Intukuthelo

Intukuthelo yesimilo ayimnandi futhi iyaphazamisa noma ukuqhuma komoya. Imvamisa zenzeka ekuphenduleni izidingo noma izifiso ezingagcwaliseki. Ama-tantrum maningi amathuba okuthi kwenzeke ezinganeni ezincane noma kwabanye abangakwazi ukuveza izidingo zabo noma ukulawula imizwa yabo lapho bekhungathekile.

Intukuthelo yesikhashana noma ukuziphatha "kokulingisa" kungokwemvelo ebuntwaneni. Kujwayelekile ukuthi izingane zifune ukuzimela njengoba zifunda ukuthi zingabantu abahlukene nabazali bazo.

Lesi sifiso sokulawula kaningi sivela sithi "cha" kaningi futhi sibe nokuthukuthela. Ukuhlukumezeka kuba kubi kakhulu ngoba ingane kungenzeka ukuthi ayinaso isilulumagama sokuveza imizwa yayo.

Ama-tantrums ngokuvamile aqala ezinganeni ezinezinyanga eziyi-12 kuya kwezingu-18 ubudala. Ziba zimbi kakhulu phakathi kweminyaka yobudala engu-2 kuye kwengu-3, ​​bese zehla kuze kube yiminyaka engu-4. Ngemuva kweminyaka yobudala engu-4, kuyaqabukela zivele. Ukukhathala, ukulamba, noma ukugula, kungenza ukuthukuthela kube kubi kakhulu noma kuvame kakhulu.

UMA INGANE YAKHO INESITRAMU

Lapho ingane yakho ithukuthele, kubalulekile ukuthi uhlale uzolile. Kuyasiza ukukhumbula ukuthi ukuthukuthela kujwayelekile. Akulona iphutha lakho. Awuyena umzali omubi, futhi indodana noma indodakazi yakho ayiyona ingane embi. Ukumemeza noma ukushaya ingane yakho kuyomane kwenze isimo sibe sibi nakakhulu. Impendulo ethule, enokuthula nomoya, ngaphandle "kokunikezela" noma ukwephula imithetho oyibekayo, kunciphisa ukucindezeleka futhi kunenze nobabili nizizwe ncono.

Ungazama futhi ukuphazamiseka okuncane, ushintshele emisebenzini ethandwa yingane yakho noma yenza ubuso obuhlekisayo. Uma ingane yakho ihlukumezeka ingekho ekhaya, hola ingane yakho iye endaweni ethule, njengemoto noma igumbi lokuphumula. Gcina ingane yakho iphephile ize iphele intukuthelo.

Intukuthelo yesikhashana iyindlela yokuziphatha efuna ukunakwa. Isu elilodwa lokunciphisa ubude nobukhulu besikhukhumezi ukungazinaki isimilo. Uma ingane yakho iphephile futhi ingonakalisi, ukuya kwelinye igumbi endlini kungasinciphisa isiqephu ngoba manje idrama ayisenabo abalaleli. Ingane yakho ingalandela futhi iqhubeke nokuthamba. Uma kunjalo, ungakhulumi noma wenze okuthile kuze kube yilapho isimilo sizoma. Ngemuva kwalokho, xoxa ngokuthula ngenkinga bese unikeza ezinye izindlela ngaphandle kokuvumela okufunwa ingane yakho.

UKUVIMBELA AMANYANGO AMAKHULU

Qiniseka ukuthi ingane yakho idla futhi ilala ngezikhathi zayo ezijwayelekile. Uma ingane yakho ingasathathi isihlwathi, qiniseka ukuthi basenesikhathi esithile sokuthula. Ukulala phansi imizuzu eyi-15 kuye kwengama-20 noma ukuphumula ngenkathi nifunda izindaba ndawonye ngezikhathi ezijwayelekile zosuku kungasiza ekuvimbeleni intukuthelo.

Ezinye izindlela zokuvimbela ukucasuka zihlanganisa:

• Sebenzisa ithoni yokuphakamisa lapho ucela ingane yakho ukuthi yenze okuthile. Kwenze kuzwakale njengesimemo, hhayi i-oda. Isibonelo, "Uma ufaka ama-mittens nesigqoko sakho, sizokwazi ukuya eqenjini lakho lokudlala."
• UNGALWA nezinto ezingabalulekile ezifana nokuthi izicathulo ezigqokwa ingane yakho noma ngabe zihlala esihlalweni esiphakeme noma esihlalweni sokulekelela. Ukuphepha yikho okubalulekile, njengokungasithinti isitofu esishisayo, ukugcina isihlalo semoto sivalekile, nokungadlali emgwaqweni.
• Nikeza ukukhetha lapho kungenzeka. Isibonelo, vumela ingane yakho ikhethe ukuthi izogqokani nokuthi izofunda ziphi izindaba. Ingane ezizwa izimele ezindaweni eziningi izokwazi kakhulu ukulandela imithetho lapho kufanele. UNGANIKI ukukhetha uma umuntu engekho ngempela.

UMA UFUNA USIZO

Uma ukufutheka kuya kuba kubi kakhulu futhi ungacabangi ukuthi ungabalawula, funa iseluleko kumhlinzeki wakho wezokunakekelwa kwempilo. Futhi thola usizo uma ungakwazi ukulawula ulaka lwakho nokumemeza noma uma ukhathazekile ngokuthi ungasabela kanjani ekuziphatheni kwengane yakho ngokujeziswa ngokomzimba.

I-American Academy of Pediatrics incoma ukuthi ushayele udokotela wezingane noma udokotela womndeni uma:

• Ukuthukuthela kuba kubi kakhulu ngemuva kweminyaka yobudala engu-4
• Ingane yakho izilimaza yona noma ilimaze abanye, noma icekele phansi impahla ngesikhathi sokufutheka
• Ingane yakho ibamba umoya ngesikhathi sokucasula, ikakhulukazi uma iquleka
• Ingane yakho ibuye ibe namaphupho amabi, iguqule ukuqeqeshwa kwendlu yangasese, iphathwe yikhanda, isisu, ikhathazeke, yenqabe ukudla noma ukulala, noma ikunamathele

Ukuziphatha kokulingisa

Iwebhusayithi yaseAmerican Academy of Pediatrics. Amathiphu aphezulu okusinda kwentukuthelo. www.healthychildren.org/English/family-life/family-dynamics/communication-discipline/Pages/Temper-Tantrums.aspx. Kubuyekezwe u-Okthoba 22, 2018. Kufinyelelwe ngoMeyi 31, 2019.

UWalter HJ, uDeMaso DR. Ukuphazamiseka, ukulawula umfutho, nokuziphatha. Ku: Kliegman RM, St Geme JW, Blum NJ, Shah SS Tasker RC, Wilson KM, eds. Incwadi kaNelson Yezingane. Umhlaka 21. IPhiladelphia, PA: Elsevier; 2020: isahluko 42.