Ukwelashwa Ngocansi: Okufanele Ukwazi

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• Kusebenza kanjani ukwelashwa ngocansi?
• Ngabe ngidinga ukwelashwa ngokocansi?
• Ngimthola kanjani umelaphi wezocansi?
• Okufanele ukwazi ngaphambi kokuqokwa kwakho
• Ukuhambisana
• Solo kuqhathaniswa nombhangqwana
• Ukuphathwa kwezinto
• Uhlelo lokwelashwa
• Ukutholakala komshuwalense
• Okubalulekile

Kuyini ukwelashwa ngocansi?

Ukwelashwa ngocansi luhlobo lokwelashwa kokukhuluma olwenzelwe ukusiza abantu nabashadile ukubhekana nezimo zezokwelapha, ezengqondo, ezomuntu siqu, noma ezomuntu ezithinta ukwaneliseka ngokocansi.

Inhloso yokwelashwa kocansi ukusiza abantu ukuthi basuse izinselelo ezidlule zomzimba nezingokomzwelo ukuze babe nobudlelwano obenelisayo nempilo emnandi yocansi.

Ukungasebenzi ngokocansi kuvamile. Eqinisweni, amaphesenti angama-43 abesifazane kanye namaphesenti angama-31 abesilisa babika ukuhlangabezana nohlobo oluthile lokungasebenzi kahle ngokocansi ngesikhathi sokuphila kwabo. Lokhu kungasebenzi kungafaka:

• ukungasebenzi kahle kwe-erectile
• libido ephansi
• ukungabi nentshisekelo
• ukujula ngaphambi kwesikhathi
• ukuzethemba okuphansi
• ukungabi nempendulo ekuvuseleleni ngokocansi
• ukungakwazi ukufinyelela ku-orgasm
• i-libido eyeqile
• ukwehluleka ukulawula indlela yokuziphatha kwezocansi
• imicabango yocansi ecindezelayo
• izibungu ezingafuneki zocansi

Impilo yocansi egculisayo inempilo futhi iyindalo. Ukusondelana ngokomzimba nangokomzwelo kuyizinto ezibalulekile enhlalakahleni yakho. Lapho kwenzeka ukungasebenzi kahle kwezocansi, ukuba nempilo egculisayo kocansi kungaba nzima.

Ukwelashwa ngokocansi kungakwazi ukukusiza uqambe kabusha izinselelo zakho zocansi futhi wandise ukwaneliseka kwakho ngokocansi.

Kusebenza kanjani ukwelashwa ngocansi?

Ukwelashwa ngokocansi kufana nanoma yiluphi uhlobo lokwelashwa kwengqondo. Uphatha lesi simo ngokukhuluma ngamava akho, izinkathazo nemizwa yakho.

Ngokubambisana nodokotela wakho, bese nisebenzisa izindlela zokubhekana nazo ukusiza ukuthuthukisa izimpendulo zakho esikhathini esizayo ukuze ube nempilo yocansi enempilo.

Ngesikhathi sokuqokwa kwakho kokuqala, umelaphi wakho uzokhuluma nawe noma nawe noma umlingani wakho ndawonye. Umelaphi ukhona ukukuqondisa nokusiza ukucubungula inselelo yakho yamanje:

• Abekho ukuthatha uhlangothi lomuntu oyedwa noma ukusiza ukuncenga noma ngubani.
• Futhi, wonke umuntu uzogqoka izingubo zakhe. Umelaphi wezocansi ngeke abe nobuhlobo bobulili nanoma ngubani noma akhombise noma ngubani ukuthi enza kanjani ucansi.

Ngeseshini ngayinye, umelaphi wakho uzoqhubeka nokukusundisela ekuphathweni okungcono nokwamukela ukukhathazeka kwakho okungaholela ekungasebenzi kahle ngokocansi. Konke ukwelashwa kokukhuluma, kufaka phakathi nokwelashwa kocansi, kuyisisekelo esisekelayo futhi semfundo.

Kwenzelwe ukunikeza induduzo nokukhuthaza ushintsho. Cishe uzoshiya ihhovisi lomelaphi wakho nezabelo nomsebenzi okufanele ukwenze ngaphambi kokuqokwa kwakho okulandelayo.

Uma umelaphi wakho esola ukungasebenzi kahle okubhekene nakho kungumphumela wokukhathazeka ngokocansi ngokomzimba, bangakudlulisela kudokotela wezokwelapha.

Udokotela wakho nodokotela bangaxhumana ngezimpawu nezimpawu zakho futhi basebenze ukusiza ukuthola noma yikuphi ukukhathazeka okungaba nomthelela ezinkingeni ezinkulu zocansi.

Ngabe ngidinga ukwelashwa ngokocansi?

Enye indlela yokunquma ukuthi ngabe udinga ukubona umelaphi wezocansi esikhundleni solunye uhlobo lwengcweti yokukhuluma ukuhlaziya ukuthi yiziphi izingxenye zempilo yakho ezithinteka kakhulu yindlela ozizwa ngayo njengamanje.

Uma ikhwalithi yakho yempilo nempilo engokomzwelo ithinteka kakhulu ngokungasebenzi kwakho ngokocansi, kungumbono omuhle ukubona owelapha ngokocansi. Ngokunjalo, uma ukuntuleka kobuhlobo obusondelene noma ubunzima bokuxhumana nomlingani wakho kuholela njengokukhathazeka kwakho okungathi sína kakhulu, umelaphi wezocansi uyindawo ozoqala ngayo.

Ngimthola kanjani umelaphi wezocansi?

Umelaphi wezocansi oqinisekisiwe angaba ngudokotela wezifo zengqondo onelayisense, isazi sokusebenza kwengqondo, umshado nomelaphi womndeni, noma usonhlalakahle wasemtholampilo. Labo ngoti bezempilo yengqondo bathola ukuqeqeshwa okwengeziwe kwezocansi kwabantu ukuze bavunyelwe njengompetha wezocansi oqinisekisiwe.

Qala usesho lwakho ne-American Association of Sexuality Educators, Counsellors, and Therapists (AASECT). Le nhlangano ibhekele ukwengamela ukuqeqeshwa komtholampilo kwabasebenza ngezempilo yezocansi. Baphinde baphathe imininingwane yalaba bahlinzeki bokunakekelwa kwezempilo.

Uma othile enelayisense futhi eqinisekisiwe, uzokwazi ukubathola nge-AASECT.

Ungenza futhi i-Google noma i-Psychology Today useshe abelaphi endaweni yakho noma ushayele isibhedlela sendawo noma ihhovisi lezemfundo lomphakathi. Eziningi zalezi zinhlangano zizohlinzeka ngenjabulo imininingwane ngabelaphi bezocansi kwinethiwekhi yabo yesibhedlela.

Ungabuza nenkampani yakho yomshuwalense. Bangakwazi ukukunikeza uhlu lwamagama abelaphi bezocansi abaqinisekisiwe. Ungasebenza ngokusebenzisa uhlu kuze kube yilapho uthola owelapha ngokocansi omfunayo.

Uma ungathanda isincomo somuntu siqu, khuluma nomhlinzeki wakho wezokunakekelwa kwempilo, udokotela wezifo zabesifazane, noma udokotela womchamo. Odokotela abaningi bahlangane futhi batusa abelaphi bezocansi ezigulini zabo nsuku zonke. Bangakwazi ukukuqondisa kumhlinzeki onesitayela sakhe esihambisana kakhulu nesakho.

Ungase futhi ukukhuluma nabangane bakho. Ukuletha imininingwane esondelene kungaba nzima kwabanye abantu, kepha uma ukhululekile ukubuza umngani, bangakwazi ukuncoma udokotela wena nomlingani wakho eningamethemba.

Okufanele ukwazi ngaphambi kokuqokwa kwakho

Lapho usukulungele ukuqala ukwelashwa ngocansi, gcina lezi zinto ezinhlanu engqondweni njengoba ulungiselela ukunquma ukuthi uzohlangana nobani ukuze uthole ukwelashwa.

Ukuhambisana

Abelaphi bahlukile. Ukwelashwa okuphumelelayo kuncike kakhulu ekutheni ukhuluma kanjani kahle nodokotela wakho nokuthi ubethemba kangakanani nesiqondiso sabo sokukusiza ezinkingeni zakho.

Uma ungazizwa ukhululekile ngomelaphi wezocansi nganoma yisiphi isikhathi, funa omunye.

Solo kuqhathaniswa nombhangqwana

Awudingi ukuletha umlingani wakho ekwelashweni kocansi. Kwabanye abantu, ukwelashwa ngocansi olulodwa kwanele ukubhekana nokukhathazeka. Kwabanye, ukuba nabantu bobabili abakhona ngesikhathi sokwelapha kungasiza ekuthuthukiseni ukwaneliseka nokwakha ukuxhumana okuqinile.

Khuluma nomlingani wakho mayelana nokukhetha kwakho ukuqala ukwelashwa. Uma ungathanda ukuthi babandakanyeke, buza.

Ukuphathwa kwezinto

Lapho uthatha isinqumo ngomelaphi wezocansi, kubalulekile ukugcina engqondweni ukuthi likuphi ihhovisi lomelaphi wakho nokuthi kulula kangakanani ukufika kuwe. Kungenzeka ukuthi uhambela ama-aphoyintimenti ngesikhathi sehora lakho lesidlo sasemini, ngemuva komsebenzi, noma ngezinsuku ezingahleliwe lapho unehora lamahhala.

Abanye abelaphi baphinde banikeze izikhathi ze-telehealth, ngakho-ke ungakwazi ukuhlangana nabo online kusuka endlini yakho.

Qiniseka ukuthi kulula ukufinyelela ehhovisi likadokotela wakho, noma ungazithola udala izaba zokukugwema.

Uhlelo lokwelashwa

Ngesikhathi sokuqokwa kwakho kokuqala, umelaphi wakho cishe uzodlula nawe uhlelo lokuqala lokwelashwa. Kubantu abaningi nakubashadikazi, izikhathi eziningi ziyadingeka ekuqaleni.

Kodwa-ke, uma ukwelashwa sekwenze umehluko omkhulu futhi owelapha wakho ezizwa enethemba lokuthi ungabhekana nezinselelo ezizayo, ungakhishwa ekunakekelweni ngudokotela wakho.

Ukutholakala komshuwalense

Akuzona zonke izinhlobo zomshuwalense wezempilo ezizobhekela ukwelashwa kwengqondo. Labo abayihlanganisayo bangaba nezidingo ezikhethekile noma umuntu adonswe.

Qinisekisa imininingwane yakho yomshuwalense nenkampani yakho yomshuwalense ngaphambi kokuya lapho ubekwe khona ukuze ukwazi ukulungela ukutshalwa kwezimali.

Okubalulekile

Impilo yocansi egculisayo ibalulekile empilweni yakho ngezizathu eziningi. Izinto ezingokomzimba nezingokomzwelo zempilo enempilo yocansi zinezinzuzo ezifinyelela kude, kufaka phakathi umfutho wegazi ophansi, impilo yenhliziyo engcono, nokwehla kwengcindezi. Ubulili futhi buyinto yemvelo, ejabulisayo yokuphila.

Kodwa-ke, kwabanye abantu, ucansi luyimbangela yokukhathazeka okukhulu nokukhathazeka. Ukungasebenzi kahle ngokocansi kungaholela ebudlelwaneni obunzima, ukungazethembi, neminye imiphumela emibi eminingi.

Ukwelashwa ngokocansi kuyindlela yokuhlanganisa yokwelapha nokuqeda izinselelo ezingaphansi. Lokhu kukhathazeka kungaba ngokomzimba, njengokujikeleza okuphansi. Zingahle futhi zibe ukukhathazeka ngokwengqondo, njengokukhathazeka, ingcindezi nezinkinga zokuzethemba.

Ukwelashwa ngezocansi kungasiza abantu nabashadile ukuthola indlela yokuxhumana okuvulelekile nokwethembeka ukuze bakwazi ukubhekana nanoma yikuphi ukukhathazeka noma izinselelo zokuthola impilo enempilo, ejabulisayo yezocansi.