Izindlela Ezi-5 Ezincane Zokuhleleka Lapho Ukucindezeleka Kwakho Kuneminye Imibono

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• Izindlela ezi-5 ezincane zokuhlelela impilo yakho yengqondo
• 1. Phonsa ukuphelela ngefasitela
• 2. Hlukanisa konke kube yizicucu ezilinganayo
• 3. Dedela izinto ezingakusizi
• 4. Susa iziphazamiso
• 5. Bheka ngeso lengqondo umphumela wokugcina

Sula imfuhlumfuhlu nengqondo yakho, noma ngabe ugqozi luyindlala.

Impilo nokuphila kahle kuthinta ngamunye wethu ngokuhlukile. Le yindaba yomuntu oyedwa.

Kusukela ekuqaleni kokuwa ngezinyanga ezibandayo zonyaka, ngiye ngafunda ukulindela (nokuphatha) ukuphazamiseka kwami ​​kwesizini (SAD). Njengomuntu ophila nenkinga yokukhathazeka futhi aziveze njengomuntu ozwela kakhulu (HSP), ngivame ukubheka izinto engingazilawula emhlabeni wami.

Njalo ngo-Agasti, ngihlala phansi ngibhale “uhlu lwami lwangaphambi kokulungiselela ubusika,” lapho ngibheka khona izindawo zomuzi wami ezidinga ukuhlelwa nokuhlakazeka. Imvamisa ngoNovemba, amajazi ami amadala asenikelwe, phansi kukhucululiwe, futhi yonke into izwa sengathi isendaweni yayo efanele.

Enye yezindlela zami zokuqala zokuzivikela empini yokulwa nezinselelo zempilo yengqondo bekulokhu kuhlelwa njalo. Ngilungiselela lezo zinsuku ezinzima lapho ngingeke ngikwazi ukuphakamisa i-mop, ingasaphathwa eyokufaka ipuleti kumshini wokuwasha izitsha.

Kuvela ukuthi ukucabanga kwami ​​kugxile ezifundweni zesayensi ezikhombisa ukuthi inhlangano iyithuluzi eliphumelelayo lokuthola impilo enempilo, ngokwengqondo nangokomzimba.

Ucwaningo olulodwa lwathola ukuthi isenzo somzimba sokuqoqa indlu yomuntu singenza umuntu asebenze futhi abe nempilo ephelele.

Abahleli abaningi abangochwepheshe bacula izingoma zokuthuthukisa impilo yengqondo yomuntu ngokuhlela, kubandakanya uPatricia Diesel, uchwepheshe wokuhlela, umqeqeshi oyimfuhlumfuhlu, kanye nomsunguli wohlelo olubizwa nge-Mindful Tools for Organised Living.

Njengompetha oqinisekisiwe wokuhleleka okungamahlalakhona kanye nochwepheshe we-hoarding, uDiesel uzibonele amandla okuhleleka ezimpilweni zabantu.

“Ukukhuluma ngezingqinamba ezingokomzwelo nezingokwengqondo kubaluleke kakhulu odalweni oluyimbangela yalokhu. Ngikholwa wukuthi imfuhlumfuhlu iwukubonakaliswa kwangaphandle okukhombisa umzimba nengqondo ngokweqile, ”kuchaza yena.

Izindlela ezi-5 ezincane zokuhlelela impilo yakho yengqondo

Uma usebunzimeni bokucindezeleka noma ukuphulukiswa ngenxa yokuhlaselwa ukwethuka, umcabango wokuhlanza ungakhungathekisa impela. Kepha ngiyazi nokuthi imfuhlumfuhlu ingenza ngehle ngize ngibe nesimo esingesihle. Ngakho-ke, ngithole izindlela zami zokubhekana nenhlangano ngaphandle kokuyivumela ukuthi ibhekane nami.

Nazi izindlela ezinhlanu zokugudla imfuhlumfuhlu, ngisho nasezinsukwini zakho ezinzima kakhulu zempilo yengqondo.

1. Phonsa ukuphelela ngefasitela

Ngisho noma ngisezingeni eliphansi kakhulu, ngangivame ukuzifaka ingcindezi ekwenzeni izinto zibukeke "zilungile."

Kusukela lapho ngifunde ukuphelela nezimo zempilo yengqondo zivame ukuphikisana ngqo. Indlela enempilo ukwamukela ukuthi indlu yami ingahle ibukeke ingenaphutha phakathi nezinyanga zasebusika. Uma izinto zihlelwe ngokujwayelekile, ngingamukela ubhanana othuli ongawela endleleni yami.

Udizili uyavumelana nale ndlela futhi.

"Ukuhlela akukona ngokuphelela," esho. “Kumayelana nekhwalithi yezinga lempilo. Izindinganiso zawo wonke umuntu zehlukile. Uma nje indawo ehlelekile ihambisana nalezo zindinganiso futhi ingaphazamisi izinga lempilo eliphazamisa noma elilimaza impilo yalowo muntu, imvamisa umuntu uzothola ukwamukelwa nokuthula kulokho. "

Vumela umbono wakho wokuthi "uphelele," bese uqonde ezingeni lenhlangano engalimazi ikhwalithi yakho yempilo.

2. Hlukanisa konke kube yizicucu ezilinganayo

Njengoba ukucindezela kuyinto enkulu kulabo abanenkinga yokuphazamiseka kwengqondo, njengokukhathazeka, uDiesel uncoma ukuthi kuhlukaniswe iphrojekthi yenhlangano ibe yizicucu ezimnandi.

“Ngisiza abantu ukuthi babheke wonke umsebenzi odinga ukwenziwa… bese siwuhlukanisa ngezigaba ezahlukene. Bese silinganisela okusemqoka emkhakheni ngamunye, bese siqala ngezinga elinciphisa ukukhathazeka kakhulu, ”kuchaza yena.

“Inhloso ukuthi lowo muntu abone wonke umsebenzi, bese ubasiza ukuthi babone ukuthi bangawenza kanjani ngendlela ephathekayo.”

UDiesel uncoma ukunikela ngemizuzu eyi-15 kuya kwengama-20 ngosuku ekwenzeni izinto ezidinga ukwenziwa, njengokuwasha izingubo eziningi noma ukuhlela i-imeyili.

Imvamisa, umzamo omncane ungavuselela ingqondo futhi wakhe umfutho ekukhuliseni umuzwa wesisusa.Kodwa lokho akuhlali kunjalo uma uhlala nenkinga yempilo yengqondo. Yiba nomusa kuwe uma uphuthelwa usuku noma ukwazi ukuzibophezela emizuzwini eyi-10 kuphela.

3. Dedela izinto ezingakusizi

Imfuhlumfuhlu yomzimba ivame ukudala imfuhlumfuhlu engqondweni, ikakhulukazi uma leyo mfuhlumfuhlu ithathe impilo yakho nendawo yakho. Udizili usiza labo abanezinkinga zokuqoqa, babelane ngamathiphu angazuzisa nabangewona ama-hoarders.

“Akukhona kangako ngokuzihlela kepha kumayelana nokuthi bangakhipha kanjani bahlukane nezinto zabo ngaphandle kwamahloni noma icala. Uma lokhu sekufeziwe, ukuhlela ngokuvamile akubi yinkinga, ”usho kanje.

Udizili ugcizelela ukubaluleka kokucabangela ukuthi yini eyenza into ibe “yigugu” ngokweqiniso kunokuthile ocabanga ukuthi kungaba wusizo ngokususelwa kokwesaba noma eminye imizwa.

4. Susa iziphazamiso

Ukuzwela kakhulu kusho ukuthi nginesifo sezinzwa esingasindwa ngokushesha okukhulu. Imisindo emikhulu, inqwaba yemfuhlumfuhlu, nohlu lwezinto okufanele zenziwe obala lungaphazamisa ukugxila kwami ​​ngokushesha futhi kungisuse kunoma iyiphi iphrojekthi engisebenza kuyo.

Lapho ngizihlelela, ngenza indawo engikuyo ibe opholile ngangokunokwenzeka ngokuthula nangokuthula. Ngibeka eceleni isikhathi lapho ngiyazi ukuthi ngeke ngidonswe.

5. Bheka ngeso lengqondo umphumela wokugcina

Kuzo zonke izinselelo zami zempilo yengqondo, ukucindezeleka okwenzeka ngezikhathi ezithile zonyaka yikhona okungenza ngome kunoma yisiphi isisusa sokuhlanza noma sokuhleleka. UDiesel uthi lokho kungenxa yokuthi ukucindezeleka kungadala umqondo ozizwa uhluliwe. Kulokhu, kuyisihluthulelo ukugcizelela umgomo wokugcina.

“Ngisiza abantu ukuthi babone umbono wemphumela wokugcina, futhi sisebenzisa amathuluzi angeziwe ukusiza lowo mbono uphile, noma ngabe kunebhodi yokubuka noma nge-journaling. Inhloso enkulu ukubasiza bazizwe benamandla, ”usho kanje.

Futhi uma konke okunye kwehluleka, khumbula ukuthi ungahlala ucela usizo uma uludinga.

“Abantu abahlupheka ngenxa yokungahleleki kahle komzimba nengqondo ekukhungathekeni, ngakho-ke ukuba nohlelo lokusekelwa namathuluzi okucabanga ongaya kuwo kubaluleke kakhulu ekusimameni. Ukwesekwa kubaluleke kakhulu, ”kusho uDiesel.

UShelby Deering ungumbhali wezindlela zokuphila ezinze eMadison, eWisconsin, oneziqu zobuntatheli. Ugxile ekubhaleni mayelana nokuphila kahle futhi kule minyaka engu-13 edlule ubambe iqhaza ezitolo zikazwelonke okubalwa kuzo iPrevention, Runner’s World, Well + Good, nokuningi. Lapho engabhali, uzomthola ezindla, ecinga imikhiqizo emisha yobuhle bemvelo, noma ehlola imikhondo yasendaweni nomyeni wakhe no-corgi, uGinger.