Impostor syndrome: iyini, ungayikhomba kanjani nokuthi wenzeni

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• Ungayibona kanjani
• 1. Udinga ukuzama kanzima kakhulu
• 2. Ukuzilimaza
• 3. Hlehlisa imisebenzi
• 4. Ukwesaba ukuvezwa obala
• 5. Ukuqhathanisa nabanye
• 6. Ukufuna ukujabulisa wonke umuntu
• Okufanele ngikwenze

I-Impostor syndrome, ebizwa nangokuthi ukungathembeki okuvikelayo, ukuphazamiseka kwengqondo okuthi, nakuba kungahlukaniswa njengesifo sengqondo, kufundwe kabanzi. Izimpawu ezivezwa imvamisa ziyizimpawu ezifanayo ezitholakala nakwezinye izifo ezinjengokudangala, ukukhathazeka nokuzethemba okuphansi, isibonelo.

Lesi sifo sivame kakhulu kubantu abanemisebenzi yokuncintisana, njengabasubathi, abaculi nosomabhizinisi noma emisebenzini lapho abantu bahlolwa futhi bahlolwe khona ngaso sonke isikhathi, njengezindawo zezempilo nezemfundo, futhi kuvame ukuthinta okungaphephi kakhulu kanye nabantu abangazethembi.ezifaka ngaphakathi ukugxeka nokwehluleka.

Kodwa-ke, noma ngubani angaba nale syndrome, futhi kunoma yisiphi isikhathi, kuvame kakhulu lapho umuntu esesimweni sokuba yisisulu sokwahlulela kokusebenza, njengalapho ethola iphromoshini emsebenzini noma eqala iphrojekthi entsha.

Ungayibona kanjani

Abantu abahlushwa i-impostor syndrome ngokuvamile babonisa oku-3 noma ngaphezulu kokuziphatha okulandelayo:

1. Udinga ukuzama kanzima kakhulu

Umuntu one-impostor syndrome ukholelwa ukuthi udinga ukusebenza kanzima, kakhulu ukwedlula abanye abantu, ukuthethelela impumelelo yakhe futhi ngoba ucabanga ukuthi wazi okuncane kunabanye. Ukuphelela nokusebenza ngokweqile kusetshenziselwa ukuthethelela ukusebenza, kepha kubangela ukukhathazeka okukhulu nokukhathala.

2. Ukuzilimaza

Abantu abanalesi sifo bakholelwa ukuthi ukwehluleka akunakugwenywa nokuthi nganoma yisiphi isikhathi othile onolwazi uzokuveza phambi kwabanye. Ngakho-ke, noma unganakile, ungakhetha ukuzama okuncane, ugweme ukusebenzisa amandla wento okholelwa ukuthi ngeke isebenze futhi kunciphise amathuba okwahlulelwa abanye abantu.

3. Hlehlisa imisebenzi

Laba bantu bangahlala behlehlisa umsebenzi noma beshiya ama-aphoyintimenti abalulekile kuze kube umzuzu wokugcina. Kujwayelekile futhi ukuthatha isikhathi esiphezulu ukufeza lezi zibopho, futhi konke lokhu kwenziwa ngenhloso yokugwema isikhathi sokuhlaziywa noma sokugxekwa ngale misebenzi.

4. Ukwesaba ukuvezwa obala

Kuvamile ukuthi abantu abane-impostor syndrome bahlale bebalekela izikhathi lapho bangahlolwa noma bagxekwe. Ukukhethwa kwemisebenzi nobungcweti kuvame ukususelwa kulezo ezingeke zibonakale kangako, okugwema ukubhekelwa ukuhlolwa.

Uma kuhlolwe, kukhombisa amandla amakhulu okujivaza impumelelo etholakele nokudumisa abanye abantu.

5. Ukuqhathanisa nabanye

Ukuba ngumuntu ofuna amaphutha, ofuna ngenkani kuwe njalo ucabange ukuthi uphansi noma wazi kancane kunabanye, kuze kufike ezingeni lokuthatha konke okuhle kwakho, ngezinye zezici eziyinhloko zalesi sifo. Kungenzeka ukuthi umuntu acabange ukuthi akakaze alunge ngokwanele maqondana nabanye, okudala usizi oluningi nokunganeliseki.

6. Ukufuna ukujabulisa wonke umuntu

Ukuzama ukubonakala kahle, ukulwela ukuthonya abantu kanye nesidingo sokujabulisa wonke umuntu, ngaso sonke isikhathi, kuyizindlela zokuzama ukuthola ukwamukelwa, futhi ngalokho ungazehlisa nezimo ezilulazayo.

Ngaphezu kwalokho, umuntu one-impostor syndrome udlula ezikhathini zokuxineka okukhulu nokukhathazeka ngoba ukholelwa ukuthi, nganoma yisiphi isikhathi, abantu abanekhono kakhulu bazomfaka esikhundleni sakhe noma bamdalule. Ngakho-ke, kujwayelekile kakhulu ukuthi laba bantu bahlakulele izimpawu zokukhathazeka nokudangala.

Okufanele ngikwenze

Uma kwenzeka kutholakala izici ze-impostor syndrome, kubalulekile ukuthi lowo muntu abhekane nezikhathi zokwelashwa kwengqondo ukusiza umuntu afake amakhono namakhono akhe, kunciphise umuzwa wokuthi uyinkohliso. Ngaphezu kwalokho, ezinye izimo zengqondo zingasiza ukulawula izimpawu zalesi sifo, njenge:

• Yiba nomeluleki, noma umuntu onolwazi oluningi futhi onokwethenjelwa ongacela kuye imibono nezeluleko eziqotho;
• Yabelana ngokukhathazeka noma ukukhathazeka nomngane;
• Yamukela ukushiyeka kwakho nezimfanelo zakho, futhi ugweme ukuziqhathanisa nabanye;
• Hlonipha ukulinganiselwa kwakho, ungazibekeli imigomo noma izibopho ezingafinyeleleki ezingafinyeleleki;
• Yamukela ukuthi ukwehluleka kwenzeka kunoma ngubani, bese ufuna ukufunda kubo;
• Ukuba nomsebenzi owuthandayo, okunikeza ugqozi nokwaneliseka.

Ukwenza imisebenzi ekwazi ukuqeda ingcindezi nokukhathazeka, ukuthuthukisa ukuzethemba nokukhuthaza ukuzazi, njenge-yoga, ukuzindla nokuzivocavoca umzimba, ngaphezu kokutshala imali ngesikhathi sokuphumula kuyasiza kakhulu ekwelapheni lolu hlobo lokuguqulwa kwengqondo.