Kungani Kufanele Uthandane Nabantu Abaningi

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Wonke umuntu uyazi ukuthi ukuphola kunzima. Ukuthandana nabantu abaningi ngasikhathi sinye? Kudinga ikhono elithile elikhulu! Kepha lokho akusho ukuthi kukhona okungalungile ngokuchitha uMsombuluko ebusuku noMat, uLwesibili noTom, noLwesithathu noWill.

Yize sekwamukeleka kudala ukuthi amadoda “adlale inkundla,” akuyona into ebukeka ikhulunywa kakhulu ngabesifazane. Kodwa-ke, "ukujikeleza kukuvumela ukuthi uthandane nabanye abantu ngasikhathi sinye, kukunikeze umbono wenqubo yokuqomisana," kusho isazi sezobudlelwano u-April Masini etshela iRefinery29. "Ukushintshaniswa kukunikeza ithuba lokuthi ungavali iminyango kubantu abangaba kuhle kuwe. Abantu ababamba iqhaza ngokushesha bavalela abanye ngaphandle ngoba abajikelezi izinsuku. Ngenkathi bethandana ngokweqile, balahlekelwa ngamathuba ukuthandana nabanye abantu abakhulu. "

Esinye isazi, uTina B. Tessina, Ph.D., uyavuma, ethi ukuthandana namadoda amaningi ngasikhathi sinye kungakusiza ungazi ukuthi amadoda ahlukene ahlobana kanjani nawe, okungavula amehlo akho kulokho ngempela ufuna kumfana.

Lolu hlobo lokuqomisana akulona olwawo wonke umuntu, noma kunjalo, futhi lungaxaka ngokushesha, ngakho-ke ukuxhumana kuyisihluthulelo. Futhi njenganoma yibuphi ubudlelwano, kubalulekile ukubheka ngokwengqondo bese unquma ukuthi izinzuzo zalokho okwenzayo nokuthi uzizwa kanjani zidlula ububi. Ngaphezulu kweRefinery29, abahleli bahlanganise umhlahlandlela onezindaba ezivela kubantu besifazane bangempela ababelana ngamathiphu abo wokuthi ungathola kanjani ukuthi ukushintshana kwezithandani kukulungele yini, kanye namathiphu wokukusiza ukuthi ube nempilo enhle kukho konke lokho. Thola, ntombazane! [Chofoza lapha ukuze uthole indaba egcwele]

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