Ubufakazi Bokuthi Awudingi Ubudlelwano Ukuze Ujabule

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Kwabaningi, uSuku lukaValentine lincane ngoshokoledi nama roses kunokuba kungukubona okucacile ukuthi, yebo, awukashadi.Nakuba kufanele wazi ukuthi ukungashadi kunenqwaba yezinzuzo, sithola ukuthi kungase kungabi isimo sakho esihle ngaso sonke isikhathi. Futhi uma uzizwa ungajabulile kangako ngesimo sakho samanje, u-Jennifer Taitz, Psy.D., uchwepheshe wezokwelashwa kokuziphatha kwengqondo kanye nomfundisi wezokwelashwa kwengqondo e-UCLA, wabelana ngokuhlakanipha okuthile encwadini yakhe entsha, Indlela Yokungashadi Futhi Ujabule.

Encwadini, uTaitz uchaza ukuthi ukuba ngumuntu ojabule kakhulu hhayi mayelana nokuthola umaqondana. "Uma kukhulunywa ngokufuna uthando ngesikhathi lapho ubuchwepheshe nezinkambiso ezintsha zingadala imizwa efana nokuthi awunandaba, kubalulekile ukuthi ufunde ukuziphatha kahle," kusho uTaitz. "Ukungashadi akusho ukuthi unephutha futhi udinga ukulungiswa. Ubudlelwano bakho, noma ukuntula kwakho, abuhlangene kangako nokuzibheka kwakho." YAS.

Kuyiqiniso: Ososayensi bezenhlalo (abafunda ngokoqobo injabulo ukuze baziphilise) bathole ukuthi injabulo ihlobene kakhulu nengqondo nemisebenzi yakho, hhayi izimo zakho. Ocwaningweni olwenziwa kubantu abangaphezu kuka-24,000, kwatholakala ukuthi umshado ukhulisa amazinga enjabulo ngokwesilinganiso - kodwa kuphela ngephesenti elilodwa!

Abantu banemizwa eqinile emicimbini emikhulu (njengomshado), kepha abacwaningi bathi ngemuva kokuphela kwenjabulo yokuqala, abantu basheshe babuyela ezingeni labo lokuqala lenhlalakahle. Ukuhumusha: Ubudlelwano bungaba bukhulu, kepha abuyona isihluthulelo senjabulo uma ungajabuli vele.

Uyazi yini kwenza kuthinta injabulo? Umqondo wakho. Uma uzizwa unamathele engqondweni, uTaitz uncoma umkhuba obizwa ngokuthi ukucabangela kwemicabango. Qaphela imicabango yakho, kodwa ukwenze lokho ukude, uqaphela ukuthi iyafika futhi ihambe futhi asikho isidingo sokujaha ngayinye. Izibonelo eziyinhloko zemicabango okufanele uyiyeke lolu suku luka-Valentine: Ngizogcina ngedwa? Kungani engazange aphendule? Yini i-ex yami eyenzayo i-RN?

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