Ukuhlala NgoLwesihlanu Ebusuku Kusemthethweni Umkhuba Wamuva Wephathi

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Ukuzinakekela kukwi-radar yawo wonke umuntu, okuyizindaba ezinhle zobuchopho bethu obusebenze ngokweqile, nobuchwepheshe. AmaCelebs afana noJennifer Aniston, uLucy Hale, no-Ayesha Curry bakhulume ngokuthi ukuzinakekela kubasiza kanjani ukufeza izinhloso zabo ngenkathi behlala benengqondo. (Qaphela: Ibhalansi yempilo yefoni iyinto, futhi mhlawumbe awunayo.)

Ingxenye enkulu yokuzinakekela ukwazi imingcele yakho nokuqonda kwakho lapho sekuyisikhathi sokubeka izinhlelo zomphakathi ngenhloso yokuhlala. Lo mbono usuthandwa kakhulu, empeleni, ukuthi kukhona umphakathi wonke oku-inthanethi ozinikele kuwo, obizwa nge-Girls ' I-Night In Club, ethumela incwadi yezindaba yamasonto onke yazo zonke izinto ezinhle kakhulu ongazenza, ufunde futhi ubone ukuthi uhlala nini. Zihlela namakilabhu amabhuku e-IRL amalungu amalungu emadolobheni ayishumi emhlabeni jikelele. Leli qembu njengamanje linamalungu ayi-100 000 phakathi kwababhalisele izincwadi zabo nabalandeli bezinkundla zokuxhumana. (Abangaphezu kwesigamu sabesifazane abayizinkulungwane zeminyaka bazinakekele isinqumo sabo sonyaka omusha sango-2018.)

"Ngiqale i-Girls 'Night In ngoba lapho sengineminyaka engama-20, ngazithola sengiphuma kancane futhi ngimema abangani bami ngobusuku obuseduze kakhulu, kungaba ngeziphuzo kanye ne-movie, noma ukuzijabulisa nje nokuxoxa , "kusho umsunguli we-GNI u-Alisha Ramos.

Zisuka nje, ubefuna ikilabhu linikeze okuthile okuhluke kancane kunamasu ajwayelekile okuzinakekela. "Kunokugxila kakhulu ohlangothini lwezimpahla ezibonakalayo zokuzinakekela (njengamabhomu okugeza, ukunakekelwa kwesikhumba, njll.), okuyizinto zonke engizithandayo, kodwa ngabona ukuntuleka kokugxila ekuthuthukiseni ukuxhumana nobudlelwano obunenjongo. impilo enhle ngokwengqondo kufanele ibalwe ngokulingana nokuphila kahle komzimba. " Ngamanye amazwi, i-GNI imayelana nazo zonke izinto ezijwayelekile ozicabangayo uma ucabanga ngokuzinakekela *kanye* ngokuhlakulela umuzwa onenjongo womphakathi.

Ochwepheshe bezempilo yengqondo bagibele: "Ukuhlala kunganikeza inzuzo enkulu yokwelashwa," kusho uDayna M. Kurtz, usonhlalakahle onelayisense nomqondisi we-Anna Keefe Women's Center e-Training Institute for Mental Health.

“Ukukhetha ukuba wedwa kungakunikeza ithuba lokubuyisela ukunaka kwakho ngaphakathi, ukuze uvuseleleke ngokomzimba nangokomzwelo, futhi, ekugcineni, uthole injabulo enkulu nokwaneliseka lapho uphuma futhi,” kusho uKurtz. "Ngigqugquzela abesifazane ukuthi bavimbe okungenani izinsuku ezimbalwa zempelasonto noma kusihlwa ngenyanga ukuze 'bazijwayeze," njengengxenye yenqubo ejwayelekile yokugcinwa kwezempilo. "

Izinzuzo zingokoqobo: "Isikhathi sodwa sibalulekile kimi; yindlela engiqabula ngayo futhi ngithole amandla," kusho uKhalilah, 35, owelaphi ozinze eNew Jersey. "Ngemuva kwalokho, ngizizwa ngivuselelwe futhi ngicasukile, ngingakwazi ukuxazulula izinkinga kangcono, futhi kuyangijabulisa ukuba phakathi kwabantu."

"Njengoba ngikhula, ngabona ukuthi ukwesaba ukuphuthelwa akubalulekile empilweni yami njengoba kwakunjalo," kusho uDontaira, 32, usomaqhinga wezokuxhumana ozinze eFlorida. "Okubalulekile kimi ukufaka amandla amasha kabusha nokubala kabusha. Lokhu kubandakanya ukuba sekhaya ukuze ngijabulele izinto ezilula, ezinjengokubuka ngokweqile ukubukela uhlelo engiluthandayo ngaphandle kokuphazanyiswa, ukugeza okuphumuzayo, noma ukuba nengxoxo yefoni eluhlaza, eyiqiniso egcwele ukuhleka abangani engingakhulumanga nabo."

“Ngaphathwa i-FOMO ngaze ngabona ukuthi ukuzikhipha njalo ebusuku kwakungangiphathi kahle ngokomzimba noma ngokwengqondo,” kusho uBrianna, 23, uchwepheshe wezokuxhumana ozinze eColorado. "Manje, ngizizwa sengathi ngingomunye wabantu abambalwa abahlala emadolobheni iningi labo elithanda ukuhlala ekhaya ngenxa yokubamba iqhaza ekutholakaleni kwebhawa. Esikhundleni sokujaha isiphuzo esilandelayo, ngigijimela ukuqeda imibukiso yeNetflix, ukupheka isidlo sakusihlwa, ukwenza i-yoga, kanye ngezikhathi ezithile ngizama imaski yobuso entsha. " Nakuba esakhetha ukuphuma ngezinye izikhathi, unomuzwa wokuthi indlela yakhe yokuphila isilinganisele kakhulu manje. "Ngesikhathi ngiqala ukukhetha 'mina' esikhundleni sokuthi 'thina,' ngathola ukuphumula futhi ngabona ukuthi ngifuna ukuphila impilo yami ngokwami, esikhundleni sokulawulwa yi-FOMO."

Futhi ngenkathi izindlela eziningi "zobusuku" zabesifazane zibandakanya ukuchitha isikhathi sisodwa, uRamos uncamela ukugcina ukuzinakekela kwakhe kwezenhlalo, okukufakazela ngempela can ube nokuhamba phambili kwemihlaba yomibili. "Indlela engiyintandokazi yokuchitha ubusuku ngiyokwenza ukudla okuphekwe ekhaya, ngimeme abangani, futhi nibuke okuthile ku-Netflix ndawonye ngama-cocktails. Ngikhetha ukuhlala ebusuku lapho ngazi ukuthi ngidinga isikhathi sokushajwa kabusha ngenxa yokuba matasa kakhulu. noma isonto elimatasatasa. Ayikho into edlula ukugqoka ibhulukwe lomjuluko nokuqhabula i-rose ngoLwesihlanu ebusuku."

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