Amanani ama-3 Izingane Zami Azifundile Ngokuthola Umama Ohlala Egula

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• Ukuyeka icala
• 1. Ukuba khona ngesikhathi ndawonye
• 2. Ukubaluleka kokuzinakekela
• 3. Uzwela lwabanye

Ukuthola izindwangu zesiliva ekubeni ngumzali onesifo esingelapheki.

Impilo nokuphila kahle kuthinta ngamunye wethu ngokuhlukile. Le yindaba yomuntu oyedwa.

Ngangivele ngizinze ebhavini, ngigcwele amanzi ashunqayo nezinkomishi eziyisithupha zikasawoti we-Epsom, ngethemba ukuthi inhlanganisela izovumela obunye ubuhlungu emajoyintini ami ukudambisa nokuthoba imisipha yami yokuphalaza.

Ngibe sengizwa ukushaya ekhishini. Ngangifuna ukukhala. Yini emhlabeni manje ingane yami eyayingena kuyo?

Njengomzali ongayedwa onesifo esingalapheki, ngangikhathele ngokuphelele. Umzimba wami ubuhlungu futhi ikhanda lishayekile.

Ngenkathi ngizwa amadilowa evuleka futhi evala egumbini lami lokulala ngacwilisa ikhanda lami emanzini, ngalalela ukushaya kwenhliziyo yami kunanela ezindlebeni zami. Ngizikhumbuze ukuthi lesi bekuyisikhathi sami sokunginakekela, futhi bekubaluleke kakhulu ukuthi ngenze njalo.

Kwakulungile ukuthi ingane yami eneminyaka eyishumi ubudala yayisele yodwa kuleyo mizuzu engama-20 ngangizicwilisa kubhavu, ngazitshela. Ngazama ukuphefumula amanye amacala enganginawo.

Ukuyeka icala

Ukuzama ukudedela umuzwa wecala kuyinto engizithola ngiyenza kaningi njengomzali - ikakhulu manje njengoba sengingumzali okhubazekile, onesifo esingelapheki.

Angisiyedwa ngedwa. Ngiyingxenye yeqembu elisekela online labazali abanezifo ezingamahlalakhona eligcwele abantu ababuza ukuthi ukulinganiselwa kwabo kunomthelela muni ezinganeni zabo.

Siphila emphakathini ogxile ekukhiqizeni nakwisiko eligcizelela kangako kuzo zonke izinto esingazenzela izingane zethu. Akumangalisi ukuthi sibuze ukuthi ngabe singabazali abanele yini noma cha.

Kunengcindezi yomphakathi yokuthi abazali bathathe amanani abo baye emakilasini okuzivocavoca “Mama kanye Nami”, bavolontiye ekilasini lesikole samabanga aphansi, bavimbe intsha yethu phakathi kwamakilabhu amaningi nezinhlelo, baphonse amaphathi ezinsuku zokuzalwa aphelele ePinterest, futhi benze ukudla okunempilo okuhle - konke ngenkathi senza isiqiniseko sokuthi izingane zethu azinaso isikhathi sesikrini esiningi kakhulu.

Njengoba kwesinye isikhathi ngigula kakhulu ukuthi ngingashiya umbhede, ingasaphathwa eyendlu, lokhu okulindelwe ngumphakathi kungenza ngizizwe ngisehluleki.

Kodwa-ke, lokho mina - nabanye abazali abangenakubalwa abagula ngokungalapheki - abakutholile ukuthi yize kunezinto esingenakuzenza, ziningi izindinganiso esizifundisa izingane zethu ngokuba nokugula okungalapheki.

1. Ukuba khona ngesikhathi ndawonye

Esinye sezipho zokugula okungapheli yisipho sesikhathi.

Lapho umzimba wakho ungenalo ikhono lokusebenza isikhathi esigcwele noma uzibandakanya nomqondo wokuthi "go-go-go, do-do-do" ovame kakhulu emphakathini wethu, uphoqeleka ukuba wehlise ijubane.

Ngaphambi kokuthi ngigule, ngangisebenza isikhathi esigcwele futhi ngifundisa ubusuku obubalwa ngaphezulu kwalokho, ngaya nase-Grad esikoleni ngokugcwele. Sasivame ukuchitha isikhathi somndeni wethu senza izinto ezifana nokuhamba izintaba, ukuya emicimbini yomphakathi, nokwenza eminye imisebenzi emhlabeni nasezweni.

Ngenkathi ngigula lezo zinto zamiswa ngokuzumayo, futhi izingane zami (ngaleso sikhathi ezineminyaka engu-8 no-9) nami kwadingeka sivumelane neqiniso elisha.

Ngenkathi bengingasakwazi ukwenza izinto eziningi izingane zami ebezijwayele ukuthi sizenze ndawonye, ​​ngokungazelelwe ngibe nesikhathi esithe xaxa sokuchitha nazo.

Impilo yehla kancane uma ugula, futhi ukugula kwami ​​kwehlisa impilo yezingane zami, futhi.

Kunamathuba amaningi okugoqa embhedeni nge-movie noma elele kusofa ulalele izingane zami zingifundela incwadi. Ngisekhaya futhi ngingaba khona lapho ngifuna ukukhuluma noma nje ngidinga ukwanga okwengeziwe.

Impilo, yami kanye nezingane zami, seyigxile kakhulu manje futhi ijabulela izikhathi ezilula.

2. Ukubaluleka kokuzinakekela

Lapho ingane yami encane ineminyaka engu-9 ubudala bangitshela ukuthi i-tattoo yami elandelayo idinga ukuba amagama athi "unakekele," ngakho-ke noma nini lapho ngiyibona ngikhumbula ukuzinakekela.

Lawo magama manje asefakwe inki ekushanekeni kokuthuka engalweni yami yangakwesokudla, futhi ayeqinisile - kuyisikhumbuzo esihle sansuku zonke.

Ukugula nokungibuka ngigxile ekuzinakekeleni kwami ​​kusizile ukufundisa izingane zami ukubaluleka kokuzinakekela.

Izingane zami sezifundile ukuthi kwesinye isikhathi sidinga ukuthi cha ezintweni, noma sishiye kude nemisebenzi ukuze sihambe ngokunakekela izidingo zomzimba wethu.

Bafunde ukubaluleka kokudla njalo nokudla ukudla imizimba yethu ephendula kahle kukho, kanye nokubaluleka kokuthola ukuphumula okuningi.

Bayazi ukuthi kubalulekile nje ukunakekela abanye, kodwa kubaluleke ngokufanayo ukuzinakekela thina.

3. Uzwela lwabanye

Izinto eziyinhloko izingane zami ezifunde ukukhuliswa ngumzali onesifo esingelapheki ububele nozwela.

Emaqenjini asekela ukugula okungamahlalakhona ngiyingxenye ye-inthanethi, lokhu kuvela kaninginingi: izindlela izingane zethu ezikhula ngazo zibe ngabantu abanozwelo olukhulu nabakhathalelayo.

Izingane zami ziyaqonda ukuthi kwesinye isikhathi abantu basezinhlungwini, noma banenkinga ngemisebenzi engahle ifinyelele kalula kwabanye. Bayashesha ukunikeza usizo kulabo abababona bethwala kanzima noma balalele kuphela abangane abalimalayo.

Bakhombisa naloluzwelo kimi, olungenza ngiziqhenye ngokujulile futhi ngibonge.

Lapho ngiphuma ngikhasa kulelo bhati, ngaziqinisa ukuze ngibhekane nodlame olukhulu endlini. Ngazibopha ngethawula ngaphefumula kanzima ngilungiselela. Engikuthole kunalokho kwangikhalisa.

Ingane yami ibibeke “opopayi” engibathandayo embhedeni yangiphuzela inkomishi yetiye. Ngahlala ekugcineni kombhede wami ngawungenisa wonke.

Ubuhlungu babusekhona, kanye nokukhathala. Kodwa ngenkathi ingane yami ingena futhi inganga kakhulu, icala lalingenjalo.

Esikhundleni salokho, kwakukhona uthando nje ngomndeni wami omuhle nokubonga ngazo zonke izinto ukuphila kulo mzimba onesifo esingelapheki nokukhubazeka okungifundisa zona nalabo engibathandayo.

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