Nakhu Kungani Sonke Sikhathazeke Kangaka ngoMeghan Markle

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Umshado wasebukhosini, lapho uMeghan Markle ezoshada khona neNkosana uHarry (uma ngabe ubungazi!), Usele izinsuku ezintathu. Kodwa i-TBH, imibhangqwana izizwa njengomshado womngane wethu omkhulu kunomcimbi wamazwe ngamazwe-izinyanga eziningi, umhlaba ubulokhu umatasatasa ngayo yonke imininingwane, wenza izibikezelo ezingalawuleki kanye nezimayini zezingxoxo zesikhathi esidlule umlingisi azinikeze ngawo wonke amathiphu obuhle nokufaneleka ake wanikeza. (Uma ufuna ukwazi, nansi indlela uMeghan Markle asebenza ngayo ngaphambi komshado wasebukhosini).

Kepha kunjalo hhayi empeleni umshado womngani wakho omkhulu ngemuva kwakho konke-ngakho kungani usahlanya kangaka?

Yebo, izazi zokusebenza kwengqondo zikubiza nge- "celebrity worship syndrome" futhi ngokusho kocwaningo, akukhona konke lokho okungajwayelekile. Ocwaningweni olushicilelwe ku Ijenali YaseBrithani Yezengqondo, abacwaningi bahlukanisa ukukhulekelwa kosaziwayo emikhakheni eminingi. Emazingeni aphansi kakhulu, kufaka phakathi izindlela zakho zokuziphatha eziyisisekelo zokufunda nge-celeb, ukupheqa ngokusebenzisa okuphakelayo kwe-IG, noma ukubabuka (noma umshado wabo) ku-TV. Kepha emazingeni aphakeme kakhulu, ukukhulekelwa kosaziwayo kuthatha imvelo yomuntu uqobo - ucabanga ngemininingwane yezimpilo zabo futhi wazi ukuthi ungubani. Unelisekile ngempumelelo yabo futhi ulinyazwa ukwehluleka kuka-celeb kube sengathi kungokwakho. Endabeni kaMeghan Markle, kubukeka sengathi umhlaba wonke unecala elibucayi lesifo sokukhulekela osaziwayo.

Ngokusho kwezazi zokusebenza kwengqondo, ukukhathazeka kwethu ngokuhlanganyela kungenzeka kungenxa yezinto ezimbalwa. "Ufanekisela inganekwane yokuthi abantu abaningi kumele bakhukhuleke yiPrince Charming," kuchaza uBrandy Engler, Psy.D, ingcweti yezithandani e-LA. Abelaphi bavame ukuchitha isikhathi esiningi bekusiza udedele le mibono engeyona engokoqobo ukuze ubone umlingani wakho njengomuntu wangempela-hhayi njengesixazululo somlingo kuzo zonke izinkathazo zakho nokungavikeleki, usho kanjalo. "Kulokhu, u-Megan Markle ufeza ukugcwaliseka kwesifiso [senganekwane ye-Prince Charming] futhi sonke siyayibona futhi siphile ngokuzimisela," kusho u-Engler.

Iqiniso lokuthi uMeghan Markle ubonakala njengomuntu ozoba umngane wakhe mhlawumbe lengezela kule nto. "UMeghan akazalelwanga engcebweni noma elungelweni," kuchaza uRebecca Hendrix, udokotela wezengqondo ophelele eNew York. "Uyisibonelo sephupho laseMelika lokuthi wasebenza ebhekene nezingqinamba zobuhlanga, ubulili, kanye nomnotho ukuze athole impumelelo." Unomsebenzi oyimpumelelo, irekhodi lokulwela ukufukulwa kwabesifazane kanye nezindaba zempilo yabesifazane emhlabeni jikelele. Futhi ugqoka izicathulo ezinhle, ezithengekayo. (Bheka: Kuphi Ukuthenga Iziketi Ezimhlophe Ezithandwayo ZikaMeghan) "Ngubani ongeke amsize?" Kubuza uHendrix. Engqondweni yakho, ukhula lwenkohlakalo egcwele kothile onalezi zimfanelo ungazizwa kakhulu ngathi uzizinzela wena ngokwakho, usho kanjalo.

Ekugcineni, kunomqondo wokuthi i-duchess yesikhathi esizayo iwuphawu lwethemba nokushintsha-into othanda ukuyikhanga ngokwengqondo. "Ngenxa yokuthi bekungalindeleka ukuthi uHarry ashade nomuntu osondelene nasekhaya emazingeni amaningi, izimpande zomphakathi zale nganekwane yesimanje kanye nombhangqwana wezinhlanga ezimbili nakakhulu njengoba kusinika ithemba loshintsho," kusho u-Hendrix. Lolu hlobo lwethemba le-underdog lunamandla amakhulu kunokuba ungacabanga. "Lokhu kubalulekile kumqondo waseMelika - siyakudinga lokhu," kusho u-Engler. "Kuyasikhuthaza futhi kuyasisiza ukuthi sifise ukuba ngabangcono kakhulu kithina-ngisho noma konke kuwukuzikhohlisa."

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