Okufanele Ukwazi Ngezigaba Zosizi

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• Zavelaphi izigaba zosizi?
• Ngabe usizi luhlala lulandela ukuhleleka okufanayo kwezigaba?
• Isigaba 1: Ukuphika
• Izibonelo zesigaba sokwenqaba
  
• Isigaba 2: Intukuthelo
• Izibonelo zesigaba sentukuthelo
  
• Isigaba 3: Ukuxoxisana
• Izibonelo zesigaba sokuxoxisana
  
• Isigaba 4: Ukudangala
• Izibonelo zesigaba sokudangala
  
• Isigaba 5: Ukwamukelwa
• Izibonelo zesigaba sokwamukela
  
• Izigaba eziyi-7 zosizi
• Ukuthatha
• Lezi zinsiza zingasiza:
  

Ukubuka konke

Usizi lukhona jikelele. Esikhathini esithile empilweni yawo wonke umuntu, kuzoba nokuhlangana okungenani okukodwa nosizi. Kungenzeka kusuka ekufeni kothandekayo, ukuphelelwa umsebenzi, ukuphela kobudlelwano, noma olunye uguquko oluguqula impilo njengoba wazi.

Ukudabuka nakho kuyimfihlo. Akucocekile kakhulu noma kuqondile. Akulandeli noma yimiphi imigqa yesikhathi noma amashejuli. Ungakhala, uthukuthele, uhoxe, uzizwe ungenalutho. Azikho kulezi zinto ezingajwayelekile noma ezingalungile. Wonke umuntu udabuka ngendlela ehlukile, kepha kunokunye okujwayelekile ezigabeni nokuhleleka kwemizwa etholwa usizi.

Zavelaphi izigaba zosizi?

Ngo-1969, udokotela wezifo zengqondo waseSwitzerland naseMelika ogama lakhe lingu-Elizabeth Kübler-Ross wabhala encwadini yakhe ethi “On Death and Dying” ukuthi usizi lungahlukaniswa lube izigaba ezinhlanu. Ukubona kwakhe kwavela eminyakeni yokusebenza nabantu abagulela ukufa.

Umbono wakhe wosizi waziwa njengemodeli kaKübler-Ross. Ngenkathi ekuqaleni yayenzelwe abantu ababegula, lezi zigaba zosizi zishintshelwe ezinye izipiliyoni ngokulahlekelwa, futhi.

Izigaba ezinhlanu zosizi zingaziwa kakhulu, kodwa kukude kuphela nezigaba ezithandwayo zemfundiso yosizi. Ziningi nezinye ezikhona, kufaka phakathi ezinezigaba eziyisikhombisa kanti ezinezimbili nje.

Ngabe usizi luhlala lulandela ukuhleleka okufanayo kwezigaba?

Izigaba ezinhlanu zosizi yilezi:

• ukuphika
• intukuthelo
• ukuxoxisana
• ukudana
• ukwamukelwa

Akuwona wonke umuntu ozohlangabezana nazo zonke izigaba ezinhlanu, futhi kungenzeka ungadluli kuzo ngale ndlela.

Usizi lwehlukile kuwo wonke umuntu, ngakho-ke ungaqala ukubhekana nokulahlekelwa esigabeni sokuxoxisana bese uzithola uthukuthele noma uphika ngokulandelayo. Ungahlala izinyanga kwesinye sezigaba ezinhlanu kepha weqe ezinye ngokuphelele.

Isigaba 1: Ukuphika

Usizi luwumuzwa okhungathekisayo. Akuyona into engavamile ukuphendula imizwa ejulile futhi evame ukuzuma ngokwenza sengathi ukulahleka noma ushintsho akwenzeki. Ukuyiphika kukunika isikhathi sokumunca izindaba kancane kancane bese uqala ukuzicubungula. Le yindlela ejwayelekile yokuzivikela futhi ikusiza ukuba ukhululeke ekufikeni kwesimo.

Njengoba uphuma esigabeni sokwenqaba, noma kunjalo, imizwa obukade uyifihlile izoqala ukukhuphuka. Uzobhekana nosizi oluningi oluphikile. Lokho futhi kuyingxenye yohambo losizi, kepha kungaba nzima.

Izibonelo zesigaba sokwenqaba

• Ukwehlukana noma isehlukaniso: “Bacasukile nje. Lokhu kuzophela kusasa. ”
• Ukulahlekelwa umsebenzi: “Benza iphutha. Bazofona kusasa bathi bayangidinga. ”
• Ukushona kothandekayo: “Akahambanga. Uzoza ekhoneni noma yimuphi umzuzwana. ”
• Ukuxilongwa kwesifo se-Terminal: “Lokhu akwenzeki kimi. Imiphumela ayilungile. ”

Isigaba 2: Intukuthelo

Lapho ukwenqaba kungathathwa njengendlela yokubhekana, intukuthelo ingumthelela wokufihla ubuso. Intukuthelo ifihla imizwelo nobuhlungu obuningi obuthwele. Le ntukuthelo ingahle iqondiswe kwabanye abantu, njengomuntu oshonile, i-ex yakho, noma umphathi wakho wakudala. Ungahle ukhombe intukuthelo yakho ezintweni ezingaphili.

Ngenkathi ubuchopho bakho obunengqondo buyazi ukuthi into yentukuthelo yakho ayinacala, imizwa yakho kulowo mzuzu inamandla kakhulu ukuthi ungakuzwa lokho.

Intukuthelo ingazifihla ngemizwa efana nentukuthelo noma intukuthelo. Kungase kungabi ukucasuka okucacile noma ukufutheka. Akuwona wonke umuntu ozobhekana nalesi sigaba, kanti abanye bangahlala lapha. Njengoba intukuthelo idamba, noma kunjalo, ungaqala ukucabanga okunengqondo ngokwenzekayo futhi uzwe imizwa obukade uyiphonsela eceleni.

Izibonelo zesigaba sentukuthelo

• Ukuhlukana noma isehlukaniso: “Ngiyamzonda! Uzozisola ngokungishiya! ”
• Ukulahlekelwa umsebenzi: “Bangabaphathi abesabekayo. Ngiyethemba bazohluleka. ”
• Ukushona kothandekayo: "Ukube uzinakekele kakhulu, lokhu bekungeke kwenzeke."
• Ukuxilongwa kwesifo esibulalayo: “Uphi uNkulunkulu kulokhu? UNkulunkulu angalokotha kanjani avumele lokhu kwenzeke! ”

Isigaba 3: Ukuxoxisana

Ngesikhathi sosizi, ungazizwa usengozini futhi ungenalusizo. Kulezo zikhathi zemizwa enamandla, akuvamile ukuthi ufune izindlela zokuphinda ukwazi ukulawula noma ukufuna ukuzizwa sengathi ungathinta umphumela womcimbi. Esigabeni sokuxoxisana ngosizi, ungazithola udala izitatimende eziningi "kuthiwani uma" nokuthi "uma nje".

Akuvamile futhi ukuthi abantu abakholwayo bazame ukwenza isivumelwano noma ukuthembisa uNkulunkulu noma amandla aphakeme ukubuyisela ukwelashwa noma ukukhululeka osizini nasebuhlungwini. Ukuxoxisana kungumugqa wokuzivikela emizweni yosizi. Kukusiza ukuhlehlisa ukudabuka, ukudideka, noma ukulimala.

Izibonelo zesigaba sokuxoxisana

• Ukwehlukana noma isehlukaniso: “Ukube nje bengichithe isikhathi esiningi naye, ngabe uhlala.”
• Ukulahlekelwa umsebenzi: “Ukube nje bengisebenze izimpelasonto eziningi, bebengabona ukuthi ngibaluleke kangakanani.”
• Ukushona kothandekayo: "Ukube bengimthinte ngalobobusuku, ngabe akekho."
• Ukuxilongwa kwesifo esibulalayo: “Ukube sasheshe saya kudokotela, besingakuyeka lokhu.”

Isigaba 4: Ukudangala

Ngenkathi intukuthelo nokuxoxisana kungazizwa “kusebenza” kakhulu, ukucindezeleka kungazizwa njengesigaba “sokuthula” sosizi.

Ezigabeni zokuqala zokulahleka, ungahle ubalekele imizwa, uzame ukuhlala isinyathelo ngaphambi kwabo. Ngaleli phuzu, noma kunjalo, ungakwazi ukuwamukela futhi usebenze ngawo ngendlela enempilo. Ungakhetha futhi ukuzihlukanisa nabanye ukuze ubhekane ngokuphelele nokulahlekelwa.

Lokho akusho, noma kunjalo, ukuthi ukucindezeleka kulula noma kuchazwa kahle. Njengezinye izigaba zosizi, ukucindezeleka kungaba nzima futhi kumosheke. Kungazizwa kungaphezu kwamandla. Ungazizwa unenkungu, usinda futhi udidekile.

Ukudangala kungazizwa njengendawo yokufika engagwemeki yokulahleka. Kodwa-ke, uma uzizwa unamathele lapha noma kubonakala sengathi awudluli kulesi sigaba sosizi, khuluma nesazi sezempilo yengqondo. Umelaphi angakusiza usebenze ngalesi sikhathi sokubhekana.

Izibonelo zesigaba sokudangala

• Ukwehlukana noma isehlukaniso: “Kungani uqhubeka nje?”
• Ukulahlekelwa ngumsebenzi: "Angazi ukuthi ngizoqhubekela kanjani ngisuka lapha."
• Ukufa kothandekayo: “Ngiyini ngaphandle kwakhe?”
• Ukuxilongwa kwesifo esibulalayo: “Impilo yami yonke ifinyelela kulesi siphetho esibi.”

Isigaba 5: Ukwamukelwa

Ukwamukelwa akusona isigaba sosizi esijabulisayo noma esakhayo. Akusho ukuthi usudlulise usizi noma ukulahlekelwa. Kodwa-ke, kusho ukuthi usuyamukele futhi usuyazwisisa ukuthi kusho ukuthini empilweni yakho manje.

Ungazizwa wehluke kakhulu kulesi sigaba. Kulindeleke ngokuphelele lokho. Ube noshintsho olukhulu empilweni yakho, futhi lokho kukhuphula indlela ozizwa ngayo ngezinto eziningi. Bheka ekwamukelweni njengendlela yokubona ukuthi kungahle kube nezinsuku ezinhle kunezimbi, kepha kusengaba kubi - futhi lokho kulungile.

Izibonelo zesigaba sokwamukela

• Ukwehlukana noma isehlukaniso: “Ekugcineni, lokhu kube ukukhetha okunempilo kimi.”
• Ukulahleka kwemisebenzi: "Ngizokwazi ukuthola indlela eya phambili ukusuka lapha futhi ngingaqala indlela entsha."
• Ukushona kothandekayo: “Nginenhlanhla yokuba neminyaka eminingi kangaka enhle naye, futhi uyohlale ekhumbula.”
• Ukuxilongwa kwesifo esibulalayo: “Nginethuba lokubopha izinto futhi ngiqiniseke ukuthi ngenza engikufunayo kula masonto nezinyanga zokugcina.”

Izigaba eziyi-7 zosizi

Izigaba eziyisikhombisa zosizi zingenye imodeli ethandwayo yokuchaza okuhlangenwe nakho okuningi okuyinkimbinkimbi kokulahlekelwa. Lezi zigaba eziyisikhombisa zifaka:

• Ukushaqeka nokuphika. Lesi yisimo sokungakholelwa nemizwa enamazinyo.
• Ubuhlungu nokuzizwa unecala. Ungase ube nomuzwa wokuthi ukulahlekelwa akubekezeleleki nokuthi wenza izimpilo zabanye abantu zibe nzima ngenxa yemizwa nezidingo zakho.
• Intukuthelo nokuxoxisana. Ungahle uphahle, utshele uNkulunkulu noma amandla aphezulu ukuthi uzokwenza noma yini abakucelayo uma bezokunika ukukhululeka kule mizwa.
• Ukucindezeleka. Lesi kungaba yisikhathi sokuhlukaniswa nesizungu lapho ucubungula futhi ucabange ngokulahleka.
• Ithuba eliphezulu. Kuleli qophelo, izigaba zosizi ezifana nentukuthelo nobuhlungu seziwile, futhi usale usesimweni esinokuthula nokuzola.
• Ukwakha kabusha nokusebenza. Ungaqala ukubeka izingcezu zempilo yakho ndawonye futhi uqhubekele phambili.
• Ukwamukelwa nethemba. Lokhu kwamukelwa kancane kancane kwendlela entsha yokuphila kanye nomuzwa wokuthi kungenzeka esikhathini esizayo.

Njengesibonelo, lokhu kungaba ukwethulwa kwezigaba ezivela ekuhlukaneni noma kwesehlukaniso:

• Ukushaqeka nokuphika: “Ngempela ubengeke akwenze lokhu kimi. Uzobona ukuthi wenze iphutha futhi uzobuya lapha kusasa. ”
• Ubuhlungu nokuzizwa enecala: “Angayenza kanjani le nto kimi? Uzicabangela kangakanani? Ngikumoshile kanjani lokhu? ”
• Intukuthelo nokuxoxisana: “Uma enganginikeza elinye ithuba, ngizoba isoka elingcono. Ngizomhlonipha futhi ngimnikeze konke akubuzayo. ”
• Ukudangala: “Angisoze ngaba nobunye ubuhlobo. Ngihlulekile ukwehluleka wonke umuntu. "
• Ithuba ebheke phezulu: “Ukuphela bekunzima, kepha bekungaba khona indawo ngokuzayo lapho bengingazibona ngikobunye ubuhlobo khona.”
• Ukwakha kabusha nokusebenza: "Ngidinga ukuhlola lobo budlelwano ngifunde emaphutheni ami."
• Ukwamukelwa nethemba: “Kuningi engingakunikeza omunye umuntu. Kumele ngihlangane nabo. ”

Ukuthatha

Isihluthulelo sokuqonda usizi ukubona ukuthi akekho ohlangabezana nento efanayo. Usizi luyinto yomuntu siqu, futhi ungahle uzizwe okuthile okuhlukile njalo. Ungadinga amasonto ambalwa, noma usizi lungahle lube yiminyaka.

Uma uthatha isinqumo sokuthi udinga usizo lokubhekana nemizwa nezinguquko, uchwepheshe wezempilo yengqondo uyinsiza enhle yokuhlola imizwa yakho nokuthola umuzwa wokuqiniseka kule mizwa esindayo nesindayo.

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