Kungani Sithanda u-Jesse Pinkman (nabanye Ababi)

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Impela, u-Jesse Pinkman ungumfundi oyeke esikoleni samabanga aphezulu futhi owake waba yi-junkie esebenza ebhizinisini lezidakamizwa futhi wabulala indoda, kodwa futhi uye wathwebula ukukhonzwa okubonakalayo kwawo wonke umuntu wesifazane waseMelika onenhliziyo eshayayo kanye nokubhaliselwe kwe-TV ngekhebula. Ukuheha "umfana omubi" akuyona into entsha, kepha lo mlingiswa, odlalwe ukunqoba ama-Emmy amahlandla amabili Aaron Paul emdlalweni we-AMC wokulutha Ukuphuka Okubi, inekhono elilodwa lokwenza isibukeli wesifazane esivamile sizizwe sengathi besinobudlelwano obunesiyaluyalu nompheki we-meth kusukela ngo-2008. (Sekuyiminyaka embalwa kodwa ngiyadlula kukho!)

Ukuhlonipha ukukhonjiswa okulindelwe kakhulu kweziqephu zokugcina eziyisishiyagalombili zochungechunge ngo-Agasti 11, sithathe isinqumo sokubheka ngokujulile ukuthi kuyini ngoJesse okusenza simthande ngokumelene nokwahlulela kwethu okungcono. Madoda, uma ujwayele ukukhetha umfana ongafanele, qaphela. Lokhu kuhlaziywa kwesazi sokusebenza kwengqondo esisemtholampilo kanye nelungu lebhodi labaluleki be-SHAPE u-Belisa Vranich, i-PsyD, kanye nesazi sesayensi yezinto eziphilayo kanye nomeluleki wesayensi ku-Match.com u-Helen Fisher, Ph.D., kusebenza emithonjeni yempilo yangempela njengoba kwenza esokeni lethu eliqanjiwe elinamehlo aluhlaza okwesibhakabhaka. (Izexwayiso ze-"Breaking Bad" uma ungabanjwanga!).

Okokuqala, okusobala: Lobo buso! Imile nje ku-5'8 ", ifreyimu kaJesse ingahle ibonakale izacile futhi incane, okuvame ukuthi ayifihle ngaphansi kwezingubo ezinkulu nobhontshisi, kodwa ubuso bakhe buveza enye indaba." Unazo zonke izimpawu ezinhlanu eziyisisekelo zomuntu ophakeme kakhulu we-testosterone: 1 ) i-angular, umhlathi oqinile 2) izinqe ezisindayo 3) izihlathi eziphakeme 4) izindebe ezincane, kanye 5) nesiphongo esiphakeme," kusho uFisher, owabhala le ncwadi. Kungani Yena? Kungani Her?.

"Isizathu esenza abesifazane bakuthole ngokungathandeki lokhu kuheha yingoba i-testosterone yinto ebabazekayo edinga amasosha omzimba aqinile kakhulu ukubekezelela amazinga aphezulu e-hormone," kuchaza yena. "Lokhu kusho ukuthi lawa madoda akhangisa ngobuso bawo ukuthi 'amasosha omzimba wami anamandla kangangokuba ngiyakwazi ukubekezelela leli nani le-testosterone.'" Ngamanye amagama, umgqomo wakhe oyindoda uyibhodi lokukhangisa elihamba kahle lempilo. Encwadini ehlobene, i-testosterone ephezulu isho nokuthi une-sex drive ephezulu, uFisher uyanezela, futhi ngubani ongafuni umuntu olala naye ongakwazi ukuqhubeka?

Akalindeleki. Uma uthanda ama-roller coasters, uzothanda uJesse, obonakala enezikhathi ezehla nezimbi kakhulu zanoma yimuphi umlingisi ochungechungeni. Angazizwa ejabule, ecindezelekile, enethemba, futhi edabukile konke esiqeshini esisodwa nje. Ukungazi ukuthi uzosabela kanjani ezimweni kuyingxenye yesikhalazo. "Abesifazane bathanda izinto ezintsha," kusho uFisher.

"Kuqhuba uhlelo lwe-dopamine ebuchosheni futhi lokho kukunikeza amandla, ukugxila, ukugqugquzela, ithemba, nokuguquguquka kwengqondo," esho. Ngokuyisisekelo, ukuba seduze kwendoda engalindelekile, njengoJesse, kungajabulisa kakhulu. Ngasikhathi sinye, lokhu kuziphatha okungaqondakali kungasanganisa, yingakho kungaze kuphumelele.

Ubonisa ukukhanya kobuhlakani. Amagama amathathu amancane: "Yebo, bitch! Ozibuthe!" Ngenkathi umlingani wakhe webhizinisi futhi owayenguthisha wesayensi yamakhemikhali esikoleni esiphakeme uWalter White (edlalwa ngabangenakunqotshwa UBryan Cranston) kwase kukade kwakhiwa njengobuchopho bokuhlinzwa, uJesse ube nezikhathi zakhe ezihlaba umxhwele ze-light-bulb. Ngesizini yesihlanu, umqondo wakhe omuhle wokusebenzisa ozibuthe ukucekela phansi ubufakazi obuyimbangela yomsabalalisi we-meth ongasasebenzi uGustavo "Gus" Fring's laptop owawukhiyiwe ekomkhulu lamaphoyisa wabasindisa ekubanjweni. I-testosterone ephakeme kaJese, njengoba kuboniswe ubuso bakhe, kungenzeka ukuthi ibinokuthintana nakho.

"Abesilisa abane-testosterone ephakeme bavame ukuba nokuhlaziya, ukuqonda, ukuqondisa, ukuthatha isinqumo, ukuqina kwengqondo, ukungabaza, nokusebenza kahle kwezobunjiniyela, imishini, amakhompyutha, futhi kulokhu, bapheka i-crystal meth," kusho uFisher. "Sekuyizigidi zeminyaka, abesifazane befuna kumuntu ongashaya le nyathi ekhanda ngedwala futhi abe nekhono elihle lokuhlukanisa isikhala, lokuhlaziya ukuthola lokhu. Abesifazane bakhangwa abesilisa abangafika ekhaya bedle isidlo sakusihlwa," usho kanje.

Ungumphefumulo olahlekile. Akungabazeki ukuthi u-Jesse uyamdinga-futhi ufuna ngempela umuntu ozomsindisa. Lowo owayengu-junkie uzame ukuhlanza isenzo sakhe kaninginingi kulo lonke lolu chungechunge, ikakhulukazi kusukela ngenkathi yesithathu lapho eqala ukuthandana nomama ongayedwa futhi elulama umlutha u-Andrea. Kuyacaca ukuthi ingxenye yakhe ifuna ukukholwa ukuthi angaba ngumuntu olungile, kepha konke lokho kuphuma ngewindi ekupheleni kwesizini lapho ephoqeleka ukubulala indoda engenacala, uGale, ukusindisa impilo kaMnu.White. Ukubona ukungabaza kwakhe ngaphambi kokuthi adonse inhlamvu kwanele ukwenza noma yimuphi umuntu wesifazane afune ukugxambukela amkhulumise ngakho.

"Abanye besifazane bavame ukuba ngumama futhi bakholelwa ukuthi singashintsha abantu futhi sisindise imiphefumulo yabo elahlekile. Kukhanga amakhono ethu okukhulisa, axhumene ne-estrogen," kusho uFisher. Futhi uthi uyamsindisa ngempumelelo? Ingaqhuma ebusweni bakho. “Abesifazane abaningi basize owesilisa ukuthi abone ikhono lakhe futhi uma esefinyelele kuwo angase amshiye ngoba usengathola umaqondana manje,” kuxwayisa uVranic. "Kumele uzibuze, iphi inethiwekhi yakhe yokweseka? Kungani engenayo? Kunesizathu sokuthi kube khona isizathu."

Uyadelela. Ngokunikezwa kokukhetha umsebenzi okungavumelekile futhi okungekho emthethweni ngokuphelele, uJesse akayena umuntu olandelanayo. Ukuba namandla okuba ngumuntu wakhe uqobo nokungalandeli imithetho ephilwa yilo lonke umphakathi kuyashisa. "Abesifazane bathanda ukuhlala ngokungahambisani nalaba besilisa bese beya enjabulweni, kepha lezi zimpisi ezizithandayo azenzi amadoda alungile," kusho uVranick, umbhali wencwadi Unamandla.

Ngakolunye uhlangothi, ukuphuma wedwa kuwuphawu lwesibindi, nokuyinto abesifazane ebebeyidinga kozakwethu emuva osukwini ukuze bondliwe futhi bavikelwe. “Abesifazane bafuna indoda engeke igcine ngokuletha isidlo sakusihlwa ekhaya kuphela kodwa futhi ibavikele, futhi lokho ngokuvamile kuzoba ngumuntu onolaka futhi okwaziyo ukumelana nezimo,” kuchaza uFisher. Kuzo zonke izinkathi ezinhlanu ezedlule, isimilo sikaJese esimnyama sikhuthazelele ukushaywa okusongela impilo, ukufa kothando lwakhe lokuqala, ukubulawa komuntu ongenacala - ukuthi uzimisele ukubeka engcupheni konke, ngisho nokuphila kwakhe, ngenxa yalokho akholelwa kukho Isibonelo esiphelele: Isikhathi lapho ahlangana nabashushumbisi bezidakamizwa ababili ababencintisana ngokubulawa komfowabo ka-Andrea, 11, uTomas.

Uphatheke kabi. Akayena umuntu weTin-unenhliziyo! Isizini eyodwa iveze ngokushesha ukuthi uJesse ungene ku-anti wakhe oshonayo uJenny ukuze amnakekele ezinsukwini zakhe zokugcina elwa nomdlavuza. Ngenkathi yesithathu, waqala ukwakha ukuxhumana kobaba nendodana yentombi yakhe u-Andrea, uBrock. Futhi kusukela ekuqaleni uzwakalise ukwethembeka okukhulu kuMnu.White, owagcina emxoshile ngemuva kokubulawa komfana omncane ongenacala (ingane yayiwabonile ephanga isitimela se-methylamine) yenza uJesse wafuna ukuphuma. Ukuzwela kwakhe okuhambisana nokuzisola kuyona combo eyingozi kakhulu yomfana, kusho uVranick.

"Abesifazane bavame ukudla izingcezwana zezinkwa ezingekho emthethweni ezisho ukuthi indoda ingumuntu olungile ngoba sinethemba futhi sinethemba futhi sithanda ukucabanga ukuthi abantu balungile," esho. "Abesifazane bawela ogibeni olungaphakathi ngaphakathi muhle ngethemba lokuthi uzobona ukuthi wambona ngedayimane kule ndawo ayekade eyiyo, okumenza azizwe ekhethekile futhi, kodwa lokho akukaze kwenzeke."

Iziqephu zokugcina ze Ukuphuka Okubi idlala okokuqala ngeSonto, Agasti 11, ngo-9 ebusuku. ET ku-AMC. Ngabe uzobe ubhekile? Sipote ku @shape_magazine bese usitshela ukuthi ucabangani ngalo mdlalo nabalingisi bawo abahamba phambili.

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