Ukufuna i-V ephelele: Kungani Abesifazane Abengeziwe Befuna Ukuvuselelwa Kwesitho sangasese?

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• Umhlaba wokuvuselelwa kwesitho sangasese sowesifazane
• Kungani abesifazane befuna izinqubo ezinjalo?
• Sivelaphi isisekelo 'sobuhle'?
• Kodwa-ke, kukhona nobufakazi obukhombisa ukuthi i-porn kungenzeka ingabi nasolwa.
• Imfundo engaphezulu ingakhuthaza ukuzethemba komzimba
• Ukuthola ibhalansi phakathi kwengcindezi yangaphandle neyangaphakathi

"Iziguli zami kuyaqabukela zibe nombono oqinile mayelana nokuthi izitho zazo zangasese zibukeka kanjani."

Ukubukeka kwe- "Barbie doll" kulapho amafolda akho e-vulva emincane futhi engabonakali, okunikeza isithombe sokuthi ukuvuleka kwesitho sowesifazane kuqinile.

Amanye amagama ngakho? "Hlanza isiqephu." "I-Symmetrical." “Uphelele.” Kubukeka futhi abanye abacwaningi bakubiza ngokuthi "."

Kodwa-ke, bayanda abesifazane abacela lokhu kubukeka, noma umbono, uma kukhulunywa ngokuhlinzwa kwezimonyo zabesifazane, noma - njengoba kukhangiswa kakhulu njengo - ukuhlinzwa kokuvuselelwa kwesitho sangasese sowesifazane.

“Ngesinye isikhathi mina nomyeni wami sasibuke uhlelo lwe-TV sindawonye futhi umlingisi othile wenza ihlaya ngowesifazane onohlobo lwami lwe-labia. Ngazizwa ngilulazekile phambi komyeni wami. ”

Kepha ngaphambi kokuthi sikhiphe lezi zizathu zengqondo ngemuva kokuvuselelwa kwesitho sangasese sowesifazane nokuthi zingaqhamuka kuphi, kufanelekile ukuthi siqale sixoxe ngamatemu.

Umhlaba wokuvuselelwa kwesitho sangasese sowesifazane

Igama elithi sangasese linomlando wokusetshenziswa kabi kwabezindaba. Ngenkathi "isitho sowesifazane sangasese" sibhekisa emgodini wangaphakathi wesitho sangasese sowesifazane, abantu bavame ukuwusebenzisa ngokushintshana ukubhekisa kumalebhu, i-clitoris, noma indunduma ye-pubic. Ngakho-ke, igama elithi "ukuvuselelwa kwesitho sangasese sowesifazane" selichaze izinqubo eziningi kunalokho elimele ngokomthetho.

Uma ubheka ukuvuselelwa kwesitho sangasese sowesifazane ku-inthanethi, uzothola izinqubo ezibhekelela zombili izindlela zokuhlinza nezingahlinzekwanga esithweni sangasese sowesifazane ngokuphelele. Lokhu kufaka:

• labiaplasty
• i-vaginoplasty noma i- "designer vaginoplasty"
• i-hymenoplasty (eyaziwa nangokuthi "ukuphinda wenze ubuntombi kabusha")
• i-O-shot, noma i-G-spot amplification
• clitoral hood ukunciphisa
• ukukhanya kwe-labial
• ukuncishiswa kwezindawo zomphakathi
• ukuqina kwesitho sangasese sowesifazane noma ukukhulisa usayizi

Eziningi zalezi zinqubo, nezizathu zokuzithola, zinempikiswano futhi ziyangabazeka ngokuziphatha.

Abaphenyi bathola ukuthi ukungenelela kwakufunwa ikakhulukazi kwenziwa ngezizathu zobuhle noma zocansi futhi kuncane kwezidingo zokwelashwa.

Muva nje, i-U.S.Food and Drug Administration (FDA) ikhiphe isexwayiso ngokukhangisa ngezinqubo zokuvuselela izitho zangasese.

Izikhangiso zithengisele abesifazane izithembiso zabo izindlela zabo "zizoqinisa futhi zivuselele" izitho zabo zangasese. Abanye babhekiswe ekuthuthukiseni izimpawu ze-postmenopausal, njengokuma kwesitho sangasese sowesifazane noma ubuhlungu ngesikhathi socansi.

Kodwa kunenkinga eyodwa. Njengoba kunikezwe ukungabi khona kwezifundo zesikhathi eside, abukho ubufakazi bokuthi lezi zindlela zokwelapha ziyasebenza noma ziphephile.

Ukuhlaziywa komagazini besifazane abayi-10 kutholakale ukuthi ezithombeni zabesifazane abanqunu noma begqoke izingubo eziqinile, indawo yasesithombeni ivame ukusitheka noma imelwe njengeyakha ijika elibushelelezi, eliyisicaba phakathi kwamathanga.

Ngenkathi ukubandakanyeka kwe-FDA kuzosiza impilo yabesifazane ukuthi ilawulwe kakhulu futhi iphephe ukuqhubekela phambili, ukuvuselelwa kwesitho sangasese sowesifazane kusathola ukubambeka.

Umbiko wango-2017 ovela kwi-American Society of Plastic Surgeons wembula ukuthi izinqubo ze-labiaplasty zikhuphuke ngamaphesenti angama-39 ngo-2016, ngokuhlinzwa okungaphezulu kuka-12,000. Ama-Labiaplasties ngokuvamile ahilela ukusika i-labia minora (i-labia yangaphakathi) ukuze angalenga ngaphansi kwe-labia majora (i-labia yangaphandle).

Kodwa-ke, i-American College of Obstetricians and Gynecologists (ACOG) ixwayisa ngalezi zinqubo, ibiza inqubo yokumaketha - ikakhulukazi leyo echaza ukuthi lokhu kuhlinza kwamukelekile futhi kuyinto ejwayelekile - iyakhohlisa.

Uma kukhulunywa ngokungasebenzi kahle kwezocansi, i-ACOG incoma ukuthi abesifazane kufanele bahlole ngokucophelela futhi baziswe kahle ngezinkinga ezikhona kanye nokushoda kobufakazi obusekela lezi zinqubo zokwelashwa.

Kungani abesifazane befuna izinqubo ezinjalo?

Ngokuya ngocwaningo lwango-2014 kumagazini i-Sexual Medicine, abacwaningi bathole ukuthi iningi labantu lifuna ukuvuselelwa kwesitho sangasese sowesifazane ngezizathu ezingokomzwelo, ikakhulu ezisuselwa ekuzazeni.

Nazi izingcaphuno ezimbalwa ezivela kwabesifazane abasesifundweni:

• “Ngiyayizonda eyami, ngiyayizonda, ngiyayizonda, ngiyizonde! Kufana nolimi olunamathele ngaphandle ngenxa yezulu! ”
• "Kuthiwani uma bengatshela wonke umuntu esikoleni, 'Yebo, muhle kodwa kukhona okungahambi kahle lapho.'"

UDkt Karen Horton, udokotela ohlinzayo wase-San Francisco ogxile kuma-labiaplasties, uyavuma ukuthi inqubo ingaqhutshwa yi-aesthetics.

"Abesifazane bafisa ukuthi ama-labia minora abo aqoqiwe, ahlanzekile, futhi aqoqeke, futhi abafuni ukubona ama-labia minora elenga phansi," usho kanje.

Esinye isiguli samtshela ukuthi "ngifisa sengathi ngabe sibukeka sihle laphaya ezansi."

Sivelaphi isisekelo 'sobuhle'?

Ngenxa yokushoda kwemfundo kanye nezingxoxo ezivulekile mayelana nalokho okujwayelekile uma kukhulunywa ngokuvela nokusebenza kwezitho zobulili zabesifazane, ukufuna isitho sangasese sowesifazane okungenzeka akupheli.

Abanye besifazane bangazizwa bethambekele ekubhaliseleni izinqubo ezinjenge-labiaplasty ne-O-shot ukulungisa izinkinga "abazizondayo" noma abazibheka njengokungajwayelekile. Futhi lapho bethola khona umqondo wokuzonda imizimba yabo kungenzeka ukuthi ivela emithonjeni yezindaba, njengomagazini besifazane abaveza i-airbrushed, izitho zangasese ezingenangqondo.

Lezi zithombe kungenzeka zifaka ukungavikeleki noma okulindelwe kokujwayelekile “kubabukeli, ngakhoke kube nomthelela ekuphakameni kwezinqubo zokuvuselela izitho zangasese.

Ukuhlaziywa komagazini besifazane abayi-10 kutholakale ukuthi ezithombeni zabesifazane abanqunu noma begqoke izingubo eziqinile, indawo yasesithombeni ivame ukusitheka noma imelwe njengeyakha ijika elibushelelezi, eliyisicaba phakathi kwamathanga.

Khohlwa ngokubonisa i-labia yangaphakathi ephumayo. Akukho ngisho uhlaka lwe-labia majora.

Ukwenza ama-labia abukeke emancane noma engekho - ukumelwa okungenangqondo ngokuphelele - kungazisa ngokukhohlisa futhi kube nomthelela ekutheni abesifazane bacabanga ukuthi amalebuli abo kufanele avele kanjani.

"Iziguli zami azazi nakancane ukuthi imvubelo 'ejwayelekile' kufanele ibukeke kanjani futhi kuyaqabukela ukuba nombono oqinile wokuthi ezazo zibukeka kanjani." - U-Annemarie Everett

Abanye abantu, njengoMeredith Tomlinson, bakholelwa ukuthi izithombe zocansi yizona eziqhuba ukufuna isitho sangasese sangasese nesitho sangasese sowesifazane.

"Kukuphi okunye lapho sibona ukusondelana kwezitho zangasese zomunye wesifazane?" Kubuza yena.

Futhi kungenzeka ukuthi uqinisile. I-Pornhub, iwebhusayithi ethandwa kakhulu yezithombe zocansi, isingathe izivakashi ezingaphezu kwezigidigidi ezingama-28.5 ngonyaka owedlule. Embikweni wabo waminyaka yonke, baveze ukuthi ibinzana lokusesha elidume kakhulu lango-2017 laliyi "porn for women." Kube nokukhula kwamaphesenti angama-359 phakathi kwabasebenzisi besifazane.

Ochwepheshe baseKing's College London baphakamisa ukuthi "izithombe zobulili ezingcolile" zesiko lesimanje kungenzeka ukuthi zikhuphula amazinga okuvuselelwa kwesitho sangasese sowesifazane, ngoba abesilisa nabesifazane banokuchayeka okuningi kwezocansi nge-inthanethi kunakuqala.

“Ngokwethembeka, ngicabanga ukuthi umqondo‘ wesitho sangasese sowesifazane nesitho sangasese esiphelele ’ususelwa ekuntulekeni kolwazi olunembile mayelana nokuthi imvubu ibukeka kanjani,” kusho u-Annemarie Everett, onguchwepheshe wezempilo wabesifazane oqinisekiswe yibhodi futhi owe-pelvic kanye ne-obstetrics therapist.

"Uma ukuphela kwento okufanele siyibhekise kuyizithombe zocansi kanye nomqondo ojwayelekile wokuthi imvubelo kufanele ibe ncane futhi ibe mnandi, ngakho-ke noma yini engaphandle kwalokho ibonakala ingamukeleki kangako, futhi asinayo indlela yokuphikisana nalokhu kucabanga," esho. .

Kodwa-ke, kukhona nobufakazi obukhombisa ukuthi i-porn kungenzeka ingabi nasolwa.

Ucwaningo lwango-2015 luhlose ukuqonda ukwaneliseka kwezitho zobulili zabesifazane, ukuvuleleka ku-labiaplasty, futhi abashayeli benjabulo nentshisekelo yabo ekuvuseleleni izitho zangasese bakubheka lokhu. Bathola ukuthi ngenkathi ukubukela izithombe zobulili ezingcolile kwakuhlotshaniswa nokuvuleleka ku-labiaplasty, kwakungeyona inkomba yokwaneliseka kwezitho zobulili.

Lokhu okutholakele kubeka ukungabaza emcabangweni wokuthi izithombe zobulili ezingcolile zingumshayeli oyinhloko wokuvuselelwa kwesitho sangasese sowesifazane, nokuthi "kukhona ababikezeli abengeziwe okumele bafakwe kumamodeli esikhathi esizayo."

Abesifazane abaningi kunabesilisa babhale ukungathandwa kwabo kunokuthandwa mayelana nemomozi yabo kanye nemomozi yabo.

Ngamanye amagama, yize i-porn kungeyona eyokugxeka kuphela, ingaba enye yezinto eziningi ezinikelayo. Esinye isici kungenzeka ukuthi abesifazane babe nemibono ebonwayo kuphela yokuthi amadoda afunani nokuthi yini ethathwa njengokujwayelekile uma kukhulunywa ngesitho sangasese sowesifazane nesitho sangasese.

"Iziguli zami azazi ukuthi imvubelo 'ejwayelekile' kufanele ibukeke kanjani futhi kuyaqabukela ukuba nombono oqinile ngokuthi zibukeka kanjani," kusho u-Everett. "Ngokwesiko, sichitha isikhathi esiningi sizama ukufihla ukwakheka komzimba wethu nesikhathi esincane kakhulu ukuqondisa intsha kulokho okujwayelekile."

Amantombazane amancane akhula ebona uBarbie oqoshwe ngokuphelele, oplastiki "V" njengowukuphela komfanekiso wesitho sangasese "esimaphakathi" awusizi neze ngezinto, noma.

Imfundo engaphezulu ingakhuthaza ukuzethemba komzimba

Kubuzwe abesilisa abayi-186 nabesifazane abangama-480 ngokuthandwa kwabo nangalokho abangakuthandi maqondana nesitho sangasese sowesifazane kanye nesitho sangasese ukuze baqonde kangcono izimo zengqondo ezithweni zobulili zabesifazane ngenxa yemiyalezo yamasiko nezenhlalo.

Ababambe iqhaza babuzwa ukuthi, “Yiziphi izinto ongazithandi ngezitho zangasese zabesifazane? Ingabe zikhona izimfanelo ezithile ozithanda kakhulu kunezinye? ” Kumadoda aphendulile, impendulo yesine evame kakhulu "bekungelutho."

Ukungathandi okuvame kakhulu kwakuyiphunga, kulandele izinwele zasesidlangalaleni.

Enye indoda yathi, “Ungabathandi kanjani? Kungakhathaliseki ukuthi siyini isimo somuntu ngamunye sowesifazane ngamunye, kuhlale kunobuhle nokuhlukile. ”

Amadoda abuye achaze kaningi ukuthanda izitho zangasese ezahlukahlukene. “Ngithanda izinhlobonhlobo zobukhulu nobukhulu be-labia ne-clitoris,” kuphendula omunye.

Omunye ubike, ngokuningiliziwe, "Ngithanda izindebe ezinde, ezibushelelezi, ezilinganisanayo - okuthile okuvusa amadlingozi, okuheha ukubuka kanye nomcabango. Ngithanda ama-clits amakhulu, kepha angithokozi njengawo ngezindebe nezindwangu. Ngithanda ukuba nesitho sangasese esikhulu, sivule izindebe, futhi sigxile emgodini waso. ”

Eqinisweni, abesifazane abaningi kunabesilisa babhale ukungathandwa kwabo kunalokho abakuthandayo ngesitho sangasese sangasese nesitho sangasese sowesifazane, okwenza abalobi baphethe ngokuthi: “Uma kubhekwa inani eliphezulu lezinto abangazithandi ezishiwo abesifazane, enye yezincazelo ngalokhu okutholakele ukuthi abesifazane bangenela kalula imiyalezo engemihle mayelana izitho zabo zobulili nokulungisa ukugxeka. ”

Emasontweni ayisithupha kanye nezindleko zamaRandi ezingama-8 500 zama-out-of-pocket kamuva, uMeredith unesifo sangasese eselaphekile - nokuzizwa epholile.

Futhi imiyalezo engemihle, lapho ifika, ingaba nesihluku futhi isho okubi, ikakhulukazi uma ucabanga ukuthi ayikho i-V ephelele.

Amadoda achaze ukungathandi kwawo asebenzisa amagama anonya, anjengokuthi “omkhulu,” “flappy,” “flabby,” “protruding,” noma “made too.” Owesifazane othile wabika ukuthi owesilisa owabelana naye ngokocansi wathuswa yizindebe zakhe ezinkulu zangaphakathi futhi wasebenzisa igama elithi "ikhethini lenyama" ukuzichaza. Enye indoda ithe, "Ngicabanga ukuthi izitho zangasese ezinoboya kumuntu wesifazane zimbi, kumenza abukeke enganaki indawo yangasese."

Uma omagazini beveza imvunge yabesifazane bangempela kuyo yonke inkazimulo yabo emikhulu, emincane, enoboya, noma engenaboya, mhlawumbe lezi zincazelo ezihlabayo, ezilimazayo zingaba nomthelela omncane.

Ukube bekunemfundo ephakeme kakhulu yokuthi isitho sangasese sowesifazane kanye nesitho sangasese sowesifazane singabukeka kanjani esikhathini sabo sokuphila, mhlawumbe indlela eya ekwamukelweni komzimba nokuqina kungenzeka ikhuthazwe.

Ukuthola ibhalansi phakathi kwengcindezi yangaphandle neyangaphakathi

Kepha kwenzekani okwamanje ezizukulwaneni esezihambe ngaphandle kwemfundo yesifazane noma zibona isidingo sokuvuselelwa kwesitho sangasese sowesifazane?

UMeredith, okukhulunywe ngaye ekuqaleni, wayehlale ezinyeza nge-labia yakhe kusukela esemncane. Ngokuqondile, lokhu kungenxa yokuthi i-labia yakhe yangaphakathi ilenga kakhulu kunaleya yakhe yangaphandle, amasentimitha ambalwa ngaphansi kwe-labia majora yakhe.

"Ngangihlale ngisola ukuthi ngihlukile, kepha ngaphawula lapho ngihamba nqunu eduze kwamanye amantombazane ukuthi empeleni ngangihlukile," esho.

Ngenxa yalokho, uMeredith wayegwema ukubhukuda ngazo zonke izindlela. Wayengafuni ukubeka engcupheni i-labia yakhe yangaphakathi iphuma ukuze izwe libone. Wazizwa engakwazi ukugqoka lawo mabhulukwe e-yoga aqinile futhi asemfashinini, ngoba akhomba ukumila nokwakheka kwesitho sakhe sangasese.

Lapho egqoke i-jean, kwakudingeka asebenzise iphedi yama-maxi, uma kwenzeka ukuthi amalebula akhe aqala ukukhathala futhi ophe. Uyakhumbula: “Ngesinye isikhathi, ngemuva kosuku lokuhamba ngebhayisikili, ngathola ukuthi amalabia ami ayopha. Kwakubuhlungu kakhulu. ”

Lokhu kubuye kwabuthinta ubudlelwano bakhe bangaphambilini, njengoba uMeredith ezokwesaba ngokubonakala enqunu futhi ethintwa lapho. Kuthiwani uma begqolozela, beqhulula ihlaya mayelana 'ne-vaginas yenkomo eyosiwe,' noma bacabanga ukuthi bekuyicisha?

Futhi ngisho nangemva kokushada, uMeredith wayesalokhu engalondekile.

Uyakhumbula: “Ngesinye isikhathi mina nomyeni wami sasibuke uhlelo lweTV ndawonye futhi umlingisi othile wenza ihlaya ngowesifazane onohlobo lwami lwe-labia. “Ngizizwe ngilulazekile phambi komyeni wami.”

Ngemuva kokufunda i-athikili eku-inthanethi ekhuluma ngokuhlinzwa kwepulasitiki, uMeredith wazithela phezu kwegama elithi "labiaplasty" - uhlobo lwenqubo yokuhlinza ngepulasitiki enciphisa ilebula langaphakathi lowesifazane.

“Bengiqala ngqa ukuthola ukuthi kunendlela yokushintsha enginenkinga ngakho nokuthi abaningi bebesesimweni esifanayo nami,” uyakhumbula. “Kulula ukuzizwa ukhishwa inyumbazane ngalezi zinkinga. Lokhu kwakukhulula. ”

Ngokushesha ngemuva kokutholakala kwakhe kwi-intanethi, uMeredith wangena kokubonisana noDkt Karen Horton. "Ngangingenaso isithombe, kodwa uDkt. Horton wenza iziphakamiso zokuthi nginganciphisa kuphi i-labia yami yangaphakathi," esho.

Futhi umyeni kaMeredith akazange amphakamise noma amcindezele ukuba aphishekele i-labiaplasty. Uyamangala kodwa wangisekela, ”uyakhumbula. "Ungitshele ukuthi akanandaba nokuthi akudingeki ngikwenze, kodwa uzongisekela noma ngabe yini."

Emasontweni ambalwa kamuva, uMeredith wathola i-labiaplasty, inqubo yosuku olulodwa ayichaza ngokuthi “ilula, iyashesha, futhi iqondile,” yize kudingeka i-anesthesia ejwayelekile. UDkt Horton uncoma ukuthatha isonto emsebenzini, ukugwema ukuzivocavoca amasonto amathathu, nokugwema ukuya ocansini amasonto ayisithupha.

Kodwa uMeredith wazizwa enamandla ngokwanele ukuba abuyele emsebenzini ngosuku olulandelayo.

Amasonto ayisithupha kanye nezindleko zamaRandi ezingama-8 500 zama-apokhethi kamuva, uMeredith unesifo somzimba eselapheki- nokuzizwa epholile.

Uthi: “Angizisoli nakancane futhi bekufanele. “Angisafihli.Ngizizwa ngivamile. ” Futhi yebo - manje ugqoke izigqoko zebhikini, ijini ngaphandle kwephedi yama-maxi, futhi uhlala egibela ibhayisikili lakhe ngokugibela okude.

Kusukela ukuhlinzwa, uMeredith nomyeni wakhe abakaze baxoxe ngenqubo. “Ngizenzele ngokuphelele. Kwakuyisinqumo somuntu siqu. ”

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