Kungani Kufanele Uhlole Umama Wakho Omusha Abangane

Impela, thumela ukuhalalisela kwakho ezinkundleni zokuxhumana. Kepha sekudlulelwe yisikhathi ukuthi sifunde ukwenza okuningi kubazali abasha.

Ngesikhathi ngibeletha indodakazi yami ehlobo lika-2013, ngangizungezwe abantu nothando.

Abangane abaningi namalungu omndeni balinde egumbini lokulinda, badla i-pizza ebandayo futhi babuka izindaba ezingamahora angama-24. Bangene bephuma egumbini lami - {textend} banginikeza induduzo, ubungane, futhi (lapho abahlengikazi bevumela) ukuhamba okufushane behla ngehholo elime njengonxande - {textend} futhi ngemuva kokubeletha, beza eceleni kombhede wami, ukuzongigona futhi ubambe ingane yami yentombazane elele.

Kodwa kungakapheli namahora angu-48, izinto zashintsha. Impilo yami (ngokungangabazeki) yashintsha, izingcingo zaphela.

Imibhalo ethi “uzizwa unjani” ime.

Ekuqaleni, ukuthula kwakukuhle. Ngangimatasa nginakekela, ngilala, futhi ngizama ukubamba ingane yami enenkani. Futhi uma bengingakwazi ukugcina amathebhu ekhofi lami, ngingawagcina kanjani amathebhu kubangani bami? Impilo yami yayihlala kuma-2-hour increments ... ngosuku oluhle.

Ngisebenze ku-autopilot.

Bengingenaso isikhathi sokwenza lutho ngaphandle kokuthi “ngisinde.”

Kodwa-ke, ngemuva kwamasonto ambalwa, ukuthula kwathusa. Bengingazi ukuthi ngingubani - {textend} noma bekuwusuku luni.

Ngangizulazula ezinkundleni zokuxhumana ngingaqedi. Ngangibukela i-TV ngokungapheli, futhi ngacindezeleka kakhulu. Umzimba wami waba munye nombhede wethu oshibhile, we-IKEA.

Mina - {textend} kunjalo - {textend} bengingakwazi ukufinyelela. Bengingabiza umama wami noma ngifonele umamezala (ukuthola usizo, ukwelulekwa, noma ukwangiwa). Ngangikwazi ukuthumela imiyalezo yezintombi zami noma umngane wami omkhulu. Bengingathululela isifuba kumyeni wami.

Kepha bengingazi ukuthi ngithini.

Ngangingumama omusha. Umama # obusisiwe. Lezi bekufanele kube yizinsuku ezihamba phambili empilweni yami.

Futhi, akekho noyedwa umngane wami owayenezingane. Ukukhononda kwakubonakala kuwubuwula futhi kungenanjongo. Babengeke bakuthole. Babengaqonda kanjani? Ukungakhulumi ngemicabango yami eminingi (nezenzo) kubonakala kungubuhlanya.

Ngichithe amahora amaningi ngizula emigwaqweni yaseBrooklyn, ngibuka bonke abanye omama ababonakala sengathi bayayithola. Ngubani owadlala (futhi wakhombisa) izingane zabo ezisanda kuzalwa.

Bengifisa sengathi bengizogula - {textend} hhayi ngigule ngibulawe kodwa nganele ukuba ngilaliswe esibhedlela. Ngangifuna ukubaleka ... ngibaleke. Bengidinga ukuphumula. Futhi bengingaqiniseki ukuthi ngisule ini ngaphezulu, isinqe sendodakazi yami noma amehlo ami. Futhi ngingakuchaza kanjani lokho? Ngingayichaza kanjani imicabango engathandeki? Ukuhlukaniswa? Ukwesaba?

Indodakazi yami ilele ngahlala ngiphapheme. Ngangimbuka ephefumula, ngamlalela ephefumula, futhi ngikhathazekile. Ngabe ngimnyakazise ngokwanele? Ingabe wayedle ngokwanele? Ingabe lokho kukhwehlela okuncane kwakuyingozi? Kufanele ngimbize ngodokotela? Kungenzeka yini ukuthi lokhu kube yisibonakaliso sesixwayiso sokuqala se-SIDS? Kwakungenzeka yini ukuthola umkhuhlane wasehlobo?

Indodakazi yami yavuka futhi ngathandaza ukuthi izolala. Bengidinga umzuzwana. Umzuzu. Ngangifisa ukuvala amehlo. Kodwa angikaze ngikwenze. Lo mjikelezo ononya wageza futhi waphindwa.

Futhi ngenkathi ngigcina ngithole usizo - {textend} ngesinye isikhathi phakathi kwesonto le-12 nele-16 lendodakazi yami ngaphuka futhi ngavumela umyeni wami nodokotela ukuba - {textend} ukuba nomuntu oyedwa empilweni yami kungenza umehluko omkhulu.

Angicabangi ukuthi kunomuntu obengangisindisa noma angivikele ekunciphiseni ubuthongo noma ezinsizini zokucindezeleka kwangemva kokubeletha, kodwa ngicabanga ukuthi ukudla okushisayo kungenzeka ukuthi kusizile.

Bekungaba kuhle uma othile - {textend} ubani - {textend} ebuza ngami hhayi ingane yami kuphela.

Ngakho-ke nasi iseluleko sami kunoma ngubani nakuwo wonke umuntu:

• Thumela umyalezo omama abasha empilweni yakho. Shayela omama abasha empilweni yakho, futhi wenze njalo njalo. Ungakhathazeki ngokumvusa. Ufuna ukuxhumana nabantu abadala. Yena izidingo ukuthintana kwabantu abadala.
• Mbuze ukuthi ungasiza kanjani, futhi umazise ukuthi ujabulile ukubuka ingane yakhe imizuzu engama-30, ihora, noma amahora amabili ukuze ikwazi ukulala noma ukugeza. Awukho umsebenzi osile kakhulu. Mtshele ukuthi akakuchitheli isikhathi.
• Uma uwela ngaphesheya, ungenzi lokho ungenalutho. Letha ukudla. Letha ikhofi. Futhi yenza kanjalo ngaphandle kokubuza. Izimpawu zomzimba ezincane ziya a yinde indlela.
• Uma ungadluli, mthumele ukulethwa okungalindelekile - {textend} okuvela koPostmates, DoorDash, Seamless, noma eGrubhub. Izimbali zihle, kepha i-caffeine ibamba.
• Futhi uma ukhuluma naye, ungamzweli - {textend} zwelana. Mtshele izinto ezinjengokuthi “lokho kuzwakala kukuningi” noma “lokho kufanele kusabise / kukhungathekise / kube nzima.”

Ngoba noma ngabe unezingane noma cha, ngiyakuthembisa lokhu: Ungasiza umama wakho omusha umngane futhi uyakudinga. Ngaphezu kwalokho ozokwazi.

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