithombe zobulili ezingcolile.

Ababambiqhaza besilisa nabesifazane ocwaningweni babike ukuthi izithombe zobulili ezingcolile ezilukhuni zazilusizo ezimpilweni zabo zocansi kanye nemibono kanye nesimo sabo sengqondo ngocansi, amalungu wobulili obuhlukile, nasempilweni jikelele. Futhi lapho bebuka kakhulu, izinzuzo ziya ziqina.

Kuthiwani ngokugcinwa kwesidoda?

Okokuqala, masikucacise ukuthi ukugcinwa kwesidoda kanye ne-NoFap akuyona into efanayo, yize uzovame ukuyibona isetshenziswa kumongo ofanayo ezinkundleni zokuxhumana.

Ukugcinwa kwesidoda kungumkhuba wokugwema ukukhishwa. Kubizwa nangokuthi i-coitus reservatus kanye nokongiwa kwesidoda. Kuyindlela abantu abavame ukuyisebenzisa ocansini lwe-tantric.

Umehluko omkhulu phakathi kokugcinwa kwesidoda neNoFap ukuthi ungakugwema ukujula ngenkathi usajabulela umsebenzi wezocansi kanye ne-orgasm. Kunjalo: Ungaba nenye ngaphandle kwenye, yize kungathatha umkhuba othile.

Abantu bakholelwa ukuthi inikeza izinzuzo eziningi ezifanayo ezingokomoya, ezingokwengqondo nezingokwenyama njengeNoFap.

Ukugcinwa kwesidoda kudinga ukulawula imisipha okujulile nokufunda ukuguqula imisipha yakho ye-pelvic ngaphambi nje kokuphuma.

Ungajwayeza ukugcinwa kwesidoda uwedwa noma nomlingani wakho. Ukuzivocavoca kweKegel nokunye ukuvivinya kwe-pelvic kungakusiza ukuba uyiqonde kahle.

Uma unentshisekelo kuzinzuzo ezibikiwe zeNoFap ngaphandle kokuyeka izithombe zobulili ezingcolile noma ukushaya indlwabu, ukugcinwa kwesidoda kungaba enye indlela oyifunayo.

Ingabe zikhona izingozi?

Ukuhlanganyela ku-NoFap akunakwenzeka ukuthi kubangele noma yikuphi ukulimala, kodwa kusho ukuthi uzolahlekelwa yizinzuzo eziningi ezifakazelwe zokushaya indlwabu, ubulili, ama-orgasms, kanye ne-ejaculation.

Futhi, i-NoFap ayithathi indawo yokunakekelwa kwezokwelapha. Ukuzama esikhundleni sokufuna usizo lochwepheshe kungakuvimbela ekutholeni ukwelashwa okudingayo.

Ukubonana nodokotela nini

Uma ukhathazekile ukuthi uhlangabezana nanoma yiluphi uhlobo lokungasebenzi kahle kwezocansi, kufaka phakathi izingqinamba eziseduze nokwenziwa, ukukhishwa, kanye ne-libido, bona umhlinzeki wezokunakekelwa kwempilo.

Uma ukhathazekile ngokuziphatha kwakho kwezocansi noma uzizwa udabukile, ungenathemba, noma ungakhuthazwa, cabanga ngokufinyelela kuchwepheshe wezempilo yengqondo.

Ukuqaphela ukuziphatha okuphoqelela

Awuqinisekile ukuthi ngabe ubhekene nokuziphatha okuphoqelelayo mayelana nokushaya indlwabu noma izithombe zocansi?

Bheka lezi zimpawu ezivamile:

• ukukhathazeka ngocansi, ukushaya indlwabu, noma i-porn ephazamisa impilo yakho yansuku zonke
• ukwehluleka ukulawula noma ukumisa isimilo
• ukuqamba amanga ukumboza isimilo sakho
• imicabango eyeqisayo, eqhubekayo yezocansi nemicabango
• uhlangabezana nemiphumela emibi ngenxa yokuziphatha kwakho, uqobo noma ngokomsebenzi
• ukuzizwa uzisola noma unecala ngemuva kokuhlanganyela ekuziphatheni

Uma ulwa nokuziphatha okuphoqelela ngokocansi futhi ufuna ukwesekwa, ukujoyina umphakathi weNoFap akuyona ukuphela kwakho.

Abantu abaningi bakuthola kuwusizo ukukhuluma nabanye ababelana ngemizwa efanayo. Ungacela udokotela wakho noma isibhedlela sendawo ngolwazi mayelana namaqembu okusekela.

Ungathola futhi imithombo eminingi online. Nayi imibhangqwana ongayithola ilusizo:

• isazi sokusebenza kwengqondo esivela e-American Psychological Association
• othole umelaphi wezocansi oqinisekisiwe ovela e-American Association of Sexuality Educators, Counsellors and Therapists

Okubalulekile

Ngenkathi abanye abantu bebika ukuthi bathola izinzuzo ezahlukahlukene ngokwamukela indlela yokuphila ye-NoFap, lezi zimangalo azigxilile ebufakazini obuningi besayensi.

Akukho lutho olungalungile ngokwemvelo ngokushaya indlwabu, noma ngabe ukwenze ngenkathi ubuka izithombe ezingcolile. Ukuzibandakanya ekuzithandeni akuyona inkinga ngaphandle kokuthi kuphazamisa impilo yakho.

Lokho kusho ukuthi, uma ukujabulela ukuba yingxenye yomphakathi weNoFap futhi ukuthole kunezela inani empilweni yakho, akukho monakalo ngokunamathela kukho.

Vele uqiniseke ukuthi ulandelela umhlinzeki wakho wezokunakekelwa kwezempilo mayelana nanoma yikuphi ukukhathazeka ngempilo engokwenyama noma kwengqondo.

U-Adrienne Santos-Longhurst ungumbhali ozimele futhi umbhali obhale kakhulu kuzo zonke izinto zezempilo nezindlela zokuphila isikhathi esingaphezu kweminyaka eyishumi. Lapho engafakwanga endaweni yakhe yokubhala ecwaninga i-athikili noma evaliwe exoxa nochwepheshe bezempilo, angatholwa ebabaza azungeze idolobha lakhe lolwandle nomyeni nezinja bedonsa noma betshiza echibini bezama ukuphatha ibhodi lokugwedla lokuma.