Ukusiza ingane yakho ukuthi iqonde ukuxilongwa komdlavuza

Ukufunda ukuthi ingane yakho inomdlavuza kungazizwa kukhungathekisa futhi kusabisa. Ufuna ukuvikela ingane yakho, hhayi kuphela kumdlavuza, kepha futhi nasovalo oluza nokugula okungathi sína.

Ukuchaza ukuthi kusho ukuthini ukuba nomdlavuza ngeke kube lula. Nazi ezinye izinto okufanele uzazi lapho ukhuluma nengane mayelana nokuba nomdlavuza.

Kungaba yisilingo ukungazitsheli izingane ngomdlavuza. Vele ufuna ukuvikela ingane yakho ekwesabeni. Kodwa zonke izingane ezinomdlavuza zidinga ukwazi ukuthi zinomdlavuza. Iningi lezingane lizozwa ukuthi kukhona okungahambi kahle futhi zingazenzela ezazo izindaba ngokuthi liyini. Izingane zinomkhuba wokuzibeka icala ngezinto ezimbi ezenzekayo. Ukwethembeka kuthambekela ekunciphiseni ukucindezeleka kwengane, umuzwa wecala nokudideka.

Futhi amagama ezokwelapha afana "nomdlavuza" azosetshenziswa ngabahlinzeki bezempilo nabanye. Izingane zidinga ukuqonda ukuthi kungani zivakashela odokotela futhi zihlolwa kanye nemithi. Kungasiza futhi izingane ukuthi zichaze izimpawu zazo futhi zixoxe ngemizwa yazo. Kuzosiza ukwakha ukwethembana emndenini wakho.

Kukuwe ukuthi ungatshela nini ingane yakho ngomdlavuza. Yize kulinga ukukuhlehlisa, ungakuthola kulula ukutshela ingane yakho khona manjalo. Kungaba nzima njengoba isikhathi siqhubeka. Futhi kungcono kakhulu ukuthi ingane yakho yazi futhi ibe nesikhathi sokubuza imibuzo ngaphambi kokuqala ukwelashwa.

Uma ungaqiniseki ukuthi uzoyikhulisa nini noma kanjani, khuluma nomhlinzeki wengane yakho, njengochwepheshe wempilo yengane. Ithimba lokunakekelwa kwezempilo lingakusiza unikeze ingane yakho izindaba mayelana nokuxilongwa komdlavuza nokuthi yini okudingeka yenziwe ngakho.

Nazi izinto okufanele uzigcine engqondweni lapho ukhuluma ngomdlavuza wengane yakho:

• Gcina iminyaka yengane yakho engqondweni. Ukuthi wabelana kangakanani nengane yakho kuya ngeminyaka yengane yakho. Isibonelo, izingane ezisencane kakhulu zingadinga ukwazi kuphela imininingwane eyisisekelo, ngenkathi osemusha angafuna ukwazi imininingwane eminingi ngokwelashwa nangemiphumela engemihle.
• Khuthaza ingane yakho ukuthi ibuze imibuzo. Zama ukubaphendula ngokuthembeka futhi obala ngangokunokwenzeka. Uma ungayazi impendulo, kulungile ukusho kanjalo.
• Yazi ukuthi ingane yakho ingesaba ukubuza imibuzo ethile. Zama ukuqaphela ukuthi ngabe ingane yakho inokuthile engqondweni yayo kepha ingesaba ukubuza. Isibonelo, uma ingane yakho ibonakala ithukuthele ngemuva kokubona abanye abantu abalahlekelwe izinwele, khuluma ngokuthi yiziphi izimpawu ezingaba nazo ekwelashweni.
• Khumbula ukuthi ingane yakho kungenzeka ukuthi yezwa izinto ngomdlavuza kusuka kweminye imithombo, njenge-TV, ama-movie, noma ezinye izingane. Kungumqondo omuhle ukubuza abakuzwile, ukuze uqiniseke ukuthi banemininingwane efanele.
• Cela usizo. Ukukhuluma ngomdlavuza akulula kunoma ngubani. Uma udinga usizo ngezihloko ezithile, cela umhlinzeki wengane yakho noma iqembu lokunakekela umdlavuza.

Kunokwesaba okuvamile izingane eziningi ezinakho lapho zifunda ngomdlavuza. Ingane yakho ingesaba kakhulu ukukutshela ngalokhu kwesaba, ngakho-ke kuwumqondo omuhle ukuzikhulisa ngokwakho.

• Ingane yakho idale umdlavuza. Kuvamile ukuthi izingane ezincane zicabange ukuthi zidale umdlavuza ngokwenza into embi. Kubalulekile ukwazisa ingane yakho ukuthi ayikho into eyenzile edale umdlavuza.
• Umdlavuza uyathathelana. Izingane eziningi zicabanga ukuthi umdlavuza ungasakazeka usuka kumuntu uye komunye. Qiniseka ukuthi wazisa ingane yakho ukuthi awukwazi "ukubamba" umdlavuza komunye umuntu.
• Wonke umuntu ubulawa ngumdlavuza. Ungachaza ukuthi umdlavuza yisifo esibi, kepha izigidi zabantu zisinda kumdlavuza ngezindlela zokwelashwa zesimanje. Uma ingane yakho yazi umuntu obulewe ngumdlavuza, yazise ukuthi kunezinhlobo eziningi zomdlavuza futhi umdlavuza wawo wonke umuntu wehlukile.

Ungadinga ukuphinda la maphuzu kaningi ngesikhathi sokwelashwa kwengane yakho.

Nazi ezinye izindlela zokusiza ingane yakho ibhekane nayo ngesikhathi sokwelashwa komdlavuza:

• Zama ukuhlala esimisweni esijwayelekile. Amashejuli ayaduduza izingane. Zama ukugcina isheduli ejwayelekile ngangokunokwenzeka.
• Siza ingane yakho ihlale ixhumana nabantu efunda nabo nabangane. Ezinye izindlela zokwenza lokhu zifaka i-imeyili, amakhadi, ukuthumela imiyalezo, imidlalo yevidiyo, nezingcingo.
• Hambisana nanoma yimuphi umsebenzi wasekilasini ongabanjwanga. Lokhu kungasiza ukugcina ingane yakho ixhunywe esikoleni futhi kunciphise noma yikuphi ukukhathazeka ngokusalela emuva. Iphinde yazise izingane ukuthi kufanele ngabe zilungiselela ikusasa ngoba zinekusasa.
• Thola izindlela zokwengeza amahlaya osukwini lwengane yakho. Bukela umbukiso we-TV noma i-movie ehlekisayo ndawonye, ​​noma uthengele ingane yakho izincwadi zamahlaya.
• Vakashela nezinye izingane ezinomdlavuza. Cela udokotela wakho ukuthi akuxhumanise neminye imindeni ebhekane ngempumelelo nomdlavuza.
• Yazisa ingane yakho ukuthi KULUNGILE ukuzizwa uthukuthele noma udabukile. Siza ingane yakho ikhulume nawe ngale mizwa noma ngomunye umuntu.
• Qiniseka ukuthi ingane yakho iyazijabulisa nsuku zonke. Ezinganeni ezincane, lokhu kungasho ukufaka imibala, ukubukela umdlalo we-TV owuthandayo, noma ukwakha ngamabhulokhi. Izingane ezindadlana zingase zikhethe ukukhuluma nabangane ocingweni noma ukudlala imidlalo yevidiyo.

Iwebhusayithi yeAmerican Cancer Society. Ukuthola usizo nokusekelwa lapho ingane yakho inomdlavuza. www.cancer.org/content/cancer/en/treatment/zingane-nomdlavuza/nxa-your-child-has-cancer/during-treatment/help-and-support.html. Kubuyekezwe ngo-Septhemba 18, 2017. Kufinyelelwe ngo-Okthoba 7, 2020.

Iwebhusayithi yeAmerican Society of Clinical Oncology (ASCO). Ingane iwuqonda kanjani umdlavuza. www.cancer.net/coping-with-cancer/talking-with-family-and-friends/how-child-understands-cancer. Kubuyekezwe ngo-Septhemba 2019. Kufinyelelwe ngo-Okthoba 7, 2020.

Iwebhusayithi yeNational Cancer Institute. Izingane ezinomdlavuza: Umhlahlandlela wabazali. www.cancer.gov/publications/patient-education/abantwana-nomdlavuza.pdf. Kubuyekezwe uSepthemba 2015. Kufinyelelwe ngo-Okthoba 7, 2020.

• Umdlavuza Ezinganeni