Izindlela Ezi-10 Zokubhekana Nokuhlukana

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Noma ngabe senibe ndawonye izinyanga ezimbili noma iminyaka emibili, ukwahlukana kuhlala kulula kumqondo kunokubulawa. Kodwa naphezu kokuthi kuzwakala kunzima kangakanani, ukuba "nekhefu elihlanzekile" nokubuyela ezinyaweni zakho akunakwenzeka-inqobo nje uma unecebo elifanele. Sikhulume nochwepheshe abathathu bobudlelwano, futhi ngeseluleko sabo, sakha uhlelo oluyizinyathelo ezingu-10 ukusiza ukwenza ukuhlukana kwakho kuqine. [Thwebula lolu hlelo!]

Ukulungiselela

Isinyathelo 1: Ukwehlukana okungazelelwe kuvame ukuba nzima kakhulu ukunamathela kukho, ngakho-ke ukhiye wekhefu elihlanzekile uhlela kusengaphambili. "Noma ufuna ukuhlukana nalo mzuzu, zinike izinsuku ezimbalwa ukwakha icala elihle lokuthi kungani kumele liphele," kusho isazi sezocansi uGloria Brame, Ph.D., umbhali we Ucansi lwabantu abadala. "Ungahlukani ngokuxhamazela, noma ungahamba uye emuva engqondweni yakho izikhathi eziyinkulungwane."

Isinyathelo 2: Ngenkathi usakhononda ngokuthi ufuna ngempela ukusika intambo, uziqhelelanise naye, uBrame weluleka. "Uma usazizwa ngendlela efanayo ezinsukwini ezimbalwa kamuva, uzozizwa unamandla ngokomzwelo futhi uqinisekile ukuthi ukwahlukana kuyisinqumo esifanele."

Isinyathelo sesi-3: Njengengxenye yenqubo "yokuhlela", kubalulekile futhi ukucabangela ukuthi ukuhlukana kuzoba nomthelela kanjani kuzo zonke izici zempilo yakho. "Cabanga ngokusebenziseka kwezezimali kanye nanoma yibuphi obunye ubudlelwano onabo, futhi uqinisekise ukuthi izinhlelo zakho zinengqondo njenge-singleton," kweluleka uPaula Hall, udokotela wezifo zengqondo nobudlelwano Indlela Yokuba Nesehlukaniso Esinempilo. Uma ngabe nihlala ndawonye, ​​kuzodingeka nithole ukuthi ngubani ozohamba, ubani ohlala, noma ukuthi intela izokhokhwa kanjani.

Ukubulawa

Isinyathelo 4: Lapho usuthathe isinqumo sakho, kufanele wamukele ukuthi kuphele nya ngokuhle. U-Hall uthi isizathu esenza imibhangqwana eminingi izithole ihamba le nale ukuthi basazizwa bedidekile mayelana nesiphetho. "Uma wenze wonke umsebenzi ongakwenza, kufanele wamukele ekhanda lakho, nasenhliziyweni yakho, ukuthi sekuphelile."

Isinyathelo sesi-5: “Ungaqhubeki nanoma yiziphi izimpi noma ubuncane obuvela ebudlelwaneni,” kusikisela uBrame. "Uma umlingani wakho ezama ukuzibandakanya ekuziphatheni okungalungile, hamba." Izingxabano cishe ziyingxenye enkulu yokuthi kungani nahlukana kwasekuqaleni—kungani ubhebhezela umlilo ozama ukuwucisha?

Isinyathelo sesi-6: Qala ukucabanga ngomlingani wakho njengomlando: Beka konke esikhathini esedlule, ngamazwi nangokwengqondo. "Uma ufuna ukuthi kuphele, yamukela ukuthi konke kwenzeke izolo nokuthi impilo yakho imayelana nanamuhla nekusasa," kusho uBrame.

Umphumela

Isinyathelo sesi-7: Imithombo yezokuxhumana ilungele ukuhlala uxhumekile, kepha kulokhu kuyindlela yomlilo yokuzibeka lapho uhamba khona ngemizwelo eguquguqukayo. "Thatha ikhefu lokuxhumana nabantu," kusho isazi sezocansi uJessica O'Reilly, Ph.D., umbhali we Amathiphu Wocansi Oshisayo, Amaqhinga & Namalambu. "Noma kungaba yisilingo ukulandela konke akwenzayo kuFacebook, kuTwitter naku-Instagram, lokhu kuzokwenza ukuthi ukwahlukana kube nzima. Ukuvimba, ukungalandeli, nokungabi nabungani kwamukeleke ngokuphelele ngemuva kokuhlukana." U-O'Reilly uphinde weluleka ngokuthatha umgwaqo ophakeme uma kuziwa ezindaweni zokudlela: "Zikhumbuze ukuthi uhlale usezingeni eliphezulu. Ukuhlambalaza esidlangalaleni, ukuhlazisa, nokusakazwa emoyeni kwezingubo zakho ezingcolile akukaze kwakhi-futhi lokhu kuhlanganisa amazwi anolaka." Ukukhuluma ngodoti kukwenza ubukeke umunyu, okungesona isithombe ofuna ukusiveza.

Isinyathelo 8: "Noma ngabe ukhethe ukuhlukanisa noma owedlule wakwenza, usazobhekana nesikhathi sosizi nokuzisola," kuxwayisa uHall. "Sebenza ngemizwa yakho nabangane nomndeni, hhayi owedlule." Lindela ukuthi uzizwe unesizungu ngezinye izikhathi, futhi ukhathazeke ngekusasa, uyanezela. "Leyo yimizwa ejwayelekile. Akusho ukuthi wenze iphutha." Kepha uma ushesha ukubuyela ezinyaweni zakho, uzokwazi ukuqhubeka ngokushesha.

Isinyathelo 9: Uzobhekana nezimo ezikukhumbuza owake wakudala-mhlawumbe kunuka i-cologne yakhe noma ukuya ku-hangout ejwayelekile. "Kungakhathaleki ukuthi lokhu kuhlangana kukushiya uzizwa ujabule, udabukile, uthukuthele, noma awunandaba ngokuphelele, ungakhathazeki," kusho u-O'Reilly. "Konke ukwahlukana kubalulekile, futhi nezinkumbulo zobudlelwano zakudala zingakwenza uzizwe ukhululekile. Ukuphuthelwa yisithandwa sakho akusona isibonakaliso sokuthi kufanele nibuyelane."

Isinyathelo 10: Indlela enhle yokubuyisa emuva ekuhlukaneni ukuqala ukwenza okuningi kwezinto othanda ukuzenza njengomuntu oyedwa, bese uzibekela imigomo ethile. "Wake wazizwa ukuthi uma umlingani wakho engekho, ngabe wenza i-X? Yenza u-X manje," kusho uBrame. "Noma ngabe ukudlala ngothando nomuntu omusha, ukuya endaweni obukade unelukuluku lokwazi ngayo, ukuthola isilwane sasekhaya, noma ukuya ejimini kakhulu, unenkululeko manje, ngakho-ke yenza lokho! Indlela engcono yokuqhubekela phambili ukuhamba empeleni phambili futhi uthole intshisekelo entsha ezogcina ingqondo yakho imatasa."

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