Kungani Iphupho Lakho Locansi Ejimini Ijwayelekile Ngokuphelele (Futhi Ongakwenza Ngayo)

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Usebenza kanzima ku-treadmill ngolunye usuku, uthi shazi ekamelweni ukuze ubone isishoshovu phansi esisindweni sibheke indlela yakho. Amehlo akho ahlangane uzwe ukushisa kuphakama okungahlangene nokujuluka. Ngokuphazima kweso, weqa 'esigayweni sakho futhi uqonde kuye. Awusoze waqunga isibindi kanjena! Kepha namhlanje, ngandlela thile, njengoba izingalo zakhe ezinemisipha efinyelela kuwe, izinhlansi ziyahamba, wena. . . uyakhumbula ukuthi usejimini. Indawo yokuzivocavoca egcwele, enuka kamnandi, egcwele uketshezi egcwele abantu ongabazi. Futhi ukuzama kwakho okushisayo akukaze kwenzeke. Bubula.

Uma ngabe uke waba nefantasy efana nale engenhla, yazi ukuthi unenkampani enhle njengama-gym sex fantasies ngendlela emangalisayo evamile, kusho uchwepheshe wezocansi u-Alyssa Dweck, M.S., M.D., udokotela wezifo zabesifazane nomsizi kaprofesa womtholampilo eMount Sinai School of Medicine. (Related: Izinto Eziyisi-8 Abesilisa Abafisa Uzazi Ngocansi)

Ukuvulwa ejimini kungabonakala kungajwayelekile ekuqaleni. (Yini, empeleni, eyi-sexy ngesigejane sabantu ongabazi abazama ukungaboni emehlweni ngenkathi benza izinto ezibuhlungu?) Kepha kunezizathu ezithile eziqinile zokucabanga ngezocansi-e-ejimini ezinengqondo ngokuphelele.

"Iphuzu eliphelele lephupho ukubalekela nsuku zonke njengoba into entsha yelapha isithukuthezi, ikakhulukazi igumbi lokulala," kusho uDweck. "Futhi ukucabanga ngeso lengqondo kuyindlela ekahle yokuhlola izindlela ezifana nokuya ocansini endaweni esesidlangalaleni - ngaphandle kokubhekana nemiphumela yokwenza ngempela lokho."

Kepha kuthiwani ngokuzivocavoca umzimba, ngqo, okwenza abesifazane abaningi bahambe? Kuqala ngokuyengwa ngokomzimba namandla esiphakamiso, kusho u-Dweck. “Uma usejimini, cishe usuvele unendaba nokuthi wena, nabanye, nibukeka kanjani,” usho kanje. "Futhi, ngenxa yezingubo ezijwayelekile zokujima, kulula ejimini ukucabanga abantu bengenazo izingubo zabo, benza izinto ezihehayo, kunalokho okushiwo, ebhange." (Ungakhulumi ngakho konke ukuzivocavoca okulingisa izikhundla zobulili!)

Futhi, uDweck uchaza ukuthi ukuvivinya umzimba nge-aerobic kukhipha ukuqhuma okunamandla kwama-endorphin. Lawa makhemikhali azizwa kahle aziwa kakhulu ngokuheha umgijimi ophakeme kepha angaholela nasekuvukeni kocansi. Awuyenzi i-cardio? Ayikho inkinga. Ukuphakamisa isisindo kungakunika umfutho omncane we-testosterone nawo ophakamise i-libido yakho. Futhi, uyanezela, konke ukuvivinya umzimba kukhuphula amazinga akho e-dopamine, ama-serotonin ne-oxytocin-amakhemikhali obuchopho ahlanganiswe nenjabulo nothando.

Kepha ngizizwa ngithambile kwe ijimu nokuthamba phakathi ijimu yizinto ezimbili ezihluke ngokuphelele. Ovotweni olungakahleleki, sithole ukuthi ngenkathi cishe bonke abantu besifazane esibabuzile bevuma ukuzwa okwangaphambili, asitholanga noyedwa umuntu ozovuma owokugcina, okungaba okungcono kakhulu kunikezwe ukuthi izikhungo zokuzivocavoca zingenakho kangakanani ukuzivikela. (Yize ngaphezulu kwabambalwa 'bethole ithuba lokuhlangana nabaqeqeshi babo ngaphandle kwejimu!)

Lokho akusho ukuthi udinga ukuvumela ukucabanga okuhle ngokuphelele kudlale! Ungaphila ngephupho lakho ngendlela ephephile (futhi ehlanzekile) uyimfihlo yekamelo lakho lokulala. Yibize ngokuzivocavoca kwezithandani zokugcina uthathe lelo thando elibhekiswe ekhaya ngokudlala umqeqeshi womuntu siqu nomlingani wakho noma usebenzise imishini ejimini yakho engaphansi. (Udinga i-inspo? Qala ngalokhu kuvivinya umlingani okhulisa izinga lokushaya kwenhliziyo.)

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