Ukuvalelwa yedwa Kwenze Wafisa Izinguquko Ezinkulu Zempilo, Kodwa Ingabe Kufanele Ulandele?

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• I-Primed for Action
• Linganisa
• Dlala iJaji neJury
• Musa ukuwela i- "Arrival Fallacy"
• Cabanga Ngesikhathi Eside
• Okokugcina, Cabangela Izindleko Zokungasebenzi
• Buyekeza kwe-

Amathuba ukuthi, njengamanje ucabanga ukuthi kungaba kuhle kanjani ukuthuthela endlini enkulu enamagceke amahle ngemuva. Noma ukuphupha ngokulahla umsebenzi wakho ukuze uthole okuthile okwanelisa kakhulu. Noma ucabanga ukuthi ubudlelwano bakho bungasebenzisa i-revamp. Ngoba uma kukhona into eyodwa eyenza abantu bafune ukuhambisa, noma yikuphi ukunyakaza, kubanjelwe endaweni. Futhi mfana, iningi labantu linamathele.

Ngonyaka nohhafu owedlule, kungenzeka ukuthi izinsuku zakho seziyindilinga engapheli, eyisidina yokusebenza, ukupheka, ukuhlanza nokunakekela izingane zakho noma izilwane ezifuywayo. Inkambo yokuguqula iqala ukuzizwa iyinto kuphela engasindisa ingqondo yakho. Lokho kunengqondo ngokuphelele, kusho u-Jacqueline K. Gollan, Ph.D., uprofesa wesayensi yengqondo neyokuziphatha e-Feinberg School of Medicine e-Northwestern University, ofundela ukwenza izinqumo. “Ushintsho lumema izinto ezintsha ezimpilweni zethu futhi lungadambisa isidina,” usho kanje.

Abantu abaningi benza izinguquko ezithile zokuzamazama komhlaba. Cishe abantu abayizigidi eziyi-9 bathutha ngo-2020, ngokusho kweNational Association of Realtors. Amaphesenti angama-52 abasebenzi abheka ukushintshwa komsebenzi, kanti amaphesenti angama-44 anezinhlelo zawo zokwenza lokho, ngokusho kwamuva Inkampani esheshayo-I-Harris poll. Ubudlelwano buqala futhi buphela. Abantu bafuna uthando (Izinga lomsebenzi we-Dating.com lenyuke ngamaphesenti angama-88 selokhu kwaqala lolu bhubhane), benza izinhlelo zokushada (abacwebecwebe babika ezweni lonke ukuthi ukuthengiswa kwezindandatho zomshado kuyanda), futhi bakubize ngokuthi kuphelile (amaphesenti angama-67 Abasebenzisi be-Dating.com bathi bahlukana ngonyaka odlule).

Lesi bekuyisikhathi sokucabanga ngempela, kusho uMelody Wilding, uprofesa wokuziphatha kwabantu, umqeqeshi omkhulu, nombhali wencwadi entsha Zithembe (Thenga It, $ 34, amazon.com), ophawula ukuthi amaphesenti angama-80 wamakhasimende akhe enza izinguquko ezimpilweni zabo. "Ubhadane lwenze abantu abaningi babuza, 'Ingabe ngenza lokho engifuna ukukwenza ngempela futhi ngichitha isikhathi sami ngendlela egculisayo?'" Usho kanje. "Okokuqala, sinesikhathi esiningi sokucabanga lapho sisekhaya. Ngaphezu kwalokho, ubunzima besimo bukhombise ukuthi impilo ibuthaka kanjani nokuthi isikhathi sethu sinomkhawulo. Lokho kusinike umuzwa wokuphuthuma futhi kwasenza sesha incazelo eyengeziwe."

I-Primed for Action

Kubalulekile ukuqaphela ukuthi akuzona zonke izinguquko phakathi nalesi sikhathi ezenziwe ngokuzikhethela. I-COVID-19 kwaba ukuphazamiseka kokugcina. Abantu balahlekelwe imisebenzi nabathandekayo. Izingcindezi zezimali zaphoqa abanye ukuba bathuthe. Izigidi zabesifazane zashiya abasebenzi ukuze zinakekele izingane zazo ngesikhathi sokuvalwa. Kodwa kulabo ababenenhlanhla yokuzama ngokuzithandela okuthile okuhlukile, isifiso sokwenza kanjalo sasishubile.

Kunesizathu semvelo salokho, ochwepheshe bathi: Ukuhlala ungaguquguquki akuyona imvelo yethu. “Ucwaningo lukhombisa ukuthi abantu bayachema ezenzweni, ngisho noma lokho kungazihluphi,” kusho uGollan. "Sivame ukucabanga ngalokho esingakwenza ukuze sithuthukise izimpilo zethu." Ukuthutha kuba ngcono kunokwenza lutho nhlobo, uthi, nakuba ukungenzi lutho ngezinye izikhathi kuyisinqumo esingcono.

Inkinga ye-COVID iphinde yasebenza njengesiqalo sokuhamba kwabantu abebevele becabanga ngakho. "Kunezigaba zoshintsho," kusho uWilding. "Okokuqala ukucabanga ngaphambi kwesikhathi - lapho ungahlosile ukukwenza. Bese kufika ukucabanga, lapho uqala ukucabanga ngokujulile ngoshintsho. Ngikholelwa ukuthi ubhadane yilo olwalususa abantu kulezi zigaba zokuqala lapho bebekulungele futhi bezibophezele ukuthatha izinyathelo." (Okuhlobene: Ukuhlukaniswa kanjani kungayithinta kanjani impilo yakho yengqondo - kube ngcono)

Lokho kungaba kuhle - nokubi. Uma kwenziwa ngezizathu ezifanele, ushintsho lungakwenza ujabule futhi ube nempilo. Kukubeka endaweni engcono futhi futhi "kufakazela lokho onakho ukukwenza," kusho uWilding. Iqhinga liwukunquma ukuthi yikuphi ukunyakaza okuzokhokha nokuthi yikuphi okumele uhlehle kukho. "Sivame ukucabanga ukuthi ushintsho luzokwenza izinto lube ngcono futhi luxazulule izinkinga zethu," kusho uWilding. "Kodwa lokho akuhlali kunjalo." Nakhu ukuthi wazi kanjani ukuthi ungathatha nini.

Linganisa

Ukuze ubone ukuthi ushintsho lubalulekile yini, qala ngokubeka izinzuzo nezingozi zokwenza ushintsho bese wenza okufanayo ngokungalwenzi, kusho uGollan. "Uma ucabanga ngokushintsha imisebenzi, umthetho olula wokunquma ukuthi isikhathi silungile kulapho inani lezinsuku ezimbi lidlula inani lemihle," kusho uWilding.

Olunye uphawu: Uma uke wazama ukwenza ngcono isimo - mhlawumbe ukhulumile nomphathi wakho noma wazinikela ekuthatheni imithwalo yemfanelo emisha yokucija amakhono akho - kepha awukafiki ndawo. "Uma ungasakhuli endimeni yakho futhi alikho ithuba langempela lokwenza lokho, yisikhathi esihle sokushintsha," kusho uWilding.

Dlala iJaji neJury

Lokhu kusiza kakhulu ezinqumweni ezinkulu. Ake sithi ucabanga ukuzisiphula futhi uthuthele endaweni efudumele, enelanga yezwe. Ngaphambi kokwenza into ebucayi kangaka, "yisa isinqumo enkantolo," kusho uGollan. Thola idatha eningi ngangokunokwenzeka mayelana nokuthutha - izindleko zezindlu endaweni entsha, amathuba omsebenzi lapho, izinhlobo zamathuba ozowathola ukuze uhlangane nabantu futhi wenze abangane abasha - bese ubuyekeza izinhlangothi zombili zesibalo, njengokungathi ungumahluleli, kuyilapho uzama ukukumangalela. Lokhu kuzokunikeza isithombe esigcwele futhi kukusize ubone isimo kuzo zonke izinhlangothi, esho. (Uzofuna ukuhamba ngenqubo efanayo uma uthatha isinqumo sokujoyina inhlangano ye- # VanLife.)

Musa ukuwela i- "Arrival Fallacy"

Ukushintsha isimo ngeke kuthuthukise impilo yakho ngomlingo. "Abantu bacabanga ukuthi uma befika entweni entsha [lokho ochwepheshe abakubiza ngokuthi ukufika kokukhohlisa], bazojabula ngokuzenzekelayo ngenxa yalokho. Kodwa lokho kuyiphupho," kusho uWilding. "Kungenzeka ukuthi uzama ukugwema izinkinga oyohlangana nazo futhi esikhathini esithile." Esikhundleni salokho, sebenzela ukuthuthukisa amakhono owadingayo ukuxazulula inkinga, usho kanjalo. "Qiniseka ukuthi ugijimela ethubeni kunokuba ubalekele inkinga," esho. (Okuhlobene: Ungayishintsha Kanjani Impilo Yakho Ukuze Ibe Ngcono - Ngaphandle Kokungabaza Ngayo)

Cabanga Ngesikhathi Eside

Impela, leyo moto entsha izwakala kahle namhlanje. Kodwa kuthiwani cishe ezinyangeni eziyisithupha kusukela manje, lapho izinkokhelo nezikweletu zomshuwalense zinqwabelana? Noma mhlawumbe ngeke ugcine ngokushayela ngendlela ocabanga ngayo. Ngaphambi kokwenza ushintsho, zibuze: "Kuzokwenzekani izinyathelo ezintathu ezansi nomugqa? Ngikulungele lokhu?" Kusho uGollan.(Okuhlobene: Izinyathelo ezi-2 Okudingeka Uzithathe Uma Ufuna Ukwenza Ushintsho Olukhulu Lokuphila)

Okokugcina, Cabangela Izindleko Zokungasebenzi

Ukungalwenzi ushintsho nakho kunengozi, kusho uWilding. Ungase ucabange: Sengivele ngibeke isikhathi esiningi kulo msebenzi noma kulobu budlelwano, ngakho-ke angikwazi ukushintsha izinto manje.

"Kodwa intengo yokuhlala endaweni ingahle ibe yinjabulo nenhlalakahle yakho. Futhi leyo yinani eliphakeme kakhulu nje," usho njalo. "Cabanga ngempela ukuthi ukungathathi sinyathelo kuzosho ukuthini kuwe."

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