Kungani Impikiswano Ngokugubha Iqembu Labesifazane Lezinyawo Labesifazane laseU.S. ITotal BS

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Angiyena umlandeli omkhulu webhola. Ngihlonipha kakhulu ukuqeqeshwa okuphambene okudingwa umdlalo, kodwa ukubuka umdlalo akungenzeli ngempela lokho. Kodwa-ke, lapho ngizwa ngempikiswano ezungeze imigubho yeqembu lase-U.S. Labesifazane Likazwelonke Lezinyawo ngesikhathi somdlalo wabo wokuqala weNdebe Yomhlaba yeFIFA Yabesifazane neThailand, intshisekelo yami yakhula.

ICYMI, iqembu lenze amagagasi ngokunqoba kwalo ngo-13-0. Bebeyiqembu lokuqala elenziwe (elezabesilisa noma elabesifazane) ukushaya amagoli ayi-13 emdlalweni weNdebe Yomhlaba, beqopha umlando ngomugqa omkhulu kunayo yonke, ngokusho kuka I-New York Times. Kepha bekungewona amaphuzu kuphela aqubula izimpaphe – bekuyindlela abanqobe ngayo, futhi. Abadlali bebejabulile ngawo wonke amagoli, bebungaza ndawonye uma ibhola lishaye inethi okwenza abagxeki abaningi (i-ahem, abazonda) babukele phansi ukuziphatha kwabo, bakubize njengokungathandi kwezemidlalo.

"Kimina, kuwukungahloniphi," kusho owayengumdlali webhola laseCanada futhi ophawula ngeTSN World Cup, uKaylyn Kyle ngemuva komdlalo. "Hats to Thailand for rising their head high." UKyle uphinde wathi nakuba iNdebe Yomhlaba kuyindawo yokuthatha indlela yokungabanjwa iziboshwa, iqembu laseMelika bekufanele liyimise imigubho yalo eshisa izikhotha uma selifinyelele ku-8-0. (Related: U-Alex Morgan Uthanda Ukudlala Njengentombazane)

Akudingeki ukuthi kushiwo, lokhu kugaya amagiya ami.

Okokuqala, njengomdlali wangaphambili, uKyle wabo bonke abantu uyazi ngomsebenzi onzima nokuzidela okudingekayo kumdlali osezingeni eliphezulu ukufinyelela eqophelweni eliphezulu lomncintiswano. Lokhu kukodwa kuwufanele udumo nokunconywa noma ngabe awukaze udlule emzuliswaneni wokuqala. Okwesibili, iningi leqembu labesifazane base-U.S. Libandakanyeka enkantolo enkulu esolwa ne-U.S. Soccer Federation ngezinsolo zokucwaswa ngokobulili, kugxilwe kakhulu ngomehluko okhanyayo ekukhokheleni amaqembu abesilisa nabesifazane.

Inhloso ngayinye bekungokunye ukubabazeka kokubaluleka kwabo nokubaluleka kwabo enhlanganweni eye yahlambalaza amakhono abo, yize bekukhona amazinga aphezulu nezindondo zama-Olimpiki. Futhi mhlawumbe, okwengeza ukuhlambalaza ukulimala, iqembu lesizwe labesifazane belingamakhanda namahlombe ngaphezu kozakwabo besilisa. Ngokusho kukaVox, amalungu eqembu labesifazane angenza cishe amaphesenti angama-40 alokho okutholwa ngabadlali besilisa – bavame ukudonsa cishe ama- $ 3,600 ngomdlalo ngamunye uma kuqhathaniswa nabadlali besilisa abahola cishe ama- $ 5,000. Ngo-2015, i-Vox ibika, iqembu labesifazane laseMelika laklonyeliswa ngezigidi ezingu-1.7 zamaRandi ngokuwina iNdebe Yomhlaba wonke yabesifazane-iqembu labesilisa laseMelika lathola ibhonasi engu-$5.4 million–ngemuva kokwehlulwa emzuliswaneni we-16 weNdebe Yomhlaba ka-2014.

Kepha, yini engicasula ngempela: Hlobo luni lomyalezo lokhu kulahlwa kwemikhosi kanye nemali ekhokhelwa yi-U.S Soccer Federation ekhokhela isizukulwane esilandelayo sabadlali besifazane? Noma empeleni, amantombazane anothando nganoma yini, noma ngabe ukupenda, i-physics, noma ibhizinisi?

"Kuhle ukuba ngumsubathi osezingeni eliphezulu futhi uzizwe ugculisekile, kodwa ngasikhathi sinye, yiluphi uhlobo lwefa ofuna ukulishiya?" kusho u-Alex Morgan, omunye wezihlabani zeqembu lebhola likazwelonke labesifazane lase-U.S., ukuze I-New York Times. UMorgan ushaye amagoli amahlanu kwangu-13 bedlala neThailand. "Benginalo leli phupho lokuba ngumdlali webhola elikhokhelwayo, futhi bengingazi ukuthi kuhilela ukuba yisibonelo, ukuba ngogqozi, ukumela izinto engikholelwa kuzo, ukumela ukulingana ngokobulili."

Ezemidlalo, egumbini lokudlala, noma ekilasini, amantombazane—kanye namadlanzana—aye atshelwa ukuba azenze amancane ukuze avumele abanye (okungukuthi, abafana abamhlophe namadoda) ukuze bazizwe benekhono futhi bebakhulu. Ukunikeza abanye isikhala sokuzithuthukisa nokukhula komuntu, kuyilapho bezinqanda ngokwabo kule nqubo. Icala kanye nokushisekela okungaxoliswanga kwethimba kuthumela umyalezo ophazamisa isimo lapho amantombazane, abesifazane, kanye nabancane beqala khona-futhi kaningi, bedlala wonke umdlalo – kusimo esingesihle. Uma sizama ukunaka noma ikuphi kwalokhu kungalingani, siyalungiswa ngokuhlazeka, ukugxekwa, noma udlame ezimweni ezimbi kakhulu. Ngisho noKyle kubikwa ukuthi uthole izinsongo zokubulawa ngemuva kokuphawula kwakhe ngokuziphatha kweqembu lase-U.S. (Okuhlobene: Abathonya basisekela Isinqumo sikaNike sokufaka ama-Mannequins Wosayizi Abakhulu Ngemuva Kokubuyela emuva)

NjengeMinyaka Eyinkulungwane "endala", izifundo zendima zobulili bendabuko zaqiniswa esikoleni. Ngafunda ukuthi ukuba yinkosikazi kwakudingeka uhlale uthule, uthobekile, futhi udelelekile: weqa imilenze yakho, ungamemezeli, futhi ululaze amakhono akho. Khonamanjalo, ezimeni eziningi, amantombazane abelandela imithetho futhi aphakamisa izandla zawo ngenkathi elinde ukwabelana ngezimpendulo zawo asibekelwa ngabafana abanomsindo abaphazamisa futhi baphazamisa ikilasi.

Ngenhlanhla, ekhaya, abazali bami bancoma amathalente esasinawo nodadewethu (ubuciko bakhe, ukubhukuda kimi) futhi bakhuthaza ukukhula ezindaweni ezazinenselelo enkulu. Sasihlale sitshelwa ukuthi kulungile ukuba nekhono elikhulu entweni eyodwa futhi ungabi yinhle kwenye. Ukuthi asichazwa ngamandla ethu kuphela kepha kaningi kunalokho, ubuthakathaka bethu – nokuthi sikusingatha kanjani ukwehluleka. Sakhuliswa ukuze siphuphe futhi abazali bami bagoba bazama ukwenza lawo maphupho amakhulu enzeke. (Ngiyabonga ngokungishayela ukuze ngikwazi ukubhukuda, ikakhulukazi kwabafileyo ebusika, bafana).

Lokhu akulona ilungelo wonke amantombazane analo. Ngaphandle kwesikole kanye nemindeni eseduzane, umphakathi wonkana usebenza njengomzali onamahloni okunzima ukuwubhala phansi, kepha ukuyo yonke indawo noma kunjalo. Sifundiswe ngamasiko ethu, ikakhulukazi ngabezindaba, ikakhulukazi manje. Abaningi bahlose ukumboza ubuqhawe bomdlalo abathanda ukuzwa nje ukuthi akufanele ugubhe imigomo yakho ngemuva kokushaya inombolo ethile. Ukuhumusha: Thulisa izifiso zakho namakhono akho ukuze unamathele ezingeni lezinzalamizi lokuthi yini okufanele owesifazane avunyelwe ukukufeza. Isexwayiso se-Spoiler: Abesifazane banekhono elimangalisayo futhi sekuyisikhathi sokuthi siyeke ukuxolisa ngakho. Noma yini ongayenza, ngingayenza ngenkathi ngopha.

Ngokusho kweBleacher Report, uJill Ellis, umqeqeshi wabesifazane bebhola laseMelika, ukubeka ngamafuphi ukuthi, "Uma lokhu bekungu-10-0 eNdebeni yoMhlaba yabesilisa, ngabe sithola imibuzo efanayo?"

Ukubona owesifazane ephumelela futhi kujatshuliswe kulokho okufeziwe kanzima kuyinto engathandeki kwabaningi. Kuyamosheka futhi kuyaphazamisa – akungeni ebhokisini elihlelwe ngaphambilini. Kuzwakala kuyisici sobudoda. Sibonga abantu besifazane kanye nabanqamula imigoqo abavule indlela, sizizwa sengathi singaba noma yini esiyifunayo, kodwa umphakathi uyahlehla, usitshele ukuthi imigomo yethu idinga ukugcinwa ngaphakathi kwesizathu. Ungaqhekeza uphahla lwengilazi, kepha ngeke uliphihlize. Vele, kukhona okuhlukile kulo mthetho, futhi siyabonga ngobuhle bawo. Ngaphezu kukaMorgan nozakwabo eqenjini, uCardi B, uSerena Williams, uSimone Biles, no-Amy Schumer phakathi kwabanye bafakazele ukuthi ngokumumatha okwanele nokushayela, ungalifeza iphupho lakho – bese uqhuba ithanga lokunqoba uma usenzile.

Kepha ngaphandle kwalezi zibonelo ezikhuthazayo, kusenezinto eziningi kakhulu ezidonsela abanye besifazane phansi.

Kube nokuxokozela okuningi maqondana nabesifazane neqhaza labo kwezemidlalo muva nje. I-Olimpiki nayo yonke indawo ezungeze i-badass u-Alysia Montaño wabhala i-op-ed ye-New York Times, eqhumisa indlela ezinye izinhlobo zezicathulo eziphatha ngayo (noma empeleni, ezingaphathi) ikhefu lokubeletha labasubathi babo besifazane, okubenza bavame ukuncintisana kulo lonke ukukhulelwa futhi babuyela ekuqeqeshweni ngaphambi kwesikhathi kunesinconywa odokotela babo.

Futhi, i-International Association of Athletics Federation (i-IAAF eyaziwa njengeqembu eliphambili kanye nenhlangano) yazama ukuvimba ukuheha, uCaster Semenya angancintisani ngaphandle kokuthi athathe ama-hormone ukwehlisa amazinga e-testosterone emvelo. Ngubani obeka izinga lamazinga afanele omdabu we-testosterone kubasubathi besifazane? Ngeke yini lokho kubizwe ngenzuzo noma “isipho” sabasubathi besilisa? (Kuhlobene: U-Aly Raisman Uhlanganyela Incwadi Ayengavunyelwe Ukuyifunda Ecala LikaLarry Nassar)

Lokhu kubuyela emuva emigubhweni yeqembu lebhola labesifazane lase-U.S. Futhi ekugcineni, amazwi kaKyle. Akanacala ngokuphelele, kunjalo-uKyle unelungelo lombono wakhe. Uma kukhona, sidinga izingxoxo ezengeziwe ezizungeze lezi zihloko ukuze sihlole iqiniso lamanje kanye noshintsho lwenhlansi.

Umbuzo wami uthi: Wafunda kuphi uKyle ukuthi “ukuziphatha okuhle” kudinga ukuwela ebhakedeni elithile? Naye, njengabanye besifazane abaningi, usemukele imilayezo efanayo eye yagcwala ingqondo yethu ehlonzayo yabesifazane kusukela ekuqaleni kwempilo. Uma ufundiswa ukukholwa ukuthi impumelelo yethu ingafinyelela kuphela kuze kube manje – futhi imikhosi yakho ingakhonjiswa ngendlela eyodwa kuphela - ekugcineni uzofinyeza amakhono akho, okulindelwe, futhi ushiye imibono yakho yalabo abayiphonsayo. U-IMO, ukuphawula kwakhe kunomoya wempilo yonke wokufundiswa ukuthi kunendlela egcwele ijuba yokuzizwa uziqhenye ngawe.

Izifundo zokwenziwa kwezemidlalo okuhle zibaluleke kakhulu. Ufunda ukuthi ungawina kanjani futhi wehlulwe ngomusa futhi umshayele ihlombe isitha sakho ngokunganaki umphumela womdlalo. UMorgan wenza lokho kanye. Ngemuva kokudlala kwakhe ngendlela emangalisayo, ududuze umdlali waseThailand lapho kuphothulwa umdlalo. Amanye amalungu eqembu lesizwe lase-U.S. ahalalisele abadlali baseThailand.

Yisikhathi esimnandi sokuba ngowesifazane. Ekugcineni sithola ukunakwa okufanelekile ngeminikelo yethu emikhulu emphakathini, kanye nemizamo engabonakali esiyenza ngaphandle kokubongwa noma ukwamukelwa. Noma ngabe iqembu lase-U.S. Lezwe Likazwelonke Lezinyawo belihlose ukuba yizibonelo, benza umsebenzi omuhle kakhulu we-IMHO. Qhubekani ladies, ngizobe nginijabulela!

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