Kungani Kufanele Uyeke Ukuzama Ukukwenza Konke

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• Kungani ufuna ukwenza konke?
• Amathonya angaphandle angakukholisa.
• Ukuzivocavoca "okuhle kakhulu" yilokho okuthandayo.
• Kwenzekani uma wenza izinto ozizondayo?
• Ukuzihlola kubalulekile.
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Eminyakeni yokufunda okuningi kwe-Classpass kanye ne-boutique, kungaba nzima ukukhetha nje eyodwa ukuzivocavoca ofuna ukunamathela kukho. Eqinisweni, empeleni kuwumqondo * omuhle * wokuhlanganisa ukusebenzisa kwakho ukuze ugcine umzimba wakho uqagela futhi uvikele ukweqisa. Uma kushiwo lokho, kungenzeka impela ukudlulela ngokweqile ngokuhlukahluka kokujima, ikakhulukazi lapho izinto ezinjengezokuxhumana nabantu kanye nokucindezela kontanga kuqala ukusebenza. Uma ungekho ekuphakamiseni okunzima kepha bonke abangane bakho bakhona, kungalinga ukuzenza ujoyine ibhokisi elibizayo le-CrossFit, noma ngabe awufuni ngempela. Sonke sizama izinto ezintsha, kepha kukhona umugqa omuhle phakathi kokuzama izindlela ezintsha zokuthola izithukuthuku zakho nokuziphoqa ukuthi wenze okuthile ongakujabuleli. Ngakho ungawubona kanjani umehluko futhi kungani ubalulekile? Sixoxe nochwepheshe ukuze sithole. (I-BTW, nazi izimpawu ezinhlanu zokutshela ukuthi usebenzisa kakhulu.)

Kungani ufuna ukwenza konke?

Isizathu esikhulu kunazo zonke esenza abantu bazame ukulingana ekusebenzeni okuningi okuhlukile ngesinye esinengqondo kakhulu.“Nakuba kunezinzuzo zokunqamula ukuqeqeshwa, esinye sezizathu eziyinhloko abantu abavame ukuzama ukukwenza konke uma kuziwa endabeni yokufaneleka ukuthi bafuna imiphumela engcono kakhulu, ngokuvamile ngesikhathi esifushane kakhulu,” kuchaza uJessica Matthews, umqeqeshi oyinhloko kanye nomqeqeshi wezempilo we-American Council on Exercise kanye noprofesa we-kinesiology e-Point Loma Nazarene University. Ngeshwa, ukuminya kukho konke lokhu kuvivinya okuhlukahlukene akuqinisekisi imiphumela engcono kunokunamathela nje emisebenzini embalwa ehlukene oyithandayo nebhalansisayo. "Abantu bavame ukuzwa ingcindezi noma isidingo esiphuthumayo sokuhlola yonke imikhuba yokufaneleka ngoba isigaba ngasinye noma indlela yokuqeqeshwa kuthiwa yiyona" ehamba phambili "noma" engcono kunalokho abakwenzile ngaphambili noma abakwenzayo njengamanje, " Kusho uMatthews.

Amathonya angaphandle angakukholisa.

Ah, ezokuxhumana. I-Facebook ne-Instagram zidale imiphakathi emikhulu yokuqina ekhuthazayo, esekelayo, futhi egcwele imininingwane ewusizo. Ngasikhathi sinye, kubalulekile ukuhlakanipha ngokuthi imiphi imithombo oyethembayo futhi ukhumbule ukuthi akudingeki ukuthi usebenzise zonke izeluleko ozithola ku-inthanethi. "Imboni yokudla nokuvivinya umzimba iyachuma ngokuthengisa umqondo wokuthi enye indlela entsha esezingeni eliphezulu iyimfihlo yokushintsha," kuphawula uDanielle Keenan-Miller, Ph.D., umqondisi we-UCLA Psychology Clinic kanye nongoti kwezokuzimela. "Ukuthambekela kokuthunyelwe ngu-'fitspo 'ezinkundleni zokuxhumana kwandise ukutholakala kwethu nsuku zonke emiyalezweni ephathelene nokudla nokuzivocavoca umzimba, futhi lezo ziphakamiso zingazizwa zinamandla kakhulu uma zivela kubantu esibathandayo noma esibathandayo." Kodwa uKeenan-Miller uthi kubalulekile ukukhumbula ukuthi okusebenzela omunye umuntu kungase kungasebenzi kuwe. Akukho ukuzivocavoca okulingana nosayizi owodwa, futhi kubaluleke kakhulu ukuthi uthole okuthile okuthandayo futhi ozofuna ukunamathela kukho, kunokuba uhambisane nanoma yini ekhona manje.

Ukuzivocavoca "okuhle kakhulu" yilokho okuthandayo.

Kungahle kungabonakali ngathi kubaluleke kakhulu ukuthi uzijabulisa ngesikhathi sokuzivocavoca kwakho, ikakhulukazi ngoba izivivinyo ezinzima aziklanyelwe ukuba zijabulise (zibheke kuwe, ama-sprints egquma). Kepha indlela ozizwa ngayo ngaphambi, ngesikhathi nangemuva kokuzivocavoca kwakho ibaluleke kakhulu. “Ngokombono wokuziphatha, ucwaningo lubonisa ukuthi lapho ujabulela kakhulu ukuvivinya umzimba, maningi amathuba okuba unamathele esimisweni sokujima esivamile isikhathi eside,” kusho uMatthews. Siyazi ukuthi ikhono lokunamathela ohlelweni esikhathini esizinzile yindlela othola ngayo imiphumela engcono kakhulu, kungakhathaliseki ukuthi umgomo wakho ukwehlisa isisindo, ukwenza i-PR'ing lift, noma ukuqeda umjaho ngesikhathi esithile. "Ekupheleni kosuku, uhlobo 'oluhle kakhulu' lokuvivinya umzimba yilolo ohlale ulwenza futhi ukujabulela ukulwenza," uyanezela.

Kwenzekani uma wenza izinto ozizondayo?

Ngaphandle kokwenza kube mancane amathuba okuthi uzofika ejimini kwasekuqaleni, ukujima ongakuthandi kungaba nomthelela omubi empilweni yakho yengqondo. "Ukuzama ukukwenza konke kungaholela ekutubeleni, ekukhathazekeni nasekutheni ungazethembi," kusho uMike Dow, iPsy.D, isazi sezempilo yobuchopho nombhali we Ukuphulukisa Ingqondo Ephukile. Futhi, lapho uzisabalalisa uzacile kakhulu, uzilungiselela ukwehluleka. "Ukuthatha kakhulu bese wehluleka kungakwenza uzizwe kabi ngawe, kepha ukuzibekela umgomo ofinyelelekayo ongawufinyelela (futhi uqhubeke nawo) kungenzeka kukusize uzuze impilo yomzimba nenhlalakahle yengqondo ngasikhathi sinye." Ngamanye amagama, yigcine ilinganisiwe futhi ekugcineni uzojabula futhi kunempilo. (Nansi imininingwane eminingi mayelana nezinzuzo zempilo yengqondo zokuzivocavoca.)

Ukuzihlola kubalulekile.

Ngakho ungaqiniseka kanjani ukuthi awuweli ogibeni "lokwenza konke"? "Ngitshela iziguli zami njalo: Uyingcweti yakho, "kusho uDow." Abantu kungenzeka bajabule lapho impilo yabo ifanelana nezintshisekelo zabo, abakuthandayo, abakuthandayo namandla abo. Thatha isikhashana ungene ngalelo zwi elithule, elincane ngaphakathi kwemizwelo yakho yeqiniso-ukusiza ukuthola ukuthi ukujima okuthile kuyinto othanda ukuyenza ngokweqiniso. "Ukukhumbula ukukhetha kwakho kokuvivinya umzimba kungenza umehluko. Ukuze ukhonkolo isibonelo sokuthi ungakwenza kanjani lokhu, u-Keenan-Miller uphakamisa ukuthi uzibuze ukuthi uyafuna yini ukuzama into entsha ngoba leyo nqubo iyakujabulisa noma ngoba unethemba lokuthi izoholela emgomweni othile. "Uma ujabulela ngempela ukuthi kungaba njani ukuzama ukujima okuthile, qhubeka futhi ukudubula," usho kanje. umgomo izizwa inesasasa, kubalulekile ukuqaphela ukuthi imvamisa akukhona ukuthi kunendlela eyodwa ehamba phambili eya kunoma iyiphi inhloso yokuqina noma yokudla. "Ngemuva kwakho konke, wonke umuntu, nokuthi yini emsebenzelayo, ihlukile." Ukukhetha indlela ehambisana neyakho amandla nobuthakathaka kubaluleke kakhulu empumelelweni kunokulandela uhlelo olusebenzele omunye umuntu."

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