Kungani Lona Ngunyaka Engihlukana nawo Ngokudla Okuhle

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Lapho ngineminyaka engu-29, sengineminyaka engu-30, ngashaywa uvalo. Isisindo sami, umthombo oqhubekayo wengcindezi nokukhathazeka impilo yami yonke, kushaye isikhathi sonke. Noma ngangifeza amaphupho ami njengombhali eManhattan à la Carrie Bradshaw, ngangiphatheke kabi. Ikhabethe lami belingaphansi "ngaphandle komgwaqo we-runway" futhi ngaphezulu "indawo yokubeka imvume eLane Bryant." Bengingenaye "Mnumzane Big" engingakhuluma ngaye-yize ngizwe abaningi abangase babe ngabashushisi bangibiza ngo "Ms Big" ngaphambi kokuthi bonke banyamalale. Ngangijabule ngokwengeziwe ngoMgqibelo ebusuku ngine-pizza (okumaphakathi, okweqweqwe olujwayelekile oluvela eDomino nge-pepperoni nophayinaphu, uma kufanele wazi) kunokuzama nokungena kumhlangano omnyama "ophumayo" ebengithemba ukuthi uzofihla amanye Okukhuluphele kwami ​​njengoba ngihlezi ekhoneni ngibuka abangani bami abancane, abahle, nabajabule begilwa futhi ekugcineni bangishiya ngizitholele eyami indlela eya ekhaya-lapho ngangizo-oda khona leyo pizza. (Okubalulekile: Kungani Uthando Lwami Lomumo Olunika Amandla Kangaka)

Cishe izinyanga ezinhlanu ngaze ngaba neminyaka engama-30 ubudala, ngafinyelela lapho ngaphuka khona. Angikwazanga ukuthatha izinketho ezinqunyelwe zokugqoka ikhabethe kusuka ezitolo ezimbili ezithwele usayizi wami ezintweni ngaphandle kwe-muumuus. Ngangingakwazi ukuzizwa ngifiphele ngekusasa lami elalibonakala lidalelwe ukungabi nandoda nengane. Futhi angikwazanga ukuthatha inkungu, ukuqunjelwa, nokuphefumula usuku lonke.

Ngakho-ke ngemuva kweminyaka yokuhluleka konke ukudla ngaphansi kwelanga-sikhuluma nge-Weight Watchers, uJenny Craig, umjikelezo wesidakamizwa esimangalisayo i-Fen-Phen, i-Atkins, i-LA Weight Loss, i-Nutrisystem, izinhlelo "ezifakazelwe ngokwesayensi" engawela kuzo ebusuku. ama-infomercials, ukudla isobho, nezinhlelo ezingenakubalwa ezenzelwe izazi zokudla-ngigcine ngivuma kimi ukuthi anginamandla phezu kokudla (ingasaphathwa, ngangisazophuka emfudlaneni ongapheli wokudla engangikudla "konke ngangena") futhi ngajoyina uhlelo lwezinyathelo eziyi-12 zokulutha ukudla. Kwakudlulele-nganginomuntu "oxhasa," ngangiyeka yonke impuphu noshukela, futhi ngangidla kathathu kukalwa ngokucophelela futhi ngilinganise ukudla ngosuku. Kwakuyinto efanayo nsuku zonke: ngesidlo sasekuseni, ngangidla i-ounce elilodwa le-oatmeal ngokukhetha izithelo nama-ounces ayi-6 e-yogurt ethafeni lesidlo sasekuseni. Ngokudla kwasemini nedina, bekungama-ounces angu-4 eprotheyini engenawo ama-ounces angu-8 esaladi, isipuni samafutha kanye nama-ounces angu-6 emifino ephekiwe. Akukho ukudla okulula. Ayikho i-dessert. Ayikho i-leeway. Eqinisweni, njalo ekuseni, kwakufanele ngitshele umxhasi wami izinto engizozidla usuku lonke. Uma ngithi ngizodla inkukhu ngesidlo sakusihlwa, kodwa kamuva nganquma nge-salmon esikhundleni salokho, kwakungathandwa. Kwakunzima, kwakuyisihogo, futhi kwakuwukuvivinywa kwamandla engingazi nokuthi nginakho.

Futhi kwasebenza. Ngosuku lwami lokuzalwa lwama-30, ngase ngilahle amakhilogremu angama-40. Ekupheleni kwalowo nyaka, ngase ngilahlekelwe ngamaphawundi angu-70, ngigqoke usayizi 2 (wehla kusukela kusayizi 16/18), ngihlangana nesivunguvungu futhi ngithanda ingoma eqhubekayo ethi "ubukeka umangalisa" izincomo ezivela kubangani, umndeni, kanye nozakwethu. .

Kepha lokho bekucishe kube yiminyaka eyi-10 edlule futhi manje, nginezinyanga eziyisishiyagalolunye ukusuka osukwini lwami lokuzalwa lwama-40. Futhi ngemva kweminyaka eyi-10 ngathatha leso sinyathelo sokushintsha impilo yami nomzimba wami ngesilinganiso esedlulele kakhulu sawo wonke umlando wami wokudayetha ochwepheshe uyaziphinda. (Bheka futhi: Kungani Ukufinyelela Esinqumweni Sami Kwangenza Ngajabula Kancane)

Awu, uhlobo.

Ngithole iningi laleso sisindo emuva. Futhi manje, njengoba ngigqolozele i-o-o enkulu (ngoSepthemba 18, 2017, usuku), ngiphinde ngifise ukwehlisa isisindo, futhi ngingathanda ukuzizwa ngiphilile. Kodwa izisusa zami zihlukile kulokhu. Angisazami ukuhlangana nabafana emakilabhini. Nginomyeni ongumlingani wami womphefumulo, indodakazi enhle esezojika i-2, imali ebhange, impilo enokuthula emadolobheni, futhi engilawulayo emsebenzini wami ophumelelayo. Angizimisele ukubeka ukudla nokudla emzimbeni enkabeni yezwe lami-kulapho indodakazi yami ikhona.

Noma kunjalo, ngiyazi ukuthi ukudla kunamandla amakhulu kakhulu kimi-kuhlala kunakho-futhi kuyangiphika ekuthandeni nasekwaziseni konke engizibonakalise kona eminyakeni eyishumi edlule. Ngingaya kanjani phambili lapho ngidliwe yimicabango efana nokuthi, "Ngabe ngibukeka ngikhuluphele?" "Ngabe impilo yami ibingaba ngcono ukube bengizacile futhi?" "Ngifuna i-pizza." "Akumele ngifune ipizza." "Namuhla kuzoba usuku lapho ngivuka nginciphile yini?" Lezo zinhlobo zemicabango zihlala zigxumagxuma ekhanda lami, okusho ukuthi kunzima ukuhlala ngikhona futhi kunzima ukuyisusa futhi ngicabange ngezinto ezifana nokuthi iyiphi indaba enkulu elandelayo engifuna ukuyiveza noma ngijabulele nje ubusuku bosuku nomyeni wami ngokuthula.

Lokho akusho ukuthi angikaze ngizame-futhi ngehlulekile-ukwenza izinto zilawulwe selokhu isisindo saqala ukubuyela emuva, saphakama lapho indodakazi yami izalwa. Ngiyeke uhlelo lwezinyathelo eziyi-12 ngoba bekungenakwenzeka ukulunakekela, kodwa ngazama cishe yonke enye into. Angihambanga ne-gluten, ngaya kuPaleo, ngazama eminye imizuliswano emithathu yabaQaphi Besisindo, futhi ngazibophezela ekujikelezeni izinsuku ezinhlanu ngesonto. Ngazama ukuhlinza.

Yize lezi zidlo zingakaze zisebenze, iqiniso liwukuthi nginjalo wawuvamise ukuba ekudleni. Zijwayelekile kimi. Banginikeza umuzwa wokuzola nethemba lokuthi ngizovuka ngizacile. Batshela umhlaba "Ngiyazi ukuthi ngidinga ukunciphisa umzimba, kodwa ngenza konke okusemandleni ami." Ukuzibophezela kuhlelo lokudla kungenza ngizizwe ngilawula, kepha futhi bazizwa benecala, ngathi ngiyingane edelelayo ezoba nesisekelo sokudla ama-carbs. Ngezinye izikhathi, bangenza ngizizwe ngingumkhohlisi, njengesehluleki. Kepha iqiniso ukuthi, ukudla bekuye kwehluleka mina. Ungaphumelela kuphela ekudleni isikhathi eside kuze kube kukuphendukela.

Yingakho ngize lapha ukuzovalelisa kwi-dieting for good njengoba ngiqala indlela yami yokuya ku-40. I-Dieting ingenza ngikhulume igama elithi "ngeke" kakhulu. Futhi lokho kuwukunganaki okuningi okufanele kubekwe emhlabeni. Ukusho njalo izinto ezinjengokuthi "Angikwazi ukudla isinkwa" noma "Angikwazi ukudla kuleyo ndawo yokudlela" noma "Angikwazi ukuphuma ngoba angikwazi ukuphuza" kugqoka kimi kungenze ngizizwe ngilahliwe. Okubi kakhulu ukuthi ziyangiqeda futhi zigcwalisa ubuchopho bami "ngengxoxo" engenamsebenzi. Ngihlala ngizibuza ukuthi ngabe ngidle okuthile okwakungamaphuzu amaningi kunalokho engangikunikeze usuku lonke noma ngabe ngangidinga ukushaya izitolo ezintathu zokudla ukuze ngithole yonke into ekhethekile ohlwini lwami. Akuphikisi ngoba ukuzincisha ukudla kungenza ngicabange ngokudla ukwedlula lapho ngingadli. Kusebenza ebuchosheni bami ekushayeleni ngokweqile futhi kungiholele ekucabangeni ngaphezu kwakho konke kusuka kumangaki amakhukhi engingathola kude nokulungisa lokho abanye abantu abakucabangayo ngomzimba wami. Kafushane nje, kungithumela ukuphuma komoya ngaphandle kokulawula kuqonde esiqandisini.

Ngakho-ke, njengoba ngiba neminyaka engama-40, sekuyisikhathi sokubuyisela ukulawula. Sekuyisikhathi sokuthi ngifunde ukuzethemba nokwethemba umzimba wami. Bengingazi ukuthi umzimba wami ubusunamandla amakhulu kangakanani eminyakeni engamashumi amabili. Kepha kusukela lapho, ngilethile ukuphila emhlabeni. Ngibelethe ngomzimba ofanayo engiwenza amahloni futhi ngiwuncishe. Ifanelwe okungaphezu kwalokho. Mina bafanelwe ngaphezu kwalokho.

Uma ngifuna ukuba neminyaka engama-40 ngizizwa ngiphilile, nginamandla, futhi ngizethemba-ngidinga ukwenza izinto ezingenza ngizizwe kahle, uphilile, uqinile, futhi uyazethemba. Ngidinga ukuzibekela imigomo engenza ngizizwe ngiphumelele, hhayi njengokwehluleka noma okhohlisayo. Manje, esikhundleni sokubala amakhalori, ngizoziphoqa ukuthi ngifike ku-yoga noma ngizindle. Futhi esikhundleni sokusika wonke ama-carbs noma wonke ushukela, ngizokhumbula uma benginokuthile nge-carbs ngesikhathi sasekuseni ukuze ngidle ama-carbs ambalwa ngesidlo sasemini. Leyo yimigomo enginganamathela kuyo ngempela.

Usale kahle, udla ukudla. Ngemuva kokuphila iminyaka engama-40 kulo mhlaba-nokuchitha iminyaka engama-30 kuyo sizincisha ukudla - sekuyisikhathi sokuthi sihlukane. Futhi kulokhu, ngiyazi ukuthi akusimina. Kuyiqiniso kakhulu wena.

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