Izikhumbuzi ze-5 Zabantu Abanezinkinga Zokudla Ngesikhathi Sokuqubuka KWE-COVID-19

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• 1. Kuyaqondakala uma udonsa kanzima njengamanje
• 2. Sicela ungazinqamuli ekusekelweni
• 3. Hlela injongo yomsebenzi we-C
• 4. Umzimba wakho uyakwazi okufanele ukwenze ngesikhathi esibucayi
• 5. Ukululama kusabalulekile
• Ukululama kube ngukhiye ovula le minyango, kungivumela ukuthi ngifinyelele ezingxenyeni ezinhle kakhulu zalokho okushiwo ukuba nokuphila.

Awehluleki ekululameni, futhi ukutakula kwakho ngeke kwenzeke ngoba izinto ziyinselele.

Ngingasho kugcwale umlomo ukuthi akukho engikufunde ekwelashweni okungilungisele ubhadane.

Futhi nakhu ngilapha, ngibheka phansi amashalofu esitolo esingenalutho kanye nama-oda wokuzihlukanisa, ngicabanga ukuthi ngizozigcina kanjani ngondlekile lapho - iqiniso litshelwa - i-anorexia yami ibukeka imagange kakhulu ukuthatha isiteringi nokushayela.

Ngiyazi ukuthi lowo mgwaqo usisa kuphi, noma kunjalo. (Isexwayiso se-Spoiler: usizi oluphelele.) Akuyona indawo engifisa ukubuyela kuyo ngqo.

Ukuba nenkinga yokudla kunzima ngokwako kukodwa. Futhi manje njengoba sikuthile osenkingeni yomhlaba? Kungazizwa kuthena amandla ukuzama ukuzulazula.

Uma unenkinga yokudla noma isithombe somzimba ngalesi sikhathi, ngifuna wazi ukuthi awuwedwa. Nazi ezinye izikhumbuzo ezibalulekile okufanele ubambelele kuzo emasontweni azayo.

1. Kuyaqondakala uma udonsa kanzima njengamanje

Ngenkathi inkinga yami yokudla iphinda ivela kakhulu ngesikhathi sokuzihlukanisa, ngaba nomuzwa ocwilayo wokuthi ngiyehluleka ukululama. Futhi ngangizizwa nginecala, nami. Ngabe bengizokhathazeka ngokweqile ngokudla ngesikhathi esinjengalesi?

Ukuphazamiseka kokudla yizifo zengqondo, noma kunjalo. Okusho ukuthi lapho izindlela zethu ziphazanyiswa, sithola ukulala okuncane, sihlangabezana nengcindezi enkulu, futhi sihlukaniswe kakhulu kunakuqala.

Kwenza umqondo ophelele ukuthi besiyozabalaza ngaphezu kokujwayelekile.

Kunezithiyo eziningi ezintsha okufanele sizulazule kuzo. Ukudla manje akusatholakali kalula kunangaphambili (futhi akuhlukahlukene), futhi iningi lethu linokusekelwa kokudla komuntu okuncane okusizungezile. Lokhu impela kulingana nokulwa nokuphazamiseka kwemikhuba yethu yokudla ku "mode hard."

Ngakho-ke, yebo, uma unenkinga okwamanje, lokho kusebenza ngokuphelele. Awehluleki ekululameni, futhi ukutakula kwakho ngeke kwenzeke ngoba izinto ziyinselele.

Esikhundleni salokho, kufanele silungise okulindelwe futhi sigcine isithombe esikhulu sisemqondweni.

2. Sicela ungazinqamuli ekusekelweni

Uma ukhuluma ngokulindelwe, lindela ukuthi uzodinga ukwesekwa okwengeziwe njengamanje, hhayi ngaphansi. Yize kungalinga ukuhoxa ngesikhathi sokuzihlukanisa, ukwahlukaniswa kungalimaza ngendlela emangalisayo impilo yakho yengqondo nokululama.

Izinhlelo zokusebenza ezinjengeFaceTime neMarco Polo zikuvumela ukuthi uhlale uxhumekile ngevidiyo futhi zingaba izinketho ezinhle zokuphendula nokuxhaswa kokudla.

Kepha uma ungenabo abantu empilweni yakho abanolwazi nge-ED, usenokukhetha:

• Kokubili i-Eating Recovery Center kanye ne-Eating Disorder Foundation zinamaqembu wokuxhasa! INational Eating Disorder Association (NEDA) nayo ihlanganise uhlu lwamaqembu abiza izindleko eziphansi futhi.
• I-NEDA iphinde yahlanganisa uchungechunge lwevidiyo yamathuluzi wokubhekana ngqo ne-COVID, kufaka phakathi le vidiyo noJennifer Rollins, i-MSW, i-LCSW, bexoxa ngokululama ngesikhathi sobhadane.
• Kukhona nezinhlelo zokusebenza eziningi ezinhle ze-smartphone ezingaba amathuluzi awusizo ekululameni kwakho. Ngiphinde ngafaka ezinye izintandokazi zami kulo mzuliswano.
• Ochwepheshe abaningi bokuphazamiseka kokudla banikela ngezikhathi ezithile. Ungasesha eyodwa kule database.
• Kukhona i-Instagram, @ covid19eatingsupport, enikeza ukwesekwa kokudla bukhoma njalo emahoreni ambalwa!

3. Hlela injongo yomsebenzi we-C

Ukufuna ukuphelela ekululameni akukaze kusize, ikakhulukazi hhayi manje. Ingcwethi yami yokudla ngokudla u-Aaron Flores uvame ukungikhumbuza ukuthi ngiphokophele “umsebenzi wezinga le-C.” Ngithole ukufaniswa kube yisisekelo sangempela kimi.

Akuzona zonke izidlo ezizobe “zilinganisiwe” ngokuphelele. Kwesinye isikhathi ukudla kwakho okulula kungaba yinoma yini ongayithola ekhabetheni noma yini ongayibekezelela. Kwesinye isikhathi ukudla kwethu kuzobukeka kungajwayelekile ngoba yilokho esingakuthola engxenyeni efrijini esitolo sotshwala.

Kulungile. Lokho kuvamile.

Umsebenzi we-C-level usho, yebo, ukugcina ukugcwala kokudla okunempilo uma lokho kusiza ekuzigcineni uphila njengamanje. Kungasho ukubiza abanye esitolo sokudla uma sizizwa sinamathele. Kusho ukuzinza "ngokwanele" lapho ubuchopho bethu be-ED busitshela ukuthi akunjalo.

Futhi-ke nakanjani kusho ukuguquguquka lapho sikhetha ukudla. Siphila emhlabeni ohluke kakhulu kunalowo esasiwenza emasontweni ambalwa edlule.

Into ebalulekile njengamanje ukusinda nokuhlala wondlekile ngangokunokwenzeka (sihlose ukudla kathathu ngosuku kanye nokudla okulula okumbili - hlambulula, phinda). Okunye esingakubeka eshalofini ukuze sikhathazeke ngokuhamba kwesikhathi, ngakolunye uhlangothi kwalokhu.

4. Umzimba wakho uyakwazi okufanele ukwenze ngesikhathi esibucayi

Kuningi “amahlaya” ahamba ezinkundleni zokuxhumana mayelana nesisindo abantu abangasithola ngokuhlukaniswa. Ngaphezu kwalokhu kuba yi-fatphobic, ibuye iliphuthe ngokuphelele iphuzu.

Umsebenzi wangempela womzimba wakho ukusiza ukukuhambisa usuku ngalunye nokukukhombisa ukuthi yini ongayidinga ukuhambisa kuyo ngokukhululeka ngangokunokwenzeka.

Kukhona ubhadane olwenzekayo. Ukucindezeleka kuyabonakala futhi akunakugwenywa.

Ngakho-ke uma uzithola ufisa ukudla okuthile njengamanje? Lowo ngumzimba wakho ofuna imithombo yamandla ecebile ukwenza umsebenzi wawo.

Uma ugcina usukhuluphela? Lowo ngumzimba wakho ukuzivumelanisa nezimo ukukuvikela, uma ungagula futhi ungakwazi ukuzondla kahle ngokuhamba kwesikhathi.

Futhi uma "udla ingcindezi" noma ufuna ukudla okunethezeka? Lowo ngumzimba wakho usebenzisa ukudla njengendlela yokuzithambisa - engasebenza injongo ebalulekile.

Inkinga yakho yokudla (futhi ngokudabukisayo, isiko lethu lilonke) ingahle ifune ukwenza idemoni la mava. Kepha ikakhulukazi unikezwe izimo? Konke kungokuhlangenwe nakho okujwayelekile kakhulu kokudla.

Ubuntu buye basinda ezinhluphekweni kanye nobhadane kuwo wonke umlando, ngenxa yemizimba yethu eqinile, eguquguqukayo. Into yokugcina okufanele ngabe siyayenza ukujezisa bona ngokusivikela.

Ukuqhubeka kokufunda: UCaroline Dooner "I-F * ck Ukudla Kwayo. ” Kuyindlela ekhulula kakhulu ekudleni okunembile okungenza ingqondo yakho ikhululeke.

5. Ukululama kusabalulekile

Ngiyazi ukuthi iningi lethu lingazithola selicwila ekuphelelweni yithemba. “Uma umhlaba uwohloka noma kunjalo,” ungahle uzibuze, “kungani kufanele ngizihluphe?”

(Hhe, ukuze wazi nje, ukuthi khona lapho kuyabizwa ukudana, mngani wami. Uma uthola umhlinzeki wezempilo yengqondo eqenjini lakho lokunakekela, yisikhathi esihle sokufinyelela kubo.)

Yebo, ikusasa aliqinisekile ngokuqinisekile okwamanje. Lokhu esihlangabezana nakho akukaze kwenzeke ngezindlela eziningi. Ukuzizwa wesaba futhi uphelelwe yithemba naphezu kobhadane lwangempela kunengqondo kakhulu.

Ukungazi isipiliyoni sakho, angikwazi ukukutshela ukuthi uzizwe kanjani noma usabele kanjani kulokhu kubheduka. Kepha kimi, ngendlela ebesabeka ngayo, lo mzuzu ushintshe izinto engizibeka phambili ngokushesha okukhulu.

Lapho ngicabanga ngaso sonke isikhathi ebengintshontshelwe inkinga yami yokudla, futhi ngicabanga ngakho konke okungenzeka emasontweni azayo? Ngiyakhunjuzwa ukuthi asisekho esinye isikhathi sokuchitha.

Kunezinto eziningi engizithathe kalula ezizizwa zibaluleke kakhulu kunakuqala: ukuxhumana nabathandekayo, ukuhamba kwami ​​ekuseni ngiye esiteshini sesitimela, ngizwa ilanga ebusweni bami, ngima esitolo sendawo samadonathi futhi nginambitha ukudla kwami.

Konke lokhu kuyigugu. Futhi singasuswa kithi ngokuphazima kweso.

Ukululama kube ngukhiye ovula le minyango, kungivumela ukuthi ngifinyelele ezingxenyeni ezinhle kakhulu zalokho okushiwo ukuba nokuphila.

Futhi kunjalo okubalulekile. Ikakhulukazi manje.

Lesi sikhathi ngeke sibe phakade. Angikwazi ukukutshela ukuthi kuzoba isikhathi esingakanani, kepha njengakuyo yonke enye into, singaqiniseka ukuthi zonke izinto ziyaphela.

Futhi ngikholwa ukuthi kukhona ikusasa Wena ozobonga ukuqina kwakho kulo mzuzu.

Ngoba kunabantu esibathandayo nabazosidinga, abanye esingakahlangani nabo. Futhi kunekusasa lapho sonke kufanele sakhe kabusha. Ngifuna ukuthi ngamunye wethu abe nesandla ekwenzeni kube ngcono.

Ngiyazi ukuthi kunzima manje. Kepha ngalokho okufanele, ngiyakholelwa kuwe. Ngiyakholelwa kithi sonke.

Sizothatha le nto ukuluma kanye ngesikhathi. Futhi ngiyabonga? Sithola “ama-do-overs” amaningi njengoba kuthatha.

Udinga ukusekelwa? Thumela umbhalo othi “NEDA” ku-741741 ukuze ufinyelele ivolontiya lezinhlekelele, noma ushayele le nombolo Inombolo yosizo yeNational Eating Disorder Association ngo-800-931-2237.

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