Izindlela ezi-5 uTaylor Swift ubengazi ukuthi uphumile ehlathini

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Phakathi kwamabili ngoLwesibili, inkanyezi yomculo u-Taylor Swift (kanye nekati lady extraordinaire) unikeze abalandeli bakhe ithrekhi entsha evela ku-albhamu yakhe ezayo, 1989, ebizwa ngokuthi "Ngaphandle Kwehlathi." Ngenkathi engagaguli amagama (ahem, Izitayela zikaHarry) ethrekhi esindayo, uTw Swift utshele I-Good Morning America ukuthi ingoma ihloselwe "ukuthwebula ubuthakathaka kanye nemvelo ephukayo yobudlelwano."

Ngamazwi anjengokuthi "Ingabe sesiphumile ehlathini okwamanje? Ingabe sesicacile okwamanje?" ingoma ehehayo impela iyisibonelo sokuthi kunjani ukuba sezinsikeni zobudlelwano obusha. Yilowo muzwa "wenjabulo, kodwa futhi, ukukhathazeka ngokweqile kanye nomuzwa osabekayo wokuzibuza," njengoba kusho uSwift.

Uzwakala ujwayelekile? Nathi futhi. Ungakhathazeki, Taylor-sonke besilapho. Ukujola nomuntu ozihlanya ngaye kumnandi kepha kuyaphazamisa izinzwa ngasikhathi sinye. Ngakho-ke sazi kanjani uma "siphephile" ebudlelwaneni? Sikhulume noPatti Feinstein, isazi sezobudlelwano nezobudlelwano, ukuze sifunde izimpawu ezinhlanu zokuthi "ucacile."

1. Awuzibuzi ukuthi uzofona nini.

Esikhundleni sokubuka ifoni yakho usuku lonke ulinde ukuthi igama lakhe livele, ungahlala phansi uphumule ngoba uqinisekile ukuthi uzozwa kuye-noma usuvele unezinhlelo. "Uthi, 'Asihlangane ngoLwesihlanu. Ngizokuthatha ngo-9,'" kusho uFeinstein. Noma ungenazo izinhlelo zikakhonkolo, ubhala athi, "Lunjani usuku lwakho?" ngakho uyazi ukuthi ucabanga ngawe.

2. Ukhululeke ngokuphelele eduze kwakhe.

Uyazi ukuthi ushaye i-lottery yobudlelwano lapho ungaba ngokwakho ngokuphelele ngaphandle kwe-makeup, ngokuphefumula kwasekuseni, noma esikhathini sakho-futhi konke kupholile nakuye, kusho uFeinstein. Futhi lapho ingxoxo yakho idamba, ungaqali ukhuluma ngokungenanjongo ngesimo sezulu-ngoba ngisho nokuthula okungathandeki akuzizwa kunzima kuye.

3. Nihlangane nemindeni yomunye nomunye.

Ingqophamlando enkulu kunoma ibuphi ubudlelwano, ukuvakashela umndeni wakhe kukhombisa ukuthi kungenzeka yini, ukushada kubo. Futhi khumbula, akusona nje isivivinyo sokubona ukuthi bayakuthanda yini, kusho uFeinstein. "Bheka ukuguquguquka komndeni wakhe: Abazali bakhe bazwana kanjani? Baphathana kanjani?" Ufuna ukwenza isiqiniseko sokuthi izindinganiso zomndeni wakhe zihambisana nezakho.

4. Uke walwa-futhi usudlulile kukho.

Kulula ukuzwana ekuqaleni kwe-fluttery, kodwa ingqopha-mlando ebaluleke kakhulu kunoma ibuphi ubuhlobo yilapho unokungavumelani-futhi ubhekana nakho. "Nizophinde niphikisane esikhathini esizayo, ngakho-ke nifuna ukwazi ukuxhumana kahle futhi nifinyelele kolunye uhlangothi lwazo ndawonye," kusho uFeinstein. Kungakhathaliseki ukuthi inkulu noma incane kangakanani inkinga (ukuthi uku-oda isiJapane ngezibalo zedina), ukwazile ukuyixazulula ngokuzola.

5. Awusayibuzi le mibuzo.

"Lesi yisibonakaliso sokuqala sokuthi konke kuhamba kahle," kusho uFeinstein. Imibuzo efana nokuthi "Ingabe sicacile?" ngokwemvelo uyahamba lapho wazi enhliziyweni yakho ukuthi uyena, futhi esikhundleni sokukhathazeka noma ukukhathazeka, unomuzwa wokuthula okuphelele.

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