Ukucindezeleka ebuntwaneni

Ukucindezeleka kwengane kungaba khona kunoma yisiphi isimo esidinga ukuthi ingane iguqule noma iguquke. Ingcindezi ingabangelwa izinguquko ezinhle, njengokuqala umsebenzi omusha, kepha kuvame ukuxhumaniswa nezinguquko ezingezinhle njengokugula noma ukufa emndenini.

Ungasiza ingane yakho ngokufunda ukubona izimpawu zokucindezeleka nokufundisa ingane yakho izindlela ezinempilo zokubhekana nayo.

Ukucindezeleka kungaba yimpendulo ekuguqukeni okungekuhle empilweni yengane. Ngamanani amancane, ukucindezeleka kungaba kuhle. Kepha, ukucindezela ngokweqile kungathinta indlela ingane ecabanga ngayo, ezenza ngayo, futhi ezizwa ngayo.

Izingane zifunda ukuthi zingaphendula kanjani ekucindezelekeni njengoba zikhula futhi zikhula. Imicimbi eminingi ecindezelayo umuntu omdala angakwazi ukuyilawula izodala ingcindezi enganeni. Ngenxa yalokho, ngisho nezinguquko ezincane zingathinta imizwa yengane yokuphepha nokuvikeleka.

Ubuhlungu, ukulimala, ukugula, nezinye izinguquko kuyizinkinga zezingane. Izingcindezi zingabandakanya:

• Ukukhathazeka ngomsebenzi wesikole noma amamaki
• Imithwalo yemfanelo yejuggling, efana nesikole nomsebenzi noma nemidlalo
• Izinkinga nabangane, ukuxhashazwa, noma ukucindezela kweqembu lontanga
• Ukushintsha izikole, ukuhambisa, noma ukubhekana nezinkinga zezindlu noma ukungabi nakhaya
• Ukuba nemicabango engemihle ngabo
• Ukuhamba ngezinguquko zomzimba, kubo bobabili abafana namantombazane
• Ukubona abazali bedivosa noma behlukana
• Izinkinga zemali emndenini
• Ukuhlala ekhaya noma endaweni engaphephile

IZIMPAWU ZOKUCINDEZELEKA OKUNGENAKULUNGULULWA EZINGaneni

Izingane kungenzeka zingaboni ukuthi zicindezelekile. Izimpawu ezintsha noma eziya ziba zimbi kungaholela abazali ukuthi basole ukuthi ukukhuphuka kwengcindezi kukhona.

Izimpawu zomzimba zingabandakanya:

• Ukwehla kwesifiso sokudla, ezinye izinguquko emikhubeni yokudla
• Ubuhlungu bekhanda
• Ukumanzisa umbhede okusha noma okuphindaphindayo
• Amaphupho amabi
• Ukuphazamiseka kokulala
• Ukucasuka kwesisu noma ubuhlungu besisu obungacacile
• Ezinye izimpawu zomzimba ngaphandle kokugula ngokomzimba

Izimpawu zomzwelo noma zokuziphatha zingabandakanya:

• Ukukhathazeka, ukukhathazeka
• Ayikwazi ukukhululeka
• Ukwesaba okusha noma okuphindaphindayo (ukwesaba ubumnyama, ukwesaba ukuba wedwa, ukwesaba abantu ongabazi)
• Ukunamathela, ukungafuni ukukuvumela ungabonakali
• Intukuthelo, ukukhala, ukukhala
• Ayikwazi ukulawula imizwa
• Ukuziphatha okunolaka noma okunenkani
• Ukubuyela ekuziphatheni okukhona ngisemncane
• Akafuni ukubamba iqhaza emisebenzini yomndeni noma yesikole

ABAZALI BANGASIZA KANJANI

Abazali bangasiza izingane ukuthi ziphendule ekucindezelekeni ngezindlela ezinempilo. Okulandelayo amanye amathiphu:

• Nikeza ikhaya eliphephile, eliphephile nelinokwethenjelwa.
• Izikhathi zomkhaya zingaduduza. Ukuba nesidlo sakusihlwa somndeni noma ubusuku be-movie kungasiza ekunciphiseni noma ekuvimbeleni ukucindezeleka.
• Yiba yisibonelo. Ingane ikubheka njengesibonelo sokuziphatha okunempilo. Yenza konke okusemandleni akho ukuthi ulawule ukucindezelwa kwakho futhi ukulawule ngezindlela ezinempilo.
• Qaphela ukuthi yiziphi izinhlelo zethelevishini, izincwadi nemidlalo izingane ezibukayo, ezifundwayo nezidlalayo.Ukusakazwa kwezindaba nemibukiso enobudlova noma imidlalo kungadala ukwesaba nokukhathazeka.
• Yazisa ingane yakho ngezinguquko ezilindelekile ezifana nasemisebenzini noma ekuhambeni.
• Chitha isikhathi esizolile, esikhululekile nezingane zakho.
• Funda ukulalela. Lalela ingane yakho ngaphandle kokugxeka noma ukuzama ukuxazulula inkinga ngokushesha. Esikhundleni salokho sebenza nengane yakho ukuyisiza iqonde futhi ixazulule okucasulayo kuyo.
• Yakha imizwa yengane yakho yokuzihlonipha. Sebenzisa isikhuthazo nothando. Sebenzisa imivuzo, hhayi isijeziso. Zama ukufaka ingane yakho emisebenzini lapho ingaphumelela khona.
• Vumela amathuba engane ukuthi enze izinqumo futhi abe nokulawula okuthile empilweni yakhe. Lapho ingane yakho izwa ukuthi inamandla okulawula isimo, impendulo yabo ekucindezelekeni iyoba ngcono.
• Khuthaza umsebenzi womzimba.
• Bona izimpawu zokucindezeleka okungaxazululiwe enganeni yakho.
• Funa usizo noma iseluleko kumhlinzeki wezokunakekelwa kwempilo, umeluleki, noma umelaphi lapho izimpawu zokucindezeleka zinganciphi noma zinyamalale.

NGESIKHATHI UFONELA UDOKOTELA

Khuluma nomhlinzeki wengane yakho uma ingane yakho:

• Uyazihoxisa, angajabuli ngokwengeziwe, noma ucindezelekile
• Unenkinga esikoleni noma uxhumana nabangane noma nomndeni
• Akakwazi ukulawula ukuziphatha noma intukuthelo yabo

Ukwesaba ezinganeni; Ukukhathazeka - ukucindezeleka; Ukucindezeleka kwengane

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Iwebhusayithi yeAmerican Psychological Association. Ukukhomba izimpawu zengcindezi ezinganeni zakho nasebusheni bakho. www.apa.org/helpcenter/stress-children.aspx. Kufinyelelwe ngoJuni 1, 2020.

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