Lapho Umndeni Uphenduka Ubuthi

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• Cabanga emuva ebuntwaneni bakho
• Bekulindeleke ukuthi uhlangabezane namazinga angekho ngokoqobo
• Ugxekwe kabuhlungu
• Izidingo zakho azizange zifezwe
• Cabanga ngesimo samanje sezinto
• Uzizwa ulawulwa
• Awuluzwa uthando, ububele, noma inhlonipho
• Kukhona ukusetshenziswa kwezidakamizwa okuhilelekile
• Uhlukunyezwa ngamazwi, ngokomzimba, noma ngokomzwelo
• Ukukhubazeka akupheli noma kuyaphikelela
• Ungayiphendula kanjani
• Nquma ukuthi ufunani
• Hlanganisa iqembu
• Nquma ukuthi uzokwabelana ngani nokuthi yini oyigcina iyimfihlo
• Funda ukuthi cha
• Ungazami ukushintsha noma ngubani
• Hlela imihlangano ekusebenzelayo
• Khuluma nothile
• Uzisika nini izibopho
• Abahloniphi imingcele noma imikhawulo yakho
• Bayakuhlukumeza ngokomzimba noma ngamazwi
• Bahlala bekuqambela amanga noma bakukhohlise
• Ukukhuluma nabo noma ukuzibona kudala ukucindezeleka ngokomzwelo
• Uhamba kanjani ‘ungathintani’
• Khetha indlela yakho
• Lungiselela
• Chaza ukuthi kwenzekani
• Lungiselela ukuphendula kwabo…
• … Nokwakho
• Ukufuna usizo
• Okubalulekile

Igama elithi “umndeni” lingasikhumbuza imizwa ehlukahlukene eyinkimbinkimbi. Ngokuya ngesimo sakho sobuntwana nesimo samanje somndeni, le mizwa ingahle ibe mihle, ikakhulukazi emibi, noma ingxube elinganayo yakho kokubili.

Uma uhlangabezane nomndeni onobuthi onamandla, imizwa yakho ingahamba ngaphezu kokukhungatheka noma ukucasulwa. Esikhundleni salokho, ukuxhumana noma nokucabanga ngomndeni wakho kungadala ukucindezeleka okukhulu ngokomzwelo.

Ukuguquguquka komndeni okunobuthi noma okungasebenzi kungaba nzima ukukubona, ikakhulukazi uma usagxilile kuyo. Nakhu ukubuka ezinye izimpawu ezijwayelekile nokuthi yini okufanele uyenze uma uzibona emndenini wakho.

Cabanga emuva ebuntwaneni bakho

Abantu abaningi abayiqapheli imiphumela yemvelo yemindeni yabo ngesikhathi sobuntwana baze bakhule babe badala.

Lezi zimpawu ezilandelayo zikhombisa ukuthi kungenzeka wake wahlangabezana nemvelo enobuthi ekukhuleni komndeni.

Bekulindeleke ukuthi uhlangabezane namazinga angekho ngokoqobo

Amalungu omndeni enza izindima ezahlukahlukene ngezikhathi ezithile ukuze asizane. Mhlawumbe bekungumsebenzi wakho ukusula amapuleti etafuleni ngemuva kokudla kwangeSonto. Noma mhlawumbe uke wasiza ngezikhathi ezithile ngokubuka izingane zakini ezincane. Konke lokhu kujwayelekile.

Kepha le misebenzi bekungafanele ikuvimbe ekuqedeleni izabelo zesikole, ukudlala, noma ukulala ngokwanele.

Uma ukhuliswe emndenini onobuthi, kungenzeka ucelwe ukuthi:

• umzali noma ukujezisa izingane zakubo ezincane noma ukubanikeza ukunakekelwa okuningi
• thatha imithwalo yemfanelo njengokupheka ukudla noma ukwenza imisebenzi ethile esindayo ngaphambi kokwenza ngokuphepha noma ngokufanelekile
• nikeza ukusekelwa ngokomzwelo sengathi ungumlingani noma omunye umuntu omdala

Ugxekwe kabuhlungu

Iningi labazali liyakhuza noma ligxeke ukuziphatha kwezingane zabo kwesinye isikhathi. Kepha lezi zinkulumo kufanele zakhe futhi zigxile ekuziphatheni, hhayi enganeni. Akufanele neze zikwenze uzizwe uphansi, ungafunwa, noma ungathandwa.

Izidingo zakho azizange zifezwe

Akekho umuntu ophelele. Mhlawumbe abazali bakho bebengakulungele ukukulanda esikoleni ngesikhathi, bakushiye ulinde. Noma mhlawumbe bakhohlwe ukukhokha isikweletu sikagesi kanye bese ugesi uphela izinsuku ezi-2.

Kepha amalungu omndeni asekelayo kufanele asekele izidingo zakho eziyisisekelo ngoku:

• ukubeka imingcele
• ukuhlinzeka ngesiyalo nothando
• ukunakekela impilo yakho nokuphila kahle
• uqinisekisa ukuthi uthola imfundo
• ukuqinisekisa ukuthi unokudla okudliwayo futhi uhlanza nezingubo zokugqoka

Ngenkathi kungabakhona ezinye izinto ezithintekayo, ukuhamba njalo ngaphandle kwalokhu okungenhla kungasikisela ngokuqinile ukuthi umndeni onobuthi noma ongenampilo unamandla.

Abazali abebehileleke kakhulu empilweni yakho futhi abangavumeli indawo yokukhula kungenzeka futhi ukuthi bahlulekile ukuhlangabezana nezidingo zakho eziyisisekelo ngokuvimbela lokhu kuthuthuka.

Isikhala somuntu siqu, ngokomzimba nangokomzwelo, sisiza izingane zikhule. Ekugcineni, udinga ukuzimela nethuba lokwenza umuzwa wokuzimela.

Cabanga ngesimo samanje sezinto

Uma usola ukuthi njengamanje ubhekene nobuthi bomndeni, qala ngokucabanga ngendlela ozizwa ngayo ngemuva kokuxhumana namalungu athile omndeni.

UKatherine Fabrizio, MA, LPC, usebenza ngokukhethekile namadodakazi omama abanobuthi. Unikeza lo mthetho jikelele wesithupha:

"Uma ugcina uzizwa kabi ngawe ngemuva kokuhlangana okuningi nelungu lomndeni, mhlawumbe kunesizathu esihle salokho, okufanele ukubhekelwe kuso."

Nazi ezinye izinto ezithile okufanele uzibheke. Hlala wazi ukuthi nawe ungakubona lokhu kusuka ebuntwaneni bakho.

Uzizwa ulawulwa

Amalungu omndeni anobuthi angazama ukulawula izici ezinkulu zempilo yakho, kufaka phakathi ubudlelwane bakho nezinqumo zomsebenzi. Bangasho ukuthi (noma basho ngokusobala) ukuthi ukuhambisana nokulindelwe kwabo kuyisimo sothando lwabo oluqhubekayo nokusekelwa.

Awuluzwa uthando, ububele, noma inhlonipho

Kujwayelekile ukuthi amalungu omndeni abe nokungaboni ngaso linye ngezikhathi ezithile. Kepha ekugcineni kosuku, kusamele niphathane ngothando nangomusa.

Emndenini onobuthi onamandla, ungazizwa udelelekile noma udelela esikhundleni sothando.

Ilungu lomndeni elinobuthi linga:

• hlekisa noma ululaze ukukhetha kwakho
• hlasela amaphuzu akho asengozini
• hlukana nokuzethemba kwakho

Umndeni wakho ungahle ungavumelani nakho konke okushoyo noma okwenzayo, kepha kusamele banikeze uthando nenhlonipho njengoba uthola eyakho indlela.

Kukhona ukusetshenziswa kwezidakamizwa okuhilelekile

Ilungu lomndeni kwesinye isikhathi elisebenzisa, noma lisebenzise kabi, izidakamizwa noma utshwala alinabo ubuthi empeleni. Kepha ukuluthwa yizidakamizwa nokuziphatha okucindezelayo kwesinye isikhathi kungaholela ekuguqukeni okuyingozi futhi okungenampilo ebudlelwaneni bomndeni.

Lezi zimpawu zingaphakamisa ubuthi:

• ukusetshenziswa kwezidakamizwa okuthinta kabi imizwa noma isimilo
• ukuhlukunyezwa ngokomzwelo noma ukuhlukunyezwa ngokomzimba ngenxa yokudakwa
• ukusetshenziswa kwezidakamizwa okufihliwe kubantu bangaphandle futhi akukaze kuxoxwe ngakho

Iphethini yokunika amandla umlutha noma ukusetshenziswa kabi kwezidakamizwa nayo ingaba nomthelela kumandla anobuthi.

Uhlukunyezwa ngamazwi, ngokomzimba, noma ngokomzwelo

Noma yiluphi uhlobo lokuhlukumeza lunobuthi - alusebenzi nje kuphela ebudloveni bomzimba.

Ukuhlukumeza kufaka futhi:

• ukuthinta okungafanele
• ukushukuma kocansi noma i-innuendo
• imibono yocansi ngomzimba wakho
• ukubiza ngamagama
• udlame lomzimba
• ukuhlukunyezwa ngokocansi
• ukugxeka okunokhahlo noma okwedlulele
• ukukhanyisa igesi

Kwesinye isikhathi, ukuhlukunyezwa akulula ukukubona.

Isibonelo, wena nengane yakini ningakhipha amagama amahle kabi ngesikhathi senxabano. Noma mhlawumbe ugcina ngokujikijelana ngezingubo ekamelweni lakho. Kodwa niyakha bese niyaxolisa uma ngamunye ngamunye seniveze imizwa yakhe.

Uma lolu hlobo lokuziphatha lwenzeka kaninginingi futhi kungakaze kube khona isixazululo, kungaba ubuhlobo obunobuthi.

Ukukhubazeka akupheli noma kuyaphikelela

Mincane kakhulu imindeni ezwana ngokuphelele ngaso sonke isikhathi. Ukungaboni ngaso linye, ukubangisana kwezelamani, ubudlelwano obushubile, noma ukuxhumana okungajwayelekile kuvamile, ikakhulukazi ngezikhathi zengcindezi noma zenguquko.

Isibonelo, ilungu lomndeni lingaziphatha okwesikhashana ngezindlela ezinobuthi noma ezingenampilo ngenxa yezinkinga ezingaphandle komdlandla womndeni, njenge:

• izinselelo emsebenzini noma esikoleni
• inkinga ngobungani noma obunye ubudlelwano
• ukukhathazeka ngempilo noma ukukhathazeka ngokomzwelo
• ubunzima bezezimali

Lezi zindlela zokuziphatha kufanele zibe zesikhashana. Umuntu onomthwalo wemfanelo angaxolisa, azwakalise ukuzisola, futhi asebenze ukushintsha indlela abaziphethe ngayo lapho sebekwazi lokho.

Ubuthi beqiniso ngokuvamile abuguquki noma buthuthuke kalula. Okungenani, hhayi ngaphandle kosizo lochwepheshe.

Ungayiphendula kanjani

Ayikho indlela elungile noma engalungile yokubhekana namalungu omndeni anobuthi.

Abanye abantu bakhetha ukunqamula ukuxhumana ngokuphelele. Abanye bazama ukusebenzisana nalesi simo ngokunciphisa ukuxhumana namalungu omndeni anobuthi futhi bathathe izinyathelo zokuvikela inhlalakahle yabo engokomzwelo lapho yenza bona umndeni wabo.

Uma unesizinda esinobuthi, noma uma isimo sakho somndeni samanje sinezinto ezinobuthi, lawa macebiso angakusiza ukuthi uzulazule emihlanganweni futhi ubhekane nanoma yiziphi izikhathi eziyinselele noma ezinzima ezivelayo.

Nquma ukuthi ufunani

Ukubona okufunayo ebudlelwaneni kungakusiza ukuthi wakhe umbono ocacile wemingcele ofuna ukuyibeka.

Ithi uthanda ukuchitha isikhathi esingajwayelekile nodadewenu ngezimpelasonto, kepha hhayi lapho ebuza ngempilo yakho yothando. Uyazi ukuthi uzohlanganyela leyo mininingwane nomama wakho, ozobe esefona ukukugxeka nokukugcona.

Usafuna ukugcina ubudlelwane nodadewenu, ngakho-ke isixazululo esisodwa singakhawulela ukuvakasha kwakho nodadewenu kube kanye ngenyanga futhi umtshele kusenesikhathi ukuthi ngeke nixoxe ngokuthandana.

Ukuba nemikhawulo ngokuhlangana kungakunika amandla futhi kukusize uzizwe ungcono ngokuxhumana okhetha ukumgcina. Kepha uma usuzibekele leyo mikhawulo, zama ukungayiwele. Ukundindizela kungakubuyisela esimeni esinzima noma esingenampilo.

Hlanganisa iqembu

Uma uchitha isikhathi namalungu omndeni, ungavumeli ukuthi bakudonsele ezinkingeni zomndeni ongathanda ukuzihlukanisa. Akudingeki ukuthi ubandakanyeke kunoma yini ongathanda ukuyigwema.

Ukutholwa kungabandakanya:

• ukungabambi iqhaza ezimeni ezixakile
• ukugwema izihloko eziletha imizwa enamandla
• ukugcina ingxoxo ilula futhi ingajwayelekile
• ukuqeda ingxoxo noma ukushiya uma kunesidingo

Uma uzama ukuzihlukanisa nobuthi, zama ukuthola umkhuba we:

• ukunquma ngaphambili ukuthi yiziphi izihloko ofuna ukuzigwema
• ukucabangisisa ngezindlela zokushintsha isihloko
• ukuphendula umbuzo ocasulayo noma obuzayo ngomunye umbuzo
• ukwazisa amalungu omndeni ukuthi awufuni ukuxoxa ngezihloko ezithile

Lokhu kungaba nzima ekuqaleni, kepha ngokuzijwayeza okuthile, bazoqala ukuzizwa bemvelo ngokwengeziwe.

Nquma ukuthi uzokwabelana ngani nokuthi yini oyigcina iyimfihlo

Awudingi ukwabelana ngakho konke nomndeni wakho. Ungakuthola kuwusizo ukugcina imininingwane ebalulekile iyimfihlo kumalungu omndeni anobuthi anomlando wokuyisebenzisa ukukugxeka, ukuhlekisa noma ukukhohlisa.

“Amalungu omndeni amaningi anobuthi angongoti ekukuvikeleni ngokuthi akwenze uziveze ngaphandle kokuphindisela. Kodwa akudingeki uzichaze noma unikeze noma ngubani ukufinyelela emicabangweni yakho yangaphakathi, "kusho uFabrizio.

Ngaphambi kokubona umndeni wakho, cabanga ngokuzikhumbuza ngalokho ongakhetha ukungabelani ngakho. Uma kungenzeka, qhamuka nendlela eyodwa noma ezimbili zokushintsha isihloko uma kudingeka.

Lokho kusho ukuthi, kulungile ngaso sonke isikhathi ukumane uthi, "Ngingathanda ukungakhulumi ngempilo / ukukhetha engikudlayo / amakhono obuzali / impilo yothando," bese ngivala ingxoxo.

Funda ukuthi cha

Ukuzibekela imingcele futhi uthi cha ezintweni ezingabeka engcupheni leyo mingcele kungakusiza ukuzulazula kalula emaphethini obudlelwano obunzima noma obunobuthi.

Akulula ngaso sonke isikhathi ukuthi cha kumalungu omndeni. UFabrizio uyanezela, "Uma wenqaba noma yikuphi ukuziphatha kwelungu lomndeni (noma ngabe kunolaka kangakanani), uzibeka engcupheni yokuthi bangakulahla."

Uma wazi ukuthi isimo sizokwenza uzizwe ungajabule, ucindezelekile, noma ungakhululeki, ukusho ukuthi "cha" kungaba yindlela yakho engcono kakhulu. Ungachaza ukucabanga kwakho uma ufuna, kepha ungazizwa sengathi kufanele.

Ilungu lomndeni elinobuthi lingazama ukukuncenga noma ukukukhohlisa ukuze ushintshe umqondo wakho. Yiba nokuzethemba esinqumweni sakho futhi wazi ukuthi uzenzela okulungile. Amalungu omndeni akuthanda futhi akusekele kufanele futhi aqaphele futhi asekele leso sidingo.

Ungazami ukushintsha noma ngubani

Lapho usebenzelana namalungu omndeni anobuthi, akuyona into engavamile ukubamba ithemba lokuthi azoshintsha. Ungase ucabange ngosuku lapho ekugcineni bebona ukuthi bakulimaze kanjani futhi baqala ukusebenza ngokushintsha indlela abaziphethe ngayo.

Impela, abantu bayakwazi futhi bayashintsha, kepha kungaphezu kwamandla akho. Ngaphandle kokubatshela ukuthi uzizwa kanjani, ubacela ukuthi bacabangele umbono wakho, futhi ubakhuthaze ukuthi bakhulume nodokotela noma omunye uchwepheshe, akukho okuningi ongakwenza.

Ukuphela komuntu wena can ushintsho nguwe. Lokhu kungabandakanya ukubhekana nemizwa engemihle abayidalayo, ukuzijezisa, noma ukufunda ukuthi cha.

Hlela imihlangano ekusebenzelayo

Ukuzinikeza amandla kunoma ikuphi ukuxhumana onakho kungenza umehluko omkhulu.

UFabrizio uphakamisa okulandelayo:

• Nquma ukuthi uzohlangana kuphi futhi nini. Ukuhlangana isidlo sasemini endaweni yomphakathi kungakusiza ukuthi unqande izinkinga eziningi ezingaba khona.
• Cabanga ukuthatha utshwala etafuleni. Utshwala bungakhuphula ukungezwani ezimeni esezivele zikhokhisiwe, ngakho-ke ukugwema utshwala nemibuthano ebandakanya utshwala kungasiza ekwehliseni amathuba okuhlangana okunzima noma okucindezelayo.
• Cacisa ngokutholakala kwakho. Isibonelo, ungathi, "Nginehora lesidlo sasemini namuhla."
• Nakekela ezakho izinto zokuhamba. Ngale ndlela, unendlela yokushiya lapho udinga khona.

Ukusetha imihlangano ngokwemibandela yakho kukusiza ukuthi ubuyise amandla futhi uzizwe uvikelekile ngesikhathi sokusebenzisana.

Khuluma nothile

Noma ngabe njengamanje ubhajwe esimweni somndeni esinobuthi noma usebenza ukunqoba imiphumela yobuntwana obunzima, ukwabelana ngemizwa yakho nothile kungaba usizo olukhulu.

Lokhu kuyasiza kakhulu ekugcineni ukuqonda iqiniso uma amalungu omndeni anobuthi noma ukuhlangana okucasulayo kukwenza uzingabaze.

Ukusebenza nochwepheshe wezempilo yengqondo kuhle, kepha ukuvula umlingani noma umngani nakho kungasiza. Akudingeki wabelane ngemininingwane yonke. Kwesinye isikhathi ngisho nokunikeza isithombe esivamile sesimo kungakusiza ukuthi uveze okunye ukukhungatheka nokucindezeleka kwakho.

Uzisika nini izibopho

Kwesinye isikhathi, ukunquma ukuxhumana kuyisinyathelo esihle kakhulu, noma ngabe omunye umuntu engahlose ukukulimaza. Uma ubudlelwano bukulimaza kakhulu kunokuhle, kuyindlela okufanele uyicabangele.

Ukuthatha isinqumo sokunqamula ukuxhumana nomndeni wakho, noma ngabe kubangele ubuhlungu obungakanani, kungaba nzima kakhulu. Lezi zeluleko zenzelwe ukusiza ukuhola inqubo yakho yokucabanga nezinyathelo ezilandelayo.

Abahloniphi imingcele noma imikhawulo yakho

Uma ungaqiniseki ukusika ukuxhumana kuyisinqumo esifanele, uFabrizio uphakamisa kuqala ukusho izidingo zakho nokunikeza amalungu omndeni wakho ithuba lokuthi akhombise ukuthi angayihlonipha imingcele oyivezile.

Uma bengakwazi ukwenza lokhu ngemuva kokuzama okumbalwa, izinto kungenzeka zingashintshi nganoma yisiphi isikhathi maduzane. Ukunqamula ukuxhumana kungaba isenzo esinempilo kunazo zonke kuleso simo.

Bayakuhlukumeza ngokomzimba noma ngamazwi

Ngokuvamile kuphephe kakhulu ukuziqhelelanisa namalungu omndeni okulimaza ngokomzimba. Uma kufanele uzibone, zama ukuhlala uhlangana nazo esidlangalaleni noma ube nomuntu othile kuwe.

Ukuhlukunyezwa ngamazwi kungaba nzima kakhulu ukukubona, kepha ezinye izibonelo zifaka:

• ukubiza ngamagama
• ukuhlazeka komzimba
• ukudelela noma ukudelela
• ukugxekwa ngezinketho zakho zempilo
• inkulumo enenzondo, ubandlululo noma inhlamba

Bahlala bekuqambela amanga noma bakukhohlise

Amalungu omndeni aqamba amanga njalo lapho ekhuluma iqiniso angakwenza uzizwe ungazinzi futhi udidekile. Ungaba nobunzima bokuthemba noma ngubani, umndeni noma okunye.

Uma ukhomba lokhu kuziphatha futhi kuyaqhubeka, ukunquma ukuxhumana kungaba ukuphela kwendlela yokuziqhelelanisa nakho.

Ukukhuluma nabo noma ukuzibona kudala ukucindezeleka ngokomzwelo

Lapho ungazizwa kahle ngokubona umndeni wakho, noma lapho ukuxhumana kukhona kugqugquzela imizwa engemihle kuphela, kungaba yisikhathi sokubheka ukuthi ukuthatha ikhefu kungasiza yini ukuthuthukisa isimo.

Uma unemicabango efana Kungani ngizifaka kulokhu? noma Ingabe kufanele ngibabone? khumbula ukuthi awukho unayo ukuzibona noma ukuzifaka kunoma yini ongafuni ukubhekana nayo.

Ukunqamula ukuxhumana akudingeki kube yisinqumo saphakade, noma Ungahle udinge isikhathi esithile kude nesimo.

UF Fabrizio uyaphetha: “Ngaphezu kwakho konke, khumbula ukuthi unezinqumo lapho uxoxa nomuntu onobuthi.”

Uhamba kanjani ‘ungathintani’

Noma ngabe udinga ibanga elithile lesikhashana noma ikhefu elingapheli kumalungu omndeni anobuthi, kuyasiza ukwenza uhlelo ngaphambi kwesikhathi.

Khetha indlela yakho

Ingabe uzizwa uphephile futhi ukhululekile ukubatshela ubuso nobuso? Uma kungenjalo, akukho lutho olungalungile ngokushaya ucingo noma ukuthumela i-imeyili. Khumbula, unezinketho.

Uma umuntu enomlando wokuba nodlame ngokwasemzimbeni, gwema ukuhlangana ubuso nobuso. Ungaze ucabange nokuzama ukuthola usizo lwezomthetho. Umyalelo ovimbelayo noma ovikelayo ungadingeka ukuqinisekisa ukuphepha kwakho.

Lungiselela

Cabanga ngokuza namaphuzu abalulekile ambalwa ofuna ukuwaveza, ugcine izinto zilula futhi zikhombe ephuzwini.

Uma usethe imingcele noma imikhawulo futhi behlulekile ukuyihlonipha leyo, ungasho lokho njengesizathu esiyinhloko sesinqumo sakho.

Ungabazisa ukuthi awuzizwa uvikelekile, ungezwa, noma uhlonishwa ebudlelwaneni. Ungasho nje ukuthi ubudlelwano abuyisekeli impilo yakho noma buhlangabezane nezidingo zakho.

Chaza ukuthi kwenzekani

Bazise ukuthi ngeke uxhumane nabo noma uthathe izingcingo, uphendule imilayezo, njalonjalo.

Ungabacela ukuthi bayeke ukuxhumana nawe, kepha yazi nje ukuthi bangakwenza lokho noma kunjalo. Ukuvimba izinombolo zefoni namaphrofayli ezinkundla zokuxhumana kungasiza ukuvimbela lokhu.

Lungiselela ukuphendula kwabo…

Zilungiselele ukusabela kwabo. Uma wazi ukuthi basabela kanjani ezimweni ezithile, ungahle ube nombono omuhle wokuthi impendulo yabo izoba njani.

Ukubandakanya umuntu osekelayo, njengomlingani othandana naye noma umngani omethembayo, kungakusiza ukuthi uhlale uqine kunoma ikuphi ukukhubeka kwecala, ukuhlazeka, noma ukubizwa ngamagama.

… Nokwakho

Ngemuva kokunqamula ukuxhumana nelungu lomndeni elinobuthi, ungavele uzwe amagagasi noma ukukhululeka. Futhi akuyona into engavamile ukuzwa ukudabuka, ukuba necala, noma ukudabuka. Yiba nesikhathi esithile uqoshiwe ngemuva kwalokho ukwenza ukunakekelwa okuthile, noma ngabe lokho ukuchitha isikhathi nomngani osondele noma ukuhamba uhambo olukhulu.

Ukufuna usizo

Ukukhula emndenini ongenampilo noma onobuthi kungaba nomthelela ezinseleleni eziningi ezingokomzwelo, ezokusebenzelana, nezinselelo zempilo yengqondo ezizuzayo ekwelashweni.

Isibonelo, ukulawulwa noma ukusetshenziswa kungathinta amandla akho okuzenzela izinqumo. Ungazizwa wesaba noma ukhathazekile lapho wenza isinqumo.

Ungase futhi ube nemizwa yokukhathazeka noma yokudangala. "Ubudlelwano obungalindelekile noma obunenzondo bungadala ukukhathazeka, kanti ubudlelwano obufaka ukugcwalisa intukuthelo yakho bungadala ukucindezeleka," kusho uFabrizio.

Eminye imiphumela yesikhathi eside yobuthi bomndeni ingafaka:

• imizwa yokuhlukaniswa noma yesizungu
• umuzwa ophansi wokuzethemba noma wokuzethemba
• amaphethini obudlelwano obunezinkinga noma obungasebenzi
• imizwa engapheli yecala, amahloni noma ukuzizwa ungelutho
• izingqinamba zokunamathiselwa
• ukucindezeleka kwangemva kokuhlukumezeka
• izingqinamba zokuba ngumzali

Ukusebenza nochwepheshe oqeqeshiwe wezempilo yengqondo kungakusiza uqale ukubona izindlela ubuthi obuthinta ngayo ubudlelwane bakho nenhlalakahle yakho. Lapho usuzibonile lezi zinkinga, ungaqala ukuthatha izinyathelo zokuthola kuzo.

Okubalulekile

Amandla omndeni anobuthi kungaba nzima ukuwabona. Noma ikuphi ukuziphatha noma isimo esikwenza uzizwe ungathandwa, ungafunwa, noma ngisho uziphathe kabi ngokwakho kungenzeka ukuthi akunampilo.

Yonke imindeni iyahlupheka ngezikhathi ezithile, kodwa amalungu asazizwa ethandwa, esekelwa futhi ehlonishwa. Ngakolunye uhlangothi, umndeni onobuthi noma ongasebenzi kahle, ungazizwa ungazinzile, ushubile, futhi ukhokhisiwe, futhi amalungu omndeni anobuthi angadala ingozi enkulu.

Uma ubonile amaphethini anobuthi emndenini wakho, cabanga ukufinyelela kumelaphi ongakusiza uhlole imiphumela yobuthi futhi unikeze ukuholwa njengoba ucabanga ukuthi ungasiphatha kanjani isimo.