Bazali Abathandekayo, Ukukhathazeka Ezinganeni Kuyinkinga Enkulu

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• Ingabe izingane eziningi ziphila ngokukhathazeka namuhla?
• Kungani izingane zikhathazeka kangaka?
• Ukusiza ingane yakho ukuba ibhekane nesifo sokukhathazeka
• Siza ngokukhathazeka
  

UHolly *, i-ejenti yokusakaza e-Austin, eTexas, wayenokucindezeleka kwangemva kokubeletha nengane yakhe yokuqala, uFiona, manje oneminyaka emihlanu. Namuhla, uHolly uthatha imishanguzo ukulawula ukukhathazeka nokudangala kwakhe. Kepha futhi ukhathazeka ngokuthi ngelinye ilanga ukukhathazeka kungahle kuthinte indodakazi yakhe - nendodana yakhe, manje eyi-3.

UHolly uchaza ukuthi uFiona angaba namahloni futhi anamathele. "[Ngangingaqiniseki] ukuthi lokho kwakuyindlela evamile yokuziphatha kwengane noma enye into," kusho uHolly.

Kwabe sekukhona lokho uHolly akubiza manje “ngesigameko.” Emasontweni ambalwa esenkulisa kulo nyaka, uFiona walimala enkundleni yokudlala ngesikhathi sekhefu futhi wathunyelwa kumhlengikazi.

"Ngicabanga ukuthi wayeyedwa isikhashana, bese engavunyelwe ukubuyela ekhefini," kukhumbula uHolly. “Ngicabanga ukuthi wayezizwa engalawuleki kakhulu, okwabe sekuvezwa njengokuthi,‘ Angimthandi umhlengikazi. ’Wabe engafuni ukuya esikoleni, futhi waqala ukubuyela emuva ezindaweni eziningana.Wayengasafuni ukuya ekilasini lokupheka, bese edansa isigaba. Nsuku zonke, ukuya esikoleni kwaba ukuhlukunyezwa, ukumemeza, ukukhala. Kuthathe isikhashana ukumthulisa, ”kuchaza yena.

UHolly nomyeni wakhe bakhulume nothisha kaFiona kanye nomhlengikazi. Kodwa ngemuva kwamasonto ambalwa, uHolly uvumile ukuthi wayengenawo amathuluzi afanele okubhekana nalesi simo. Wathatha uFiona waya kudokotela wakhe wezingane, owabuza ingane imibuzo eminingi. Udokotela wezingane wabe eseluleka unina: "Unenkinga ethile yokukhathazeka."

UHolly wadluliselwa kumelaphi futhi waqala ukuthatha uFiona amvakashele masonto onke. “Umelaphi wayejabule ngendodakazi yethu, futhi wayengithanda kakhulu. Unginike amathuluzi okusiza ukukhuluma nendodakazi yami futhi angisize ngiqonde ukuthi kwenzekani, ”kusho uHollys. UHolly noFiona baqhubeke nokubonana nodokotela izinyanga ezintathu, kanti uFiona wenze intuthuko enkulu ngokukhathazeka kwakhe, kusho uHolly.

Ecabanga ngempilo yakhe yengqondo ebuntwaneni, uHolly uyakhumbula, “Ngangiyizonda inkulisa. Ngakhala ngakhala futhi ngakhala, futhi ingxenye yami izibuza ukuthi, Ngenzeni ukudala lokhu? Ngabe wazalwa ngale ndlela noma sengimhlanyisa ngandlela thile? ”

Ingabe izingane eziningi ziphila ngokukhathazeka namuhla?

UHolly akayedwa. Ngixoxisane nabazali abaningana abake bahlala ngokukhathazeka, abanezingane zabo ezikhombise nokuziphatha okukhathazayo.

Ukukhathazeka ezinganeni kunqunywa ukuthi kwandile manje kunangesizukulwane esedlule, kusho owelapha imindeni waseLos Angeles uWesley Stahler. Uyanezela ukuthi kunezici eziningi ezahlukahlukene zokuyidonsa, kufaka phakathi ufuzo. "Ngokuvamile abazali bangena bazibeke icala ngezakhi zofuzo," kusho uStahler. Kepha empeleni, kukhona okuningi okudlala. "Kunomongo womlando, uma kuqhathaniswa nesikhathi siseyingane," uyachaza.

Ngeza kulokho ukungezwani ngokwehlukana kwezepolitiki ngaphambi nangaphambi kokukhethwa, futhi ukukhathazeka namuhla kubonakala sekuyinkinga yomndeni esabalele. Okubaluleke nakakhulu ukwazi ukuthi ukukhathazeka kokukhathazeka yizifo ezivame kakhulu ukugula kwengqondo e-United States.

Ukukhathazeka kuchazwa njengokuhluleka ukubekezelela ukungaphatheki kahle, kuchaza uStahler, nokubona izinto ezingezona izinsongo zangempela njengezisongo. UStahler wengeza ukuthi ingane eyodwa kwezingu-8 nomuntu oyedwa kwabane banexhala. Ukukhathazeka kubonakala ngezindlela zomzimba nezingokwengqondo, kufaka phakathi isisu, ukulunywa kwezipikili, ukungaguquguquki, nobunzima ngokushintshwa.

Abantu babhekana nempendulo yokulwa noma yezindiza kusongo olubonwayo. Imvamisa ukukhathazeka ezinganeni kubhekwa njengokushoda kokunakwa, kusho uStahler, okungabukeka njengezingane ezingakwazi ukuhlala zithule. I-Fidget spinner, noma ngubani?

URachel *, uthisha webanga lesine ozinze eLos Angeles, uthi ubonile ukukhuphuka okukhulu ekukhathazekeni nasekucindezelekeni phakathi kwabafundi bakhe eminyakeni emihlanu edlule.

Ngenxa yalokhu, uRachel ushintshe ngamabomu amagama akhe namaqhinga okubhekana nemindeni.

“Esikhathini esedlule bengizosebenzisa amagama anjengokuthi uvalo, ukukhathazeka, ukukhathazeka ngokuchaza ukuthi kungenzeka kanjani ukuthi ingane ikhungathekile ekilasini ngenxa yamamaki ayo noma imibono yayo yokuthi abanye ibabheka kanjani. Manje, igama ukukhathazeka lilethwa engxoxweni ngumzali. Abazali babika ukuthi ingane yabo ikhala izinsuku, kwesinye isikhathi, noma yenqabe ukubamba iqhaza, noma ingakwazi ukulala, ”kuchaza uRachel.

Isazi sokusebenza kwengqondo sezingane esizinze eBrooklyn uGenevieve Rosenbaum ubone ukwanda kokukhathazeka phakathi kwamakhasimende akhe kule minyaka edlule, futhi. Ngonyaka odlule, ubika, “Nganginabafundi abaphakathi kwabahlanu, bonke belandelana, bonke ababenexhala lokusebenza esikoleni. Bonke babenokwesaba ngokweqile mayelana nokufaka isicelo esikoleni esiphakeme. Kuyamangaza ngempela. Kubonakala sengathi kubi kakhulu kunangesikhathi ngiqala ukuzijwayeza. ”

Kungani izingane zikhathazeka kangaka?

Imithombo eyinhloko yokukhathazeka, kusho uStahler, ikabili: ukuxhunywa kobuchopho nokuba ngumzali. Kalula nje, obunye ubuchopho bugcwele ukukhathazeka ngaphezu kwabanye. Ngokuqondene nengxenye yokuba ngumzali, kunesici sofuzo.

Ukukhathazeka kubuyela emuva kuze kufike ezizukulwaneni ezintathu, kusho uStahler, bese kuba khona abazali abayimodeli abakhombisa izingane zabo, njengokusebenzisa ngokweqile i-sanitizer yesandla noma ukubambelela ngamagciwane.

Futhi, ngenxa yokwanda "ukukhulisa ingwe nokuhlela ngokweqile, izingane namuhla zinesikhathi esincane sokudlala - futhi yindlela izingane ezizilungisa ngayo izinto," kunezela uStahler.

U-Ann, umeluleki wenhlangano ePortland, e-Oregon, onengane eneminyaka eyishumi enenkinga yokuzungeza ukuvakashelwa odokotela nodokotela wamazinyo kanye nomfana oneminyaka engu-7 onenkinga yezenhlalo, uzame ukukunciphisa lokho ngokuthumela izingane zakhe eWaldorf Isikole, esinemidiya elinganiselwe nesikhathi esanele phakathi kwezihlahla.

“Izingane azisitholi isikhathi esanele semvelo. Bachitha isikhathi esiningi kakhulu kumadivayisi, okuguqula ukwakheka kobuchopho, futhi umhlaba wethu namuhla uhlala uhlaselwa njalo yizinzwa, ”kusho u-Ann. "Ayikho indlela ingane ebucayi engakwazi ngayo ukuzulazula kuzo zonke izinto eza kuzo ngaso sonke isikhathi."

U-Ann unomlando wokuhlaselwa ukwethuka futhi uvela “kolayini abade babantu abazwelayo,” uyachaza. Wenze umsebenzi omningi ngokuzikhathaza kwakhe - okumsizile ukuthi aphathe ezakhe izingane.

"Ngesikhathi siseyingane, kwakungekho limi ngalokhu," kunezela u-Ann. Useqalile, futhi ugcina leyo ngxoxo nezingane zakhe ukuqinisekisa ukwesaba kwabo nokusiza ukuziqeda. “Ngiyazi ukuthi kusiza indodana yami ukwazi ukuthi ayiyodwa, ukuthi ihlangabezana nesimo sangempela [ngesikhathi sokukhathazeka]. Kuyena, kuyasebenza lokho, ”kusho yena.

ULauren, isitayela semfashini eLos Angeles, uthi ufune futhi wathola usizo oluningi lochwepheshe ngendodana yakhe eneminyaka eyishumi ubudala, enokukhathazeka. Ku-3, wathola ukuxilongwa kokuba semkhakheni we-autism. Uthi, kungakhathalekile ukuthi zinjani izimo zemvelo, kungenzeka ukuthi indodana yakhe ibilokhu ikuthola lokho kuxilongwa. Kodwa ngesinye isikhathi emlandweni, kungenzeka ukuthi akazange aluthole usizo olufanayo abeludinga.

Njengo-Ann, uLauren uchaza ukuthi wayehlale ezwela. “Ukuphendula komndeni wami bekulokhu, lapho ehamba khona, esabela ngokweqile futhi! Kusukela lapho baqonde ukuthi lokhu kuyinkimbinkimbi, ”usho kanje.

Ngemuva konyaka odlule enothisha omusha, ongenalwazi “owakhulisa indodana yami ngokuphelele” - wachitha isikhathi esilinganayo ehhovisi likathishanhloko ngemuva kokucasha ephindelela edeskini lakhe - Umndeni kaLauren usebenzise izinhlobo ezahlukene zokwelapha ngokwesintu nangezinye izindlela, kubandakanya ne-neurofeedback, kanye nokuzindla kanye nezinguquko zokudla. Indodana yakhe ilungiswe kangcono kakhulu kulo nyaka.

"Angikwazi ukwenza ingane yami igodole, kodwa ngiyakwazi ukuyifundisa izindlela zokubhekana nazo," kusho uLauren. Ngolunye usuku kulo nyaka lapho indodana yakhe ilahlekelwa ubhaka wakhe, uLauren uyakhumbula ukuthi “kwakungathi ngimemezele ukuthi wonke umndeni wakhe ubulewe. Ngamtshela ukuthi singaya ku-Target simtholele okusha, kepha wayenokwesaba ngokomzimba. Ekugcineni, wangena ekamelweni lakhe, wadlala ingoma yakhe ayithandayo kukhompyutha, waphuma wathi, ‘Mama, sengizizwa ngingconywana manje.’ ”Lokho kwakungokokuqala, kusho uLauren. Nokunqoba.

Ukusiza ingane yakho ukuba ibhekane nesifo sokukhathazeka

Ngemuva kokuvuma ukuthi izingqinamba zemindeni zehlukile, uStahler uthi kunamathuluzi ayisisekelo okubhekana nawo awancomayo kubazali abanezingane ezikhombisa izimpawu noma zithole ukuxilongwa kwesifo sokukhathazeka.

Siza ngokukhathazeka

• Dala amasiko ansuku zonke lapho ukhomba khona amandla ezingane zakho.
• Khomba isibindi futhi uvume ukuthi KULUNGILE ukwesaba nokwenza okuthile noma kunjalo.
• Qinisekisa izindinganiso zakho zomndeni. Isibonelo, "Kulo mndeni, sizama okuthile okusha nsuku zonke."
• Thola isikhathi sokuphumula nsuku zonke. Pheka, funda, noma udlale umdlalo webhodi. Ungazibandakanyi nesikhathi sesikrini.
• Vocavoca umzimba njalo; UStahler ugcizelela ukuthi imizuzu engama-20 ye-cardio engami ingathuthukisa imizwa yakho.
• Funa usizo lochwepheshe lapho ludingeka nomuntu ongaxoxa ngokuthi imithi ingayifanele yini ingane yakho.

Ukuthola usizo olwengeziwe mayelana nokukhathazeka nokudangala, vakashela i-Anxiety and Depression Association of America. Njalo funa usizo lochwepheshe ngaphambi kokuqala noma yiziphi izinhlelo zokwelashwa.

Amagama ashintshiwe ukuvikela ubumfihlo babanikeli.

U-Liz Wallace ungumbhali nomhleli waseBrooklyn osanda kushicilelwa ku-The Atlantic, Lenny, Domino, Architectural Digest, naseManRepeller. Iziqeshana ziyatholakala ku- elizabethannwallace.wordpress.com.