Ukuhlelela Ikusasa Lakho, Ukuxilongwa Komdlavuza Webele

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• Ukuba ngumzali ngemuva kokuxilongwa
• Umdlavuza nomsebenzi wakho
• Ukuhlela impilo yakho
• Ukuthatha

Ukuzwa amagama athi "unomdlavuza" akuyona into emnandi. Noma ngabe lawo mazwi ashiwo kuwe noma kothandekayo, akuyona into ongayilungiselela.

Umcabango wami osheshayo ngemuva kokutholakala kwami ​​ukuthi, "Ngizoya kanjani ku- _____?" Ngizoba kanjani umzali odingwa yindodana yami? Ngizoqhubeka kanjani nokusebenza? Ngizoyilondoloza kanjani impilo yami?

Ngangimisiwe ngesikhathi ngizama ukuguqula leyo mibuzo nokungabaza kube isenzo, ngingazivumeli ngisho nesikhathi sokucubungula okwakusanda kwenzeka. Kepha ngokuzama nokwenza amaphutha, ukusekelwa abanye, nokuzimisela okukhulu, ngiphendule leyo mibuzo yaba yisenzo.

Nayi imicabango yami, iziphakamiso, namazwi okukhuthaza ukuthi nawe wenze okufanayo.

Ukuba ngumzali ngemuva kokuxilongwa

Into yokuqala ephuma emlonyeni wami lapho udokotela wami wezokwelapha engitshela ukuthi nginomdlavuza webele kwaba ukuthi, “Kodwa nginonyaka owodwa ubudala!”

Ngeshwa, umdlavuza awubandlululi, futhi awunandaba nokuthi unengane. Ngiyazi ukuthi kunzima ukukuzwa lokho, kodwa kuyiqiniso. Kepha ukutholakala unomdlavuza ngenkathi ungumzali kukunikeza ithuba eliyingqayizivele ekuboniseni izingane zakho ukuthi ukunqoba izithiyo kubukeka kanjani.

Nawa amanye amazwi esikhuthazo avela kwabanye abasindile abamangalisayo abangisizile lapho sekufika futhi kusenzima:

• “Mama, unakho lokhu! Sebenzisa ingane yakho njengesikhuthazo sakho sokuqhubeka ulwa! ”
• "KULUNGILE ukuba sengozini phambi kwengane yakho."
• “Yebo, ungacela usizo futhi ube ngumama onamandla kunabo bonke emhlabeni!”
• “KULUNGILE ukuhlala endlini encane bese ukhala. Ukuba ngumzali kunzima, kodwa ukuba umzali onomdlavuza nakanjani kusezingeni elilandelayo! ”
• “Cela umuntu wakho (noma ubani osondelene naye kakhulu) ukuthi akunikeze usuku olulodwa kuwe isonto ngalinye ukuthi enze noma yini ofuna ukuyenza. Akukona okuningi ongakubuza! "
• “Ungakhathazeki ngobubi. Uzoba neminye iminyaka eminingi ukuhlanza! ”
• "Amandla akho azoba ugqozi lwengane yakho."

Umdlavuza nomsebenzi wakho

Ukuqhubeka nokusebenza ngokuxilongwa komdlavuza kuyisinqumo somuntu siqu. Ngokuya ngokutholakala kwakho nomsebenzi, kungenzeka ungakwazi ukuqhubeka nokusebenza. Kimi, ngibusisiwe ukusebenzela inkampani emangalisayo enabantu engisebenza nabo nabaphathi abangisekelayo. Ukuya emsebenzini, ngenkathi kwesinye isikhathi kunzima, ngukubaleka kwami. Inikeza okujwayelekile, abantu engizoxoxa nabo, nokuthile okugcina ingqondo nomzimba wami kumatasa.

Ngezansi kukhona amathiphu wami wokwenza umsebenzi wakho usebenze. Kufanele futhi ukhulume nabasebenzi ngamalungelo abasebenzi bakho uma kukhulunywa ngezifo zomuntu siqu ezinjengomdlavuza, bese usuka lapho.

• Thembeka kumphathi wakho mayelana nokuthi uzizwa kanjani ngokomzwelo nangokomzimba. Abaphathi bangabantu kuphela, futhi abakwazi ukufunda ingqondo yakho. Uma ungathembekile, abakwazi ukukuxhasa.
• Veza obala nabantu osebenza nabo, ikakhulukazi labo osebenza nabo ngqo. Umbono ungokoqobo, ngakho-ke qiniseka ukuthi bayazi ukuthi yini iqiniso lakho.
• Setha imingcele yalokho ofuna abanye enkampanini yakho bazi ngesimo sakho, ukuze uzizwe ukhululekile ehhovisi.
• Zibekele imigomo efinyelelekayo, wabelane ngayo nomphathi wakho, futhi uzenze zibonakale kuwe ukuze uhlale endleleni. Izinjongo azibhalwanga ngomaka unomphela, ngakho-ke qhubeka uzihlola bese uzilungisa njengoba uhamba (vele uqiniseke ukuthi uxhumana nanoma yiziphi izinguquko kumphathi wakho).
• Dala ikhalenda ozolibona osebenza nabo, ukuze bazi ukuthi bakulindele nini ehhovisi. Akudingeki ukuthi ube nemininingwane ethile, kodwa uveze obala ukuze abantu bangazibuzi ukuthi ukuphi.
• Yiba nomusa kuwe. Okubaluleke kakhulu kuwe njalo kufanele kube yimpilo yakho!

Ukuhlela impilo yakho

Phakathi kokuqokwa kukadokotela, ukwelashwa, umsebenzi, umndeni, nokuhlinzwa, kungenzeka kube sengathi usuzolahlekelwa yingqondo. (Ngoba impilo ibingakahlanyi ngokwanele, akunjalo?)

Ngesinye isikhathi ngemuva kokuxilongwa kwami ​​nangaphambi kokuba kuqale ukwelashwa, ngiyakhumbula ngithi kudokotela wami wokuhlinza oncologist, “Uyabona ukuthi nginempilo, akunjalo? Njengokuthi, ngabe akekho umuntu obengangishayela ucingo ngaphambi kokuhlela ukuskena kwami ​​kwe-PET khona kanye phakathi komhlangano womsebenzi enginawo ngesonto elizayo? ” Yebo, ngikushilo lokhu kudokotela wami.

Ngeshwa, izinguquko bezingenziwa, futhi ngigcine sengizivumelanisa nezimo. Lokhu kwenzeke izikhathi eziyizigidi eziyinkulungwane kule minyaka emibili edlule. Iziphakamiso zami ngawe zilandelayo:

• Thola ikhalenda ozoyisebenzisa, ngoba uzoyidinga. Faka konke okukuwo uhambe nakho yonke indawo!
• Yiba okungenani ukuguquguquka okuncane, kepha ungabi oguqukayo kangangokuba uvele ugingqe futhi unikele ngamalungelo akho. Usengaba nempilo!

Kuzoba okukhungathekisayo, okwehlisayo, futhi kwesinye isikhathi, uzofuna ukumemeza phezulu emaphashini akho, kepha ekugcineni uzokwazi ukuphinda ukwazi ukulawula impilo yakho. Ukuqokwa kukaDokotela kuzoyeka ukuba yinto yansuku zonke, yamasonto onke, noma yanyanga zonke, kuphenduke izehlakalo zaminyaka yonke. Ekugcineni unokulawula.

Ngenkathi ungeke ubuzwe njalo ekuqaleni, odokotela bakho bazogcina beqala ukukubuza futhi bakunikeze ukulawula okwengeziwe ukuthi ama-aphoyintimenti akho kanye nokuhlinzwa kwakho kuhlelwe nini.

Ukuthatha

Umdlavuza uzozama njalo ukuphazamisa impilo yakho. Kuzokwenza uhlale ubuza ukuthi uzoyiphila kanjani impilo yakho. Kepha lapho kukhona khona intando, kukhona indlela. Vumela ungene, wenze uhlelo, uxhumane nohlelo lwakho nabantu abasempilweni yakho, bese ulilungisa njengoba uthuthuka.

Njengezinhloso, izinhlelo azibhalwa kumaka unomphela, ngakho-ke ziguqule njengoba kudingeka, bese uzixhumana. O, uwafake ekhalendeni lakho.

Ungakwenza lokhu.

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